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Let us talk about sex. Everyone here likes sex. :) At least we can agree on that! With a (hopefully) passable attempt at humour, Amelia. xoxoxoxxoxo

Or not, as the case may be? Apologies in advance to all and sundry, but I'm going to indulge myself with a rant on this. We have very clear and well-enforced rules here on CERB about what may be said, and what may not. However, these rules relate very much to *how* discussions are conducted; their aim is to ensure that both ads and recos are genuine (and therefore reliable and useful) and that the general tone of the site remains positive and mutually respectful. What we do *not* have, however, is a whole bunch of rules relating to what topics of conversation may not be had at all. Yes, illegal stuff is out, which seems like a sensible precaution to me, but that's about it. However, we periodically (and again recently) seem to have attempts by individuals, or groups of them, to shut down conversation on subjects which they happen to dislike. It may seem obvious, but it probably bears stating that if someone starts a thread, no matter how obscure or tedious the topic may seem to most, that's a demonstration that at least one person cares enough about it to bother posting. Maybe it'll become the new hot thread of the moment, and maybe it'll fall completely flat - but how will we ever find out if it never gets posted at all? In the meantime, the fact that someone cared enough to post in the first place means that there's likely to be at least a few readers who will be interested enough to read the thread and not consider it a complete waste of their time to have done so, even if they don't feel moved to post themselves. Is it too much to ask that those people who don't wish to discuss a particular subject simply leave it be and move on? I'm not talking about the occasional snarky comment about LOLcats here (I'm well aware that not everyone loves them, and frankly I think the world would be a very dull place if we all had the same tastes); I'm talking about efforts to get particular threads or subjects eliminated entirely. I don't mind the rules that have an obvious benefit for the site as a whole, but I thoroughly resent the existence and interference of self-appointed arbiters of what may or may not be discussed. We have one, and the Mod does a very good job; we don't need any more, thanks. If the Town Council decides to implement new policies then that's fine - but until any such changes are announced to the community at large by the Mod, could everyone else please refrain from attempting to impose their own preferences on everybody else? The general forum does tend to attract all the stuff that doesn't obviously fit in anywhere else. However, the fact that something doesn't have another obvious home is absolutely not a reason for it to be expelled from the general forum too. Maybe that just means we should have more forums so that we can categorize threads more effectively; maybe people should simply be a little more tolerant. A final point: I think we *all* benefit from the existence of a larger and more diverse community, rather than a smaller and narrower one. CERB gets more visitors, and presumably so, then, does EC. The SPs get a larger audience for their ads; those of us who see them get more SPs posting ads. And all of us who contribute get more friends, and potential friends, with whom we can argue, debate, laugh, joke and - on occasion, I daresay - have some good old-fashioned sexcapades. Every time we drive someone off by being exclusive or narrow-minded, or someone simply gets bored and leaves, we're all a little poorer for the loss. Okay, that's it. Thanks for reading, if you got this far.

Sex or puppies...everyone likes puppies..:icon_biggrin:

What would happen if you chewed HandzOff while taking Viagara at the same time? I don't have anything against anyone else's beliefs but my opinion is that if god or whoever didn't want us to masturbate, why give us hands and not two more feet? Put I believe there is a reason you only place ONE hand on the bible, so that the other one is free to do its job :)

