Why do we see SP's if we can get it for free?

[R**m**tic 100]

Apologies if this topic has been brought up before but I'm a newbie on this board...

 

I'm an average single guy who can "luckly" get a "booty call from a selection" any night that I want but I prefer to see SP's.... what's up with that?

 

I've also noticed that I take more care and preparation before seeing an SP then I do in my real life "dates" :oops:... is anyone else out there like this?

 

Trying to figure this one out...

 

 

TIA, Roam

[fortunateone 156618]

I would say you take more care with the sp less that that you are making sure that you take less care with the non-sps, if you know what I mean? If you arrive unkempt, unshowered, less than at your best, then you will not seem as appealing for a long term relationship lol.

 

With an sp, you know that the opposite will improve your mileage, so it is in best interest to be fresher. With a non-sp, it is not in your best interest to look like a great catch. A fun friend with benefits yes, but not a great catch.

 

I think you already know that even "booty" calls come with strings if you want to make sure you stay on their list. With an sp, all you need to do is show up on time and with a good attitude, you call at 9pm, arrive 9:30, leave at 10:30 and she actually does not want you to call her in the morning. It is the ultimate nsa.

[MandalayBay 575]

This is something that I often think about with many of my clients. Some of them are attractive enough to go to any bar and select almost any woman they want. A booty call would be very easy for them.

 

I'll sometimes ask them why they are calling me when they are such good-looking men? Most say they enjoy being with a woman who knows what she is doing and a guaranteed good time with no harassment afterwards.

[capitalman 3861]

Low self confidence, low self esteem, fear of rejection?

[whatsup 11893]

This is something that I often think about with many of my clients. Some of them are attractive enough to go to any bar and select almost any woman they want. A booty call would be very easy for them.

 

I'll sometimes ask them why they are calling me when they are such good-looking men? Most say they enjoy being with a woman who knows what she is doing and a guaranteed good time with no harassment afterwards.

 

Men visit you because you are a classy lady, my dear. :smile:

[YoungStud 468]

Fear of commitment, of real intimacy, inability to have a both deep emotional and an intense sexual relationship with the same person?

 

The desire for quick and easy sex without any social frills? Lots of reasons, as we all know.

 

It can't just be variety of sexual partners, because that exists outside the escort world. Or range of sexual activity. Escorts can be just as restrictive and inhibited as anybody else. YMMV, as they say.

 

I've had some great gang bangs with women I've known socially, for example, while most escorts aren't really into group activity.

[kingforday 97]

:mrgreen: well where to begin -

- NSA

- I used to go to the bar and spend more in a weekend picking up ladies

- the ladies wanted me to call the next day or would call me

- the thrill and anticipation of meeting new and interesting people

- girls that would not look at me twice

[a******s.m*****e 187]

I have thought about this a lot.

 

I think one of the main reasons is that with an sp it's sex on the guy's terms, his timing and it is usually exactly the way he wants it. The girl is his type, she is nice to him and looks perfect.

 

Every "other" sex in life can be a gamble. With other words, it is "custom made" sex, just like a custom made suit that will fit guaranteed.

[Alexa Cummings 878]

I have thought about this a lot.

 

I think one of the main reasons is that with an sp it's sex on the guy's terms, his timing and it is usually exactly the way he wants it. The girl is his type, she is nice to him and looks perfect.

 

Every "other" sex in life can be a gamble. With other words, it is "custom made" sex, just like a custom made suit that will fit guaranteed.

 

I must agree with you Anita...I find often that very attractive men who can clearly go and find a date no problem prefer SP's due to the fact that they can go on read and see how others experienced their time...Are they really going to get what they are looking for??? Does she have a good reputation...Will he enjoy himself...

 

It is kind of like this...Take a lady out to dinner who you can refer to a "booty call" being that is what your looking for ultimately at the end of the night...And you spend money on a dinner...possibly hotel...drinks...etc...now add up your bill....now take that bill and compare it to the price of an SP depending on who you are choosing...At the end of the day...You will most likely spend the same amount...Have a great time...and be guaranteed if your looking for a "GFE" or "PSE" that you are going to have your fantasy fulfilled and you arent gonna have the worry of the lady saying oh Im full...Ok Im done Im going home and your left with money out of your pocket and wondering why you didnt get what you wanted...

 

Also with SP's there is that privacy...We wont call you unless youve requested...And we wont stalk you and wonder why or call you and say why havent you called me??? Was it just sex you wanted....We understand your needs...we enjoy fulfilling them and we guarantee our service...

[coachg 388]

Personally I am at the point in my life where the "game" is not that important...the need to conquer all is not there.....I appreciate the full experience and the fantastic sex that ALWAYS happens when I visit my fav EP. I could go and pick up a lady any nite in the bar....but after the games are played, what guarantees do I have that the sex is going to be totally outstanding? Absolutley none!!! This has nothing to do with low self esteem or low confidence....it is all about the most gratifying experience I can have.....Nuff said!!!!!

