Board Presence

[roamingguy 300291]

Another thread just posted recently, this one,

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=166665

got me to thinking (scary thought LOL). CERB is a great forum for the ladies to advertise and the guys to read and write recommendations (and look at photos too ;-) )

But for those members, ladies and gentlemen both, who limit their use of CERB to just advertising, reading (and maybe writing) recommendations

but generally speaking not having a board presence it doesn't allow CERB members to get to know you, so to speak

For a lady, when a gentleman contacts her, she can get an idea of who he is by the posts he makes. And whether he will be compatible with her for an encounter

Likewise, I know for me, for most of my encounters, a large part of my decision as to whether I would contact a lady or not took place after I read her posts. Maybe not all of them, but some of them. It gave me an idea of whether we would be compatible.

No one expects a Pulitzer Prize winning novel. But there are threads to share your thoughts. And your pretty much safe participating as long as you keep in mind the CERB mantra "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all"

Anyhow a rambling on a Saturday afternoon while for a change, it's snowing outside

RG

[Guest c**io**m7]

Good point RG. Before booking Cerb ladies, I always used to look at their post histories, not just their advertisements. It gives a little insight into her personality, likes, dislikes etc...and I can only assume the ladies check into the gents who contact them as well.

 

Post, get involved, let everyone know a little bit about you. I am sure it can help enhance encounters.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I find that many hobbyist usually just say " ohh well I just don't have the time or care to bother" But yet these also tend to be the same guy's who ask the same questions over and over, or the one's that are venting about getting ripped off, etc...

 

As you point out, if you could spend a few min here and there and begin to read what your future provider is writing. Gives you an indication on compatibility, professional investment she has into her business, then chances are, you may not have to post about how you get ripped off or never can seem to book with the lady and never get to meet, etc.

 

Example: if RG wants to book me on Monday at 2, but so does abc for the same time, I will book RG in heart beat, lol....

 

I was happy to I got few new posters from the tread, I only hope they continue:)

[fortunateone 156618]

I like to see people's POV, tells a lot about them. I like a site that has new posts and that many are worth visiting multiple times. I used to have a really hard time finding things on this site, because i always used the main page, rather than New Posts. Since then, i only click New Posts first, and then might revisit a particular section after i see what i missed since my last visit lol.

 

Anyone can look at the post count and notice i always have something to say about random stuff. :)

[CristyCurves 169032]

Obviously I love posting here and it would be nice if more did. What better way to get to know a persons personality, likes and dislikes. However there are to many that want to keep their voices silent, who just like to lurk, come on here when they feel like playing and then leave with no trail. It would make me feel safer, possibly, more interested in meeting with a gent if he did have a stronger board presence. However it's not a deal breaker:)

[Jabba 18389]

...However there are to many that want to keep their voices silent, who just like to lurk, come on here when they feel like playing and then leave with no trail. ...:)

 

I prefer to not leave a trail....just a big, ugly, stinky, green, smiley-ass smear.

I love stains. The messier, the better. But I'm a slug. What else can I do?

 

Cristy - Allow me to take your quote totally out of context. That's my thing. I love making stuff up.

I also love to pull your zipper ripper sexy leg. Dang- c'mon over and beat me up sweetie. Raaawwrrr!

 

Ahem, sorry. I think I got distracted. Back to the original thread....

[CristyCurves 169032]

I prefer to not leave a trail....just a big, ugly, stinky, smiley-ass smear.

I love stains. The messier, the better. But I'm a slug. What else can I do?

 

But I love to pull your sexy leg Cristy, c'mon over and beat me up sweetie. Raaawwrrr!

Ahem, sorry. I think I got distracted. Back to the original thread....

 

One of these days Jabba!! Keep being you:)You're a good presence and your personality and originality does make me want to know you more:), perhaps others will follow suit:) or your trail/ smear;)

[Nathalie L 112512]

I wish I had more time to post, to be honest. I have a variety of things that compete with my time, such as writing my thesis, my work as a research assistant, my yoga practice, etc. I find it really hard to find time to post on forums which is why I write in my blog more often. I know how important it is for people to get a general sense of who we are beyond what we write on our websites, etc.

 

I hardly tour and sometimes I find it difficult to keep up with all the boards. I can only imagine how much time and energy it takes for those that tour multiple cities across Canada to keep up a board presence. I really (really) admire them a lot.

 

This is completely unrelated, and I hope this isn't a hijack RG, but it reminds me of when people say that being an escort is 'easy money'. They're so foolish! There is so much involved in attracting the kinds of clients you like and will enjoy spending time with (blogs, website maintenance, photo shoots, screening, e-mailing, forum posting, etc).