Where to begin? What to say and how do I go about saying it correctly? I have always been one to get to the point so I might as well hurry up and get there. I am leaving Cerb and I just wanted to say thank you and goodbye. The reasons for my departure are not even entirely clear to me but I just know that it is time to go (at least for now). I am not the same man that I was when I first logged and chose my handle almost three years ago. I thought I needed time away in the past and I took it but to no avail. So today I have finally come to the decision to walk away and give (hobby) retirement a go. Some of you may have noticed that I hardly post anymore, I haven't written a reco. in months and I have gone into virtual hiding...almost lurking. This is not the person I actually am and if I can not enjoy something that is by its very nature fun and exciting then what is the point? I have met some wonderful ladies, had some amazing conversations and unfortunately had an argument or two but such is life. One can't experience the highs without having experienced the lows to contrast them to. So, once this thread is created and posted I will have some last minute housekeeping to do on my profile, copying of email addresses, messages to be sent and things of that sort. Followed by my resignation from Cerbs Town Council...yes I was on council since its inception AND I enjoyed my time there. Sadly I believe that is one reason why I must say goodbye. I found myself being less and less concerned with hobbying and more worried about "Council" stuff. Guess I forgot the main reason I was here was to make friends and "shag." Ha ha. Please don't get me wrong Mod and the other councilors are fantastic and I was honored that Mod chose me but...well...it's no longer for me. As I said the remaining Council all have the best interests of the board at heart so you should all be secure in that! Well as I said all good things must come to an end and so too does my message. Thank you one and all for making my Cerb life happy and enjoyable. To those of you who I have met thank you for allowing me to bask in your company. To those who I didn't meet, for whatever reason, all I can say is "guess it is my loss." To Katherine, Isabella and Penelope a special thanks for...well just being the ladies who you are. I have enjoyed our friendship and who knows possibly our paths will cross again if I pick up my hobby again in the future (which is always possible). Thank you all and take care of yourselves and each other. One last goodbye from Fenway Park...

For me, a cancellation fee is something that is subjective, so it will never be something that I advertise.

I think the thread has gone slightly off-track from the OP's observations. It might be helpful if it was restated. Phaedrus, let me know if I've highjacked your intent. 1. Some Cerb individuals/cliques are trying to shut-down or unrighteously influence threads or subjects they don't like. 2. Individuals/cliques who try to shut-down a thread stunts the growth of the forum & nullifies the value of original posts. These types of characters give the site a nasty flavour. 3. Individuals/cliques who try to shut-down a thread use nasty comments as a form of intimidation or to get the thread discredited. 4. Threads that don't fit exactly into a category are getting trashed. 5. Openness to different opinions begets good business for Cerb & it's affiliates. Plain enough?

Very well said RG, as a very respectful Gentleman. I don't like to see this thread go into "she could have done this, or avoided that." Please let's avoid what she could have done to avoid abuse? This has nothing to do with Isabella and everything to due with the client. He's the danger and do believe Isabella is courageous and strong by sharing her story. Not everyone calls out violence due to fear or retribution. I know as well Isabella is a very caring, kind individual and did not deserve this under any circumstance! No excuse! Additionally, Isabella has warned the other ladies. She's handled this situation with the class and dignity I admire and respect her for.

At the end of the day folks, this business whether we care to believe it or not, is unlike most. It involves a personal experience, and a vulnerability that is unique to anything in the business world. Both for the SP and for the Client. Clients cancel for a variety of reasons, most of the time it really won't seem legit. Sometimes it is. Fact of the matter is as much as we want to take the same approach as a Doctor or Lawyer would with a cancellation fee, in my experience I don't believe it will work. What I think would work is to have a better communication amongst Service providers, and Agencies and even MPs and setup a very clear network. When some guy doesn't show, he doesnt deserve a second chance if he doesnt call to cancel. If he changes his mind last min he doesnt get a second chance. And then post it on this list, date it, with proper info including phone numbers, emails, names ect.. guess what? If he calls 5 ladies and they tell him where to go, and what to do when he gets there, he will get the message loud and clear. Make this a standard proceedure across the board and it will put the ppl that don't care about your time, in their place. I know this may sound harsh, but in reality it is a small number of ppl that do this. The vast majority of ppl are very respectful and there is never an issue. This suggestion will serve our good clients as well, as it will free up time that would have been available to them had the inconsiderate A-holes essentially *cock block* them by likely booking 3-4 appts and choosing to honor only one of them.

In this season that symbolizes peace, harmony, reconciliation, and new beginnings, I extend to all members of the cerb community my best wishes for a happy Christmas and New Year. May much fulfilment lie ahead.

Hi, I came across this amazing website, an amazing resource for anybody having trouble getting sex because of how society views them. Sorry for shamelessly promoting it. http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/index.php It provides "opportunities, advice and support to disabled men and women so they can find appropriate sexual and therapeutic services." It may be viewed as a competing website to CERB. But I doubt it. I apologize in advance if it does. Thanks...

