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I dont think it has to do at all with having power over a woman or having a woman be their property for the time spent. Its that kind of stereotype that many of us gals are trying to escape or protest in the sex-workers' rights movement. The stereotype that we are made to be objects or stripped of our dignity or control while on a call. True there are some men that believe that because they have thrown down X amount of bills that it gives them the power and ownership over a worker, but that does not end well and conflicts with what most of us ladies stand for. most level headed workers will not see these men again as repeat clients. returning to what I said before, talking about how we offer the "promise". the promise is strictly a connection,,,a promise that we will try our best to offer you everything you are looking for. but to clarify, it has to fit within our allowances and the request must be made with respect...and a mutual understanding that a good experience with us is a privilege....not a right

{I think part of the thrill for men is the feeling of OWNING a woman. All you have to do is to read between the lines when they talk about their adventures... } I'm so sorry but i do not agree with this line at all...just because someone gives me a gift to spend time with doesn't mean they own me...i still have the right to say NO to anything i am uncomfortable with ...the word OWN is not appropriate here...

I cannot comment on the original poster because I dont know him, but I have seen many attractive men celebrities and confident and sensual men... their reasons always vary and some have been mentioned above, the greatest I feel being nsa encounters (almost the biggest reason why I do what I do!! and love it)...but another reason that I feel should be addressed is discretion: being a celebrity or being newly divorced in a small and gossipy neighborhood may as well be the same boat going up similar rivers....you need what you need....but you dont need the bad luck of the minimal degrees of separtaion to perhaps bring your weekend flings to center stage. High figures have told me they would rather hire a girl for private time than have his and some sweet and too-innocent-for-her-own good girl get their pictures snapped by blood-thirsty paparazzi casing drama among the public and their family and friends (who are probably doing the same but wont admit it). married or newly devorced are no different....they have their reputations...but they also have needs. Similarly there is the attractive charismatic man with the busy schedule....he focuses and loves his work to a point where there is simply no time to invest in courtship, 3 dates, and possibly no guarantee......many work-a-holics I see are happier that they are not devoting half their lives sitting in singles bars and neglecting their professional values just to get that intimacy that so many spend all their energy day-in and day out trying to find..... they can settle their needs privately and in turn live day to day being better (and more perma-smiled) people...we have served our jobs well when us SPs feel we have given what no late-night booty call could have ever offered or drunk easy girl at the singles bar would have given up for free (along with what she may be carrying or the puke-mess in your bathroom you may have to clean up later at your place) ;-) the best part about us....is the *promise*. Us ladies that take our jobs seriously if you are gentleman enough, are here to be everything you want and more from the moment you open the door to our welcoming smile....to the point that we brush the sweat off your forehead.

I know people probably don't want to hear most of this, but I see Anita's point. No, I don't think most of my clients would hang around if all they were paying for was good conversation... ... at the same time though I don't think it's right to say she doesn't get it because she's a MA. I mean, as a MA she's under the same scrutiny and reviews... and I'm sure without lovely breasts, a positive attitude and a happy ending, most MAs wouldn't have that much business as well. No, you may not want to "own" her for an hour... but maybe you'd like the feeling of exclusivity, of having her all to yourself? Making her your girlfriend or lover for an hour? I think with escorts, for the most part, you know what you're getting. It's piece of mind, it's getting sex when you can't (or the type of sex you can't), doing things your wife won't... maybe it's just an ego boost... I'm sure there are tons of reason, just depends on who you ask and when you ask them...

Sorry, I still would disagree with you. AFAIK most SP are quite clear on their website, time paid for companionship only, anything else that occurs is between two consenting adults. There is no right implied or otherwise. If she doesn't consent to it it does not occur. Full stop. Any inappropriate touching can and should be considered assault. If you want to imply access then a one-night stand or a booty call is far clearer in this regard. Both parties engage in this with a clear goal in mind, sex.