 

Anyway, while I definitely understand how fun it is to interact with ladies online, it's not so easy sometimes. A lot of people in the industry have blogs now too and I think that's a really good way to balance it all :)

[Wolf Knight 29667]

Hey, it makes sense to me. I want to meet ladies to play with (actually, I want to meet specific ladies to play with) best case scenario I want for them to want to meet with me too for reasons beyond my $. If I post and contribute true to my personality then maybe that might just happen. Good chemistry makes for great encounters so for me its a no brainer.

 

Just as an example, I personally enjoy Cristy's contributions to cerb and thought personality wise I'd like to spend some time with her. So when I was headed to Hali I messaged her for a date. She knew me from cerb and I assume felt more comfortable meeting me (she accepted the date request). As it happens personality wise we did enjoy each other and got so engrossed in chatting that we "almost" let the whole date pass with just chatting without even realizing it. It was great companionship beyond the physical, that's what I look for in a lady.

 

Notice I said we "almost" let the date pass, the physical was great too! Yummy!

[roamingguy 300291]

I wish I had more time to post, to be honest. I have a variety of things that compete with my time, such as writing my thesis, my work as a research assistant, my yoga practice, etc. I find it really hard to find time to post on forums which is why I write in my blog more often. I know how important it is for people to get a general sense of who we are beyond what we write on our websites, etc.

 

I hardly tour and sometimes I find it difficult to keep up with all the boards. I can only imagine how much time and energy it takes for those that tour multiple cities across Canada to keep up a board presence. I really (really) admire them a lot.

 

This is completely unrelated, and I hope this isn't a hijack RG, but it reminds me of when people say that being an escort is 'easy money'. They're so foolish! There is so much involved in attracting the kinds of clients you like and will enjoy spending time with (blogs, website maintenance, photo shoots, screening, e-mailing, forum posting, etc).

 

Anyway, while I definitely understand how fun it is to interact with ladies online, it's not so easy sometimes. A lot of people in the industry have blogs now too and I think that's a really good way to balance it all :)

 

I can certainly appreciate your POV Nathalie and other things happen in our lives that do take precedent over CERB (hard to believe LOL). But I know in your case, I can get a sense of the type of companion and person you are...even though we only know each other through posts (ok and PM's too ;-) ) But that is because you do have a board presence, you have contributed. And when you post, you have something to say. But if all your posts, hypothetically speaking here, were just ads, I know for myself it would be hard to know the type of person you are. Is that making sense?

Likewise, guys who's only posts are "have you seen this lady" and maybe the odd recommendation, but for the most part are consumers of CERB, not contributors, its hard for the CERB community, and ladies in particular to know the guy, when the guy wants to book an encounter.

Board presence just allows the CERB community to know one another, something very useful for amongst other things, when a lady and gentleman are booking an encounter.

Anyhow a morning rambling

RG

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

My time is limited during the week due to work commitments so I have a tendency to over due it on the weekend between errands house chores and Tweeting. I have a house to take care of so that makes me maid,cook and bottle washer plus groundskeeper.

[Redseductress 9358]

I don't post a lot either then ads and the odd comment.

 

I do spend alot of time reading different threads here but I have always felt like I don't quite fit in here. I am a bit of a dork and have a quirky personality. Many times I hit reply to a thread and respond but once I read my reply I decide not to post as I always think people may not get what I wrote and instead of 'stepping on toes' I tend to lurk in the cerb shadows instead.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

Board presence means nothing to me. I've simply met too many people whose personality is different from their writing style. Some people are boring as heck in writing and yet vibrant and interesting in real life. Others write wonderfully and are then quite awkward in person. Some of course are both (the lovely Nat is a great example) but it just isn't something that is a factor.

 

My first selection is based on looks and reviews and what I'm in the mood for in terms of type of women. Repeats are all about the chemistry and if I'm having a good time. Most of the ladies I've seen the most have minimal to no board presence other than ads.

 

Ladies are honestly not that hard to book and from what I've heard maybe only 10-20% of some ladies clients are even involved in these boards. If a lady doesn't want to see me because of me not having a big presence on a board, c'est la vie. There are plenty to see.

[Guest Miss Jane TG]

I am going to throw a stone in this discussion. Yes, there are many hobbyists and providers who don't have the time to participate. But I suspect there is also another reason, at least, for providers not to contribute much.

 

The internet is a cold medium for the transfer of ideas and opinions and sometimes actually it might be hurting to the provider business. The perception of people of the same word, phrase, sentence etc. varies widely. In another words, political correctness becomes a huge factor. Therefore, board presence could go either way!

[Guest Ou**or**n]

I am going to throw a stone in this discussion. Yes, there are many hobbyists and providers who don't have the time to participate. But I suspect there is also another reason, at least, for providers not to contribute much.

 

The internet is a cold medium for the transfer of ideas and opinions and sometimes actually it might be hurting to the provider business. The perception of people of the same word, phrase, sentence etc. varies widely. In another words, political correctness becomes a huge factor. Therefore, board presence could go either way!

