RobertDion

Ah, so someone that goes through the screening process MUST be a 'good' client automatically? I wasn't aware it was 100% effective. And yes, the hyperbole of "an SP gets murdered daily" wasn't you, sorry, for a second there I lumped you into that group, you weren't the one that had said that earlier. Well, I'm glad those high profile gents trust you with that discretion and privacy, because no, obviously I didn't go out with a questionnaire to all the SPs I ever met. But I've known several people who have had their privacy broken purely for reasons of profiting from the extortion. Albeit it was a while ago now. If you didn't notice there's a LOT more clients then there are SPs. But I'm glad this system works for you. Point still stands, (which you harshly call 'ignorance' now) is that someone asked 'anyway to screen the SP?' -- heaven forbid, hobbyists try to find the right provider for them, and the best you have is "aww, boohoo, you should have done your research better, and you won't get screwed over" ---do you LOOK at all the ads out there? in 5 short years it's gone from 10% fake to 90% fake, and that's not an exaggeration.

And as all hobbyist would surely agree, we expect nothing less for you all to protect yourselves. As I'm sure you've seen how the good ones act towards all of you - we worship you.... we plan and wait and save and have butterflies in our stomachs like it's a first date at prom for most of us most of the time, we have the utmost respect, (is it upmost, or utmost?), it's our little 1,2,3 hour vacation, a peak luxury for us, we want nothing more than to see you all safe.

When you put it that way, you're only keeping away potentially good clients, and its' not doing anything to prevent the bad ones from coming through at all.

Well, that's it then, the alternative? Remember the time not long ago when there was no screenings? Even now, I'd say over 90% don't do screenings? It's not like it's this industry-wide standard. And i'm not saying "ahhh you suck cuz you ask for proof of ID" - not at all, I was just asking "sooooo how exactly does it make you safer?" Or it doesn't ?..... and it's just a habit for your peace of mind? I'm just curious, what can we do to make things safer for you? What else can the non-threatening, non-violent, legitimately friendly, respectful and kind hobbyists do.... to keep you safe from the scum out there. Sorry, that sounds sarcastic or condescending, it's not meant to, because really, truthfully--- How can the honest and non-harmful hobbyist protect you from the shitty ones that do the extremes as shown in your links? If you admit you're still at risk, then aren't you exposing yourself to that double-satndard? Choosing to punish the innocent for the crimes of the crappy scumbags that intend to so you harm? That makes sense to you, does it? Put the honest and respectuful hobbyist through the hoops and the maze to suss out those shitty ones?

