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So why post this then? Sounds like a totally inappropriate thing to ask anyone to do.

A male friend of mine (purely platonic) exited a relationship not too long ago, and has confided in me that he is finding it very difficult to go from regular sex to no sex. In fact, he's been complaining about this for some time now. He knows what I do, and I suggested to him he contact an escort and even suggested Berlin (she is totally his type). He has the financial means to do so. He informed me that he "wasn't desperate enough to pay for it". Meanwhile he continues to complain about his situation while doing nothing to change it. With all the negativity that I've noted on the board lately, I wanted to throw out something positive and that's that I admire hobbiests for knowing what they want and going for it!

Exactly! I have way more tattoos than most people out there, and I still do very well in this biz. I know there are men who don't find them attractive and won't see me because of them - but there are also men who will only see blondes, or only see taller girls, etc. Do what you want and be comfortable and confident. That's always sexy.

I totally agree Megan. I had a conversation with a client mine yesterday who's been a regular for quite sometime. I could honestly say that I would defend my clients till the end: these people are some of the most respectful, lovely, caring and fun people i've ever met. Before I started working, I had some really shitty sex experiences, but this job has really changed that. All of my clients could trust that if ever need be, I will have their back i.e. ensuring that our relationships stay secret from those whom they need to be hidden from etc. Love to all of you! xo Sky

1. Steve is an east coast kinda guy. He is no longer curious, he is addicted. So how about "AquaSteve" ... working the whole aquatic maritime theme??? New Avatar: 2. Steve is a big Sox fan... we could play up all the baseball analogies. "Steve is going deep!!!" "That's a powerful stroke from Steve." "Steve isn't stopping at second base, he wants to take this all the way!!!" "That's two balls on Steve." New name? "SteveFenway" New Avatar: 3. Steve may want to show a deeper darker side of his personality. He knows that mystery and a bit of danger make him dead sexy. New Name: "Stevil" New Avatar:

I don't think anyone should even think about remaking "the man with no name" movies (i.e. A Fistful of Dollars, For a Few Dollars More and The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.)

You told her you are seeing someone? Well make that someone a guy! Go through with your social call and while you are there make sure you fondle him or snuggle with him or kiss him and that should convince her you are not interested in her. How you will find such a guy, I do not know, but it is worth a try.

She sounds like she could fly off the handle. Why not just quit accepting any contact with her. Ignore her calls, her drive-by's, AVOID her period. No need to set up a fake scenario if you stop enabling her!

Megan, I think he is trying to do something about his situation, but you aren't picking up on the hint. He wants YOU but doesn't want to come right out and say it directly.

I think that this particular perspective is very important to the sex workers' rights movements, if only because prohibitionists are constantly using the experiences of those who had awful things happen to them while working in the sex trade, who were motivated by survival etc, to say that prostitution should be expunged. The sex workers' rights movement becomes all the more stronger in my mind if the experiences of those who don't like the job, but who still see that there needs to be a change, are allowed to be voiced.

With recent postings, I thought I'd put this thread out there. Just to let the ladies know that us guys, love (no, not that type of love LOL) and adore you all. You provide us with companionship, intimacy and sex. You don't ask or expect any strings. You provide an escape for us for a few hours. Most of us guys adore you and respect you. I think I'm safe speaking for most of the guys because most of us are gentlemen. The few bad apples I hope are few. Just thought I'd post that so you don't think your unappreciated, we very much appreciate and respect each and every one of you. And posted in the spirit of positivity RG

I hope I speak for most of the other men here when I say I sincerely hope that the good far outweighs the bad. Thank you my lovelies! Don't know what I'd do without you! xoxo

I'm an animal rights supporter, but I'm by no stretch a vegetarian or a non-animal product user. I simply believe that just because we're going to eat them, doesn't give us the right to treat them like crap before we do. You won't see me at a rally or on the PETA website. I do my part in a quieter way, as it's just how I am. (believe it or not ;-) ) Same goes for a lot of things. You don't have to be personally invested to support something, especially when there's many different levels of support. You don't have to live and breathe anything to support it. You just have to agree with the objective of the movement. Having your voice heard goes against the passive society we live in. So many people support things from a more comfortable position. Doesn't make them less supportive, just a bit more shy about making waves. That's my 2 cents, anyhow.

