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Got stood up twice by the same provider (no names necessary) and as I was walking away from the failed second rendezvous there was a young homeless person. I gave him $100 and I have to say that while it was not the satisfaction I was looking forward to, the look on his face was very rewarding. Hope everyone's day is as good as mine now will be. :)

I would like to add that sometimes Mother Nature's "gift" comes without any warning and at an innapropriate time. It is entirely conceivable that she started her period while you were engaged in intercourse.

Peachy .... It doesnt matter to me at all.....I want to meet you sweetie not your education... It is not a prerequisite and I don't bring my diploma from high school or college for u to see so I don't expect you too either ;) Hell the way I talk around here I suspect many ladies wonder if I went to school at all. !! If there are fellas that make you feel embarrassed ....... they don't deserve your company. !! Just be YOU. !

I seem to recall that there were a few reminder threads started over the last few months... perhaps they should have all been handled in private too? Even though some subjects/reminders are redundant, especially the ones about hygiene and safety, these are always subjects that will keep coming back every so often. I also don't understand why when 'we', the ladies, start a thread and share our concerns it is considered acceptable but when a gentleman does it he gets treated in a hostile manner. Yes, I totally agree and it can definitely happen when we least expect it.

I agree with Sophia here. The more you try to defend yourself, the worse it get's. Sometimes it's best to just ignore comments that anger you and move on. It's always more admirable to be the bigger person. Besides, thick skin gets you through the shitty parts of life!

I read a comment left on an entry that I made earlier today in the Highlights of the Day thread that caused me to think a bit more about our CERB family. CERB - the more that I get involved with it and the more that I read contributions that are made in its forums has many of the characteristics of a family. This does not refer to a 'traditional' family, but also to the dysfunctional family, the family divided, the extended family and probably any other sort of family that one could devise as well. There is certainly a common denominator for all of us that explains our initial presence as a part of this family, but once involved, I see so often how people begin to interact with each other in ways totally apart from that commonality that we all have. These differences are many but I am thinking today of the ability of CERB members to support each other in the same way as families members might do. I have seen so many examples of this in the past year where people who have never met each other, and in all likelihood never will meet each other have gone out of their ways to help another member. I have seen the genuine welcomes made to new members. I have seen the assistance provided to those who are finding their way through this maze called CERB. I have seen the authentic best wishes sent for birthdays and milestones. I have seen people reach out to those who are in trouble, be it those who are fighting an addiction or those who are trying to cope with a death in their circle of friends or family or those who are fighting an illness or other personal trauma. Something as simple as sending a hug when it is deemed necessary, or sending a personal PM or email at just that "right" time can make a difference to someone else. I can see or sense how the determination and ability of individuals members to cope in certain situations can and has inspired others. For myself, CERB has become a family in its own right. There are only a few here who truly know how much they have helped me. In many cases members probably cannot even think that I might be referring to them when I say that or be able to think of what they said or did that impacted me in such a profound way. Sometimes we as individuals do not realize or are never made aware of just how important a little personal gesture can be in making someone feel better or even how that simple gesture might turn a persons life around for the better. Do you recall the young fellow who got that hot air balloon ride, largely due to the CERB members and the initiative of Chanel Reign with her Random Act of Kindness thread. That is something that he shall always remember. The CERB family makes a difference in so many ways. Good on the CERB family.

I shall echo what virtually everyone here is saying. Experiences with SP's are overall experiences. I know that I enjoy the company of intelligent people, not just intelligent women but intelligence however has little bearing on how far one has gone in completing a formal education. I have been taught by brilliant people and I have worked with and met brialliant people, many of whom unfortunately had the personality of a door knob. On the other hand I have met and worked with people who do not have all of those pieces of paper, but who are articulate, informed, and beautiful people to be with. I have some pieces of paper behind me, but I have met ever so many people who though missing those pieces of paper are ever so much better educated than I in so many ways that I am embarrassed at times by what I do not know and had sometimes never even thought about! So to answer your question straight out, what is important is the whole person, not merely one small aspect that is categorized by having letters after their name. Great topic idea and it shows intelligence and personal confidence to post it!

I am lucky as this monthy affair is quite regular so I am very aware. If a guest wants to book with me at this time I let them know I am only available for massage. I have never been asked why and its never awkward at all. My friend has been informed and he may make the choice himself. It's all about choices, I'm a huge fan.

