jakejakejake97 1020 Report post Posted September 16, 2017 So, I just turned 20 and am still a virgin and have been itching to get it on with someone. I've been browsing backpagesand seen some amazing girls. The problem is I want to find someone that doesn't mind my inexperience , so I was just wondering if anyone thinks its just a bad idea to do it at all, or if there are any girls you know of that might be a good match for me. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dread pirate roberts 4036 Report post Posted September 18, 2017 Can I advise you NOT to browse Backpages? You've done the right thing by joining Lyla, which gives you the chance to find out much more information about a provider than a Backpages ad would. Read the ads here, then read recommendations, and you will probably be able to narrow down your choices. I can't say whether this is true of Backpages, but my sense is that *none* of the providers I have met through Lyla would in any way have a problem with your lack of experience. Whether seeing a provider is the best choice for you is up to you, but if you find someone through this site, you should be able to set aside concerns about the provider's reaction as one of the considerations. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mikeyboy 27111 Report post Posted September 18, 2017 Not all ladies are interested in virgin or so very young guys...but some are just perfect for you,avoid Backpage for that purpose. If you really cannot wait,I suggest you find an independent and ask before ,do not lie on your age and your virgin status. Of course by first advice would be not to go the sp route at all for a first experience,not that you might not have a great experience ,au contraire, but at 20 it is awfully young to risk being spoiled for civilian,who no matter how much into you won't be as focused on you at a sp which goal in a meeting is your pleasure... Take your time and find a real girl... Some good advice here, although I'm not sure I agree with suggesting the "real girl route" as the only option. I don't think that there is anything wrong with choosing this direction. Admittedly it isn't for everyone, but there is a lot of pressure on young guys to loose the v status. This can create a lot of nervousness and anxiousness around the whole idea. It can make dating awkward, as most ladies you meet in there 20's have more experience in this department, which can be embarrassing for some guys. Sometimes just 'getting it over with' in a controlled setting can be just the thing they need to move on to healthy relationships. Not speaking for the op of course, just saying that I can see how this may be the right option for some people. My first would have been a lot less awkward and clumsy had I done it this way ;) I agree wholeheartedly about choosing an independent lady. This site is ideal, as most ladies you can chat with a bit with through the pm system in order to decide if it is the right fit for both of you. Be honest about everything. Your v status, any nervousness you might have, etc. Many ladies here would be more than willing to show you the ropes. (A figure of speech, you don't have to use ropes ;) ) You still want to make sure you find the right lady to make this memorable. Good luck 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Coyote1971 110 Report post Posted September 18, 2017 there is a girl on kingdom99 eliza eva she is hot and would be good for you, Good luck 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EricTL 446 Report post Posted September 18, 2017 I have to agree with Lily... find someone real and special for your first time. When you meet her you'll know... Also, pick a moment when you'll both be able to spend at least a few hours together. I'm sure you'll be very excited at first ( we ALL were.... ). After 'the first time' is over, just make sure you take time to show appreciation, love and respect. Hopefully you'll make sure there is time for a second intercourse (at least...:)). You'll be so much more relaxed the second time round. And every other time for that matter. You WILL find your way just fine... As for myself, I'm not ashamed to admit that my first time WAS with an SP. She was a girl named 'Andi' that I had met in Toronto. I was lucky as she could not have been kinder to me. I only ever loved her that one night..... but I will NEVER forget her beauty, kindness and grace... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Godsmack29 100 Report post Posted September 18, 2017 Good advice Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *Ste***cque** Report post Posted September 19, 2017 You may be too young for many women on here. They'll worry you may become too attached due to the emotions/intimacy involved. Reassure them by behaving maturely. If your heart is still set on this path I would recommend you check out the women on Lyla as they have been "vetted", so to speak. Backpages has some scammers from what I hear. Be honest about what you are seeking, that way you are more likely to get what you want. Should you approach seeing an SP as a learning experience you could learn some skills that will serve you well once you form an intimate, emotional relationship with someone who is not an SP. I'm guessing not many 20 year old guys care about pleasing a women. You could be that guy! :) Be respectful, accept their boundaries and good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tempted Monk 5057 Report post Posted September 20, 2017 I OP could share his location, it would be easier to give maybe more direct advice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GoinDown 3669 Report post Posted September 20, 2017 As someone who is just a few years older than you, you honestly don't want to go down this path at this stage in your life. First and foremost it's not a cheap pastime. But it is highly addictive - as are all brief escapes from reality - which is ALL that escorts provide. Leave the hobby world to the older guys on here who have different motivations. And in the meantime read some Thoreau to get some perspective on life. ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted September 20, 2017 Am I the only one who disagrees? As an older woman, I've seen a few young men, and of course had the privilege of introducing the novice into the world of a man and women mingling together. It's been an amazing experience for both and I personally have no objection to a virgin seeing an escort for their first experience. It's important to make sure both parties are aware and consent is ongoing. Talk to your provider and speak up if you have questions or concerns. If you do decide to go forward, enjoy yourself. However, make sure she is well reviewed. Backpage is not always the best place to start. Good luck. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted September 20, 2017 I would speak with the SP of your choice by text first to gain some insight as to what you can expect and also given your situation of embarking on losing your virginity. I've devirginized a few gentlemen over the years and communication definitely iskey. It is best to relay what you're looking for to avoid any disappointments. If you're looking on Backpage, please, please, please do your research. My advice would be to pick someone from Lyla. In one of these situations I made it really special for a young man and he enjoyed his experience. I also remember a good regular who introduced me to his 19 year old nephew and this is what he wanted for his birthday. Lol. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Loan 140 Report post Posted September 21, 2017 I Would advise against this at such ayoung age too. It is waaaay too addictive and completely spoils you with real girls. No real girl will treat you as well as someone you find here for the time that you are together. If you get used to it, youll never be happy with any real girl afterwards. Unless you end up being the luckiest guy in the world and find a real girl that would treat you like this all the time lol this hobby has totally ruined it for me with real girls. Its so much better with a cerb girl :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jakejakejake97 1020 Report post Posted September 25, 2017 I OP could share his location, it would be easier to give maybe more direct advice. I am in Ottawa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jakejakejake97 1020 Report post Posted September 25, 2017 Thank you for all the replies, I am still unsure of what I will do. Still leaning towards looking for a girl through Lyla as you guys recommended. I am blown away by the response, I expcted none at all, thanks again, you guys have given some very helpful advice Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jakejakejake97 1020 Report post Posted September 25, 2017 Hey, thanks Ill look into her Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted September 26, 2017 Chipping in late, but... I'm sure you could do a lot worse than seeing a professional. The v-card is something that people can get really hung up about, and if it gets to the point where the fear that you don't know what you're doing is going to impact your ability to meet or become more intimate with someone in civilian life, dealing with that is probably a good idea. I'd say: do what you think is right, and what you're comfortable with - because if you aren't OK with it, it probably won't be good. And be honest with whoever you see about your age and circumstances - things will be better if she knows what to expect. And bear in mind that "saving yourself" for someone in real life may not be all it's cracked up to be. Not everybody's first time is all rainbows and unicorns. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luckyme 41401 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 This thread I am posting now is a few years old. Despite that, I find it still contains a lot of valuable information that will be beneficial and helpful to you, the OP. I'd like to stress that I am not promoting anyone except to provide you with some insights and ideas which you might want to pursue. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=89049&highlight=Lost+virginity Whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best of luck! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
