But why would a woman do that to someone?
I do think that men should respect that no means no -- but if I were a man and a woman did that to me (played with me like that), I'd want nothing more to do with her. I'd assume she was either cruel or psychotic.
We women must take some responsibility for our sexual outcomes. There's a big difference between having someone jump out of the bushes and club you over the head, and rubbing your tits all over some guy's face, then, when you know he's all fired up and you know you got him that way, changing your mind.
I guess I am very old-school this way. I hate to see victims put on trial once things go to court, but on the other side of the coin, I always cautioned my own daughter not to advertise for what she doesn't want. I mean, technically, we should be able to walk around with $100 bills loosely hanging from our back pockets and no one should take our money as that's stealing and it's wrong. But this is the real world, and I don't think any of us should count on every other person we encounter doing the right thing. Most people will do right -- but there are people out there who can't or won't control their urges.
Do you happen to remember that famous date-rape trial in Kingston in the early 90s? In that case, it came out in court that at least two of the three victims continued dating the guy AFTER the alleged date-rape occurred. One of the "victims" even knitted a pair of mittens for the guy for Christmas, again after the alleged incident. (I believe he was acquitted, but still, it must have been quite an ordeal.)
"No means no" can be abused too, and if we women want to be taken seriously, we have to start by behaving responsibly.