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I just read something about business being slower then ever before for some ladies...so I wanted to bring this thread back up. For me (ymmv) the absolute biggest turn off in the whole wide world, is this: Referring to this as your work, job and/or business. I know that's what it is, but I don't want to think of that when I'm looking at you and your advertisement deciding if I might like to go visit. Call it that in your mind, say it to your friends, whatever...but don't post messages or answer the phone with those words. "Hi baby, glad you called....I'm working later, can you come over then?" "Sorry dear, I'm not working today." "Business is slow today, come on over.." "It's my job to please you!" "I'm working from a hotel in the east end tonight..." I want a fantasy, an escape, a dream, a PSE, a GFE, a vacation. I don't want to feel like a number or a client or know that you'd rather be golfing! The girls I repeat with NEVER call this their work. They never mention the guy that was there before me or after me. If they're late they never tell me it's because of their last appointment, they lie to me that they had a dentist appointment. They make me feel special and wanted and make me feel like I"m the only guy that matters. Like I said, I know this is the fantasy, but it's the fantasy I'm searching for and paying for. If your business is slower then ever, perhaps this is why?

I am making this a mandatory read as I am getting a lot of PM's from people asking if they did something wrong as some posts that were made recently and some people's PM's have vanished. I did not intentionally delete these or anything like that so please do not assume I did as I am getting angry PM's from people who think I did this intentionally. This is NOT something we on purpose. The site had a major crash yesterday (July 20th 2010) and we lost some data but were able to restore most of the data and get the site back online for everyone. We had a hard drive fail earlier in the week and to make a long story short... this messed up the database that runs cerb. I thought we had it all fixed and sorted out and back on a new drive... but it was not 100% ... turns out we did not have the problem fixed completely as the albums part of the site had another crash yesterday and we almost lost all the ladies photos. I fixed this but in turn had to restore the site using a a backup of the database from the previous night (so some posts during the day were lost and some people got noticed for PM's they had already read - everyone had to log back in and it was just a giant mess) The problem why I can not restore PM's was the backup file was not saving as a complete backup (only a partial backup as the error in the picture table was stopping the backup) so unfortunately some people have lost some PM's and Posts. I have tried my best to restore the PM's and Posts that I could salvage (all others I regret to say have been lost). Many of you store pm's on the site (I do it too and it's a bad habit but I do understand many of you don't want to store this info in other places) I am taking extra steps to ensure the backup database dumps are complete each night so we can avoid this in the future. I have also removed the photos from the database and placed them in a folder on the server (Making the database smaller so this should also help). This was not done previously as it caused a security risk but that risk is no longer an issue so hopefully this stops the same problem from happening in the future. I do apologize for the loss of the PM's and any posts that have gone astray. A public thread on this subject has been opened here where you can comment. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=30788

It is easy, and I hope natural, to admire women, regardless of their age. It got me to thinking that I have had crushes on a number of female celebrities over the years. I thought it might be fun to compare notes on what celebrities of different age groups still turn us on. I will be 72 in a few weeks, so I have a lot of decades to look back on. Here's my list: 20's Jessica Alba (29) many films 30's Gwyneth Paltrow (38) Shakespeare in Love/Duets 40's Lauren Graham (43) Gilmore Girls 50's Kim Basinger (57) 9 Weeks 60's Katherine Ross (60) The Graduate/Butch Cassidy and 6the Sundance Kid 70's Jane Fonda (73) around To respond to this will take some time and effort, but will be, I think, very interesting to all of us. It will be intersting also what the ladies think on this of the guys that have turned them on.

Many accounts seam to have very FULL sent item boxes so I have turned on a feature on the system that will remove all "SENT" pm's after 30 days of sitting in your sent pm folder. I think by cutting down this excess amount of storage it will help prevent future issues (and make the backups of the database substantially smaller - therefore making them less prone to not backing up completely). A lot of this is just growing pains for the site.

hmmm...could of sworn this thread was in regard to sps, not the hobbiest. Interesting. Posted via Mobile Device

Hi folks, I just ran across this thread and read the interesting comments and responses. Aside from the aforementioned cellphones (hearing the 1812 Overture during one playdate was interesting!), poor hygiene, bait and switch, inaccurate details (SP's physical appearance, services, etc), I thought I add in my two cents. FANTASY ISLAND It's been mentioned before, but I will mention it again. Some hobbiests, myself included, are buying into a fantasy, an hour (or more) at a time. It's an escape, the thrill of a "playdate" with no strings attached. If the fantasy falls flat, it's disappointing. Part of this is, of course, managing expectations. A handful of SPs are very skilled and take great effort to make the rendez-vous fun for both parties. Unfortunately, more and more SPs are not. COURTESY I guess I am from the old school. Courtesy is quickly becoming scarce in our 21st century lives. Courtesy isn't just "acting respectful".. it's BEING respectful. It can be defined as polite or respectful behaviour or actions. I heard too many stories of either SPs or clients being disrepectful. This hobby, where the level of physical intimacy is at its highest, respectful behaviour cannot be optional. The toes can still curl when mutual respect is observed. In fact, I think it adds to the overall experience. NO-SHOWS Due to my schedule, I often have to plan SP playdates days in advance. Via email, I set up a playdate with an SP and all looked good. I show up at the hotel lobby and as requested, I called her cellphone. No answer. Called a number of times during the hour I spent in the lobby and outside the hotel, and nothing. Finally got in contact with the SP - three days later! She said she forgot. No biggie as stuff happens. We attempted another date a week later, and again she forgot. I'm all for patience and understanding, but this was just plain disrepectful. I wasn't looking for a "War and Peace" explanation, nor was I looking for some sort of compensation. Simple acknowledgement would have done just fine. Anyway, just my few cents. I have been very fortunate to meet a nummber of lovely SPs and only a few not-so-lovely. CM

Thanks WIT - in that case I wouldn't put this career on a resume. The skills you have developed can be demonstrated in other ways and if you'd like to show work experience either see if you can use those skills via some volunteer work or if you have a client or close friend that owns a business (that knows what you do) that is willing to provide a reference for you, that is where Administrative Assistant, Researcher, Event Coordinator, Project Manager, etc. would work. They could provide a verifiable and credible reference that would relate to the skills you have developed. This is only my opinion and I know many won't agree with me but depending on the industry you are going into many will not understand or be accepting of someone doing this type of work. As individuals they may not mind that you were a sex worker, they may even have a healthy respect for it but as a business the company will generally not take such a risk. If you are open and honest with them in the beginning they may worry that you will be that way with other employees or if you are client facing that you might also tell clients, this can cause a number of HR issues for them or affect their bottom line. If you choose to hide it but list something that seems suspicious such as Massage Therapist yet are not a RMT then they may ask about it in the interview, this will likely raise a few red flags, they will wonder if you are not being honest with them now what issues they are getting into and in a competitive job market it's easy to pass on the person that has something 'suspicious' on their resume. It's easier to pass on a potential employee than to terminate one once you've already hired one, in fact it's an absolute nightmare to try to terminate someone after you've hired them. I'm all for fighting for the rights of sex workers but I would recommend doing it from a legislative standpoint and taking it to task in the media. When you are looking for work go out there and do the best job you can, years down the line when you are successful at what you do let them all know it was funded by a few good men. ;) Again just my 2cents, probably not worth the penny it was printed on. 8)