Reading the responses to this thread gives me all sorts of warm fuzzy feelings. It's great to see so many thoughtful comments on the nature intelligence, and the things that make someone an interesting companion to spend time with. I dropped out of school when I was 16, to further my unconventional education. Like April Dawn, a lot of people are surprised to hear that about me. We have this cultural notion of a dropout as lazy, unintelligent, and unmotivated. What I find particularly lazy is the way that people are so quick to judge others for these surface details and not for their personality, skill, and insight. Formal education is just one way that people can learn and exercise their minds. Thank goodness it's not the only one- what a boring world we would have, then! Don't let these clients get you down. They are the ones showing their ignorance. By being the successful SP that you are, you have proved your smarts quite adequately, I think.

Being book smart doesn't make you life smart or street smart. Or emotionally intelligent, or creative. There are so many different kinds of intelligence to which education is irrelevant. Go with what you got :)

You Can Be Highly Intelligent Without Being Highly Educated You Can Be Highly Educated Without Being Highly Intelligent Education is not equal to intelligence, though it is often used as an external measure of it. Certain types of education can give you a pretty good idea that someone is at least of certain minimum intelligence (you can't actually be dumb and have an advanced degree in mathematics), but they don't provide a measure of how far beyond that minimum they are, and a lack of education says absolutely nothing about their intelligence. And, by the way, neither education nor intelligence prevent you from doing stupid things- As far as I know, nothing in the world stops that.

I do like smart women. That being said there is book smart and there is life smart. And who am I to judge? If you are open to it you can learn something from every single person you meet no matter their background, education or profession. Heck, I've risen to the top of a couple companies in completely different indusrtries with a Grade 12 education. Some stick their nose up at my lack of formal education and when they do....I just smile and cash their cheque :) Peace MG

To me education does not matter, and this applies not only to dates with wonderful sp's like yourself :) but to who I choose spend time with outside of this hobby. To me education is not a mark of how intelligent a person is. I've known people with university degree's that aren't exactly the brightest bulbs out there, and to be honest university doesn't exactly prepare you for the real world and having to deal with real life situations. Some of my best friends only have their high school diplomas but they are still what I would call very intelligent people. And you can always go back to school whereas some experiences you only get one shot at. What I value most in both sp's and my friends is the personality. I would rather spend my time with someone who puts a smile on my face, who makes me laugh, someone I enjoy talking too and all and all is a kind soul than someone who can quote the periodic table of elements. A killer body doesn't hurt either ;)

Cometman beat me to it. If your personality shines then that is the most important quality you could possess. Besides, your writing style indicates an intelligence that cannot necessarily be obtained in school.

Yes, this should be an easy one. I do not book while menstruating, or at least I will explain I am only available for massage and happy endings for the next 3 days. There are times however, a lady may think they are done the cycle.... and wham! It may start again from all the action. Or perhaps just started?

Samantha's response is sage, timely and appropriate - so appropriate in fact that I think she should be considered for appointment to the Senate! Heaven only knows that appropriate, well qualified, non political appointee candidates are in short supply...... Thank you Samantha G11

I am again one of the lucky ones with a great family and also very good friends. They ARE different however. It is probably not uncommon, but one tends to 'protect' family from burdens while friends get to be the ones that truly share and hear everything. True friends are always there, no matter what and will be privy to your feelings and thoughts. You are able to share with them and probably even impart advice or so called wisdom even when it is not asked for. That as I well know can cause problems but if it is given or received with good intentions behind the words then one can usually accept it. I know that I tend to 'meddle' less in the lives of my family and I resent it when they tell me the 'facts of life', more so than when a friend does the very same thing. Interesting when one thinks about it. I suppose that is because the friends know more of the reality of my thinking and feelings than family might. I would never wish to choose between them because both friends and family are important parts of my life.

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"Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune." Jim Rohn

So, I finally made it... For those who know me, you already knew that I was trainning very hard in sports (Tae Kwon Do). So, I showed up, couple of weeks ago in a very particular gym near where I work. To enter this gym, you have to be in very good shape. Really... And I got refused. How frustrating! Frustration, I believe, is the only bad part of life. And I don't know about you, but for me, I have huge issues dealing with it. IF I let it happen to often, it can wreck my whole day, or week... So, I trainned very hard for the last ... days. My body was hurting so bad, I could hardly use a pen! But I made it! I'm now registered in an official MMA gym, training with Guillaume Vigneault, Dany Caron, and even John Makdessi, on my way to the StrikeForce! During that period of time that felt like eternity, I've come to realize that whatever the objective is, or even a dream that seems inachevable, just the satisfaction of trying to reach it, just to feel that you are doing something to make it happen worth all the frustration you've been thru... Anyways, those are my words for today: Nomatter how stupid you may think your dream is, go thru all the frustration you have to to make it happen... XxXSabrinAXxX

Like Ive said before; this is Mod's livingroom, we are guests, act accordingly. Another rule I practice (tends to keep me under the radar - whew) is that I wont type what I wont say to your face and if I have something to say to you that might be negative or private or to answer a question, I take it off of the public forum. Just reread this. It sounds preachy, but Im not really trying to come off that way. :redface:

I've known people who had university degrees yet their spelling was atrocious. They would write the word "were" when they really meant "we're". I remember learning that in grade two. Or others who couldn't string a sentence together. I sometimes wonder how they made it through. I've also seen CEOs of large multi million dollar companies make the same mistakes using the word "weather" when they were supposed to use "whether". LOL. Their first language was English so there was really no excuse. I believe that it is not just education that can make someone go further in life. Personality, ambition and a positive outlook are major contributing factors as well. If you have life experience, it counts for something as I've also known people from high school who have an education yet they do not have the life skills and are still living at home at the age of 30. And they have the personality of a piece of wood to boot. I would not let your lack of education get in the way of your business. I have spent some time in this industry and learned a lot and have had many great conversations with clients. It is also the way you carry yourself. If you give off that vibe that you don't think you're good enough or smart enough, people pick up on that and the ignorant ones will try to use that to their advantage or make you feel stupid and worthless. I've never had problems in school but I don't really consider myself book smart. I felt as if I was just going through the motions because that's what you were supposed to do. To be honest, I really wasn't that interested in learning theory. I was more of a practical person who had a creative side. It wasn't until I finished high school that I discovered what I wanted to do. I am someone who has a lot of life experience from an early age and made me who I am today. If you want to discuss certain topics with clients, I would advise you to stay on top of current events. Reading the newspaper daily doesn't hurt either. Generally, if you're on a half hour or hour appointment, there is not a lot of time to test the intelligence of an SP. However, if you're on a dinner date and want to have a good conversation, ask questions ( what they do for a living and let them lead the conversation) or find something light to talk about. At the end of the day, SPs are not there to prove how smart they are. If you've created a name for yourself in this business, I think you're off to a good head start as our industry is cut throat. It takes time to establish yourself. By doing so, you will have proven to others that you are an intelligent person. Sometimes just being yourself makes you more interesting instead of having to prove how smart you are.

Not only do not all men understand these things, but most women know that we are sometimes unexpectedly surprised, too. It's a shame that this happened, for sure. The good thing is that he was using a condom which minimizes his risk not only of STI transmission, but also of contact with blood (which can also be a source of infection).

I will reiterate...not all of us have a regular, calendar counting type of menstruation. Nor do all of us have any warning signs of it's impending arrival. This could make for an uncomfortable or unpleasant experience (one I have not yet gone thru, touch wood) so bear in mind that the lady may not have been trying to deceive!

I will give you some insight Peachy as to my thought process on the matter of education. Personally I went to one of the world's best schools called King Alfred School in Barnet, North London. Then the Britannia Royal Naval College. Graduated from the Commando Training Centre Royal Marines. Have a degree in Political Science from the University of Westminster and a minor in English Literature. I'm planning on getting my master's in Poly Sci in the next 2 years. I'm also a member of MENSA, though I did do the testing so hungover it proves they'll hand those things out to anyone!!! Does my education make me more intelligent than the next person...absolutely not! A piece of paper does not make one intelligent. Case in point...my paternal grandfather had a grade 6 education, and he was the most brilliant person I've ever know!!! My grandfather grew up in a small town in Quebec at the turn of the last century. His father was killed in an accident when he was only 5, and he grew up incredibly poor. Yet despite his lack of education he was deeply intelligent. He could speak, read and write 11 languages. He could solve the most complex of engineering issues without assistance. It was he who said to me as a young boy, "do what's right, not what's easy". He had such a profound affect on my life, I thank him for it everyday of my life. Peachy, you seem to me to be incredibly intelligent, don't let education matter...it is important, but a piece of paper does not make one intelligent! :)

I don't have the formal education level I thought I would have for someone for my age, but I have noticed that doesn't really matter so much when it comes to seeing clients, being knowledgeable about other topics does help with conversation but you can get that from reading books and news articles. If someone is trying to "test" they are just being an ass. You can also go back to school if you really want to do it, and if that is something you really want to do then that journey will help with your own personal growth and no one else's

Wednesday Angela 10-11 aka "Amazing Angela" Amanda 10-11 aka "DDDpleasure" Kennidi 10-7 aka "Kennidikummings" Kelly 7-11