I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but the best advice I can give you comes from much experience: She'll only hear what she wants to hear. And only when she's ready to hear it. Which basically means that she's gotta come to her own realizations on her own time. It sucks to have to watch it happen, but there's truly nothing else you can do without really sticking your neck out there. Be a good friend. Be there when/if she needs you to be. Support her unconditionally. Hopefully she'll wake up and see what an unhealthy relationship she is in. If not, it may be time to consider moving on because people who perpetually have bad relationship habits will almost always continue to in the future. I wish there was something more I could offer, but the cold hard truth is always the best remedy.

English is a pretty flexible language. You could probably just come up with a breastacular word of your own to describe how cleavalicious you are, and it would all be perfectly cromulent.

The great majority of the clients I've seen have excellent boundaries; I admire this enormously. They know what they want, they're eager to enjoy themselves--and me!--as they pursue it and they keep a clear separation between the rest of their lives and the time they spend with me. Time with a paid companion is less stressful, less demanding and less expensive than having an affair. For a man who just wants some company and some relief that won't threaten his marriage or other relationship, engaging a companion is an excellent option. He can be loving without having to be in love; he can feel admired and desired without having to wonder about where the relationship is going. It's not going anywhere. He can feel as though he's got a very attentive girlfriend without all of the drama, joy and adjustment that having a real girlfriend entails. And if I'm not available when he wants to see me, I might suggest someone else. No girlfriend or mistress is going to do that! :icon_biggrin: The men who recognize and value these things are gems!

I agree with you Castle. There's a time and place for everything. I took a look at your group and nothing wrong with dirty talk in the bedroom. I keep mine enclosed. It can be sexy and a great turn on. However, the members that are a part of that group and commented on the language used in the thread are two different things. That's what the group is intended for. I think a few made reference to the level of emotional maturity that was displayed in this thread. Words are powerful in many ways and it wasn't all related to the swearing. I'm a strong believer in context and sometimes when that is lost, the point is lost.

So did I Pete. I admit to being guilty of being a little too sensitive about your reference to cats. I know you love animals and that you were venting and appreciate the fact you stepped back and came back to clarify when the dust settled. It takes great character to do so. Another thing we all have to keep in mind is that by shouting at others, <you got me on my quote> we worsen the situation. So, rather than letting the water boil, we can just take a deep breath for 3 to 5 minutes and force ourselves to keep mum. At the end of the 5th minute, our thinking clarity might have improved and hopefully we can avoid any verbal duel or fiery debate. When our mind and mood settle down, we may understand the reason on the other side. This helps me personally to a great extent and appreciate everyone's contribution on both sides. Though the above points may not be exhaustive and situations may differ, I will make every effort to apply my core principles above and reduce my tense moments in every aspect of a good debate. Thanks Pete and I do extend my apologies for letting it get to me. Managing tension diplomatically is increasing my emotional IQ and failed the test on that one. Cheers!

They say you shouldn't believe everything you read but this is not the case with Katherine (formerly Cathy). You can most definately believe everything that is written here about this amazing lady. She will greet you with a smile on her face and I guarantee you will leave with a smile on yours. All around great gal.

