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I am making this a mandatory read as I am getting a lot of PM's from people asking if they did something wrong as some posts that were made recently and some people's PM's have vanished. I did not intentionally delete these or anything like that so please do not assume I did as I am getting angry PM's from people who think I did this intentionally. This is NOT something we on purpose. The site had a major crash yesterday (July 20th 2010) and we lost some data but were able to restore most of the data and get the site back online for everyone. We had a hard drive fail earlier in the week and to make a long story short... this messed up the database that runs cerb. I thought we had it all fixed and sorted out and back on a new drive... but it was not 100% ... turns out we did not have the problem fixed completely as the albums part of the site had another crash yesterday and we almost lost all the ladies photos. I fixed this but in turn had to restore the site using a a backup of the database from the previous night (so some posts during the day were lost and some people got noticed for PM's they had already read - everyone had to log back in and it was just a giant mess) The problem why I can not restore PM's was the backup file was not saving as a complete backup (only a partial backup as the error in the picture table was stopping the backup) so unfortunately some people have lost some PM's and Posts. I have tried my best to restore the PM's and Posts that I could salvage (all others I regret to say have been lost). Many of you store pm's on the site (I do it too and it's a bad habit but I do understand many of you don't want to store this info in other places) I am taking extra steps to ensure the backup database dumps are complete each night so we can avoid this in the future. I have also removed the photos from the database and placed them in a folder on the server (Making the database smaller so this should also help). This was not done previously as it caused a security risk but that risk is no longer an issue so hopefully this stops the same problem from happening in the future. I do apologize for the loss of the PM's and any posts that have gone astray. A public thread on this subject has been opened here where you can comment. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=30788

For those that know me you know that I love hugging, this video touched me since they are giving free hugs to anyone who wants one. http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=hN8CKwdosjE Don't you feel better after someone gave you a hug? I know I sure do. I find its a sign of affection and approval. So to all of you from me hugs and kisses(kisses are for the girls only).

Hi everyone, It took me a long time to even consider posting this but I think it must be brought to everyone?s attention. It may have been posted before but I think it needs to be brought up again if it already hasn?t. This is not a rant, just some friendly advice. I understand that work and personal life issues come up; they do for me, other SP?s and Hobbyist. For me as an SP?s and others hopefully agree it takes a lot of time with emails and booking appointments and it is greatly appreciated to notify an SP as soon as possible if you are unable to keep your appointment, usually an hour to two in advance even 24hrs is appreciated by some. This gives us the opportunity and the time to book another appointment. I know and understand that you may have to cancel closer to the appointment time because you never know what the day will bring. I have had to do so myself. The real big issue is ?no shows?, I find this very disrespectful to the SP who has taken the time to book the appointments and to get ready and prepare. It only takes a simple phone call, email or text instead of not just showing up. Not showing up does not inspire trust and I or another SP may never book another appointment with someone who is a ?no show?. I understand that you may be nervous or a first timer but to just not show up and have an SP waiting is truly inconsiderate. Just notify us ASAP. I never get upset and I am very understanding but a ?no show? is a no no.

I think it might be nice for us hobbiests to start a similar thread, as to some of our best experiences with service providers. I think it would be nice for you to understand the impact a good service provider can have on a clients outlook. There is a reason we treat you special. Because many of us actually feel you are extremely special to us. The girl I usually see in Calgary, has on many occasions unknowingly bought me out of pretty serious depression, just by being there with a smile a hug, and well lets face it, some mind blowingly good sex...lol. I don't know if she truly understands the impact she can have on my life at times. I wish I could let her know, but I don't think words are adequate. I think you girls need to hear things like this a little more often. There seems to be so much negativity lately. We need to refocus on the positive and just remember why we're all part of CERB to start with. On behalf of the guys... We love you Ladies... HUG For the record none of my friends understand my willingness to spend months saving every penny I can beg, borrow or steal just to give it to my friend in Calgary. My standard answer is, "1. for the duration of the date, I feel like a king, 2. Unlike the women I date, she has never misled, stolen or in any way promised me anything she didn't deliver beyond my wildest dreams and 3. Have you seen her?:)"

For me, the difference between a single visit and becoming a regular is conversation. It's that simple. Talk to me, make me laugh, make me comfortable and I am yours. You might as well get a copy of my ATM card and my PIN.... I will come back.

