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I attended an amazing workshop this past weekend. It was a training for facilitators of workshops (I attended it because I will be facilitating a workshop on self care in the coming weeks and another one on consent and escorting the week after that). Anyway, something that I realized, which is so obvious and yet so overlooked, is the power of thinking about the positive things in our lives. Often, at least in my life and my immediate circles of friends, we are quite self critical and pessimistic (and rightly so seeing as life can be quite harsh at times). Nevertheless, positive reinforcement in our lives is definitely one of the many ways we can attempt to maintain a certain level of happiness and provide ourselves with the means to be able to care for ourselves to avoid burn outs, depressions and overwhelming exhaustion and sadness in general. This thread's purpose is to allow you to tell the CERB community about one good thing that has happened to you in the last couple of weeks. My hope is that this thread will be lively for quite some time and people can use it to share their positive experiences with others on this site. It doesn't have to be CERB related or SP/Hobbiest related. Anything you want, really. GO!

Well gals and gents. I think it's time for me to take a break from this hobby...or possibly to quit it altogether. "The one who got away" has suddenly and recently resurfaced into my life....the one person I've always wanted to be with and who I've always wanted a second chance with. I owe it to myself and to her to give it my all. Which means I have to focus all my attentions on her, and unfortunately that means no SP's MPs or SCs. I just want to thank all the ladies I've seen for the wonderful times we've shared. I want to thank the gents for the great advice and reco's, and I want to thank all of cerb for the enthralling and always entertaining threads of many different topics. I'll be keeping my account open....if things go south, I'll be back....with bells on! ;) To those ladies I've seen and to those I haven't had a chance to see, you're all wonderful people in your own right, and I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. To the ladies I've prebooked with, I'll be sending you PM's shortly with a personal apology and explanation. Take care all, remember to always play safe and above all, have fun!

Thanks WIT. It will be that way in time, I just want the little bugs to be worked out before we introduce that element into the mix. So I removed this to avoid confusion and we can address this in the future and open a section for just making suggestions and feedback to the council. Mentioned above... it will happen in time - just not ready yet as this was only started this month. We need to work out the bugs before we can move forward. The MAIN reason for the council is to choose disciplinary actions on 50+ post count members (Peers) - this is a more FAIR way to do this. When I am forced to make these choices myself people call me a dictator and question my actions. This is the perfect solution as council can ask questions and dig for answers before voting. Would you rather have ONE person do this or a panel of 14 members (half ladies and have gentlemen) do this? This site is Anonymous (That is how these sites work) everyone hides behind a false name / alias. Maybe in the future these alias's of the council members will be more transparent but for now they do not wish to be. None of you know my real identity and yet I am the one who for all these years made all these hard choices. So now instead of ONE person none of you know... you have FIFTEEN (14 council + myself) Basically we had these conversations already with the ELITE and SP ONLY members (The people who have contributed the most to the site at this time) and these members helped by voting how this first council would be formed and operated. In time this can change and with over 120 posts you (Gobofraggle) are well on your way to being part of the elite members group. Keep posting, follow the rules and in no time you will be promoted to elite status and be privy to the area's that are currently locked out.

Real shame you are having to deal with that. I am not sure why someone would want to be with you if you had absolutely no desire to be with them. I know I wouldn't want to be. Nobody likes to hear that they are not desireable, but it is an everyday part of life to hear no...lol...I suspect some guys feel that as an SP you should just automatically have to see them. I don't. You ladies are normal every day people just like me everyone else and are entitled to make the same decisions as anyone else. say yes, no or maybe or take a hike and it needs to be accepted. Once again sorry to hear you ladies have to deal with that. The fine ladies I have met to date have been really great, genuine and fun to be with. So I like to see you happy so you come back. :grin: If you say no to a second visit then Hey...I get it! Anyways hope that made a little bit of sense...lol... And fyi...I am from Manitoba so hopefully that doesn't deter you from coming here again!!

Don't forget the Anal Caravan, holds up to 9 penises, errrr I mean passengers! Additional Comments: Anal Pinto, for people who don't need as much room! haha!

No, no, no, no, not playing by the anal rules loneskater!!!! ;) The feisty and furious Anal kitten queen "Cleo" said cars or vans or just your basic vehicles. Next we will adding Anal Tow Trucks, to get things out that might be stuck, Anal Fire Trucks in case of a fire in the hole, Anal Big and I mean huge transport truck...you know like 18 inches..sorry 18 wheelers..(my mind got side tracked) then somebody will throw in the odd Anal choo choo train, or a Anal plane with a prop..:roll: Lets just "stick" to vehicles for now, that was fun! LOL

I'm fond of Red for stop every thing, Yellow for slow down and Green for all's good. It's common and most know the meaning. I don't use these safe words myself when I bottom as I have a synesthetic relationship to pain with red being a lite warm up and bright electric blue being the point where things are at there most intense. Red, Yellow, Green makes this hard to comunicate to the person I'm playing with. I use Stop as my safe word.

