Ask a Hobbyist!

[kacey65 509]

So you visit a number of profiles and see a lot of girls you'd like to meet. On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't:( Were your posts sincere, were you just being polite? Are you always honest when you post? Or are you like a kid in a candy store with a big sweet tooth and just get caught up;)

For me, I don't post unless it is sincere. But very often I will lose confidence in myself, so I won't go through with the meeting. However, at the start my intentions are honestly to meet.

[Amelie 1348]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :)

[Guest P**aq]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

I don't think I would even notice.

 

Additional Comments:

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

I think for sure the anticipation, and if I haven't heard her voice before, that is also a great source of excitement.

 

Wha I least like is Feeling like a nervous goof!

 

Additional Comments:

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

Sometimes things happen faster than others, but I enjoy all the time that has been scheduled so either just staying in bed holding each other or giving her a massage.

 

Additional Comments:

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

There is always room for error, and if it is a third meeting there is obviously a reason I saw her the first two times. I would write it off as a bad day and see her again. I would hope the same of her if I were having a bad day.

[Clutch 711]

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

I like the whole experience in the moment. I like the unpredictability of the encounters whether it is with someone new or a regular.

 

As for what I hate - it is the hours leading up to it. Detection of the meeting would be world-destroying in so many ways for me, I often just sit around psyching myself out.

[Triple HHH 12345]

Regards to Social time, I feel the lady should charge for her time and I agree if possible it's a great way to start an encounter, Speaking from experience here, I had an extended date last week with someone and dinner was part of it I enjoyed it immensely and it did set up the evening perfectly.

[Frank7 3939]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :)

 

Of course, i'd love it if it was free and i'm interested in knowing more the lady. On the other hand, it would probably get abused too much.

I talk/chat with a lady i've seen who does webcam so i get to know her better. Of course, there's always the possibility a client will ask for a dance or private time and the conversation will get interrupted. But i don't mind, getting to see she's doing well and catching up is fun.

 

 

 

Some other questions:

If i blow too fast, i'll either try again later or i'd just cuddle, kiss and chat.

 

What i prefer the most is the affection i get and DATY.

 

What i don't like is how complicated and planned it needs to be. Need to call in advance, know you wont be sick or too tired by then, that there won't be urgence at work, etc.

And having to pay. That does limit a lot on the time and frequency i can go on dates.

 

 

If it was illegal, yeah i'd continue. If the lady won't get in trouble, i wouldn't care much if i get caught. I'll just have fun explaining in court why i do it. And that if i didn't do it, my depression would probably be a lot worst and less stable and i wouldn't be able to work. So really, i can be a productive member of society and having sex with consenting adult..... or i can be a weight for society and not see escorts.

 

 

When i say i'll see someone, i try very much to fallow through. But if i try to get a date and the time doesn't match, i'm not sure when the next window of opportunity will be and by then, i may change my mind (not about seeing her, but by getting a bigger crush for another lady)

[piano8950 32577]

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

The potential for abuse I imagine would exist. So tread carefully when offering something for free.

 

If you made some sort of special, after x hours, you get y hours of social for free within a certain time frame might work. But also be careful, that you don't de-value the worth of your time.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

If I'm travelling and don't know people in the city I'm in they I've paid an escort a social rate to have dinner with me. When I'm in my home town I've plenty of friends to have dinner with and thus would never pay an escort to have dinner with me (even at social rates). However if we developed a good relationship and I booked a couple of hours and she offered to add a dinner in front of that time for simple cost of it being a nice restaurant and me picking put the tab then yes, I'd certainly be interested.

[Ice4fun 78396]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :)

From my perspective you should do whatever is right for you. That said I would never expect an SP to make her time available to me for free. You are a professional and this is your business and just like I don't expect my accountant to give me free time I would not expect it from my SP.

 

Personally I have very much enjoyed longer meetings that have included social time... dinner in a restaurant... dinner in the hotel room lol I want to take her shopping and to the theatre...i crave the time we spend together and the sex is just the icing on the amazing cake. For me.... i don't think it wood be fair to expect all that for free.

 

If you also love the longer social aspect of the meetings with men you could consider encouraging it by having a modified rate for established regular clients.

