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"How do you do it?" It's the question I have been asked most often about my work. People so often get caught up in the reality they see in front of them. Everything around us seems real, but in reality is truly an illusion. A persons physical body is not an accurate indication of who they are, it is simply the matter that houses the essence. We all have the same biological makeup, but some are more visually appealing than others. Does ones external appearance change the spirit inside? No, it doesn't. I see every person as a sexual being and I know intimacy is one of life's most neglected needs and is an integral part of maintaining personal wellness. I provide a service to people who are not having their needs met, and how they look on the outside is not a factor in choosing my guests. It is easy for me to enjoy someone who doesn't fit the society's current ideal because it's not the outside I'm interested in, its the inside. I know this sounds very Pollyanna, but it is true for me. Its the essence of people that hook me, not the appearances. I know better than to judge a book by the cover... cat

The key word here is "to keep it professionnal". And it means that the hobbiest has to be a wise customer and listen to whats happening into that specific relationship and to develop a healthy awareness that we should have for any relationship. For me, to be with a SP is not only a matter of "having" a sexy beauty and put "that" on my wall as a trophy. I dont value a sexual experience without a minimum of a relationship. My goal remains to have a "GFE" with the SP, but we both know that it's a temporary relationship that has it's limits. And it has to be kept that way. That doesnt mean that I cannot have a true and authentic relationship built on trust, sharing mutual interests and caring for eachother, on top of the sexual chemistry that takes a good part of the encounter. Au contraire, this gives a quality of the "GF experience", and both can benefit of it, but only for what it is. I value a lot a continued relationship, and hope to become a "regular". When I find a SP where I feel that kind of experience is possible, I consider that as a gift. And for sure, I know then that my donations allow the Sp to live properly of their art, and for me to benefit of a wonderful experience. That said, the mutual understanding has to be clear: the hobbiest meets a SP in the context of a professionnal service. What comes in my mind is the same kind of relationship we could have with a psychologist. We can develop a relationship of profound confidence and intimacy, but that relationship still remains a professional one ( and has to remain that way), where the client pays for the service within a specific timeframe and under some limitations into some area of the private life. We have here on CERB many SPs that have that ethics; and I can see that some of them have contribute to this thread. Beautiful women, with high standards for their own lives, wanting to do their best with the services they offer. :bowdown:

In my humble opinion, I would suggest that you try and Independent SP the next time. They are able to answer your questions and concerns personally :).

OOOooooooohhh now I get it. god I'm slow!! thanks you guys for helping me out and let's never mention this to anyone else!!! I do remember completing my masters degree, but somehow those skills don't transfer to cerb. Duh. xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxooooooo Amelia

I guess some women in mens lives just don't get it. Keep your man happy and he won't be looking for opportunities to stray. It really ends up to be the beginning of the end of that relationship. The woman doesn't give a man what he needs to feel like a man, he feels unloved and unwanted. Along comes an understanding woman who can cater to the mans every desire and need. Man questions what the hell he is doing with a woman who doesn't desire him, and continues to develop the relationship elsewhere where he feels loved and appreciated, and then it inevitably ends in separation and divorce. It could have all been avoided if there was a little compassion towards the man's needs. In some cases some couples were never meant to be together and it works out better for all involved once it ends. I wish this man courage to take a decisive action with this ordeal. ATH

ok yes I recanted.

Spelling and grammar do not seem to be that important these days. Texting has taken over!!!! I think that even the old spell checker is almost out of use as well. Technology has created a very lazy society; pity!