To repeat or not repeat

[nntsci 11075]

Hi

 

 

I just had a second visit with a very lovely young lady, and I'd really like to see her again.

 

I've encounted a few people on boards (CERB TERB etc.) who talk about seeing regular SPs, and others who says they don't repeat.

 

I've mostly seen different girls each time, in part because I like variety. But I have also been back to a couple of girls more than once. However, I'm reluctant to go back to the same girl because I'm a bit afraid of getting too attached to anyone in particular.

 

My wife actually has a friend whose husband left her for an Escort (drove away in a Ford escort, to move in with his Escort according to my wife's friend -- she called oneday wanting to talk to my wife about it, my wife wasn't home, and I couldn't get her off the phone).

 

On the other hand, in seeing the same girl its so nice when she recognizes me, gives a big sexy smile, and greets me warmly. And she may even remember my preferences or quirks. In all cases so far the second visits have been great; my most recent repeat left me wanting more.

 

I was wondering what other hobbiests think about repeats or novelty. Also SPs, whats your opinion on repeated visits. Do guys get too attached to you. Is that good or bad?

[roamingguy 300291]

There are ladies that I've had good and great encounters with. Those ladies I see or will see again. And the repeat encounters become less like an SP/Client relationship, and more like friends seeing each other again. Those repeat encounters, well since she knows you and you her, there is imho more trust, intimacy and reconnecting going on.

I do see new ladies as well. When there is a lady that I think I'd like to meet, I schedule an encounter with her. I look at her profile, website, postings, that gives me an idea of who she is, and whether we'd click or not

Hopefully we have a great encounter, and she is a lady I would repeat with

At no time do I look at this lifestyle to see as many ladies as possible, it's not a case of notches on my belt so to speak. I enjoy the company of ladies and appreciate the encounters I have with them

As for getting too attached. I never lose sight of the fact that the ladies are paid professional companions. This isn't a dating site, and I'm not looking for a g/f or wife. I have made some friends, but even so they still are paid when I see them for encounters...why would I try to freeload so to speak from a friend? But this is a mutually beneficial lifestyle. The lady gets paid, which is income for her...her livelihood. I get intimate encounters with beautiful woman with no strings attached. And hopefully we both enjoy our time together

Some late night ramblings

RG

[nntsci 11075]

Thanks for the reply, insightful as always.

[Phaedrus 209521]

I'm permanently conflicted on this. There's a constant tension between wanting to meet new people who have piqued my interest for some reason, and going back to see the ones who I've met in the past and had an awesome time with. And most of the time, the new people I meet then end up on the list of people I want to see again, which just doesn't make it any easier next time around!

 

So I tend to end up going through phases of seeing new people, and seeing people I've seen before. And then changing my mind about what I want to do.

[Boomer 33202]

I generally make choices that I hope will lead to a second date. I don't think you can really develop a rapport unless you have several appointments. As for becoming too attached, take the risk. You have to remember that you may start to develop a close personal attachment, but in the end when she ushers you out the door she goes back to her regular life. You have to have the discipline to control how far you allow yourself to go.

[Athos 108589]

I'm permanently conflicted on this. There's a constant tension between wanting to meet new people who have piqued my interest for some reason, and going back to see the ones who I've met in the past and had an awesome time with. And most of the time, the new people I meet then end up on the list of people I want to see again, which just doesn't make it any easier next time around!

 

So I tend to end up going through phases of seeing new people, and seeing people I've seen before. And then changing my mind about what I want to do.

 

I'm a bit like this as well. For a couple of years there was only one lady I saw, reasonably regularly. This past year, my relocation and her retirement made that impossible. So I've seen a number of new ladies, several I've already repeated with and several more i hope to.

 

I do find that encounters with regulars do build to a different level, because of trust, familiarity, and connection. After all, the reason you repeat is the fact that there was great chemistry the first time. It is always very important, as RG points out, to remember that these are paid companions, no matter how wonderful they are as individuals. Keep some judgement and emotional distance, and if you can't then it's time to see someone new, or get a different hobby.

[Guest *ig*a**]

Years ago I used to see this one lady on a regular basis but after she retired I have been more of a variety type of guy. I usually don't repeat now unless I had an extrodinary time with the lady.

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[Luckyme 41401]

I'm permanently conflicted on this. There's a constant tension between wanting to meet new people who have piqued my interest for some reason, and going back to see the ones who I've met in the past and had an awesome time with. And most of the time, the new people I meet then end up on the list of people I want to see again, which just doesn't make it any easier next time around!

 

So I tend to end up going through phases of seeing new people, and seeing people I've seen before. And then changing my mind about what I want to do.

