What Have You Learned?

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I've been reflecting what I've learned being in the sex industry for 3 years now. I thought it would be interesting to share my insight, and encourage others to do the same, both from the provider and hobbiest point of views.

 

-Men do not expect women to be perfect like an airbrushed magazine model. Men love real women.

 

-Despite what the media tells us, men do are not looking for stick-thin women with huge breasts. Men, as a whole, love larger women and love women with small breasts.

 

-Touch is a basic human need, almost as basic as the need to eat and breathe.

 

-It's not true that all men just want to fuck and then leave/fall asleep. Men also love to cuddle, converse, and be intimate.

 

-Confidence is sexy!

[roamingguy 300291]

The most attractive asset a woman has is her personality. Physical attributes are icing on the cake, but a good personality (friendly, intelligence etc) goes alot further, at least for me

And open communication, between sp/hobbiest, really good

Good thread Megan

RG

[Winnipegcub 21293]

What I've learned;

- ladies in this business and at this level truly have great insights and are very creative and articulate.

- its hard to keep the business angle of this in perspective and not get too friendly/attached. I need to remind myself that although these beautiful women (in many ways) can draw me in and I have a huge attraction - I am for the most part, just a client.

- how much I love the smell, taste, and touch of a woman. The skin is a pretty sensitive organ.

- not all cities are alike in what they offer.

- a ladies class and confidence is what really brings me to my knees.

WC

[Guest G***f******]

I've learned more about myself in just the past two months than I ever thought possible.

 

I thought what I wanted was sex, but I learned it really was the companionship I craved.

 

I discovered that I was so much lonelier and unhappy than I knew.

 

But with the encouragement and support of a new friend I met right here, I have found the courage to make the big changes in my life that are necessary.

[Guest al****s]

I have learned that the people in this business/hobby are outstanding people (for the most part). They are respectful and positive members of society. Before becoming a SP, I had no idea that such a community existed. I am so very impressed with the people on this Board.

 

I have learned that my imperfect body can still be "loved" by the right person. I have learned that I am beautiful inside which goes a long way on the outside.

 

I have learned that everyone has their own reason(s) for doing what they do and this doesn't make them wrong or a bad person.

 

I have learned that friendships are just as important to the hobbiest's as they are to me.

 

I have learned that my creative mind being placed on threads are appreciated and welcomed.

 

I have learned that people from all walks of life crave the companionship that I can offer.

 

I have learned that I tend to babble and I should likely stop before people say "does this girl ever shut up!"....haha:shock:

 

Great thread!

 

alexis...xoxo

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

A lot of the male population see escorts. lol.

 

As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. Just enough of your real personality ( without giving too much away of course) and people will view you as being more genuine than having a completely different "working personna".

[72Nova 116]

Manners, politeness, punctuality, and thoughtful gestures matter.

 

It doesn't kill me to smile ;) People sharing a bit of themselves is not weakness, and intimacy is a necessity.

 

I have a "type". It has very little to do with a woman's physical measurements.

 

Life is to be lived. Good experiences are savoured, not-so-good ones become lessons about yourself, even if it takes you decades to really learn them.

[mrgreen760 37785]

What I've learned:

 

-people's individual taste in beauty is highly variable and extremely personal

 

-not everyone is cut out for this gig... sp's and clients alike

 

-most people involved in the hobby are by and large just people and run the gamut of

personalities and types and just like every day life and some you'll like and some you won't

 

-expectations can be set unrealistically high...just because some one has chosen to be a sex industry worker doesn't always mean they'll be "good" at it

 

-one needs to be vigilant to ensure that the business/peronal lines don't get too confused

because in the end it is what it is.....pay for play

 

-good manners and respect is a two way street

 

Peace

MG

[blue_eyes56 2010]

What I've learned:

 

- a better understanding of my own sexuality

 

- the most erogenous part of a person is their mind

 

- unexpected moments of shared honesty and intimacy are both priceless and wholly unpredictable

[Cato 160314]

I think that my meetings with sp's bring out the best in me, parts of myself that I really like and that are often suppressed in my serious working life.

I've found that I'm actually a better and more attentive lover than I've often been in my regular life, and I certainly didn't expect that.

The ease of conversation and camaraderie, the intimacy, the correspondence I carry on, before and after, with women I've seen, in short, the new friendships.

Great interactions with interesting people on cerb. I love getting pm's asking my opinion, and telling me of others' experiences.

All excellent.