Yes, but as the point was made; you're not seeing it from the other side. You're putting the cart before the horse in this respect. You can't play the victim and have it both ways too. Well, I suppose you CAN, but that's far from fair, or is the argument "yup, not fair for men, sucks to be you"? It's the hypocrisy of it all -- and the only answer is: "well this hobby isn't for you" --- Look, if YOU'RE the one claiming to put yourselves in harm's way, isn't that your choice? Yes, we'll never fully see it from your point of view, we're not you. The best we can do is imagine the strange, awkward, uncomfortable situations you find yourselves in all the time, we get it. But you're making things out like your clients are forcing you to do unfavourable things that you don't want to happen (and no, I'm not including meetings needing badly or violently or stalking or anything bad and negative like that), your ads go up, you literally place a value on yourselves, on your services, YOU do this, not us. And as many ads sometimes say "non-negotiable" and no one here is saying we want it to be. So THIS is what becomes double-standards, do you see what happens to the GOOD and honest hobbyst who wants to todo the good thing and comply when he hands over his ID and that SP than uses that ID for something bad against that person? We are the ones finding the person we hope will give us the services we're looking for, correct? So what does that mean? Well, you're not using your real name, and if the hobbyst's intentions are BAD, will they use their own ID in order to pass through your screening process? No, he won't let's not pussyfoot around, let's not dance around what everyone wants to avoid as what this is. Cuckholding, hardcore BDSM/roleplay amongst two consenting adults aside, this is an exchange of funds for some pleasurable services. "We could be preyed upon and stalked and other far worse things" Yes, we know this, but think about how one-sides you are making this, to preemptively do this process out of the fear of the worse thing to happen? Let's call this for what it is, we all know what's happening between two naked adults behind these closed doors as mentioned. So no more dancing around the subject. But like how gun laws does NOT stop the criminal who wants to get their hands on a weapon to murder someone, a screening process will not screen the bad individuals from the good ones. It places lots of personal information of that innocent hobbyist into the SP's hands. And all you have to say to me is "well, that's how it goes, that's the risk you take for being a hobbyist, sucks to be you". Asking for $50 deposit to secure a day and time is one thing, that makes sense, but to feel like its an inquisition where we have to go through hoops to get to the service/meeds we're looking for? When we ALL know that if the bad person wants to get through the screening process because of their ill intents they will NOT be using their real identity!! Put some thought into this scenario. WE are the ones seeking you out. Are YOU going on a website and combing through clients that you would like to hook up with? Reading their profile and info and then texting them and then setting up a date and time and wait for them to pay up and have them show up at your door? Nope, that's not how this works. Are you the one saving your money, waiting for your favorite SP to come to town? No. All I'm saying is, its a shame that the bad experiences you've had, or perhaps not you, but the bad ones that friends or acquaintances of yours have had, makes it so you feel the need to do this process - and that is what you need to feel safe. In cold hard reality (sorry to break it to you) it will not keep you anymore safe than before, not even by 1%. For any SP who's had a potential client ghost them after you've asked them for there ID and/or references, you've probably thought to yourself "Ha, well, they weren't worth it anyways, I just sussed out a potential creep/stalker/nefarious person, mission accomplished". I assure you, that maybe 1%, yes, but the other 99% were people like the rest of us, the majority of us who though to themselves "huh? why so I expose myself? so your friend or you yourself save that to use against me later, no thank you." and you lose out on what would have been a mutually friendly and beneficial meet up. And I feel for you, I really do, for you or anyone that's had to go through any negative experience due to any creep or something out of the true crime novels/podcasts you read/hear, but it's just sad that we have to go through this. For two seconds - look at it from our point of view, there's plenty of willing vulnerability on our part in this back and forth we do as well. It's been illustrated in these forums on here and the DMs I've gotten about hobbyists getting screwed over, sometimes by highly reputable SPs as well, and yes I'm not just talking about low quality or bait-and-switch scenario, but as eluded earlier, the whole blackmail thing, as well, and yes, it's rare I'm sure in the grand scheme of things if we're to talk statistics in terms of the thousands of encounters happening daily/weekly, how many end up really badly for one or the other. Was it just last month some one on here said they almost got mugged by the pimp they didn't even know she had? It does help when Manda mentioned the whole thing about "Statistically, people just fuck around less if you know who they are irl. That's well studied and documented across many situations, not just sw. " I hadn't thought of that in that way. It makes sense. And maybe it's paranoia on our part from seeing how governments or agencies sell you info online, how cell companies and health care companies just dump all your personal info online for the lowest bidder that makes it seem like an automatic red flag when your asked to send a photos of your driver's licence, spider-senses go off, and you think to yourself "why?" But this whole thing of "well if you can't handle a screening process, maybe this hobby isn't for you" statements, is just a cop out, and avoiding the issue at hand. SPs protecting themselves from the scum that might be out there by having the other 99% (non-scumy hobbyists) be potentially treated like they're criminals (just in case) .... isn't exactly too progressive. Assuming the worse... FIRST? And acting upon false assumptions... and these "what ifs"? is NOT painting your clients in a glowing light. NO hobbyist wants to enter an arrangement where he gets the sense that there's this underlying contempt or resentment happening towards them or this feeling that there's this subtle (or not-so-subtle) hatred towards men happening.

And you putting a client through screening wont' stop that client from doing the things you say you fear they'll do, so then all that's left is just doing it for power and control. And that sucks. hahah

Awww, why not? Can you imagine? a deck builder that ALSO sucks your dick??

I wasn't aware.

And yes, this is the only industry that has the person buying the services being put through this screening process like there's no tomorrow. It's backwards, but at least we can agree it's more of a powerplay, and far less of a "for our safety" excuse. Because other than the threat of giving out my ID to others, it does nothing to prevent the horrible acts mentioned earlier. Like first the analogy I stated, I just wanted to get the guy to build me my deck, why all these credit checks and proof of insurance? hahaha -- being paranoid of all these creeps and low lifes and violent people is giving the other 99% a bad reputation?

No one's saying "we demand you reveal you're true identity" or anything. And I doubt the ever escalating amount of hoops would stop when people stop asking questions, otherwise we wouldn't be talking about this at all, would we. But if an SP is justifying a screening process out of this fear of being 'murdered' I'm not sure this hobby os for them. And well put Manda, that's all true. It's just a shame the fear mongering needs to be implemented like this, good lord. There's a lot of over-thinking here 🙂

Most SPs don't ask for money up front, but those that do, wouldn't that be the power play?

True enough, never argued against that.

