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SA, I don't know where you get your information, but most paid companions work indoors and are not coerced by pimps. We are no more likely to have drug or alcohol addictions than women in "straight" professions. About 85% of us work indoors. Nearly all of the women who engage in street prostitution have multiple problems: most are addicted to illegal drugs; many also have significant mental health issues and the great majority are aboriginal women. Poverty, though, is the critical factor underlying everything else. Canada has laws against human trafficking. Good laws with stiff penalties, they are, too. The problem is that there is little police or judicial will to enforce these laws. Most of the people who are caught up in genuine human trafficking are farm and industrial workers, not prostitutes. Some women are migrant sex workers. That is, they leave their home countries to come to places like Canada in order to engage in the sex trade. They hope to make a significant amount of money that they can send home to help support their families. Many of the Asian women in the micro-brothels in Vancouver are migrant sex workers who make genuine, deliberate choices to come here on visitor's visas to work for up to six months before returning home. They are not "trafficked." We also have laws against the sexual exploitation of children. They, too, should be relentlessly enforced. There is no excuse whatever for sexually abusing children. That said, if we were to document every person who was sexually abused by anyone before the age of 18 or 19, the number would be staggering! It may be that a large number of women who work as paid companions have been sexually abused at some point in their lives. I do think that many of us have been abused in some way, at some point, usually by fathers, brothers, male relatives, boyfriends, partners, lovers or husbands. It maybe that survivors of violence are over-represented among sex trade workers, but that may not be true. Violence against women is endemic and also sanctioned in our culture. If you don't think so, have a look at debates about what really constitutes violence or how to define what is or is not genuinely abusive. Physical violence is only one kind of abuse. Emotional and psychological abuse are both more prevalent and far more destructive. The Harper Conservatives may try to pass legislation that will make prostitution much more dangerous for many women. The women who are most at risk, however--women working on the streets--will not stop engaging in it. They work in the sex trade because they have no other legitimate alternatives; because of poverty; because of addictions; because of mental health problems. These workers will work in conditions that are much higher risk than they are, now. Pimps will thrive because they will offer to protect the women who work for them and because they will strive to guarantee male clients' safety from the police. Some of the rest of us may decide that it's not worth the hassle to work around whatever new laws are created. These women will retire to other professions. Make no mistake, though: many of us will simply carry on doing what we do. The demand for paid companionship will not go down, regardless of what legislative bodies do. Indeed, when men are under greater pressure to avoid arrest and prosecution, paid companions such as me will have a far easier time screening potential clients. That is, there will be fewer arguments about references, contact information, cell phones and the real identities of our clients. Not only that, but expect our rates to increase, considerably, too! If the Harper government has any genuine interest in protecting women from the likes of Picton, they should outlaw poverty, put an end to the drug trade and make effective mental health resources available to everyone when needed, rather than forcing many to wait months or years to see a psychiatrist. I don't think this will happen, though. Legislating a minimum, liveable income would be expensive. Ending the drug trade would have a profound impact on many economies. Vancouver alone would be directly harmed by such a step. And the government is doing its utmost to limit access to health care already because of the expense. The government is not going to do anything that will actually benefit women, protect any of us from predation or violence, or end the sex trade.

note to self.....travel with weed killer for extra gifts..... man does that sound wrong!

Hence the LOL....I was being sarcastic! :)

I need to add just one thing to this if someone is banned for safety reasons, we should all be made aware of it, elite member or not, what is an elite member anyone, I always thought Cerb was suppose to be a friendly information board regarding the SP'S Industry in Halifax which sucks compared to Toronto, where its a lot safer, half the price, and beautiful ladies to select from. It seems like everyone is always trying to outdo one another here, take some lessons from the biiger centres in Canada, and some people need to grow up here in the East.

How about.. Yanni Young Money Young Bloods Young Redd

+1. But common courtesy seems to be gradually becoming less and less common in all walks of life, and every new method of communication seems to be aimed more at brevity than a conversation. Also, I think we're starting to sound like a couple of old men sitting in a bar getting quietly sozzled and reminiscing about the good old days during a leisurely mid-afternoon... And you can tell I'm an old fart, 'cos I couldn't fit that post into 140 characters :)

Well you could live on the edge and use one of these Sorry, couldn't resist, and I say this with my legs crossed at this very moment RG:icon_eek::icon_eek::shock:

But Bridgette's around (smile)!!!

I believe part of the reason why banned or non Cerb members are allowed to have recommendations is the simple fact that in theory she (any banned SP) is a good SP who deserves the reco. that was written by a legitimate hobbyist, regardless of her rule breaking. He spent the time writing and posting it so why should his post count be punished for her faux pas. Plus if it is the first recommendation posted and there are subsequent recos. in the same thread all are lost. Having said all of that sometimes after someone is asked to leave there is an upsurge in new recos. for that lady...

Nice thread. Good ideas: connection, exploration, growth, wanting the other's pleasure... It's living the experience fully, not being distracted with other thoughts, getting into the rhythm of it, or the rhythms, from intense and carried-away to slow and sensuous. All the senses engaged, and your partner is, at that moment, your whole world.

Nice thread idea, Voyi. Here is my two cents: An amazing lover is someone who creates a safe space for me to explore my needs and desires. Like you, there needs to be a particular connection. It can be a spiritual, intellectual, and/or sporty connection (etc.). I also need my lovers to languidly explore my body. Not delicately (because pressure is good), but just in a slow and relaxed way. Sex should be an exploration. It's carnal, but there's also a lot of opportunities for growth through sex, if one is open to that possibility in that moment. Gender bending is always nice too. Sometime I'm actively submissive, sometimes, I'm more dominant... never passive.