How many guys would like it if they got up for work, got ready, drove in and the boss is there saying we have no work for you today, oh and by the way, your also not getting paid today, go home. But be prepared to come in tomorrow, but no guarantees that we will have work for you Wouldn't you expect at least some compensation for the time spent getting ready and travel costs to go to work? Best analogy I can come up with It is the ladies' livelihood, pays the rent, car payment, groceries etc...and seems lost on some...not something they just do for the hell of killing a few hours. A cancellation policy seems fair, at least to this guy, and certainly no lady should be put down for having one RG

Jabba, in asking myself, should I charge a cancellation fee? If so, how much? I would ask myself several questions, including: Is he a new client? What kind of impression do I have of him? Has he cancelled before? Has he proven to be reliable by showing up to past appointments on time? Is he a good regular client? Has he done this to other ladies that I'm aware of? What reason did he give for a cancellation? How much notice did he give? Did he apologize? Given all these variables, it's impossible for me to have a set "cancellation policy." As I've already said in this thread, it's important for me to develop not just regular business, but quality regular clients who respect me and my time. If a client cancelled without giving me reasonable notice or a decent reason, I would hope he would offer to make it up to me somehow, or ask me what he could do to make it up. I would do the same if I were retaining someone's services (eg. tutoring services, RMT massage, etc.) in that if I cancelled without giving reasonable notice, I would offer to make it up to them, regardless of what cancellation policy they may have because, well, that's just being a decent human being.

OMG don't be embarrassed! I am a gleek! I have all the cds and anything else I could download! Posted via Mobile Device

I also want to add these two (no making fun of me allowed...) Glee music and music videos (lol) and Christmas music, particularly Michael Buble, Mariah Carey, Destiny's Child and Nsync's Christmas albums.... I'm so embarrassed and yet so proud that my musical preferences are so corny but I love them!

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This is true. fwiw, far too many of the active female posters on this board are starting to keep quiet, based on the negative reaction towards their comments, concerns and points of view. One would caution the knee jerk reaction of claims that sps are jealous of other sps and that is the reason behind recent discussions and posts. When opinions are attacked, the sps disappear. When their concerns are not considered important, they disappear. This isn't a complaint just an observation. Seen it happen before, and seen it happen here recently. I think some of the more active sp posters, well, I think we can all 'not see' their reaction.

Everyone has different opinions and everyone is guilty of trying to enforce what they feel is right or wrong to discuss. Everyone has been rude at some point in Time and everyone has been guilty of not following the Cerb mantra. Let's just all grow up read that article on effective discussio and double or triple think before we post. Posted via Mobile Device

Interesting recap, but in the end, isn't it also important to note: What if the ones are correct about everything they are saying about these threads? How is it wrong to be right, in other words, and why should the ones pointing out the problems be considered the biggest problem? That is shoot the messenger kind of stuff, and very typical of a non-friendly forum approach. On some sites, if an sp has an opinion, it will be trashed and discredited because she is not a reviewer. Hopefully, we don't see that reaction to people who post on the general topics, who have an opinion to share, and also have a vested interest in keeping the site on friendly grounds, but see some threads as unnecessarily antagonistic towards them, the site rules, and common sense. It is especially bad when someone does something, gets a pretty good sized (negative) reaction from a good sized number of posters, then literally thumbs their noses at the crowd with the claim since it isn't against the rules posted, they can and will do it anyway, general opinon be damned.

Unfortunately I'll be gone for awhile before Christmas so if I don't get the chance then I just wanted to say to everybody here SP and Pooner alike and even you MOD ( lol) I hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year and Best wishes to everyone for the new year to come. ( Don't get too drunk everyone During the holidays , but if you do, " Have one For me" :chug:( lol ) Best wishes and cheers. Tina DD Doll

