What a cliet want wants is ...

[Guest t**obb****]

... to be lied to. They want to be told that they have big Johnsons and small guts, even though the truth is staring you in the face. (Jennifer Love Hewitt - The Client List)

 

I'm thinking there's some truth to it. What do you think?

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I'm sure they exist, but I'm not into that sort of thing. I prefer to just be myself and be genuine. It's a lot easier!

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[Malika Fantasy 144625]

They exist. It's the same that want to here that they only want to see you, that you masturbate thinking about them, that they have Ron Jeremy size dick and that you are single, don't have sex on the side and will be young forever...

 

But most people prefer to know that you are real, have periods once a month, laugh at silly stuff and that in fact *gasp* I do have a personal sex life!

[Areez 11906]

thats kind of creepy ... lol! ... and ron jeremy's dick gotta be pretty old by now.

 

I'm more of the second one. I enjoy genuine companionship, just be who we are, life is easier that way lol.

 

They exist. It's the same that want to here that they only want to see you, that you masturbate thinking about them, that they have Ron Jeremy size dick and that you are single, don't have sex on the side and will be young forever...

 

But most people prefer to know that you are real, have periods once a month, laugh at silly stuff and that in fact *gasp* I do have a personal sex life!

[Guest tr*****e]

thats kind of creepy ... lol! ... and ron jeremy's dick gotta be pretty old by now.

 

I'm more of the second one. I enjoy genuine companionship, just be who we are, life is easier that way lol.

 

Yeah, me too. I prefer to see a companion as a three-dimensional person, not just someone who rents a their vagina out(sorry if that sounds offensive in any way). I like to know the person, just like any other friend. I realize there are boundaries, but I do push on them lots. Diff'rnt strokes for diff'rnt folks and all that, but I like to be intimate in a very all-encompassing way. The flip side of that coin is that I'm very trustworthy and loyal, so trusting me isn't the zombie apocalypse. Again, no malice intended towards any who feel differently about the industry.

[Isabella Gia (Banned) 53881]

I too not only prefer but only feel comfortable being myself, those times where for whatever reason I have felt like can't be myself the encounter was awkward. Once I was asked something personal which I chose not to share and the person who asked said he would prefer me tell a lie which I respect but if it was the other way around I would be concerned about what else the person could have lied about so I think as others have said being yourself is the way to go :)

[Royalfun 55448]

I prefer to meet a SP that has her own personality, and authenticity. We all know that the relationship we have has the limit of SP-Hobbiest environment.

 

I dont have any illusions on myself, and it would be a real turn off that a SP tries to flatter me ( too much, at least. lol) For one, I want to meet a real person, and I want to be considered accordingly.

[mrrnice2 157005]

For me it is very simple. Please don't lie to me. Omission of detail and purposefully deciding not to share something is fair, genuine, and polite and will be respectfully received. It works both ways, for me.

[roamingguy 300291]

What this client likes is the entirety of the encounter, from initial greeting, conversation, sex, kissing/cuddling. I'm not looking to be lied to...especially when it would be an obvious lie (ie "your hung like a horse"...all I'd be thinking, that has to be the most pathetic looking horse she has ever seen LOL)

Everyone has things they keep to themselves. But as long as you like one another and the encounter is mutually beneficial, then what more can you ask for Being lied to, even if the intent is good isn't what I want

My quick rambling

RG

[mrgreen760 37785]

I prefer to see someone that I'd enjoy spending time with.....clothed.

 

Peace

MG

[Caleb 120]

I would prefer not to be lied to, I know I have gut and do not have a Ron Jeremy size johnson. It would almost feel like the SP is being condescending.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Most folks like to be complimented. Well-crafted compliments (going both ways) can enhance many different sorts of experience in life, including client-provider relationships. Thankfully, most folks also have some qualities that are indeed genuinely worth a compliment. So things usually work out in a balanced and friendly sort of way.

 

Over-stretching can definitely be counterproductive, though; best to keep compliments (those intended to be taken seriously, of course) connected to reality (and believable)! It's all part of common-sense mutual respect.

