Getting to Say Good-bye

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I know many on CERB have built up strong connections with those they have met with. This can apply to the gents who have a particular lady they like to see on a regular basis. And I suspect can equally apply to the ladies who may have their 'favourite' clients. And on both sides we have probably had someone leave the hobby that we cared about.

 

I am curious how Cerbites feel about the ability to know a 'regular' is leaving the industry and if you've had the chance or would want to meet one last time?

 

In my case I've had a few disappear without the opportunity to meet and say good-bye. A couple have just dropped out of site and another I knew was leaving but living in different cities we never met - one last time. For me I guess it depends on the 'closeness' of the connection. Saying good-bye is always hard but the few ladies I've gotten really close to - I would want to know and meet with one last time. Not sure it changes anything in the long term, I just think it would help me with moving on.

 

Any other experiences or thoughts?

 

Cub

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Absolutely would I love to know if a regular is leaving the hobby.. a few have kept in touch with me to let me know of their circumstance (one fell in love.. another lost his fortune.. another had his wife discover his hobby..etc etc.. ) but many I wonder about wistfully.

[roamingguy 300291]

Almost went through this recently. The lady had emailed me, letting me know she was about to retire and move out of province. A goodbye encounter was scheduled. Well the date of the encounter was mixed feelings for me, looking forward to seeing her again, but also knowing it was the last time I'd see her.

Well the anticipated knock on the door, she shows up. During the course of our evening she tells me her plans fell through, and she isn't moving. But she is no longer escorting as a business, but only as a hobby with a few select men. Then she tells me I'm one of the select few men (very ego boosting btw) she will see

I'm sure she will retire completely one day, but I hope that is a long ways off

RG

[mrrnice2 157005]

That is such an interesting question, and, there are two sides to it as well.

 

As pertains to the original contribution, I for one would love to know if one of the SP's that I have met and connected with decided to leave for whatever reason.

 

It appears from reading many contributions that there are many SP's-Hobbyists who see each other regularly. Yes it is ultimately a business arrangement, but people are people and they do like and enjoy each others company. We all know that are numerous cases where there are real friendships that develop between the people involved. This is indeed a sharing of a very intimate nature and that sharing is often more than simply physical.

 

So, I would hope that I would have an opportunity, not necessarily to arrange a last date, but to send a personal email or PM to say thanks and wish good luck. Another example perhaps of just good manners and respect for SP's as real people with feelings, goals and sometimes, as friends.

 

The other side of the equation occured to me just today. I was driving for a good part of the day, and morbid as the thought was, thought to myself that if I had had a serious accident and been killed, then I certainly would just drop off the board and disappear. I thought to myself that it would leave a few SP's wondering where I had gone to, and I know that they would worry about me.

 

One of the best parts of all of this for me is the connection and I am quite confident that those connections happen both ways. When it comes to a parting of the ways, it would be so wonderful to be able to let each other know about it.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I've had a few regulars email me "farewell." They tell me they are moving on and won't be seeing me anymore. It is usually because a relationship is getting serious or they are getting married. These emails are always appreciated because I definitely would have wondered about them if they were seeing me regularly and then suddenly dropped off. I do develop attachments! It always leaves me with mixed feelings. I'm sad to lose them, but happy for them and the new chapter in their lives.

 

More than once they came back months later after the relationship failed...... mixed feelings again. I'm sad it didn't work out but happy to see them again!

[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

I have had the same morbid thoughts as mrnice. Many times it has occurred to me that perhaps a really good client could pass away or leave the city for some unexpected reason and I would always wonder what happened.

 

Its highly unlikly anyone's wife will let me know what happened. I have discuseed this with many of my clients, luckily for me I know most people's last name so if the worst were to happen I would be able to find out what happened.

 

I would feel a terrible loss if a person fell away form the scene and I didn't know they were ok.

 

Yes this starts as buisness and many times stays that way, but I believe and know in my own life personal connections are made and I would not want it any other way.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I have said it before and I say it again. It is like losing a family member, a close friend or relative when my favorite SP (dancer or escort) retires. It has happened quite a few time to poor me and eveytime my heart breaks but at the same time the joy of seeing the person I care about moving to another layer most likely a better life is overwhelming and I feel happy for her which would heal my bleeding heart to an extend.

 

I repeat what I have said already in another thread:

 

1 - I feel sad that I won't be able to see them again

2 - I will be thinking about them and will be reminded of brief great pleasant moments that I had with them that won't be repeated again.

3 - I feel blessed that I was able to see them even once.

4 - I feel that their health and well being is most important and must come first and foremost. So I have complete understanding.

5 - I do in a way feel very happy for them that they may have found better lives or opportunities (boyfriend, alternative employment, etc.)

 

Bless them all for making our lives so pleasant.

 

 

Please refer to a related thread. Comments and emotions are overwhelming and are from buttom of the hearts:

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5862&highlight=favorite

[Newton 714]

If one of my favs retires, I'd like to say goobye and have one last time for the memory.

[castle 38816]

As many have said, I too would very much like to know if one of my regular SP's are leaving the business. I'm very protective by nature and worry about those close to me, and SP's are no different. If someone just drops out of touch I will fear the worst. I've also had the same fears that if something were to happen to me and I could not say Goodbye to a few special ladies, and they would probably be wondering (and maybe worrying) about what happened to me. I think it's just a matter of respect to let those who you have had a close connection with know you are leaving....or at the very least to just post an announcement publicly to give everyone a chance to know. Specifics as to the reasons for leaving are not necessary...everyone's business is their own. But just assurance that your healthy, happy, and simply moving on is very much appreciated.

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

I certainly appreciate knowing if a regular client has decided to move away or stop seeing me for other reasons. A friendly note to that effect eases my heart and mind a great deal.

 

In the last eight years, three of my regular clients died. I found out that one had passed away because he'd made arrangements with a friend to send an impersonal e-mail message to a list of friends and acquaintances. I was grateful to receive that e-mail. I learned that another had passed away because he was a public figure; I saw the notice in the newspaper. The third had been a very long-term client and we were friends on Facebook. When he died, another friend posted a notice on his FB page.

 

I will surely retire someday. When I do, I'll post notices to that effect here and in a few other places. I'll also make note of it on my website for a few months.

 

Finally, for what it's worth, everyone should consider what they want to have happen to their computer files, passwords and similar things in the event that they die suddenly and unexpectedly. You may want to leave instructions for a friend, for example. Another option may be to put sensitive information in a file service in cyberspace if you don't want anyone to discover it accidentally. If the documents, images and so on aren't accessed for a certain period of time, the server will simply delete them.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Sometimes I wonder what happened to regular clients that I've had good times with in the past who have been nothing but nice, respectful and fun to be with never causing me any problems. Others see you 3-5 times and disappear. I compare it to the life cycle... Here today, gone tomorrow. It's all part of being in this busness. Many men use our services to fulfill a need or a void in their life and once that has been filled, they move on. Can you blame them? I don't let myself get attached to clients but there are a small handful I wonder about.