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Hello people I am not sure if is just me (part of me hopes so) but lately I have noticed in a few threads very hostile comments either by the OP or as a response to someone's comment. I don't think this is right. Most of us come to cerb to forget a bit about our problems and leave for a bit the 'real world' aside so if even here we find anger or as I said hostility well , let's just say is not as fun. I know sometimes in particular situations is tough to be friendly and hold our tongue but some of those negative comments I have read really make no sense and do not affect or relate to that particular person. So I'll invite all of you (and of course will start doing it myself) to try to keep the harmony in here and I'm not saying not to express our thoughts but making an effort not to be harsh or aggressive and definitely not insulting others can make a difference in other words ... let's treat each other with respect :) I place a high moral value on the way people behave. I find it repellent to have a lot, and to behave with anything other than courtesy in the old sense of the word - politeness of the heart, a gentleness of the spirit. Fran Lebowitz

There is big business for intimacy, much more so than sex, in my opinion. Over 50% of my income from both dancing and massage has been with regulars who are looking for hugs & cuddles, conversation, and intimacy. If I were just selling a sexual release, my business would drop off like a cliff and I wouldn't expect to get much repeat business. It's the connection and intimacy that I and others offer that keeps the guys coming back.

Cerb Women are the best. How about these: 1) What are you' biggest fear as escorts. Getting old? not enough clients, privacy issues? 2)What races do you prefer if any and why? 3) What percentage of clients are people you think you would be interested in knowing (in a non-romantic sense) in the real world, if you didn't already know them as clients? 4) What's the funkiest place that a client has wanted to have sex with you? 5) Does size matter? I mean really? Is bigger better? EDIT: I am so, sorry. These a questions that have come up amongst to populus. I did not mean any disrespect. I have learned my lesson. I was also trying to give examples to start the thread. The ladies are all wonderful.

I want to ask this carefully, so here goes.... I used to have a regular SP who happened to like rough play: dirty talk (very dirty), hair pulling, aggressive slapping of behind and breasts, forced gagging during BJ, etc. She left the biz some years ago and after I started seeing another SP regularly. We have a great ongoing thing and she's been great to me... BUT she won't abide even a hint of the nasty. For a long time I had a couple of girls at Pigale who were into this, so getting some nasty dances once in a while kept me sort of content. DON'T PM me for names, they're gone now. So it has been a while and I need a nasty fix. Any suggestions? I want to be clear, I am not into BDSM and I have never, ever hurt a woman. This is strictly consensual rough play. It is most fun when the woman gets turned on (and when you get the right balance in how you're doing it, it's awesome). A friend says that the girls with lots of tats tend to be into this more. Is this urban legend or what? If that is the case I should have Taylor Monroe on speed-dial :shock: Any suggesitons on who I should call?

Second that one, it takes a big man to admit he is wrong. He made a mistake, and apologized for it, publicly (and I gather privately)...to me, that says more about the type of person he is than the original thread. Agree this should be forgiven and forgotten. Welcome to the CERB family Origin RG

Hey people, I think Origin is feeling quite bad for his mistake, the important thing is that he has come out and has apologised for his mistake and should be forgiven as he is using this as a lesson. Clearly he did not mean what he said and will never make that mistake again. The thread idea is a good one, and can be very interesting. Remember, we have all said something we regreat!

This is a very sensitive issue. Mostly as a dancer, but also as an MA, men are very open with me about their sexual fantasies, even if we just talk about them without acting them out. I have discovered that there are many men out there who fantasize about degrading women and roughing them up, while also being 100% respectful towards women. Fantasy and reality are two very separate things, and I don't think we can judge people for their fantasies unless, of course, they act out their fantasies in any way other than between meaningfully consenting adults. I do, however, have to take issue with the comment about tattoos. I don't like to see myths like that perpetuated because it could mean women with tats have guys try and rough them up.

What an interesting reaction. I thought this wasn't a review board. But you just, in effect, reviewed my post. The fact that you find a particular practice outside your teapot does not automatically qualify it as offensive. Additional Comments: Hey, Vero, thanks for your reply. I feel a bit dumb now for having written the part about women with lots of tats. Guess it's my generation showing. Actually I think some older men equate women with LOTS of tattooes with other lifestyle choices that might include rough sex. Stupid generalization, I guess :lol:

I loved giving oral - in fact it's one of my favourtie activities but "forced gagging" to me is one of the most despicable things someone could ever ask or expect me to do. I don't know too many people who think choking is fun. I do have an open offer that no-one has ever taken me up on though. If you allow me to stick a dildo the size of your erect penis down your throat and thrust it for five minutes, I'll return the favour! I believe there are ladies who may enjoy this - I can't imagine why, but nonetheless, good luck. Being rough is something I believe is built over over time - trust between an SP and her client. I for example, do not permit "hair pulling" on a first date so to speak. To be looking to play rough would raise red flags for me. I believe it is possible to find, but don't expect too many pleasant replies from the ladies on here. To the OP, you can ask questions but apologizing for being offensive doesn't make your post any less offensive.