[Annessa 22743]

I cannot comment on the original poster because I dont know him, but I have seen many attractive men celebrities and confident and sensual men...

 

their reasons always vary and some have been mentioned above, the greatest I feel being nsa encounters (almost the biggest reason why I do what I do!! and love it)...but another reason that I feel should be addressed is discretion: being a celebrity or being newly divorced in a small and gossipy neighborhood may as well be the same boat going up similar rivers....you need what you need....but you dont need the bad luck of the minimal degrees of separtaion to perhaps bring your weekend flings to center stage.

 

High figures have told me they would rather hire a girl for private time than have his and some sweet and too-innocent-for-her-own good girl get their pictures snapped by blood-thirsty paparazzi casing drama among the public and their family and friends (who are probably doing the same but wont admit it).

 

married or newly devorced are no different....they have their reputations...but they also have needs. Similarly there is the attractive charismatic man with the busy schedule....he focuses and loves his work to a point where there is simply no time to invest in courtship, 3 dates, and possibly no guarantee......many work-a-holics I see are happier that they are not devoting half their lives sitting in singles bars and neglecting their professional values just to get that intimacy that so many spend all their energy day-in and day out trying to find..... they can settle their needs privately and in turn live day to day being better (and more perma-smiled) people...we have served our jobs well when us SPs feel we have given what no late-night booty call could have ever offered or drunk easy girl at the singles bar would have given up for free (along with what she may be carrying or the puke-mess in your bathroom you may have to clean up later at your place) ;-)

 

the best part about us....is the *promise*. Us ladies that take our jobs seriously if you are gentleman enough, are here to be everything you want and more from the moment you open the door to our welcoming smile....to the point that we brush the sweat off your forehead.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

I have seen gents from all over the world,all walks of life and all forms of attractiveness...i have asked some why have you chosen me....many different answers... the point is that we are here to give them something they are missing in their lives....not only sex but the feeling of being wanted and most of all appreciated...certainly we are the "sure thing" but i like to think that sex isn't the only reason why someone chooses to see me.

kisses,

Emma A

[MandalayBay 575]

certainly we are the "sure thing" but i like to think that sex isn't the only reason why someone chooses to see me.

kisses,

Emma A

 

That is exactly what I think as well. I have so much more to offer than just sex ... a great sense of humour. good listener, genuine person ... and I love what I do most of the time.

[buggernot 588]

For me, I'm recently divorced and not looking for a relationship right now. If the right one came along that's different, but I'm being very discretionary with that. And it doesn't happen often since I'm by no means a player, but I have found that there have been a few instances where I could've elected for the 'free' booty call, and opted for the professional route instead. It's just simpler with minimal potential for mess. And the dating thing is a lot of work that I don't have the time to dedicate to.

 

One thing for sure is that when I do hook up with someone for real, that will spell the end of this for me. I don't fuck around...unless she wants me to ;)

[Akhenaton 221]

As mentionned above, in one form or another, those of us participating in this hobby have done our math in our heads and find this the best all around value for our time, money and were it can be said emotional investment.

 

The thrill of the chase in bars, for most of the guys I know, is cool for a while, but then the "continued" and oft times unwanted investment is just too much of a pain.

 

With SP, especially the better ones, many of which have already posted on this thread, you get truely the best of the best for what your instant needs are.

 

So today, I may need a wild time, and tomorrow more of a nice cuddle and chuckle, well, by having a few SPs that you favour, you pick the one that best suits your mood or needs of the moment and you get what you want in that specific moment in time (back to Anita's comment about timing).

 

With booty calls, sometimes you are called upon, and that may also not be in your "timing" or "mood", and to stay in the good books of your booty call, well you have to accommodate. With SPs you come when you come, share some good times (almost always a gurantee) and go your seperate ways until next time.

 

It's funny, the word variety has come up a few times, but I find I am actually more "conservative" with my fav sps then I was with my F-buddies, go figure, lol.

[a******s.m*****e 187]

Yeah, sure girls:)

 

But without those nice tits and pretty face, would the guys still come to see you if you looked inattractive? You could appreciate them to death they wouldn't be interested. So the truth is somewhere in the middle....

 

Anyway, there is something that came to my mind when I read this thread.

 

I am sure part of the appeal is the thrill of "owning" another person, if even only for an hour.

 

I remember a few years back my girlfriend took me to a Chippendale show (not sure if they were the real ones, anyway they looked it...).

 

I remember how it felt to have those gorgeous guys smiling at you, dancing for you and taking their clothes off just for you.

I remember thinking I could get addicted to this feeling and that now I know what men feel like when they watch exotic dancers.

 

Fortunately, next time we went the show was boring, so I didn't get hooked on it, but it certainly made me understand what does a pretty women's undivided attention do to the ego of men.

