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I agree with others who have suggested you give your relationship another try, if it's important to you. Counselling is good. Find a couples counsellor for the two of you and another counsellor for just you. Suggest that your partner might consider individual counselling for herself as well. Couple's counselling can help the two of you work on communicating with each other, understanding each other's point of view, finding solutions or strategies to handle specific problems and that kind of thing. In private counselling, you might consider exploring your feelings about sex, about women, about yourself, and about your ability to communicate your sexual interests, needs, fantasies and practices with a partner who is or may be your life partner. From my experience, some men see paid companions because there's something they want to experience or express that, for many reasons, they don't feel they can discuss or explore with their intimate life partner. For example, I've had clients who wanted specific kinds of play that they didn't think their wives would accept. Sometimes they feared being judged and/or rejected; sometimes they wanted to keep that specific activity completely separate from the rest of their "usual" lives. Seeing a paid companion was an excellent solution to their predicament, from their point of view, at least. The thing is, despite how liberated we think our culture is, most people have a hard time talking about sex, about their own bodies, about their partner's bodies, about what they really enjoy, what they want, what they've never been able to experiment with but are curious about as well as what they don't want to do. Too much of adult sexual behaviour is badly negotiated, excessively romanticized and includes making a lot of assumptions, relying on (inaccurate) intuition, worrying about shocking or offending one's partner, feeling personal shame and embarrassment. While we might imagine that we can or should be able to have the most intimate, personal conversations with our life partners, unfortunately, that's not true a lot of the time. We invest a lot in our partners and in the role(s) we play in relation to them. It can be very difficult to introduce something new into a long-standing relationship, particularly if one tends to idealize one's partner or if one feels that their role is, at least in part, to protect and shelter the partner from the hard parts of human living. If at the beginning of a relationship a couple isn't able to have frequent, very frank, non-judgmental discussions about sex, bodies, physical abilities and limitations, sexual interests, turn-ons, fantasies and fears, becoming comfortable with these conversations after a lot of time has passed is a monumental task. Maybe your partner will be able to appreciate that seeing a paid companion is a much less risky for your relatinoship than having an affair would be. Or maybe she will feel that infidelity is infidelity, period. Sexual compatibility is as important as compatibility in other areas of our lives. It may be that you and your partner are not compatible. It may be that whatever you've been seeking with paid companions is something she would like to be doing with you, but didn't know wanted. It may be that, even if she wants to do it with you, you have a need to do it with someone who isn't part of your day-to-day life. I hope you can work things out in ways that are constructive and life-enhancing for both of you and for the other people in your lives. If not, I hope that you can part amicably. Take responsibility for what you've done and try not to blame your partner for what has happened. What I am certain of is, if your relationship ends as a result of what's happened, if you don't get a very good handle on what's happened, what your needs are and how to negotiate what you want with future partners, you will repeat this over and over again. I hope that you're able to find a better way for yourself.

So, it is known that we are all here on cerb temporary, some long term but still not eternally. However, it has previously been discussed how someone's sudden absence affects some of us, especially the ones that were 'close' or constantly communicated with that member or even often read his posts if he/she was an active member. Is very understandable and expected that sooner or later for whatever reason (hopefully a positive one) most of us will move on but in most cases the person just disappears on us. I personally in this past week through posts or from my profile noticed that two members on my friends list have become ***** (account no longer active.) And now I'm wondering what happened to them :confused0024: This is not a complaint but I believe same way (some) rely on cerbites to learn about the industry, share things that for some reason they can't tell others, ask for advice, etc. they should let us know when they are ready to leave and say good bye to us and prevent us from worrying about them, yes I and know others have, especially when the account was not even closed. I more than ever am thankful to those ones that obviously can't read this but took the time to let us know they were leaving cerb and said good bye. *Sigh* Good evening all!