I saw a number from an 809 area code come up on my phone. I didn't answer it and since my mailbox was full did not receive a message. However, when I googled the area coder, I found out this information. I would never call back a number I don't know, but I thought I'd share what I found out. This is a scam that's been around for awhile, but apparently still being tried. They may say something like 'Hey, this is so and so...sorry I missed you- get back to us quickly. I have something important to tell you.' Then she repeated a phone number beginning with these area codes. DO NOT DIAL THESE BACK ANY NUMBERS BEGINNING WITH THESE AREA CODES: 809, 829, 849, 284, 441, 649 and 876 They get you to call by telling you that it is information about a family member who has been ill or to tell you someone has been arrested, died, or to let you know you have won a wonderful prize, etc.. In each case, you are told to call a certain number back right away. Since there are so many new area codes these days, people unknowingly return these calls, not realizing they will be be charged a inflated international rates. And you'll also get a long recorded message. The point is, they will try to keep you on the phone as long as possible to increase the charges. These area codes are located in different locales in the Caribbean and they act like 900 number (pay per use number) like we have in North America, but are not regulated in that they do inform you of such when you dial back. The charges afterward can become a real nightmare. That's because you did actually make the call. If you complain, both your local phone company and your long distance carrier will not want to get involved and will most likely tell you that they are simply providing the billing for the foreign company. You'll end up dealing with a foreign company that argues they have done nothing wrong. AT&T VERIFIES IT'S TRUE on their website: :http://www.att.com/gen/press-room?pid=6045

I've been reading this thread and it seemed to take a few wrong turns, I believe. My take on this is that he was looking for the best massage with bbbj and fake tits. Then when reminded he should be looking for an SP who offers massage rather than an MA offering bbbj, he revised his request to say drop the massage but was still seeking the big fake tits and bbbj - whoever provides this service. I never read it to mean he was necessarily looking for this to occur at an MP. Either way, Megan is right, probably best to seek out an SP who offers massage (or not) and most MA's do offer bbbj and this is not encouraged in MPs and perhaps should not have been asked under "Massage Discussion" but rather under "Escort/Courtesan Discussion". Period.

What adivce would you give to a man on how to treat a woman?

I am so, so sorry for using the term 'hookers' it is my fault and my bad. I did not mean any disrespect. Please forgive me. This was a lesson learned for me and is a prime example of how useful a thread like this would be for everyone. It has been useful for me. I am sorry. I have editied my darn post and appologized. Please do not let my ignorance imped this thread and prohit anyone from asking questions in order to learn and respect the beautiful and wonderful ladies of cerb.

Part of the reason why I disclose my profession to potential lovers/partners is as a screening tool. If they have issues with what I do, then I know they're not right for me.

If a woman has an alternative profession that will ensure her income is not affected and she choses to leave escorting to pursue the relationship because she knows it makes her SO happy; then thats her choice. I respect that you are monogamous when involved in a relationship but not everyone shares the same definition of monogamy. I do not catagorize all men as controlling, but to ask anyone to change their profession and means of supporting themselves due to a moral belief system is unfair and highly suspect imho. To ask someone to change for a relationship to work indicates the problem is in the asker. Why her profession threatening to him? Society already ostracizes sex workers, we live in the fringe and to have someone you love say "Gosh, I'd like to spend the rest of my life with you but I can't accept you because of what you do for a living so you are going to have to make other arrangements or I won't be able to love you" can be devastating. Sit and think about it for a minute. Put yourself in her shoes. It means something about her is "wrong" and needs to be "fixed". I'm sorry I don't agree with that. The request undermines her, tells her something is fundementally off about herself. She will try, but it will impact her in ways you can't imagine. Regardless of the seemingly "together" appearance SP's put out in their branding, sex work doesn't attract women who have their shit together. It is the few who come into sex work knowing who they are and have their self esteem intact. The rest of us either use this business to find the real woman within or it leads us down a destructive path. We are all in the midst of figuring out life and this can be an empowering experience if it's allowed to be. For me it is the only life sphere that I have truly been successful in all areas of my life, spiritually, physically and emotionally simultaneously (except motherhood). It has cost me two relationships but if you are living in an inauthentic way just to have someone love you, is it really living? I don't think so. As human beings we all want to be loved but to have conditions put on that love due to their work is unfair. If you love someone, you do not ask them to change something so fundemental for you. You love them for who they are and how they chose to make their living or you don't get involved. I have seen it dozens of times and it doesn't work. Ever. Don't ask, don't expect, just accept or move on. cat

I don't think it's just a "guy" thing. And it most certainly isn't a bad thing 99.9% of the time. Theres always the question of where that "line" is between just sex, an emotional bond and sex, and emotionally involved. I myself know where that line is and with my Regulars it is a "emotional bond and sex" relationship. I love being able to spend an evening with a Regular(s) that I know, can talk about things in my life, and they share what they choose. Although I never ask, I am always curious as to why they see SP's and eventually they usually bring up the subject. The reasons are as varied as there are Hobbiests/Hobbiestas, and most are very valid in my opinion. Some it's just for the sex, some is for that oh so important human touch, and to some it's the whole package. Since I don't judge, it seems once that subject is broached and we talk about it, things only get better because they realize I understand. Perhaps that is the guy thing? I do know that I sometimes get rather chatty clients and am only too happy to spend time getting to know the person and the body! They are, after all...attached!

Dug this thread up because I have been thinking about a former client who "retired" on me lately. No reason why, no explanation, just a disappearance from my life and from CERB. I know he had to leave, don't know why, but it doesn't change my feeling of losing a close friend. I can completely understand what SecretAdmirer, CherryKiss and others were going through in their posts. It is hard to let go of special friendships like these, even if they are professional. It might be different coming from an SP or MP as we have more than one regular client, but then again, there are some clients who also have more than one regular provider. I hope he is well and that he knows he is missed... I was lucky to have him in my life the past 2 years...