[Accelerate 105]

Excellent posts everyone, what can I add!?

I completely feel Roamingguy's post, and agree with everyone elses posts.

[spfan69 105]

Amen to all the above observations with one more - if the SP doesn't really enjoy the work the experience is ruined for both parties. Only rarely have I run into an SP who didn't really like people and just wanted to get it over with - total waste of time. I treat every SP like a respected lady that I enjoy being with and usually they respond with smiles that make my day, even before they MAKE MY DAYY!:)

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Spfan69 - I agree with you. Another thing I've learned is that no matter how hard you try to hide it, the guys will sense if you're having a bad day or just not into it.

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[Guest S**a*Q]

I've learned a lot of things but the most recent was that I can be attracted to different age categories of men. Not just the ones nearest my own...

[Apex2006 1071]

I find that sometimes it is just easer to talk to a complete stranger than someone you have known for years!

 

I found out that I am not as flexible is I should be!

 

:p

[mrgreen760 37785]

And I also learned that I'm better looking, funnier, sexier, taller, much more interesting and a better lover than I ever thought I was... ;)

 

Peace

MG

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

That you can find love in the most unexpected places...{during a 3some}lol

that men need much more than sex to be happy

that people care about how others feel

that escorts can work together and not against each other

That a smile goes along way

kisses,

Emma A

[Apex2006 1071]

That you can find love in the most unexpected places...{during a 3some}lol

that men need much more then sex to be happy

Emma A

 

 

Well I know I need much more sex!

 

Is there any bad side to a threesome? Really!

[Leber 1328]

It's just to confirm that men are human too. Naturally, we like varieties and we want more than just basics. Yes, we are greedy.

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

Since joining this site and meeting people on here I have learned so many things, not only about myself, but about life in general. The biggest thing that sticks out to me about what Ive learned is how to be happy with me.

I'm not going to give you my biography...that book comes later, but I will say that all my life I have had little, to no self esteem. I've always thought the typical "playboy" image was what every guy looked for. Was I wrong! This has turned my life totally around!

 

Ive discovered my inner sex goddess and Im loving it! Theres nothing like feeling sensual, and my new found confidance shows in everything I do! Even walking down the street I can hold my head high and be happy with who I am, and what I look like!

Thank you!

xoxo

[stevecurious 42059]

One thing that I have learned since I started meeting the ladies of Cerb is that I didn't know what I thought I knew. When I first started in this hobby my opinions, beliefs and general thoughts were very different than they are now. One might say my eyes, ears and mind were not completely open to the way the world of respectable hobbying goes. I am somewhat embarrassed to say that my beliefs at the time were very stereotypical of the world of prostitution. Being educated, thoughtful and therefore knowledgeable I very much believed the media when it reported on my soon to be hobby of choice...boy was I wrong. Thankfully I am a quick learner and after a very short period of time, and some pointers by a local lady, I refined my approach and beliefs. My eyes, ears and mind are now very much open to the different aspects of the hobby!

[Rounding Third 9567]

Wow! Great question and great responses. Allow me to humbly tell a bit of my story.

 

First - I meant a SP a few years ago that was terrific. We had wonderful numerous encounters. I thought I was just lucky that I meant her and that she was one of a kind. Now, what I am learning from CERB is that it was not luck. Rather, there is a whole community of ladies offering wonderful services, with pride and high standards.

 

Second - Granted the premise of a SP/Hobbyist encounter is a commercial transaction. Be that as it may there can still be, and most often is, high levels of intimacy, passion, romance and fun.

 

Third - I am allowed to be myself - a hopeless romantic. She is not going to laugh at me!! She will even cuddle with me.

 

Fourth - We can be safe when we have fun.

 

Fifth - I thought I was unusual for seeking out Escorts. I do not think that anymore.

 

Six - It has become an industry standard that respect, courtesy, politeness and consideration are critical to any worthwhile encounter

[JoyfulC 132299]

Not just since joining this site, but over the years in this business, one thing I've learned is that most of us have a fairly narrow window of others that we will exalt in and feel comfortable with. Trying to meet with anyone outside that is generally tedious to uncomfortable ... maybe even counterproductive.

 

It's really best when we have the patience and discipline to hold out for someone who is right for each of us. But of course, to do that, we must first know and understand ourselves as best we can.

[Victoria Banks 21899]

I really like MEN 35+ :oops:

[mrgreen760 37785]

I really like MEN 35+ :oops:

 

:))

 

Peace

MG