I have to admit that I am very fortunate to be able to work the way I do. I wouldn’t say lucky because I have worked very hard to get where I am in life.
When I was touring the east in June, I was doing it as a mini vacay and worked because why not??? LOL.
I only wanted to make a couple of appointments in each location that would cover hotel costs. I did have a very successful tour and of course came home with money and the entire trip was covered. However, if I needed to cover the trip AND bring home a substantial income to pay bills, feed kids, pay for general life, I can see the difficulty. Add to that, if the costs are not covered!
These ladies do take great risk at possibly not making money. Everyone says it takes money to make money and I have been one to always believe that but this industry teaches me shit all the time and one thing I have learned is that for some ladies, this is not the case. They fork out the money for traveling, hotel, food, advertising, not to mention all the other stuff of pics, website, phones, make-up, outfits, condoms, lube, manicures, tanning, etc.
So to spend all this money and we all know hotels are not cheap, to have men canceled, no show etc would be scary when you don’t have a lot of money to begin with.
But some men just seem to think that it is no big deal. They don’t think or even see the damage that a no show can do to a girl. I can’t fault ladies looking for deposits or just canceling trips outright when they don’t have the quota met. Which sucks for guys like the OP.
It is big bad circle of bullshit that I don’t think will change anytime soon. Which is sad.