[loopie 15358]

I know I am paying for a fantasy, but I just want an SP to seem comfortable with me. I don't need to be flattered with overblown false praise, I would find that insulting to my intelligence.

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I don't like pretending on either party. I think I am an honest, respectful, and genuine person. I like the same from the ladies I meet. What a client wants? Well ok, sticking to my first statement of honesty. I want a special friend and a lover. I'm not trying to fill as much a sexual void in my life but one of understanding, caring, and intimaacy. This is partly why I don't see a lot of ladies but those I connect with, I've developed relationships I highly value. It might be easier to simply see this as a 2hr business transaction but often I seek more. I know clients come in all shapes, sizes, desires and needs. Just sharing my perspective and appreciation for the amazing few women who respond to guys like me. XO Cub

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[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

I've had women give me compliments that are clearly not true. Frankly I find that a real turn off. In person, as on cerb, "If you don't have anything nice to say..please don't say anything at all."

 

Also, if I ask a question of a lady that is too personal, I would much prefer that she simply tell me that she isn't comfortable sharing that information. I am happy to respect her privacy. Please don't make up a lie in order to simply answer the question.

[Lowdark 5613]

This industry is, to a large extent, built around fantasy. Having said that, I would prefer the company of someone genuine, though I will never judge anyone looking for more of the fantasy. I have had the opportunity to meet some women in both person and through chat that I can discuss politics, religion, history, art, literature, movies, music and even the ins and outs of the escorting business with and that's how I prefer it. I prefer the actual individual, and while I have no delusions about myself, I would prefer genuine compliments and not falsehoods dressed as compliments (which I doubt most ladies on CERB are into). I prefer the real lady, not a poorly rounded out fantasy conceived in the shadowier parts of my imagination.

[Code Blue 3585]

Chemistry and conversation.

 

I may look a bit old but I'm not stupid and can spot a lie. While there is a role for the "little white lie" in good conversation/flirting, much else is an insult to my intelligence and the fastest way to throw cold water over an encounter.

 

I wonder what the ladies would say if asked the same question...

 

CB

[ottawaadventurer 5114]

I agree with most of the posts so far. I am very aware of what I am, my assets and my weaknesses. I am hung like a pony. Ok, a squirrel. I know that. :-). And I am no Adonis. I do have positive attributes, that I hope the ladies I am with will see. But it's a total turn-off to be fed a line that is obviously delivered as part of the role. It hasn't happened often, to be fair, but when it does, it detracts from the experience as opposed to enhancing it.

[Phaedrus 209521]

I prefer to see someone that I'd enjoy spending time with.....clothed.

 

+1 on that. The ladies I go back to are generally the ones that would probably have been friends if I'd met them in real life and never got to see them naked.

 

I've had women give me compliments that are clearly not true. Frankly I find that a real turn off. In person, as on cerb, "If you don't have anything nice to say..please don't say anything at all."

 

+1 to that, too. Most of us know when we're being given a "compliment" that's just meaningless flattery. In this case I'd be inclined to go further than the CERB banner and say, "If you don't have anything nice to say, please change the subject." What isn't discussed doesn't have to be lied about, and that's probably better for all of us.

[Annessa 22743]

good thread....a bit of a pot-stir-er...but good thread nonetheless.

 

i agree with Megan's Touch that being yourself is so much easier (and far less draining on the psyche) than being fake. I have recently at a social given a compliment to a gent that was very genuine...at the time he said "oh I bet you say that to all your clients, haha"

 

it kinda stung...partially because it was basically like being labeled a liar IMO....which nobody likes to be called.

 

he then later went on in a PM that it was as tho all the gals at the social were only there for business reasons (umm...does the word networking only apply to suit-wearing companies?) and that all our conversations would be much more appreciated if we didnt see them as walking dollar signs.