 

Like you, I am constantly torn between these two choices. I like the familiarity and good rapport with the beautiful ones I have seen before, but at the same time, I am tempted to see those I have never seen before who have very good recommendations. It's a tough decision - but I'd rather be in this situation than not, lol.

[PistolPete 61421]

I'm sure one could tell, about myself, "variety"... there is so many beautiful women to meet, and so little time, so I do enjoy the variety factor.

 

That said, I have on numerous occassions repeated with ladies where we have really have a great rapport with each other.We are good friends, and we are also great lovers together in the boudoir, and that makes it really enjoyable.

 

The variety, is simply because there is women on here that I love to meet.

As I said in a thread quite some time ago, I still seek that lady that I would love to do a sleep over with, just being great friends, not necessarily having sex ALL night...geezz I know I could not keep up ;) but to share an evening of intimacy, passion,exploring each others erotic zones (goose bumps I like that :) ) just being good friends.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I have not repeated so far and I don't think I would ever see someone regularly. Of the few women I have met in my 2 years at this they have all been visiting ladies.

Doesn't mean I didn't want to repeat in any of my encounters and in a few cases i did succumb and try to arrange another get together on their next visit but was not successful. Probably I choose visiting ladies instead of local ladies due to their distance from me and the unlikelihood of frequent get togethers?

Being married I don't want to risk another emotional attachment and it's a possibility if I was intimate with the same person on a regular basis. My wife would have a harder time with an emotional betrayal than a sexual one. I would feel guiltier too.

[Chanel Reign 28097]

SP's are as different as Hobbiests. Some prefer variety, some prefer regulars. Both are fine.

 

Having regular or semi-regular clients does indeed build up trust and friendship, and in my opinion, makes our playdates more intimate for exploration of other fantasies, and much much more familiar with each other likes, and bodies.

 

This is especially true with my 6 hr Playcation Gents.

 

And sometimes they share personal problems or accomplishments, or a story in their personal life, knowing that the friendly "bartender" is just an unbiased ear for them to run stuff by. It doesn't mean any lines have been crossed; it's because of the trust and our knowledge that this is as far as it goes.

 

Also, to be honest, meeting new play partners always makes me a little nervous. Excited yes, but I always have wee butterflies usually for the first few minutes. :icon_redface:

 

As long as all parties understand that it is a friendly business relationship; it's all good.

[roamingguy 300291]

 

And sometimes they share personal problems or accomplishments, or a story in their personal life, knowing that the friendly "bartender" is just an unbiased ear for them to run stuff by. It doesn't mean any lines have been crossed; it's because of the trust and our knowledge that this is as far as it goes.

 

Also, to be honest, meeting new play partners always makes me a little nervous. Excited yes, but I always have wee butterflies usually for the first few minutes. :icon_redface:

 

As long as all parties understand that it is a friendly business relationship; it's all good.

 

I find with some ladies who I have seen on a repeat basis the sharing of personal information has been two way. A couple ladies discussed personal matters, in one case more me being a sounding board, and in another seeking advice. As always, with me, treated with discretion, what was discussed, it is private between the lady and me.

Meeting a lady for the first time or for a repeat encounter, I always have excited nervousness and butterflies...but in a good way. The day that excitement goes either I should give up this lifestyle, or I'm dead, and perhaps one (or more) of the ladies would like to give the eulogy LOL.

That to me is all part of the building anticipation of an encounter

A rambling

RG

[nntsci 11075]

thanks

 

I appreciate all the comments. I'm a bit thorn in that if I really enjoy a womans company, I'd like to see her again, but I'm a bit fearful of an emotional attachment. I don't trust my heart to keep things professional. lol. Sounds like a new hit country tune.

[roamingguy 300291]

thanks

 

I appreciate all the comments. I'm a bit thorn in that if I really enjoy a womans company, I'd like to see her again, but I'm a bit fearful of an emotional attachment. I don't trust my heart to keep things professional. lol. Sounds like a new hit country tune.

 

Well if you are really fearful of emotional attachments, then you are probably best to not repeat with a lady, or just have a couple encounters with a lady at the most. Emotional attachments don't just complicate your life, they can create problems for the lady, which isn't fair to her

RG

[Benjistarr 109]

I personally enjoy repeat visits. For me it's the new found confidence when you go to knock on the door. You know who is going to answer and you know your going to have an amazing time.

 

As for the potential for emotion attachments forming, my suggestion would be seeing new SP's between visits with that favorite lady. Who knows......maybe the best of both worlds.

[Newton 714]

I like both repeats and new encounters. Regulars gave me comfort and confidence of what I will be getting. New ladies provided excitement and anticipation. Mixing it up seems best of both worlds, at least for me.