Merry Christmas and a Happy Hanukkah

Hi all, I just wanted to add a small piece about "intentions". I think that this is likely one of the ways in which we're all getting caught up in conflict. I think that for the most part, everyone on this board that contributes to forums and posting, does so with the best of intentions. That being said, I think that sometimes, intentions are very much irrelevant. Here is an example: 1. Let's say the following question is asked: "I would like to know how many clients a day SPs see on average because I would like to make my decision as to whom I will spend time with based on their answer. I would prefer to see an SP who sees a small number of clients a day as this reflects her levels of self respect..." (Sorry, I couldn't come up with a brand new example and I realize that this what a topic of a thread a while back...) Now, to analyze this. The question to me seems very genuine and the person asking it seems to be harmless. But further analysis of the question goes like this: What assumptions are taking place in this question: that SPs who see less clients have more self respect than those who see more. This probably comes from the idea that women who sleep with less people are less slutty and therefore more valuable as people, where as women who are 'sluts' do so out of no respect for their own bodies. This is in fact, a very insulting assumption. And so, while the OP had no intention of offending, the hidden assumptions in such a question do nothing but offend. Does that make sense? Now, I don't think every question will reveal the underlying assumptions as obvious as the one I used above. Nevertheless, there is always an underlying basis for any question, we just don't recognize it much. A few weeks ago, I attended a workshop on how to be 'allies' to people with disabilities. Someone brought up the topic of 'intrusive questions'. People with disabilities get asked all sorts of questions all the time about their disability and are thus made to feel like they are 'weird/odd/ugly/abnormal'. The facilitator asked us to always ask ourselves this before asking a question about someone's disability: "Why do I want to know?" and he answered "If you just want to ask in order to fulfill your curiosity, DON'T ASK" (As it is a really selfish thing to leave someone feeling like crap solely for the purpose of fulfilling your curiosity) So my point here is to ask people to reflect on whatever it is that they'd like to know. Why is it that you're asking this question? What assumptions does this question carry with it? Are the assumptions that underly this question going to deeply affect those at which these assumptions are made about? If, once you've asked yourself all of these and still decide to ask your question as you don't see the possible harm it may cause, then please ask away! *** How can we expect people not to react to certain questions? Speaking as an SP, I have recently realized how difficult it is to live in a world that hates sex workers as much as ours does. Being treated like I'm immoral, made to feel dirty and unworthy of attention and value, having to fight in order for my mom to see me in a positive light in the way that she once used to...all of this is draining on my heart. And so to log onto CERB and to find that these very same attitudes are taking place in the one place that I expect them not to, of course I'm going to be upset. Just because all of the things I've listed above are never explicitly said, it doesn't mean that they don't characterize a lot of the 'questions' that I sometimes see being asked in people's posts. So my point here is that WE ALL need to be more reflective. Both on the part of people who are being offended by questions asked (maybe jumping right on the OP isn't the best approach every time) and by the people asking such questions (think about why it is you want to know the answer, and what you're assuming by even asking in the first place. And then if you find that people are becoming upset with your question, take some time and reflect. Ask yourself what it is you were not seeing when you first asked the question and if you realize that indeed there is a valid reason for people taking offense than perhaps take some responsibility and offer an apology). I would like to end and say that I'm not exactly sure of the context in which the Original Post exists, but I interpreted his post as directed at very specific reactions to particular threads that have taken place in the last few months. I hope that all made sense and I'll try to edit this tomorrow when I'm more awake just in case it doesn't. With lots of love and compassion. Have a lovely night, Sky

:bj2: Apparently can't give you a huge smiley face, THAT was some good reading. I am one that believes all threads apply and should be welcomed. Be good neighbors and respect other opinions, but don't shit on someone's parade cause someone doesn't agree. Hey, if it doesn't break any rules, hurt someone's specifics feelings or is racist and all that jazz, then leave it in good standing. Some people have different ways of looking at things and that shouldn't be frowned on just because it's not their cup of tea, suck it up! I've had some pretty interesting and far off conversations pre-sex, so no one can really say some threads don't apply here