I really need some kind of conversation and basic connection if I'm going to enjoy the session at all. It just starts simply -- how are you? how long have you lived here? how do you like Ottawa? -- and goes from there, unfolding naturally for as long as we're both comfortable. On average, maybe the first 15-20 minutes of a two-hour appointment. I have no illusions about the depth of my relationship with an SP, but at least some friendly conversation and a little laughter lets me feel I've spent some time with a person, and not just someone's body.

Ahhh, the ?tipping? debate! I noticed there was a decided void in SP response so I will take a minute to share my thoughts? From an agency girl perspective, tipping is often a way to generate extra income because after they pay the agency and the driver, they usually end up on the short end of the stick. 10 years ago, I ran for an agency, we collected $260 for an hour, with $110 going to the house, $40-$100 to the driver depending on where the visit was located, which left me maximum of $110 with as little as $10 in my pocket. With a $15 book on fee and mandatory car cell phone fees of $25 per night, I needed 3 full fees per night to make working worthwhile, God forbid I get credit card calls, which somehow always worked out us getting nothing. We were not allowed to refuse a call so we had to find creative ways to ensure we were paid. Tipping for extra service was the only way to keep our heads above water. The nice thing was that we had a shift, we worked, and we went home and had a life. That said, it was unfair to the guest who would end up with less than what he expected because he was not prepared for the extra fees. Independents are in a slightly different boat. We usually have a higher upfront fee, but we also assume ALL the costs incurred, which is far more than many realize. If we charged what we feel we should to get our ROI, the protests would be heard long and loud. Many Indies have a smaller bottom line than an ambitious girl at a well run agency. So when it comes to tips, many things need to be considered. In the south, SP's are tipped much in the same manner as a restaurant. Anyone walking a restaurant wouldn?t consider walking out without leaving a tip if everything was satisfactory. I tip everyone in the service industry, from the girl who washes my hair, to the man at Suny?s who pumps my gas because a little bit from many adds up at the end of the day. Flowers and trinkets are lovely in thought, but a girl can?t deposit wilted stems into an RRSP, and my bank doesn?t seem to take dildos, massage oil, garter belts or silk stockings on deposit -go figure! As Joyful C has so wisely stated, most SP?s live a fragile existence financially. We provide an illusion of playful luxury for our guests benefit, but rest assured, 90% of the time it is smoke and mirrors. Behind the scenes we struggle to pay our bills, put diapers on our babies and try to take care of those we love, all the while working on a way to get to a normal existence if that does in fact even exist. An extra $20 from each client equals a full appointment by the end of the week, and at the end of the month that pays the cell phone, buys the groceries and lets us take the little ones away for the weekend after we have paid both rents (home and incall), all our advertising, babysitters, hydro, car repairs, personal maintenance and the same expenses everyone else has. Not to mention the monthly payments on augmentation, lifts, tucks and anything else to keep us up to the exceptionally high standards expected if we want to continue making money in this arena. There are few SP?s who can keep up the daily client service to ensure long term financial viability in this business because of the emotional and physical toll this business extracts which sometimes means extended time offs to get our heads, hearts and bodies back in order. We have no paid holidays, benefits or paid personal days. If there is a crisis that forces us to take time off, we lose money and clients which often means we work regardless of illness, pain or any other of lifes challenges. Each SP has her own reasons for working, but the universal element is that we all are trying to achieve some sort of financial stability. I never expect tips, and I can count on one hand how many I have received since my arrival in Canada because of the nature of the business here. Hate to tell you guys, but Canadian men are not known for their generous nature, they rank a close second to Germans in this realm (I think the outlandishly high taxes inflicted in both countries has something to do with it!). I would never expect a tip from guests that have me on retainer, I see them weekly. But unless you are going to be a bankable commodity in a SP?s life, a tip relative to the quality of service is a sure way to say thank you and have her know you mean it... Catherine