 

Do whatever Works for you but don't let anyone pressure you... eating or having sex... its still YOUR time.

 

Just my opinion

[jafo105 39057]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :)

 

I would really like to see more ladies offering a social rate. But that is me.

 

When I meet a lady for the first time I am not interested in being intimate (well maybe just a hug). I want to spend an hour or two getting to know her and enjoying her company. That could be over coffee or a lite meal either at my apartment or in a public place. [Hopefully she has a social rate for this, but I will pay her full rate without question.]

 

If we agree that we may be compatible then we can arrange to see each other again.

 

For subsequent dates I like to meet at my place. We start off with some social time with coffee/tea and lite snacks. If and when the lady is ready we can move on to other intimate activities. -- Always leaving time near the end of the date to sit and enjoy each others company before she leaves.

 

I think that it is more fun to mix things up once in a while. Some intimate dates and some social dates.

[mrgreen760 37785]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

If I've seen her twice she'd know me well enough to postpone our meeting which I'd appreciate more than just going through the motions. I've postponed because I haven't been into it and I always gave sufficient notice. No harm no foul. But if she went through with it and wasn't into it.....I'd move along.

 

Peace

MG

[qwertyaccount 15793]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :smile:

 

I agree with you about not posting a social rate - that would theoretically make the option available to anyone and everyone, and you should be choosy about who you spend your time with.

 

Charging for a dinner date wouldn't be out of line, and since you have to eat sometime anyway why not enjoy a fine meal with a gentleman paying for it albeit at a lower rate or perhaps as a package deal (dinner + me for desert, I choose the restaurant, 3 hours total only $$$).

[Guest Ou**or**n]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

I imagine different clients would react very differently to each of those very different issues. If a client views the issue to be very bad (as I would view not having condoms on hand) then no there would be no room for error (in that specific situation I would expect there to be no charge). These services are expensive and like it not there is a requirement to be on your game when providing them. I would say this is a bit more so on subsequent sessions where a bit lapse can easily be viewed as taking advantage of the gentleman.

 

Far better to cancel with an apology than to damage your reputation.

[roamingguy 300291]

I have a complex question about social time.

 

As an independent, I get many requests for dinner, drinks, social hangouts...

I don't like to post social rates, because to be honest it all depends on whether I know the person, we've met before, and I feel like hanging out with them.

 

I've heard from many dear clients "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me". I do understand where this comes from, it can be a big hit to one's ego to have to pay to hang out with someone...

 

There is however, a limited amount of time in a night, week, month, year, and I would understand any lady who would prefer to make as much as possible on a night she is posted as working... But anyone would agree dinner or drinks before a date is fun, someone showing a desire to get to know ME dressed before i get naked is very flattering, and it's a nice way to get to know one another.

 

I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours?

 

I am a foody, I love being taken out to dinner... lol

 

thank you for you advice :)

 

I personally see no problem with a lady charging for social time. Irrespective of whether a lady is seeing a client as an MA, SP or offering a social date, she is seeing him on her time. If you see a client for a social date without charging, he ceases to be a client and you cease to be a professional companion, this becomes a conventional "civilian" date. Not to mention a no charge social date is time you could have spent with a paying client instead

Likely if you offer free social dates, the man will see this as the thin edge of the wedge and possibly try to have free encounters next.

A man saying "I would never pay someone to have dinner with me" well by the same token he should also being saying "I would never pay someone to sleep with me".

Free social time IMHO would just confuse and blur the lines. I personally have no problems with a lady having a social time rate. I have enjoyed some encounters where dinners out were part of the encounter, but no reduced rate was given to me or expected by me.

A rambling

RG

[Raven Rain 10542]

can you Gentlemen please explain to some gentlemen have their profile private;other than the one worded answer privacy.

 

I feel that being able to look other a potential clients profile helpful sometimes before meeting them.

 

xo

[Ice4fun 78396]

Sorry can't explain it... i have no explanation as to why a private profile... you control what you put on profile so it seems unnecessary to me.

 

Just my opinion

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

In my own opinion I believe some gentlemen just want to view and read the advertisments of the providers and some of the posts.