I wasn't about to touch this topic with my 10 foot pole (:p)......but on the other hand...... A wise man once said "Can't we all just get along?" Another saying goes "Let's just agree to disagree"....and my personal fave "Opinions are like assholes....the world's full of them"....ok maybe that last one's not quite right but that's my interpretation of it. Point being...as long as actual human beings visit this site....there will be disagreements. As long as actual human beings are posting threads there will be threads that some enjoy...and others can't stand. Bitching (more than once) about the threads you don't like....or bitching (more than once) about the people who don't like your threads.....accomplishes absolutely NOTHING. Zip. Zero. Nilch. 1 of the negative persuasion. All it creates is what we have here.....a vicious cycle of a back and forth bitch fest that just lowers the tone of the site. What is this? High School? Pretty sure you have to be over 18 to join this site, no? Sorry if I'm coming off as a smartass but FFS people enough is enough. If a thread that offends you but falls within the posting rules of this site, ignore it and move on. If it's breaking any rules report it to the MOD. By all means post your opinion about it, but don't expect your opinion to suddenly change everyone's mind about it and there's no reason to throw a friggin' hissy fit when it doesn't. Just move on. And to the people bitching about the people bitching about their threads (see what I mean about the vicious cycle bitch fest?).....you berating them for stating that they don't like your thread, even if they've done so more than once, isn't suddenly going to make them say "Hey...what an ass I've been! This thread is A-Ok!" Not gonna happen. All it accomplishes is further escalating the bitch fest. Just laugh it off and move. the. fuck. ON! There's no right or wrong party in a topic like this....just a bunch of assholes with opinions. (I'm not calling any particular person an asshole...just stating that we each have a little bit of "asshole" in us). Opinions aren't facts people. You can't convince someone that their opinion is wrong and yours is right....you can't look up your opinion on wikipedia and say "See? My opinion IS right!" because there's no such thing as a right or wrong opinion. So why bother trying? When someone disagrees with your opinion why does everyone automatically go on the defensive and go all "You're wrong dumbass"....."No, YOU'RE wrong, stupid"..."No, no, no....YOU are the one who's wrong, numb nuts!"...."I'm telling Mommy!! (aka Mod).".....that's pretty much exactly the kind of exchanges you people are having. And that's exactly how they come off. They're not the kind of exchanges of opinions that adults should be having. How hard is it to say to each other "I respectfully disagree but that's your opinion and you're allowed to it" and then just leave it at that?.....in other words.....just agree to disagree. The blunt nature of this post may earn me some negative rep points...oh well....It's my opinion and I'm allowed to post it. I don't expect it will necessarily change anyone's view...because after all...it's just my opinion and it's no righter or wronger than anyone else's. But I'm posting it nonetheless. Now I'm going to take my own advice and move on.

Did we really just create a whole new thread talking about another thread? A thread about a thread. Doesn't sound redundant at all. :) That's all sorts of funny. I don't think anyone here, but the Mod, has the right to stop a topic from being discussed. That said, I'm not sure all topics should be discussed. And, I think that common decency would dictate that those posting about any particular topic will take feedback from their audience rather than stubbornly proclaiming their right to speak. There does, in fact, seem to be a disturbing trend of territory marking in some of the posted topics, and I find that unfortunate. Some people seem to express a need to be recognized as some manner or authority or alpha. If ladies feel offended by the "best of" threads, they are entitled to express their opinion. If someone wants to post a boasting recommendation of an SP who has nothing to do with CERB, good on ya. Maybe let's not post it in the General Discussion area, is all that was being said. Let's all try and get along, shall we? We're more mature than this all would imply. This passive aggressive talking about a topic in a topic stuff is a little bit much. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