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

I see a regular local SP every few weeks and it seems to work out for me as she knows what I like but I still love the thrill of meeting some of the touring ladies that come through my area. At this time of my life I want to enjoy it as much as I can.

[Philander39 3705]

I think most people in the hobby have to deal with desire to experience new adventures with new ladies or repeat with those ladies that they had a great time. I know I fall into that category.

 

The one thing that makes my decision easier is that I only have limited chances to meet SPs and thus availabilty is a deciding factor. I will say that if an when I have a chance to see an SP, I do make a quick review of the SPs I have seen in the past first. Mainly, because I usually prefer incalls and thus being familar with the incall location and the steps the SP likes to follow to while setting up the incall make things a little less stressful.

 

Saying that, I definitely love the thrill of meeting someone new. Of course, I do make an effort to read their posts here to get a better feel of the type of person they are. So far, I have been blessed with many great experiences with the ladies for CERB.

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I would more generally fall into the repeat/regular category. I got into this as much for the intellectual and emotional connection as the physical one. This has in past caused me to get close and temporarily cross that imaginary line. (So I know of the fear the OP states. It is very real.) But all stays in check now. I love getting to know someone and creating a little relationship in addition to the time we are together. I find together we open up, build up a trust, get closer and the intimacy gets that much stronger. I really don't like just feeling the 8:00 appointment...have a great couple of hours...and then disconnect until the next meeting. I know we pay for companionship for a particular time but those ladies who I've been fortunate to get closer to...I truly treasure what we have. I should also say that I hobby when I travel which provides me with any variety I may seek. Cub

[nntsci 11075]

Well if you are really fearful of emotional attachments, then you are probably best to not repeat with a lady, or just have a couple encounters with a lady at the most. Emotional attachments don't just complicate your life, they can create problems for the lady, which isn't fair to her

RG

 

Thanks, its good advice, though I should point out that I'm not that worried... if I was I wouldn't have made reference to a possible hit country song about my heart not keeping it professional.... Country love songs tend to be humorous and not particularly passionate (there are exceptions of course).

 

Instead I'd have gone perhaps for an operatic aria and nobody writes songs about infatuation and transference of love from one face to another better than Jacques Offenbach.

 

Oh, her face was charming... I see it,

Fine as the day, running after her,

I, like a fool, left the house paternal,

And fled there'on to woods and vales

Her hair, in sombre rolls,

On her neck threw warm shades,

Her eyes of enveloping azure,

Cast about glances fresh and pure.

And as our car without shock or tremor

Carried our loves and hearts, her vibrant voice and sweet,

To the heav'ns that listened, threw the conq'ring cry,

And the eternal echo resounded in my heart.

 

Its better in the original French.

 

But, I'm not so easily swayed by a pretty face as E.T.A. Hoffman (with or without "rose coloured glasses") in Offenbach's Tales of Hoffman. (Its my favourite opera, saw it recently in Toronto).

 

You can see that song at the following link. Hoffman is singing a song about a deformed creature called Klein-Zach and then suddenly stops and sings about the face of some woman who is never identified in the opera (possibly Stella).

 

 

This isn't the best performance of it. The performance in Toronto was amazing. Its funny, but charming, and tragically comic or comically tragic depending on how you look at it.

 

No, not me, I'm not that romantic. Actually the event that triggered this questions wasn't actually a issue of love at all. I was talking to the girl on our second date after the action and she was telling how the hotel we were in really gave her the creeps when she arrived at the hotel, and that she was glad it was me that she was meeting, because she knew I was safe etc.. and I had this momentary feeling of needing to protect her for some bizarre reason. Its hard to explain, but she's such a sweet girl (and very hot too).

 

I started this topic to try and work out in my own head what to make of my emotions. I've always believed in solving problems by thinking about the worse possible case scenario and then having a laugh about it.

 

I'll keep my wayward heart under control.

 

Thanks to all who responded. Its been a very interesting conversation.

[nntsci 11075]

AN UPDATE

 

After due consideration I decided to go back to the same lady again. She was just so good I couldn't pass that up. My discomfort was temporary anyway. I booked the service provider to get someone else off my mind (a friend with beautiful long wavy brown hair and a tendency to flirt). It worked actually quite well for a few days, but I need another session of "forget about her" therapy. :-)

 

The other thing was that made me feel a bit uneasy was that I felt protective. I think it might have been because the service provider is about the age of my daughter, but I know the lady is an adult and she knows what she's doing (very well I might add). Besides its not like I do much protecting for my daughter anyway -- shes an adult and shes got a live in boyfriend who has that job now.

 

Anyway, I'm not about to avoid young ladies for that reason... thats one of the joys of this hobby, spending time with such beautiful young ladies...

 

All is well.