Never denied it was a reality.

she's been here many times, many positive reviews, just search for her on here

Again, the initial conversation he started has conveniently gone unanswered. Exactly how does it make an SP feel more safe by them having a copy of my driver's licence? Imagine I go onto a gift shop, browse around, pick out an item, go up to the cashier, I have my debit card out and she asks me for a credit check.... "a credit check? I can pay cash, I have it right here". "Nope, I need to check your credit score before we can make this transaction, you know, in case you want to rob me, I'm protected" -- I fail to see the logic in this. Again, I don't to see how collecting and keeping a hobbyist's personal info protects the SP from violence. I found drakonis17's question to be a bit ridiculous, because just like Ms Manda pointed out, no SP in their right mind would do such a thing, heck half the ads on LL state "will not provide any more photos" ... but I was just pointing out therealsweetier's hypocrisy in her response. Don't kid yourself too much their Mikey, you'll out yourself. Because let's not forget; we're the ones not allowed to ask questions, we're the ones paying the cash, we're the ones having to verify our identity, we're the ones paying deposits, we're the ones going to their locations, we're not the ones setting the prices, they are (as it should be), perhaps your've been lucky and you haven't been screwed over Mikey, wether it's a reputable agency or independant or not... but I'll call the BS when I see it, make no mistake. There's no need to score brownie points with your virtue-signalling by saying they're already at a disadvantage. Not when they keep stacking up the claims that they're wanting deposits, and IDs and references and all this under the reasons of 'personal safety' --so let's CALM down---- let's not dig ourselves into a deeper hole. Because it looks like people are taking advantage of the situation in my eyes. Think io it - To what end will this go? Why not just ask for all the money up front? If what you're saying is true, and they are at such a severe disadvantage, then why not demand MORE safety and assurance?? Ask for twice as much and for all of it to be e-transfered up front? If all SPs did this, would we not have no choice but to comply? You know, for the safety and reassurance of everyone? To make it fair? Yes? Since the economics of this and supply-and-demand seem to be irrelevant. Why not evolve all this to its next logical step? Yeah? No?

Seriously? That's low. Your excuse for needing someone licence and down payment and references... is that THAT will prevent you from being murdered??? I sincerely doubt any SP would be doing this line of work if you legitimately feared being murdered that much. You're counting on the client's honesty to simply not give you a fake licence, and WE are trusting that you won't blackmail us later by simply threatening to not sell our identity/info online.

with a number like 6969, how could you go wrong?

Yeah, when more and more they ask US for proof of ID and verification, but they conveniently ensure that they don't want to provide any more photos or info to prove that they exist or that they are in fact in town, not until they get a deposit, then..... poof, they vanish. WE are the customers, WE are the ones losing out on money, Yes there's creeps out there, but THEY offer the service, WE pay for the service, at what point have the tables turned that WE are the ones needing to pay up front, WE are the ones being scammed far more often then them, so I don't understand why they need to prove that they wont con us. They claim it's for their personal safety. We are the ones losing out with all these deposit scams, fake ads, bogus SPs claiming to do this and that out of their own personal safety, when all I'm seeing on these forums (literally some dedicated solely to out the con artists) are stories of how we have to navigate through all this slop to find anyone that isn't out to screw us over. Imagine if you hired a carpenter to re-build your back deck, and they came over to see the house, and asked for money up front so they can 'buy the lumber', asked for proof of ID, a copy of your hime insurance, a picture of your drivers licence, and an Amazon gift card, you know, just to make sure you were "Serious" and you weren't going to back down. Like, WTF... you don't LOSE anything by me cancelling, buddy.... I'm hiring you to build my deck, why are you wanting all this proof of ID that YOU could use to steal my identity with or black mail me with it later??

Saw Jasmine tonight. She was incredible, Very kind and courteous, great massage, the softest lips of all time! Very sexy! Booking through text was very easy. Will repeat again next time for sure! She was a delight.

crazy everywhere, cost of living is sky-rocketing, yet people's salaries are not going up.

all very true

True with anything really. Bigger cities, bigger clientele, bigger competition, see how all the ads on LL and everywhere have become just an excuse to post up their OF site anyways - at first it was a way to legitimize themselves, show their face and show that they're real, but now they don't have to offer incall/outcall service, they can just do online service + collect monthly subscriptions from their growing fanbase and work-from-home and do personalized videos for extra income, and be safer. And now bots/AI are making it easier for them to message dozens of clients all at once thru OF at the click of a button and can do customize content.

Hopefully Jasmine YFL, isn't forced to cancel due to the strike.

They all make more money just doing OF -- and for those with a built up volume of posts on their OF, they sit back and rake in the dough, it has the same cumulative effects as any subscription based model, like YouTube member subscriptions to your channel or Patreon. So I'm not surprised that the options at our disposal is shrinking.

Old photos isn't a good sign.