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I've been spending a lot of time in the Adult Psychiatric ward in one of the Hospitals in Montreal. {No not as a patient but a a visitor.} Tonight i receive a call from one of the patients asking if i could bring her a balloon and an iced cap tomorrow when i visit. This made me smile as i know she doesn't receive many visitors and she's a sweet lady. She will most certainly get her balloon and iced cap tomorrow. I only wish i could do the same for everyone there. What things make you smile? kisses, Emma

That is a very nice story Emma. As for what I enjoy seeing, is similar stories f when people who don't need to do something or go out of their way but choose to do so anyway. My family owns property out of province and has built a cottage, while building we met some people. Including an 80 year old man and we were the only people who could speak french to him so we'd stop by his place every time we visite dour cottage and listen to some of his stories. Well, he went into the hospital a few years ago and while away his house burnt straight to the ground. He had no insurance and lost everything. His house wanst big but he basically had no furniture, pictures, not even any unwear left. When the property owner where he lived informed us of this we( my family) approached everybody we could. At the end of our efforts we had: a truck to hall materials, wood, concrete, wiring, plombing, electrical matrials & furniture all donated from various companies around the ottawa & surrounding areas. We even maneged to get clothing & food donations or vouchers from companies. We showed up on the site of his new house and 40 other people showed up to help us build the house, the house was done in 2 weeks with the help of 40 locals who helped us. The local newspaper asked to interview us and we declined. The old man knew his house had burnt down while he was in the hospital therefore he was depressed to return to nothing. Once he came out of the hospital, we informed him that he had a "new house" and we found his only living relatives, rented a hall and had invited all of his friends to a dinner/dancing night. It was great fun.You don't do things in life for recognition but for what it does for the person your doing it for and because you want to. The newspaper was so struck by the "actions" they witnessed they decided to run the article anyways and said...what the most amazing part of this story is...is that these people chose to help somebody whom they had just barely met just because he was in need of...love! ....A year after we built that house for him....the old man died...but died knowing that people cared for him!

I have 2 close friends (one male one female) who have herpes and neither are in the sex industry. They both have this same issue in their personal lives. The female friend literally got it the first time she had sex. She was my roomate for some years and I witnessed her get very bad episodes where she was in bed with fevers for 3 days at a time. The male friend belongs to a herpes group in Toronto and dates within that group but I've witnessed in both cases when they confide in me how troubling it is to open themselves up to prospective sexual partners. I've always been a safe GFE escort.. lost many prospective clients as a result I'm sure but many stick with me because they know they're less likely to get an STI from me regardless of how often I get 'checked'. I sympathize with your struggle and would recommend you see someone who is safe GFE. Take the precautions of covered BJ of course, perhaps even a dental dam for DATY if you choose to partake. (I do partake in DATY uncovered.. perhaps there needs to be a further definition to allow for this uncovered rather than safe GFE) That being said I've enjoyed sessions where no oral/genital sexual contact took place..ie a handjob/titfuck or even mutual masturbation which can be really really hot! In such a case you don't have to explain that you have herpes. You can completely relax without explanation.. I'm thinking this is where you'd like to be.. as telling an escort can lead to the same rejection as in your personal life. There's no guarantee that she won't also freak out. There's much ignorance about STI's and escorts are not immune to ignorance. They're just ladies who choose to charge.. it's not like we go to 'escorting school'

This is not limited to human trafficking only but includes buying sex in general that extends to all types of prostitutions even outcalls, is it not?. This is complete Swedish model..... This will virtually kill the industry and for those who remain in the trade (both SPs and hobbyists) very unsafe place to be for reasons I have explained before.... I told you so :icon_frown: .

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Agree he he ...

Ok, this is bad, I am still in my 20's and got 18 right! HAHA I guess I have an old soul!

Stories like this :) It's always nice to do the simplest things for some people when it means the world to them.

This just seems like a no-brainer to me. you pay. Then you play. Why on earth would it be any different. You're not in a restaurant or a bar - you're privileged to be where you are, and your SP is taking far more risks than you are. If you're not willing to pay up front, this isn't the hobby for you.

Yeah, it was a bad choice of words. I wanted to edit it, but it wouldn't let me. Sorry if I offended anyone.

Please lets try and remember that this is this young mans first ever post here on CERB. How many of us had the understanding of the language and politics of sex work down pat from the get go? Please give this young man the same oppertunity to learn the ropes that we all had. I thought that his question was a valid one. As SPs we all get to decide what our personal risk tolerance is, some of us give BBBJ, some only covered. It's our personal choice, I'd rather have a client who was open and honest with me than one who had been shamed or driven by desperation to keeping health information a secret. November

I would have thought that most guys have one or two in their wallet anyway, even if this is more in hope than expectation... might be an issue if you have a SO who checks your wallet, though. I do this, sometimes, if I'm visiting a lady before or after work. Or, as mentioned, if I want a nondescript container for something. But after I've arrived, it gets left by the door and ignored until I leave. I thought that was for the worms. But I must confess myself mystified as to why you'd take them if you were going to see a SP...

WIT, your commentary is always so valuable. Thank you for stating your views, once again, and for helping us to think clearly about the issues. There's a lot of misinformation about the so-called "Swedish model." It's a good idea to get the facts rather than rely on third or fourth-hand information. A good place to start is with Laura Agustin, an internationally acclaimed expert on human migration, labour, human trafficking and prostitution. She writes the blog, The Naked Anthropologist, which is about migration, trafficking and sex work. She is also the author of The Other Swedish Model, in which she takes issue with some of the common assumptions about the success of the Swedish model.

If you lock/open it manually your key isn't transmitting the signal hence it can't be captured and duplicated.

Hi Guys, I started this thread so I want to let you guys know how great it worked out for me. Because of the positive comments I got from my friends on this thread I decided to see her and glad I did that, she extremely gorgeous, very intelligent one of the sexiest figures I have seen. I am so thankful to friends who recommended her. I will repeat as often as I can. Posted via Mobile Device

I've seen her twice now ..... the first time she was here and this past Wednesday. She is indeed someone that I would reccomend, and someone that I intend to visit with when I am in Mtl next week for Formula1. Very friendly and easy to get along with. Easy to have a conversation with and intelligent. Provides a very good service ..... So this isn't an official review ... but she certainly has my vote!

I read this book recently and thought it was great on many levels. It strikes me as an honest telling of his own experiences (he is a little eccentric and clearly not trying to make himself look good), it is an original take on the issue of monogamy (it's ironic that one of his friends states that Brown, the john, is the one he thinks would be the best boyfriend/husband), it helps people not involved in the sex trade to somewhat understand the motivations and experiences (using close friends as foils in honest dialogue), and I can relate to many of his more humorous moments! The artwork is a little flat but I found the story works well as a graphic novel and seems more accessible, personal, and humorous than if told strictly through the written word. I recommend it highly.

For an outcall, which is most of the time for me, I provide a gift card to either LaSenza's or Victoria's Secret, plus the tip tucked away with the card. If the lady's website (or the lady herself) indicates a preference to another store, I would get a gift card for that store. For incalls, few and far between, in one case the gift card was tucked in with the envelope containing the donation, and I awkwardly fumbled the tip from my wallet at the end of our encounter. As for refreshments, since I mostly prefer an outcall, I have a bottle of wine (if white chilling, red room temp) plus some water and fruit juices in the hotel fridge...no matter what anything to be consumed is unopened...and I don't open except when the lady is present As a side note, I also have a bottle of unopened mouthwash in the bathroom, one lady I saw told me it was a very thoughtful thing to do RG