I'm usually very punctual for my forays into the hobby. I like to arrive on the dot, not a minute too late or too early. But for a very few ladies I've known, that doesn't apply. We've come to know each other well, we've become friends. We've become truly comfortable with each other. And our time together is much less about getting there and leaving on the dot. With these ladies, it's more about truly enjoying each other's company and the quality of the time that we have together. Recently I visited a lady who just told me to just drop by. I came a few minutes early, we chatted as I watched her get ready. It reminded me of a tale I once wrote a long time ago. I enjoyed rereading it recently. Perhaps you will too. bb .......................................................................................... (originally posted 7-6-2007) She was expecting me, and had left her back door unlocked. I turned the doorknob and let myself in. I closed and locked the door behind me, and felt the tenseness start to settle from my shoulders. Finally, after a long, hard day, I've arrived at her place. I take off my shoes and hang up my jacket, and loosen my shirt. I can hear her in the next room. I walk softly over the thick carpet into her home. I see her, putting on her makeup. My relaxation is almost complete, now. A smile starts to creep at the corners at my mouth. It might be the first one today. "Hi there." She turns to me, and gives me a quick hug. "Hi, Birdie." And there it is, that glorious smile I've come to know so well. She's almost ready, she's almost dressed. Or rather, she's as dressed as she's going to be this evening, in a short little black seethrough babydoll, patterned stockings, and a garter. Tight little pigtails. My goodness, she's outdone herself. I used to wonder why she was never quite ready when I got here. Why I had to wait while she put on her makeup or get dressed. But I've come to realize that there was never any need to get uptight. I've come to enjoy these last few minutes. The slow buildup of anticipation. Watching her get ready was a little like the slow and majestic unfolding of a butterfly out of a chrysalis. The waiting was like the start of so many dates that I had known. Real dates, with real girlfriends. And the truth is, there was never any rush. We had the evening to ourselves. She brushed on her eyeliner. Layered, deep, dark. She was transforming. She was becoming almost unrecognizable as the pretty, sweet girl-next-door that I knew from between my late-night visits. She was becoming the bad girl of my fantasies instead, and she knew it. And I liked it. No, I more than liked it. I relished it, she didn't do this very often. I turned, and set down the wine that I'd brought. I hunted up a pair of wine glasses and a corkscrew. I returned to see her put on her mascara, craning toward the mirror. Her lashes became full and rich and alluring, framing those incredible eyes. First one, then the other. I asked how her day was. I watched those powdered high cheekbones move, and she might as well have been reciting a phonebook, she had me in her thrall. I broke the spell with a shake of my head. I'd better pay at least a little attention to the conversation. I talked about my day, the traffic, the music that I'd been listening to lately. I realized I was staring again. I chuckled quietly to myself, and changed the subject. I fiddled with the wine and corkscrew for a moment, prying loose the cork. I sniffed the cork for a moment. A good vintage. She reached among several tubes of lipstick on her shelf and chose a deep blood red. I stared, transfixed, as she slowly rolled the incarnadine hue over her pursed, bee-stung lips. My imagination ran wild for just a second, and I felt a stirring below. No, that fantasy would become flesh, in not too long. Patience, my little friend. Ever the playful tease, she quickly deduced my situation and gave the front of my pants a little tweak as she brushed past me to the next room. A final brushing away of an errant strand of hair with her fingers, and a quick puff of perfume. She turned toward me and looked just radiant. The grin on my face was threatening to become permanent. I reached out for her and gave her a small hug. "Wine?" We walked into the bedroom. It was the end of the beginning, and the beginning of the end of waiting. She's made a special effort to look good for me tonight. I can't wait to see what she else has in store for me this evening.

In Winnipeg or FedEx? ;) Kylie travels by request and I may be biased but I don't think I'm the only one on here that thinks she's hot. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=3558 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=3558&pictureid=22141

It's probably got a lot of views because it has a lot of posts, and it seems to me that the reason it has a lot of posts is that it's been quite comprehensively hijacked. As it happens, I quite liked the original post, have no issues with its presence here, and can't imagine it'll have any effect at all on which local ladies I choose to visit or how often I do so. Thanks for posting, Cato.

As strong a person as she is, for what she had to put up with (read Different Expectations thread), here is a hug for Isabella Gia RG

Good topic Bethany. Whether I'm seeing a lady for the very first time, or she's a lady I've seen before, I get the pre date nervousness. The churning in the pit of my stomach, my heart pounding, that last minute wondering if I have the room ready (if outcall) donation counted out correctly, for the 100th time, gift and tip ready...and then sitting in the arm chair/couch, making sure the tv is off, waiting for the knock on the door. All the while hoping I won't get weak in the legs and fall on my way to answer the door, or stumble and fall on my way to the incall The nervousness on the first date, well it's a blind date...the ultimate blind date, hence the nervousness. When seeing a lady again it's not so much nervousness as excitement, seeing a lady I like, and catching up on old times, I guess is the way I'd phrase it From a weak kneed guy who enjoys this lifestyle, and the nervousness is part of the excitement of the encounter, I don't want to avoid it...if I'm not excited and nervous, call the paramedics, I'm either dead or close to it LOL RG

Like I said before you're entitled to your opinion as I am. Take what I said anyway you want. Now, I am going to enjoy the rest of my days off with my family and friends rather than argue with people on an Escort Review Board about who is right and who is wrong. Opinions are like bumholes, everyone has one. All the best in the New Year! Lauren

I enjoyed reading this post. Damn what a fine looking woman. I'm going to step my game up ;)

Thanks for the clarifications Isabella. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with you requesting compensation for the time you set aside for him. Given that he refused, it is probably best to just let him go and write it off as if he was a no show. Obviously, you would never book another appointment with him. From a gentleman's perspective (clearly this guy didn't behave as a gentleman) he is certainly within his rights to leave if he is not comfortable. However, he should pay either a cancellation fee (perhaps half the booking) or the entire thing. Even in the example of a bait and switch, where the lady is clearly not as advertised (which obviously doesn't apply to this situation) it is probably advisable to pay something just to end the transaction and avoid any problems. Sorry for the way you were treated. That was completely unacceptable.