One of my favourite, long-standing clients died recently. I wrote about that, here. I will attend the funeral because he was well-known in Vancouver. The funeral will be held in a church; many people are expected to attend. The question about whether it's okay for a paid companion to go to a client's funeral has come up before, but it's been a couple of years since we had that discussion. In case it might be useful, helpful or reassuring to anyone on the board, I'm re-opening the topic. I apologize in advance for the length of this post! In the other part of my life, some time ago, I seriously considered becoming a funeral director because, for various reasons, I'd worked closely with quite a few funeral homes. I also used to do volunteer work with a hospice and ve attended many dozens of funerals over the last 20 years or so. I'm writing from that experience. When someone dies, the very best, and very worst, aspects of their relationships with family and friends are likely to be in the spotlight. Families always want to be seen as normal, unremarkable, with no secrets or scandals to be noticed. Unfortunately, most families are not so ordinary. Everyone has secrets and some of them may not go to the grave with us despite our best efforts to conceal them. You can always call the funeral home and ask how many people they're expecting to attend the service. They'll tell you if it's just going to be a small, private family service, or if they're expecting a couple of hundred people. Funeral homes are asked this very question several times a day. Estranged family members, former spouses and other people who have had a difficult relationship with the deceased, or with members of his/her family, often call the funeral home and ask this question. There's no need to feel conspicuous or awkward for asking! Most funeral directors take seriously their value as an intermediary between the bereaved family and others. Unless the deceased person is quite elderly, or has been shut-in for a long, long time, or had a disability that seriously restricted their ability to be out in the world, funeral services often have a wide variety of people attending. They don't all know each other. Many people will be there who may hardly know the deceased, but have accompanied their spouse or a friend who did know him/her. There is often a "viewing" or a gathering before the actual funeral. Depending on who the deceased person was, how long they've lived in their community and how well-known they were, there may be a couple of these gatherings. One may be held the evening before the funeral, for example, or a couple of hours before the funeral itself. These gatherings take the place of wakes which were commonly held many years ago. They tend to be small and quiet. People who have known the deceased person have an opportunity to go to the funeral home, or in some cases, the church, view the body and spend a few moments in quiet reflection. Family members are usually present at these viewings. Many people who knew the deceased person very well are likely to attend. There may be food and drinks available. People will have informal conversations about the deceased person, sharing memories and talking about how he or she affected their lives. It is very difficult to be inconspicuous at one of these gatherings, and so, as a paid companion, I would never attend. My presence is only likely to raise questions for the family and friends; that would be a violation of confidentiality. If, however, the deceased person is very famous, or a head of state or, say, a current or former provincial premier, and there is a large public viewing where potentially hundreds of people may attend to pay their respects, I would probably be one of the people in the crowd. If the service is being held in a church, there will usually be a lot of people there. If the whole service is being held at the graveside, fewer people will attend. Personally, I would not attend a graveside funeral for a client because those awkward scenes in movies where someone unexpectedly shows up at the graveside service are, sadly, fairly realistic. I have been at several graveside services where someone unexpected arrived; it would not be appropriate for me to cause consternation or worry for the family by attending this more private kind of memorial. On the day of the funeral, if the deceased died suddenly and unexpectedly, or if their death was violent, it would be unusual for members of the family to be greeting people at the door of the funeral home or church when people arrive. If the deceased had been ill for a long time and was on good terms with his/her family, it's more likely that family members will be greeting people when they arrive. You might need to make a judgment call about this, but it would be unusual for anyone greeting folks as they arrive to ask questions about why someone is there. There's usually a guest book available for signing. I wouldn't sign it, if I was at a funeral for a client. There's often a gathering after the service, too. I wouldn't attend because this is another time when questions about how someone knows the deceased would be most likely to be asked. I also wouldn't go to the burial if it's happening after the service. Again, most of the people who attend the service won't go to the graveyard, so there's nothing conspicuous about staying away. Going, however, could raise questions. But if there will be more than about 80 people at the funeral, to arrive at the funeral home or church only a couple of minutes before the service starts, to sit near the back of the chapel or church and to leave when it's over, shouldn't be a problem. Other people will do the same thing for different reasons. When I attend my client's funeral, I will dress inconspicuously. I will not wear all black, though I may wear a black dress with a coloured jacket over it. I do not want to appear to be in grief or significantly mourning my friend because I do not want to call attention to myself. I may sign the guest book if it there are more than about 200 people at the funeral. Otherwise, I won't. If I do sign it, I will sign it in my own name. Samantha will not be at the service. If anyone asks me how I knew the man who died, I will give a vague answer along the lines of having worked with him on a project a few years ago. I may say that he gave me some good advice that has made a lot of difference in my life and so I wanted to pay my respects. It's important to recognize that by not saying anything or by declining to answer the question,I draw more attention than if I give this kind of bland reply. I have to take seriously the fact that I do not know this man's family and friends and that I am an attractive woman who is at the funeral by myself. Unfortunately, people being as they are, there is often a group of people hoping, secretly or not so secretly, that something exciting or titillating may be revealed about the deceased. I do not want to give anyone the impression that I may have been one of the man's secrets. I can't ask my partner to attend the funeral with me because, of course, he doesn't know that this man was a client of mine. I'm sure that the common-sense value of much of what I've written, here, is evident. More than anything, I hope that everyone, particularly my sister companions, will simply take the time to think things through. The loss of a client through death is a serious and important event. We are all entitled to our sorrow and to find appropriate ways to mark their passing.