The Harper government does nothing without extensive polling. Unless the Canadian public suddenly decides that they do want the police to be peering through the curtains to monitor what goes on in the privacy of their homes and hotel rooms, I think it's unlikely that there will be major changes anytime soon. The clearest thing about the Bedford case is that the Supreme Court will get to have a crack at it... in two or three years. Maybe. New legislation may or may not follow that sometime later. I don't think Canadians want a greater police presence in their lives. I think we prefer to keep our sexual choices and behaviours to ourselves. The folks on the far right and the far left who get in a lather about prostitution become very shrill very soon. The best thing for is, for now, is to make sure that we all have accurate information about things like the so-called "Swedish model." For example, no one has been sent to prison for buying sex in Sweden under these laws. Men who are convicted of buying sex receive fines, like fines for speeding, even when they are repeat offenders. And, while the new laws did reduce street prostitution by (only) 40% in the first few years, the reports now are that things are much as they were before the laws came into force. That is, there's still street prostitution in major cities. Sex workers continue to work underground, on the Internet or, unfortunately, through pimps. The women can't be prosecuted for selling sex, it's true, but they still report very high levels of violence from the police. In other words, the things the laws were presumed to address have not changed. I also think that we need to be very clear about the realities of street prostitution in Canada. Women who work outside are the main concern and for good reason. However, I'm too old and jaded to believe that new laws will protect anyone if the police departments don't consider them to be worth looking out for in the first place. Moreover, street sex workers have multiple problems and issues of which prostitution is not the most significant. Outdoor sex workers here in Vancouver have astoundingly high levels of serious mental illness, substance addictions and poverty. Unless we're seriously dedicated to addressing these problems, nothing aimed at eradicating prostitution is going to make a difference.

Love this thread and delighted to see many of my favourites listed here. I just returned from a weekend in NYC and got over to Park Avenue Liquor Shop, which is not and has never been on Park Avenue by the way, great liquor store in Manhattan.....brought back a 21 year old Auchentoshan and the 18 y.o. Bunnahabhain, both of which are now in my whisky "cellar", waiting for the right occasion (or the right lady to share some with?). My current favourites are Bruichladdich, either the 14/15 year old "Links" series or some of their more recent French wine casks and the 18 or 21 year old Highland Park. I discovered Bruichladdich when they first re-opened the distillery and started releasing some of the wonderful malts sitting matured in their casks. Some friends of mine loved them so much that they took up the Cask Offer that Bruichladdich used to have and are now awaiting maturation, bottling and delivery of their very own. I only hope that I'll still be friends with them! Clachan a Choin!

Personally I hate when people rate how another looks! Ex. 7-8 or a 10 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and someone you find to be a 10, someone else may find them to be a 2! As for women who get away with things because of how they look. It is up to every adult to make their choices in life. I have had some clients tip me very well, and some not at all. Does not mean I am not attractive, and it does not mean I am the most beautiful girl in the world. It just means to that person I was special enough to deserve it. This is just my opinion, but I find these surveys a waste of time.

First all the reading regarding seeing ladies is their profiles/websites/threads...and the ladies I see are smart enough not to offer bbfs Second, I may be living in a smalltown, but I see ladies are in bigger cities, specifically Toronto, Hamilton and Ottawa...those cities big enough for you I don't care whether a guy I don't know gets a rush out of it and a lady offers it to stay in business, it's plain dumb, russian roulette Yes the only safe sex is by yourself with your hands But bbfs is dumb, on both the lady's and the guy's part, so frankly, your post, I don't understand I hope we don't get more lady's offering your version of GFE, I hope they live a long healthy life instead RG

I love this one of Meg, too.