 

To me this in an extremely insightful comment. Shadings and meanings of words can sometimes come across quite different from ones intentions. Speaking purely for myself, I have decided NOT to see quite a few ladies based on their board presence here. From a purely business point of view if I were a provider I wouldn't participate here because its so easy to come across the wrong way and turn off a potential client. Let off one rant and you can remind me of my ex-wife and the not the GFE fantasy I'm seeking.

 

However if in fact only 10% to 20% of a lady's business comes from fellow board members then I guess some can take that loss without any really big overall impact. This board does provide people in an otherwise quite lonely, isolating and stigmatizing profession a chance to socialize, talk shop and feel a sense of community they can't while working. To them that may be worth the slight loss of business (assuming that I'm not an isolated weirdo). Of course I'm sure many wouldn't consider the loss of someone as easily put off as me to be not much of a loss at all.

 

On the other and I think I'm one of those that comes off much better in person anyway.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I was trying to help a new member get out of moderation. I told him to make 5 posts - even if they were just jokes.

 

He then signed my guest book with a joke - good joke too, but of course, it wasn't in a thread. So, he still has in moderation, but I do understand those that are too shy to post. I've even talked to clients about cerb - they won't join because they have to create a profile. I let them know that they don't need to give their real name - however, they still don't come here.

 

I have many long time clients that never post - we have great times together. I guess there are some that just don't want to post. Especially those that are in jobs that require a lot of time on their work computer. The last thing they want is to come up with witty comments. They just want to look and book.

[Ice4fun 78396]

I don't post a lot either then ads and the odd comment.

 

I do spend alot of time reading different threads here but I have always felt like I don't quite fit in here. I am a bit of a dork and have a quirky personality. Many times I hit reply to a thread and respond but once I read my reply I decide not to post as I always think people may not get what I wrote and instead of 'stepping on toes' I tend to lurk in the cerb shadows instead.

 

I think pretty much everyone is unique and in ways quirky... in fact one of the things I like about the posts that I read is that the diversity of opinions and outlooks on life have challenged me to stop and think about all of this.

 

So my advice... hit the send button... its just a comment.

 

As for a board presence... to each their own... just like in real life some people, like me, have an opinion on everything and tend to express it, others tend to keep their opinions to themselves or only comment after great thought or on things that they feel strongly about... Some have time to post some don't... Do whatever us right for you

 

Just my opinion.

[Guest]

I am going to throw a stone in this discussion. Yes, there are many hobbyists and providers who don't have the time to participate. But I suspect there is also another reason, at least, for providers not to contribute much.

 

The internet is a cold medium for the transfer of ideas and opinions and sometimes actually it might be hurting to the provider business. The perception of people of the same word, phrase, sentence etc. varies widely. In another words, political correctness becomes a huge factor. Therefore, board presence could go either way!

 

I happen to agree with you Miss Jane. I am very busy at the moment and I do not post as much because I just don't have the time to explain my postings. I think as escorts we are our own P.R.'s and that it takes time and effort to put yourself out publicly. Everytime you put yourself "outthere" there's potential to attract negative attention.

 

I think that cerb is a great place to transfer ideas, however, there's still differences of opinions and the chance to rub someone the wrong way. I know for myself that I don't intend to rub someone the wrong way; I'm just trying to share part of myself. Sometimes people love it and sometimes they hate it, it all goes with putting yourself "outthere".

 

Rather than posting on threads I have been focusing on my blog, twitter and my newsletter. I find that these are my own sections of the internet. I can invite people who are truly interested in what I think and have to say. These are places where I can describe who I am, the services I provide, my thoughts about the services I provide, to the people who really want to know what I think. These places are a little easier for me to moderate and I really on myself to moderate who is allowed to be involved and who is not. I just find it easier at this busy time in my life.

[fortunateone 156618]

In some ways, a post that some readers will consider negative is to me a good thing. I do not want to see the type of person who thinks that haggling or showing up short of the correct donation is OK, so if I am posting (a rant) on that sort of topic, or similar ones, and it does not win me them as fans, that's good lol.

 

I still tho can appreciate other people's comments on a variety of topics. Sometimes also the rep point button with a short comment tells us about their POV even without commiting to a post. The same with Thanks, all comments and Thanks are always appreciated, whether they are coming to me or others, because I can see what someone else agrees with.

[CuriousMatt 660]

I am going to throw a stone in this discussion. Yes, there are many hobbyists and providers who don't have the time to participate. But I suspect there is also another reason, at least, for providers not to contribute much.

 

The internet is a cold medium for the transfer of ideas and opinions and sometimes actually it might be hurting to the provider business. The perception of people of the same word, phrase, sentence etc. varies widely. In another words, political correctness becomes a huge factor. Therefore, board presence could go either way!

