This is a bit of an odd response. We ask for references on safety and personal hygiene. We don't care if you had chemistry with your last sp. We understand all too well that in this business there is not going to be chemistry with every client. But most of the women on here are not so catty that they would label you a 'jerk' or 'unworthy of trust' because there is no chemistry. A good client is respectful, honest, and sweet, with good hygiene. We enjoy spending time with a gentleman even if there is little chemistry. We are not in this business only looking for a great time in bed.
We are professional and understanding women. I, for one, would never badmouth a client because I had no chemistry with him. When a girl asks me for a reference, I tell her, to the best of my ability, whether she'll be SAFE, and whether she'll be in the presence of someone who is clean and respectful.
And- I do not provide references for gentlemen I have only seen once, unless the session went really badly. I feel I don't know them well enough. This is to stop me from making quick judgments about a client. With me, if I give you a bad reference it's because you gave me a reason to give you a bad reference.
Tracie, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with references. You deserve better. Love Amelia