[roamingguy 300291]

can you Gentlemen please explain to some gentlemen have their profile private;other than the one worded answer privacy.

 

I feel that being able to look other a potential clients profile helpful sometimes before meeting them.

 

xo

 

I actually, considering this is an anonymous board (we are all board handles when you get down to it) don't understand it...we all show, ladies and gents alike as much of ourselves in our profiles as we wish to show.

So the privacy argument doesn't really make sense

Given that, I really don't see a need for keeping a profile private. I don't even know why there is this option available. And this applies equally to ladies and gentlemen alike...I've checked some ladies profiles only to find they too were private...I just moved on.

Not really an answer, just my opinion

A unanswered rambling

 

RG

[conquistador 18487]

can you Gentlemen please explain to some gentlemen have their profile private;other than the one worded answer privacy.

 

I feel that being able to look other a potential clients profile helpful sometimes before meeting them.

 

xo

 

I can't say why they have there profile private but i don't have a problem with it per se....people do like their privacy and maybe do not want everyone on their profile.

 

I would just respect their privacy.

 

Or perhaps maybe request a friendship and such...especially if you are going to meet for the first time.

[CristyCurves 169032]

WHY?

oh why don't men read websites

follow direction/instructions

pre-book more often-there are so many last minutes

text things other than "hey"

send out penis pictures

WHY?

-and this only pertains to a few- Please realize that breasts aren't charmin toilet tissue, squeezing them isn't comfortable or pleasurable, for me at least. Kiss them, suck them, caress them, even a little nipple pinch is okay but don't knead need like they are loaves of bread! Thank you:)

[Ice4fun 78396]

The easy answer is we are men and when it comes to sex we are often led by our little head in our pants instead of our big head on our shoulders.

 

Now the longer answer...

 

Why don't we book ahead in my case I tend to do that mist often but gave been known to try to meet a lady based on a spur if the moment urge... i respect that she can say no with no yard feeling... it was my lack of planning so not her fault.

 

Inappropriate text... many guys think of seeing an escort after being drinking so are not at their best.... also for a lot of inexperienced men they just don't know what is expected.

 

Cock pictures.... i can only assume drunk or they really like their clocks and think it will impress you.... more often than not I am willing to bet the guys who send them aren't serious about booking and just get their jollies sending ladies pictures of their cock.

 

As for squeezing a ladies tits.... this is way more complicated some ladies have actually encouraged me to be more aggressive with their tits so guys and ladies need to communicate what they like.

 

[olderguy 5797]

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

 

Sometimes it is fun to request things and explore fantasies and other times it is really exciting and erotic for a lady to initiate something new. I'd welcome being told up front that I could explore..... Kind of makes one's head spin. :)

 

Additional Comments:

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

 

Sometimes it is fun to request things and explore fantasies and other times it is really exciting and erotic for a lady to initiate something new. I'd welcome being told up front that I could explore..... Kind of makes one's head spin. :)

[Guest P*rry]

Cristycurves: Here's an explanation to your question about directions. It's a biblical response. So it shows that the issue is not new.

 

Question: Why did Moses travel in the desert for 40 days and 40 nights?

Answer: Because Moses was a man and you know men don't ask for directions.

[Guest S****r]

Could more of you please comment on what you will do if they implement the Nordic model? This is a real concern to many of the women here. Will you drop out of the community? What can we do to ensure that you feel safe booking?

[piano8950 32577]

Could more of you please comment on what you will do if they implement the Nordic model? This is a real concern to many of the women here. Will you drop out of the community? What can we do to ensure that you feel safe booking?

 

It's kinda hard to say right now, but if the Nordic model is implemented, I will most probably stop, or just visit women I've seen in the past regularly. If I understand correctly, seeing an escort will be a criminal offense, and well...illegal. And as much as I would disagree with the law, it is the law.

 

The problem is that the risk/reward is just too out of whack. Right now, I'm very private about this part of my life, but I control it. There is no fear that on the other side of that door is a cop ready to arrest me. If and when a law like this one is implemented, I think I would be paralyzed by some irrational fear that a woman might have cut a deal with the police, or some other nonsense. I can't think of anything right now that you could do that would allow me to feel safe booking.