 

this member is apparently not on cerb anymore........and I think its a good thing that instead of being skeptical of every gal thinking that they are only giving you a compliment because of money, perhaps take it for what its worth. Insecurity happens, we all deal with it sometimes, but fussing over whether a girl is lying or not can really take away from what an experience with a provider is meant to give. There are some pathalogical liars out there but there are some great gals that only give a compliment when its due :-)

 

however, if you have a mocro-penis, dont ask if its the biggest shes ever had, lol.....if you want an honest answer that is..just sayin ;-)

[Code Blue 3585]

good thread....a bit of a pot-stir-er...but good thread nonetheless.

 

i agree with Megan's Touch that being yourself is so much easier (and far less draining on the psyche) than being fake.

 

and I think its a good thing that instead of being skeptical of every gal thinking that they are only giving you a compliment because of money, perhaps take it for what its worth. Insecurity happens,

 

1. Lying requires a far better memory than most people have.

 

2. It appears to me that a lot of people do not know how to respond to a compliment! Some are so insecure they see it as a facetious comment or put down, but even people with reasonable self-esteem seem to be floored by a simple compliment.

 

CB

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

My long standing philosophy as an SP has ben this... WYSIWYG. "What you see is what you get."

 

I am not one of those SPs who has a complete separate personna for working purposes. I consider myself a genuine person with my own personality in tact who doesn't kiss a client's ass ( okay not literally) to get on their good side. I do like to keep my personal life separate from my work but this doesn't mean I have to become a completely different person. I mean I don't have a Marilyn Monroe type voice when I answer the phone and then sound like a husky Demi Moore smoking a cigarette when i get off the phone. And no, I don't smoke.;)

 

People who do know me are fully aware that I am a no holes barred person with a take no prisoners type of attitude. I don't bullshit people. If I have a problem with you, you will know about it. If a guy has a fat gut or a 1 inch cock, I wouldn't be the type of person to say "Oh you have such a big cock and you're in such great shape." Just like a guy who came to see me who really preferred a spinner isn't going to tell me that I'm so gorgeous in his opinion or that I have such a slim body because I don't! I understand that guys will appreciate someone more if they just don't say anything at all while providing a good service instead of trying to kiss up or put on some sort of act.

 

Sometimes less is more and I will pay a client a compliment if they decide to visit me on more than one occasion. I have tried to give people compliments ( even if it's a nice shirt they're wearing or if I like their biceps) as I get to know them better and often times I have heard the famous line "I bet you say that to all the guys." I think if you have a good rapport and enough chemistry with the SP, that you should take the compliment even if you are a modest person, have low self esteem or don't fully believe it.

 

I once tried to give a client that I knew for years a compliment on his performance in bed and he told me I was lying. How do you think that made me feel after the countless session I had with him, the extra time I spent with him when I didn't have to? I also told him something somewhat personal that I didn't have to share with him, he didn't believe that either. So I guess I had to consider the source and realize that the guy had issues with himself that he was trying to transfer onto me. I suppose his attitude was that all SPs were liars and would do whatever it took to say things to get what they wanted.

 

I have noticed in the past that if a client has low self confidence, they are likely to not accept a compliment, give you a hard time or make you feel like you are bullshitting them. Basically if you do that, you are calling the SP a liar. I think you can get to know after a while if an SP is phony. I can spot them a mile away. So when deciding to accept a compliment from an SP, you have to see who it is coming from, how well do you know them, what they are like and then gauge it from there.

[Jim.Bean 241]

One thing that turns me off in a hurry is when I drop my pants and an SP gasps and tells me how big I am. I am over 40, been around the block more than a few times. The last thing I want to know for certaiin is that my companion is trying to flatter me with lies

[nobody123 518]

I'd go so far as to say that I would prefer an SP that is obviously bored and just going through the motions than one that has a big screaming fake orgasm at my merest touch. (of course, my preference is for an honest person who is having fun and engaged in what she is doing, but I'm just sayin what I think is the lesser of two evils)

[spud271 47779]

I hate being lied to. My job is to know when people are lying. I can see through any bs someone throws at me and very rarely is someone that good that they can pull a fast one on me. I don't play any games with anyone and am very transparent once I get to know and trust someone, as a few ladies on here already know. So I appreciate the same back, otherwise I will never see them again.