Humm Emma this sounds very familiar to me for some strange reason. I do want to add that the prostrate gland is a small Walnut size bump (if you are healthy) and should feel soft and possibly have some ridges on it. The best way for a newbie to experience this from a mans perspective is on his back. being on all fours is all little intimidating if you've never had one before. So on his back you can start by lubing his ass. You can rim him with your tongue if your comfortable doing it, but lubing should be sufficient. Then I would suggest slowly rubbing the anus and gently and slowly inserting one finger. Always remember slow going in and slow pulling out. This feels the best. Once your finger is in then look for the Prostrate which should be about 2 or more inches in and up towards his balls. Once you have you can rub it gently in circles, side to side or whatever your lover responds to. You'll know when you reach the spot by the way he squirms. You can ask if if he's comfortable and continue massaging. A BJ is wonderful during a PM. Cumming with your finger still inserted is to die for. A man can actually have an orgasm just through getting his prostate massaged. Hope this information from a mans perspective helps Hun

I personally believe that if a married man is going to fool around on his wife, the kindest and safest thing to do is to hire an escort. Why? Most of us are super safe, get tested for STDs regularly and will never take things further than a sexual relationship. We are professionals. I personally care very deeply about not only my clients, but their sexual partners currently and in the future. STDs can destroy lives and families. I make sure that there is no chance of catching or spreading any type of disease when you are with me. I think most professional escorts are the same and care about not only their clients ... but their significant others as well. We are much safer than picking up a woman in a bar and/or taking on a mistress, who could fall in love with you and try to break up your marriage.

You are wise Stud. And Capitalman mentioned the whole feeling of being special - just one thought on the whole concept of feeling special. Yes -as clients we all want to feel special in some form or fashion, this is a very personal thing. It takes special people to go above and beyond (sometimes they are not aware they may be doing it) to make us clients feel special and you know what the best part is....most of the time it has nothing to do with sex!

I'm weighing in on this topic late however, here are some thoughts. I think the comment re: "an escort is not obligated to anything - "do anything" is what I think was meant - likely falls between the realm of YMMV. Sure, some providers go out of their way to provide a great session and they get a kick ass recommendation and for the ones that don't well - can't say anything bad on this board right. But hey, I bet their business isn't doing all that prosperous eh! I believe the very fabric of this endeavor implies some sort of intimacy. This lends itself to the whole arena of mileage...how much the SP is willing to 'put out' for the client to ensure a happy client and repeat business. Now personally speaking - I have been on dates where the conversation. mood and mindset is such that there is no need for nudity, where the whole date is more cerebral than physical. There is nothing wrong with this. I have also been on dates where it's gotten pretty heated because of either the attraction, passion and chemistry, or after I've seen someone a few times and yes, in the past I have made statements like "claiming her body as mine" - however this was not to imply that I forced or pressured anyone to do anything or any particular act. It was purely a metaphorical reference to being possessive, implying a heightened sense of intimacy and elevating the one on one rapport with my date as opposed to dominating anyone. Same applies when I refer to someone as "my girl". Now for the original question - why pay when one can get it for free? Well, nothing in life is free and why fuck around with amateurs when heaven is a phone call away? Different strokes for different folks, I know who and what I like. This is not meant to be confrontational, just an opinion.

For me it is purely intimacy, sensual loving, fantasy becoming reality, for me it has nothing to do with power or controlling a women to an extent that I think she is my property, in actual fact she is my lover for an hour or more.

I hate to say it, but it does. Interestingly, most people who vehemently deny the ownership for an hour believe that men are natural "hunters" and they have to spread their seeds. From this attitude, naturally follows that after you have been hunted down you are "owned", right? Because why do you hunt if not for the possession of something? And after you hunted something down it is yours. You eat it or put it on your wall, take a picure and brag to your visitors about it. Why is this any different from owning a person for one hour? OK, then please protest against men as hunters, because that is the same thing. OK, just for the sake of argument. What happens if you don't follow through with your "promise"? If this is just a promise, you can just say you changed your mind and want to paint your toes or play scrabble insted, because you are not obligated to anything, right? Or wrong? :)

I'm sure that's what they told the doctor but the truth was the boyfriend tried to get some aural sex...

Fear of commitment, of real intimacy, inability to have a both deep emotional and an intense sexual relationship with the same person? The desire for quick and easy sex without any social frills? Lots of reasons, as we all know. It can't just be variety of sexual partners, because that exists outside the escort world. Or range of sexual activity. Escorts can be just as restrictive and inhibited as anybody else. YMMV, as they say. I've had some great gang bangs with women I've known socially, for example, while most escorts aren't really into group activity.