 

I have to agree wholeheartedly. It is very hard to convey the subtle intricacies of what is really meant by the words being used without being able to hear a person say it out loud. Tone, pitch, speed of a delivery can express an entire different meaning.

 

Add to that people's body language and in some cases the mere words being used are meaningless if not contradictory to the point the person is attempting to make.

 

For example, it is not always evident that someone is being sarcastic without hearing them say it or watching them while the say it.

 

Also most of us have a difficult time conveying the entirety of the message in writing because we may have left out pieces of the idea. What is important to note that this is not done intentionally, it is done because we know what message we are trying to convey so we miss the word or item because we know it should be there. It is the reason why even professional writers have editors and other people proof read the material to make sure nothing is missing in the writing to bring the person to the to the intended conclusion.

[CuriousMatt 660]

Fortunateone: I agree that everyone is entitled to their opinion because we are all different and unique... However here is the caveat, it is only acceptable as long as it does not harm others or infringe on their rights. It is absolutely perfectly within your right to "rant" about a situation that has happened to you and you know that it is happening to others. Rants can be very educational if done in a respectable manner. As long as you do not name names, making of them a social pariah you have nothing to feel guilty about it. However these unnamed persons and other thinking of emulating such behavior may themselves feel uncomfortable enough not to repeat it in the future knowing how it affects others. A conscience is a power educational tool, for most that is.

 

Peachy: Forums and bulletin boards where designed exactly for this. To allow different people from different walks of life to gather in a central place to share their views on the world or a specific topic without being judged. Being able to put ourselves "out there" as you so elegantly put it is one of the great benefits of living in such a free un-oppressed democratic society with a diverse mix of cultures and backgrounds. That being said you cannot please everyone and therefore as you pointed out there will be some that like the idea, those that do not care and those that will dislike it. What really bother's me about this is in many occasions the person is not even upset/mad with the person being attacked, they have been hurt in some other way or by another person and the target happens to be the nearest thing/person that he can lash out to. However all that being said, one must be honest and true to themselves, in my opinion it is the only way to live.

 

The challenge is that the Internet has made it is too easy for less than moral among us to be disrespectful to others and to say hateful and hurtful things just because they are upset or in a fowl mood with little to minimal consequences. And that makes me sad.

[Guest **cely***r***ne]

I don't post a lot either then ads and the odd comment.

 

I do spend alot of time reading different threads here but I have always felt like I don't quite fit in here. I am a bit of a dork and have a quirky personality. Many times I hit reply to a thread and respond but once I read my reply I decide not to post as I always think people may not get what I wrote....

 

OMG meee too!! Except for the fitting in part. My dear there is no trying to "fit in" here. That's the great part! We are ALL different and that's what makes us desirable! Be your sexy self and write those quirky silly weird dorky posts. If that's who you are it is THAT that will attract the right people for/to you! But I haven't been around much on here at all since I had my baby. And I feel bad, but it is important to keep a board presence. And I feel as a lady of cerb it is especially important. But we all have other lives and sometimes participating is hard. For me I have a very needy child whom has a fit everytime I leave the room. I rarely have a moment for this board. And when I do I just want to eat chocolate cake and go to sleep. But I'm babbling so my point is do what you can when you can but be yourself while your doing it. Its important. LoL nap time now I believe. Love to all! Xoxo

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[marriedbutnotdead 3844]

I don't post here just to get my count up, I will only post if I have a strong opinion one way or another, everybody is here with different intensions and I for one enjoy most of the threads.

[CristyCurves 169032]

With all due respect to any who reads this- posting anywhere should be done to express oneself, without worry of how the post is read or interpreted. I don't post to gain friends, fanfare or even clients. I post because I want to express my opinion, liked or not, to get ideas, discuss a topic on my mind, to hear differing opinions. I like that even though this is a reco board for sp's and hobbyists we can discuss things other than sexually related topics. General discussions is a forum for that:) I am very opinionated obviously, not everyone's cup of tea for sure but I'm also entitled to express myself like anyone else, so I do:) when I have the time;) without worrying about misinterpretations, or results:)

[LeeRichards 177238]

I find that many hobbyist usually just say " ohh well I just don't have the time or care to bother" But yet these also tend to be the same guy's who ask the same questions over and over, or the one's that are venting about getting ripped off, etc...

 

As you point out, if you could spend a few min here and there and begin to read what your future provider is writing. Gives you an indication on compatibility, professional investment she has into her business, then chances are, you may not have to post about how you get ripped off or never can seem to book with the lady and never get to meet, etc.

 

Example: if RG wants to book me on Monday at 2, but so does abc for the same time, I will book RG in heart beat, lol....

 

I was happy to I got few new posters from the tread, I only hope they continue:)

 

Just tell RG you have a boat and a fish finder and like to fish nekkid ...... HE WILL BOOK !!! ;)