 

I think if I was rich I would hire male escorts instead of picking somebody up and taking him home who could rob me, get drunk and/or be unable to perform.

 

I think part of the thrill for men is the feeling of OWNING a woman. All you have to do is to read between the lines when they talk about their adventures...

 

This is not meant in any way as a criticism. As I said I DO understand where they are coming from. It is a thrill to have power over somebody.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

{I think part of the thrill for men is the feeling of OWNING a woman. All you have to do is to read between the lines when they talk about their adventures... }

 

 

I'm so sorry but i do not agree with this line at all...just because someone gives me a gift to spend time with doesn't mean they own me...i still have the right to say NO to anything i am uncomfortable with ...the word OWN is not appropriate here...

[a******s.m*****e 187]

{I think part of the thrill for men is the feeling of OWNING a woman. All you have to do is to read between the lines when they talk about their adventures... }

 

 

I'm so sorry but i do not agree with this line at all...just because someone gives me a gift to spend time with doesn't mean they own me...i still have the right to say NO to anything i am uncomfortable with ...the word OWN is not appropriate here...

 

OK, I knew it would be easy to misunderstand, but maybe the guys know what I am talking about.

Having paid for a girl for sex for an hour is basically owning her pussy for at least a few minutes. And having the right to touch her intimately.

 

I wish I had a better word instead of Owning. Maybe having access sounds better...?

[etasman2000 15994]

OK, I knew it would be easy to misunderstand, but maybe the guys know what I am talking about.

Having paid for a girl for sex for an hour is basically owning her pussy for at least a few minutes. And having the right to touch her intimately.

 

I wish I had a better word instead of Owning. Maybe having access sounds better...?

 

Sorry, I still would disagree with you.

 

AFAIK most SP are quite clear on their website, time paid for companionship only, anything else that occurs is between two consenting adults.

 

There is no right implied or otherwise. If she doesn't consent to it it does not occur. Full stop. Any inappropriate touching can and should be considered assault.

 

If you want to imply access then a one-night stand or a booty call is far clearer in this regard. Both parties engage in this with a clear goal in mind, sex.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

OK, I knew it would be easy to misunderstand, but maybe the guys know what I am talking about.

Having paid for a girl for sex for an hour is basically owning her pussy for at least a few minutes. And having the right to touch her intimately.

 

I wish I had a better word instead of Owning. Maybe having access sounds better...?

 

Maybe its because your an MA that you don't understand what we do....just a thought...kisses

[spud271 47779]

Hmmm...I'm sure we have travelled this path before in another thread, but I figure since I'm now a retired hobbyiest I may as well give my reasons for originally getting in to the hobby.

 

I have never personally had a problem with meeting, talking, picking up or dating women. This has never been issue, women don't intimidate me, espescially the very beautiful ones. The only reason why I picked up this hobby was very simple actually. I love sex! I could have sex 24/7 and have a hard time meeting women who are the same way. So, I picked up this hobby. Over the years I have so many amazing women who I have become friends with, that I'm glad I made this decision. I have never regretted it, and hope one day to be involved with the hobby once again.

[buggernot 588]

OK, I knew it would be easy to misunderstand, but maybe the guys know what I am talking about.

Having paid for a girl for sex for an hour is basically owning her pussy for at least a few minutes. And having the right to touch her intimately.

 

I wish I had a better word instead of Owning. Maybe having access sounds better...?

 

I think I know what you mean. 'Owning' has a very bad slave connotation or saying that a woman is not independant but a possession.

 

Perhaps you're thinking along the same lines as going to the spa for the day and having the staff there cater to your every whim? It's nice getting a regular massage from a friend, but to pay a pro to do what you want is luxurious. Same goes for a SP...she's there to provide to you and you are the boss. Even if you told her to be the boss, you're still getting what you are asking for. Even with varying limitations, it's still luxurious ;)

[d*mm*y 887]

Because we can?

[a******s.m*****e 187]

I think I know what you mean. 'Owning' has a very bad slave connotation or saying that a woman is not independant but a possession.

 

Perhaps you're thinking along the same lines as going to the spa for the day and having the staff there cater to your every whim? It's nice getting a regular massage from a friend, but to pay a pro to do what you want is luxurious. Same goes for a SP...she's there to provide to you and you are the boss. Even if you told her to be the boss, you're still getting what you are asking for. Even with varying limitations, it's still luxurious ;)

 

Oh, thank you:) I started feeling like a villain :)

 

Yes, this is exactly what I meant. The same feeling of buying a luxury car or going on a luxury vacation.

 

I must admit I would love to experience hiring a male escort and enjoy the fact that he has to make himself look handsome for me, has to smile no matter what he thinks of me and I can have sex when I want, the way I want. I would pay for the ultimate power trip, yeah! :)

 

Nothing wrong with it, we all love being pampered.

[a******s.m*****e 187]

Maybe its because your an MA that you don't understand what we do....just a thought...kisses

 

I guess you are right :)