Thank you everyone for their responses. I just have two things to clarify. I wrote I was standing 'by' the door not 'i front' of the door. I know by has different meanings and yes it was still not wise of me to stand close to the door but NOTHING unless is self defense excuses someone being violent to another person. And it would be interesting to see how others would have reacted to being humiliated like that and deceived like that. I know I acted out of impulse which is why I did not ask (or at least I don't think I did) did I react wisely? I know I didn't. My question was 'What do you think is the right thing to do in a situation like this?' meaning temper/reactions aside if a man finds the lady he arranged to meet is not what he expected. What is the right way to handle with the situation? Also, without going into details I know for a fact this man has met other ladies from this site and that his nervousness was about not knowing how to handle the situation, so no guilt was involved and as my first post states his behaviour was due to him thinking I looked different. And as an update I have ben contacted by him offering to make it up to me, no idea what he meant by that as I do not want any interaction with this person ever but want to point out me asking for the donation, even when I spent time getting ready, etc. was not about the money was about the principle and me wanting respect to me and my time and since he did not do this, nothing offered by him would make it up to me. I also want to make very clear I never comfronted him, my tone as I asked for my donation and my body language right until he left were never agressive and there was no physical contact from me to him. One more time, I asked about how would be the right/fair thing to do in a situation like this not what I did wrong because as much as I explained it, each of you will imagine different than it really happened which means the only ones that can really know what I did wrong would be the man involved and myself and that if we remembered every sigle detail on that particular moment which I doubt is the case. The main reason that made me to post this is to know what would be fair to do in order to try to avoid someone else going through what I went through not to be reminded what I did wrong so please don't get offended but that was not the intention of this thread.

Thanks for your opinion, Berlin. As this thread has received 1071 hits as of now, I guess some members, at least, find it of interest, though. And it's not required reading for anybody :)

I think this is a great topic and even though I tour full time, the policy of a cancellation fee would still apply even if I was solely based in 1 city full time. I feel that if you want to charge a cancellation fee, you need to state it either on your website and/or in your confirmation email. That gives ample opportunity for the gentleman or couple to understand your policy's. This is something you need to be upfront about so there is no misunderstanding later. I dont think anyone would lose business because of implementing such a fee. We run a business like any other person and time is money. Like anything else, if you don't like a lady's policy or screening look elsewhere. I understand things come up last minute, but lets be honest here, how many car accidents really happen in one day? Your doctor charges $50 for an appointment cancelled within 24hrs, does he lose your business? Chances are no, do you bitch about it, No you don't you accept as his policy for an appointment that was cancelled on short notice. What I think some people do not understand is, most of us do not sit around all day waiting for our phone to ring and take any call we get. For those of us who screen and book ahead, all we want is our time respected. Implementing a fee for cancellation is a way of ensuring that our time does not get abused buy chronic cancellers or people with no respect to our time. I have only ever had to use the rebooking/cancellation fee 4 times in the last year, id say pretty good considering it only needed to be enforced in one city. Don't get me wrong, I understand life happens and people do have to cancel, but be respectful in the manner you do so.

Basic economic principles apply to the sex trade as well as to other industries. If you've got a product that no one wants or is satisfied with, you've got a problem. But if there's a demand and you can meet it, you're in business.

I've replied to this thread before with the link to the urban dictionary, but here it is again to help everyone out. http://www.urbandictionary.com/

for me texting or Email is OK for initial contact however to book an appointment or go into further detail I only use phone voice method.Pm is the worst way for booking as I'm not near the computer at all times and id likely miss you if you wanted same or next day arrangements. xoxooxo Kaylee