Here is a few more for laughs.. Anal Achieva Anal Avalanche:icon_rolleyes: Anal Blazer Anal Charger Anal Discovery Anal Electra Anal Expedition Anal Impulse Anal Park..Avenue Anal Path Finder Anal Safari and of course the Anal Vibe :aol_anal:

I agree with everything the other ladies have said, here. I'd just like to say that if I know a prospective client is as nervous as you are, I won't see him. It's reasonable to be nervous or a little tentative. After all, you're meeting a stranger for an intimate connection. I think it's important for me, as a companion, to do what I can to help ease a guest's mind and help him relax, reassuring him that I am who I said I am and that he can expect to enjoy himself. If I do say so myself, it's rare for me not to succeed.... But I would not be comfortable with someone who is so suspicious and, frankly, paranoid. From my standpoint, such a man is not with me, but is engaged with hostile, dangerous fantasies that may encourage him not only to misinterpret things I do or say but also to act abruptly or unpredictably on such misinterpretations, putting me in harm's way. That's not a risk I will take.

Just to update everyone. We will be finalizing the place this week and start selling tickets. There will be limited space as the room can onbly hold so many people. Last time I got in trouble as we really packed it in :) Angela will be heading ticket sales and give aways. Once we get closer to the date, We will release all the info. For now, stay tuned.... Additional Comments: Just to update everyone. We will be finalizing the place this week and start selling tickets. There will be limited space as the room can only hold so many people. Last time I got in trouble as we really packed it in :) Angela will be heading ticket sales and give aways. Once we get closer to the date, We will release all the info. For now, stay tuned....

Maybe I'm a bit cranky at the end of a long week, but I have to say that I am weary of hearing the assumption that paid companions are likely to stalk, harass or blackmail clients if we have any of their personal information, even if it's just a cell number. I think this is a way that some men project and deflect guilt connected with their decision to seek out paid companionship. It's not simply unreasonable, it's narcissistic. As I always say: no matter who you are or who you think you are, no matter what you do or who you know or love, the person who is taking the most risks is always the paid companion. Always. I think I spend too much time reassuring potential clients that I'm balanced, safe, sane, warm, genuinely human and real--in other words, that they can trust me. Just yesterday someone wrote to me saying that he didn't want to give me his number in case it was part of some kind of elaborate set-up. He told me outright that he wanted me to calm his mind because he was worried I might rob him or give him some terrible disease. I am stymied by such men's lack of insight and empathy. He's worried I might rob him? Well, gosh. He's making arrangements to be in my home, in my bed, in my body. I will lavish time, care and attention on him. I will do my best to make him feel so wonderful that he'll want to come back and see me again. I have to try not to worry that he'll tell my landlord or the neighbours what I'm doing. I have to try not to worry that he'll show up sometime without an invitation. I have to try not to worry that he might hurt me or refuse to leave when it's time. I also have to try not to worry that he might rob me. And I have to forget that, if something unexpected happens or there's an emergency--a fire breaks out or maybe he has a heart attack--he will be portrayed as a decent man in an unfortunate situation while I will just be a hooker. Every man will say that he's not like the kinds of men I've just described. Just about all the time, that's true. Nearly every one of them are just doing their best to get through their lives. They don't want to hurt anyone or cause trouble. They're a lot like us companions. We're all just doing what we do, trying to keep on keeping on. Relax. Stop the fear-mongering and suspicion. Stop assuming that the whore with the heart of gold is a rarity. We're here by the dozen. Calm down. Take a deep breath. We're all on the same side, and we're in this together. Give your companion your cell number.

Reco's are also valuable to us because they make us feel good. This may sound vain but we are human and everyone loves a kind word. A reco does not need to be a novel...even a simple "I had an awesome time with____" is great. If you are the type that is simply looking for that wham bam thank you ma'am type of experience that only requires you to be physically attracted to someone, recos mean squat. Those who want to get a feel for the type of person they will be meeting can gain valuable info by reading the recos. But, to me, Cerb is more than just a recommendation board, it is a social network. If you are looking to stimulate your mind as well as your senses, there are numerous ways to discover that someone who you will be able to bond with. Read a lady's posts, interact with her via PM, get to know her and then you can decide if she is a good fit for you. Anyhow, I will reiterate. If you had a good time with a lady, is a short note on her reco page really such a daunting task? A couple of minutes of your time goes a long way! Be happy!!!