I finally did it. After months of flirtatious online dialog, exchanging compliments and sweet-nothings with a smidgen of prurient innuendo, I finally did the inevitable... I arranged a date with that self-described hot MILF, Megforfun. I admit, it was not without trepidation. After so much verbal foreplay, could the session live up to my now heightened expectations? Or worse, was it likely I couldn't live up to hers?? I at least could composite Meg's many sexy promotional pics into a delicious mental image of her from the neck down. And, I had the descriptions from her many glowing recommendations here on cerb to shepherd my imagination, lest it get carried away. But what did she have of me? Only my words. My expressions of admiration, interest and desire. Although honest and forthright, mere words nonetheless. My words and her playful imagination. Yikes, I feared the worst. When the day finally arrived, I quickly learned that my anxiety was all for naught. The moment she opened the door and I saw Meg's sparkling eyes and warm smile, I knew I was in the good company of a new friend. Within moments she had me upstairs, in her room and sitting beside her on the bed. I was still a little nervous (I always am with someone new or in unfamiliar surroundings), but that too quickly dissipated as we immersed ourselves in conversation and laughter. It's even better talking to Meg in-person, where she adds a dimension of animation and physicality to her fun and intelligent dialog. Meg is an attractive woman, and like her pictures suggest, she wears her clothes very well. Still sitting on the bed beside her, I saw that her skirt was hiked up to reveal a lot of bare leg. Unable to resist, I reached out. Her skin was soft and warm. As I softly stroked her leg, and she mine, I knew that a kiss was imminent. And it was. Meg is a great kisser. Clearly it's something she enjoys doing. Her lips are soft and her technique is gentle. She's passionate without being overly aggressive, and she was very responsive with audible cues of appreciation whenever I took the lead or, as I eventually did, extended the range of my oral exploration... ear lobes, neck, shoulders, her lovely and ample bosom... well, I'm sure you can imagine where I went next. :wink: Despite my amorous advances, we still managed to talk and laugh a little between kisses and it was at about this point I realized I was experiencing more than a girlfriend experience. This was a favorite old girlfriend experience. I couldn't quite put my finger on it earlier, but now I could. Our session had all the hallmarks of an old flame rediscovered: the initial tentativeness quickly supplanted by a growing familiarity; the easygoing, playful conversation; the smiles, giggles, and spontaneous laughter; and the undeniable feeling of a faint ember of past passion, re-igniting and catching fire. But Meg surprised me. She's not just all cuddles and cuteness and kisses. She likes to get physical too. I never expected to hear her utter such blunt words of encouragement as we surrendered our inhibitions to carnal instinct. Thankfully the end did not come too quickly (for me :icon_razz: ); but when it did approach, Meg made a special request of how she wanted me to finish. I happily obliged, and now we both have a pleasant memory of my final euphoric strokes. :icon_wink: Afterward, we rolled over and lay face-up on the bed for awhile, talking casually. It was nice and it gave me time to catch my breath and to reflect on the previous hour's activities. Whoops, did I say hour? I suddenly realized I had overstayed my welcome. No signals from Meg though, who remained as sweet and engaged as the moment I walked in. And that's what I found to be particularly unique and special about Meg - her ability to connect and fully engage with me for the duration of our session. Nothing in the way she related to me betrayed the true nature or finiteness of our relationship. For an hour she truly made me feel like I was the only guy she wanted in her bed now and for the foreseeable future. That's unique. That's special. All in all I had a great time with this vibrant and passionate woman, and I look forward to re-igniting our old flame again. I will return for more fun with Meg, or should I say... more Megforfun!! BewlayB

My mistake for misunderstanding the above. I apologise. In "real life", not in porns but in the hobby, PSE does NOT mean or include intercourse without a condom... just like GFE. RG, I do not mean to "nitpick" at your last post and would like to add a few comments regarding the various definitions taken from the urban dictionary since you made reference to it... http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=full%20gfe IF you carefully read the many GFE definitions listed on that page you will see that some refer to various acronyms (lfk, dfk, bj, daty) and some even imply unprotected intercourse! Yes, for GFE! Now, we all know it is not the case when it comes to the hobby. There are NO valid reasons to assume PSE providers offer bare back intercourse! Furthermore, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience and I totally agree with the following: "The "girlfriend experience" generally involves more personal interaction than a traditional call girl or escort offers; it varies widely from person to person, however. There is a focus on not just having sex, but also having more of a comprehensive experience." BUT it also says: "Often sessions last longer and are "no rush," which means the call girl spends the full advertised time rather than rushing out after the sex is over. Common activities usually offered by GFE escorts include kissing and/or french kissing, cuddling and foreplay. A call girl advertising the provision of a "girlfriend experience" is implying that she provides deep french kissing (DFK), "full service" (intercourse) usually with protection, and fellatio and cunnilingus, both with or without protection. Advertising a "girlfriend experience" is sometimes used by call girls to promote business." Whether we like it or not, whether we want to admit it or not, the term GFE also comes with a certain "menu" aspect and not just an "attitude".