It's been a while now since I have been posting,reading,advertising on this site.I have to say,finally I am starting to "get it".I never read the fine print on anything,so I make alot of mistakes,but I also handle the consequences,as I have done here..But like when in school,when you first come into the playground you look around and see all the "kids",playmates,it takes time before you realize who is friends with who ,who plays fair who cheats,so on and so on.On this site there is a vast array of personalities,some simplistic,like mine,straight forward,playful,some that are favortists,some are very intelligent,fair minded,you get my point,all in all a pretty good variety.But then, why do I get the feeling in alot of my posts there are a few that seem to want to point out my short comings,mistakes,ect.If this site is about fairness,friendliness,"only say nice things",type of place,then why? If one doesn't care for someone or their posts then avoid them,as we all have a right to speak our minds,state our opinions,without condemnation,schooling anothers,or blasting anyone,lets just be nice.Anything I post is never directed at any particular person ,unless they are mentioned,I don't hide behind my words,and we all know by now, I say what is on my mind,without censorship,but also ,without hate ,finger pointing or blame.So like me or not,I do,and if you don't agree with my posts thats fine but please,no ganging up,pointing out my faults,I am aware of all of them,state your opinion,as I am interested in it,but don't condem mine.

There's a bill being discussed in Arizona which would make trolling (cyber bullying) illegal. It likely won't get passed, but the intent is laudable. Don't let it get under your skin, Cristy. Personally, I don't like forum attacks and if I do happen to do it, I try to pretend the person is standing in front of me and I attempt to admonish in a respectful manner. In your case, if I didn't agree with what you said, I'd likely say "Cristy, you've been a bad, bad, girl. Go directly to my room."

What's in a kiss... Passion...sensuality...sexuality...care...intrigue...mystery...kindness...playfulness...desire... your soul...fear...strength...love. A kiss is an expression of who you are, how you feel, it can be deep and passionate or kind and caring. It is a beautiful way for two people to express how they feel about one another. A way to make a child's pain go away. A way to show deep sexual desire between two people who know little about one another. There is nothing more sensual to me that a deep, passionate kiss between two people...I find it to be a very beautiful thing and an incredible form of expression between two people.

Hi there, you should always feel free to express yourself in whatever fashion you wish. This is an area where we can, and do, get feedback. Sometimes its kind, sometimes it isn't. Bullying does come in all forms, and you will get it on here, don't let it get to you. As long as your not maliciously hurting anyone, your posts are a reflection of you. Being in the same area as you, feel free to contact me if you want vent sometime. I've been around this business a long time, been there done that, lol No matter what you put in your posts, someone is going to comment, you can't please everyone so just please yourself. Take care and remember I am here.

110% agree Cristy!!! I have run into my fair share of "cyber bullies" the best thing to do in that case is really not give into the traps. If some one is bullying you, simply move on from that thread. Dont fule the fire, I suppose? Some say it shows weakness, but I think it shows maturity.

Instead of a dental dam or non-microwaveable Saran wrap, you can slice open a condom or a glove. The gloves are thicker than most condoms, though, but it's easier to cover a larger area with them. If the gloves are powdered, the powder rinses off very easily.

This happens to me ALL THE TIME. I'm just biking along and I realize I forgot to put clothes on. :) AM

Possibly the opposite of the Stray Cat Strut Rolling Stones - Stray Cat Blues http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDTe0aq0MkY

Give me a very few close friends (which I have) and I am all set. Every family is different. My dad is deceased (we were close), I am close to my mom, I have a sis I was close to (cancer last summer), a sister that is bipolar, and an asshole brother. Yes, friends are the best- at least for me.

My favourites usually prey on the not so computer savvy. Such as switching the "n" and "m" keys on the keyboard of a non-touch typist. Or adding various things to Words auto correct options like replacing "." with", dude.".

Ahead and enjoy yourself but always keep the right perspective :)

I'd have to say that family and friends are equally important. My family was always there for me growing up, and I can honestly say that I wouldn't be the person I am today without them. That being said you choose your friends, you don't have a choice when it comes to family, lol. And as much as I love my family there are times when we don't exactly see eye to eye on things. Baileydog was right when he said that if your lucky you make one or two really good friends during your lifetime. My best friends are practically family to me. We've been through so much together that it would be hard to call them anything other than a brother. I can honestly say they've stood by my side during some of the roughest moments of my life and for that I would take a bullet for them in a heart beat.

RG Great play on words :) And speaking of cats I thought this song might fit the current theme Stray Cats - Stray Cat Strut

My mother. She hate me to the point it's not really conceivable for me to imagine... I am moving this Friday, my father was suppose to help me, now she won't let him come over when it's the last time that I will see him. eeeh stress level going up again.

Perhaps it would be best if you created yourself a profile on a dating site, posted the above in your profile and looked for an NSA FWB type of 'relationship'? Good luck with your search!

Adept in spell-check, not so much. Additional Comments: This reminds me of a time way back in my naive youth that I posted an ad on a board. In the ad, I was offering free cunnilingus to any fine ladies that wanted a treat. My thinking was: what lady wouldn't want to get eaten out for free? I would certainly drop everything for a free blowjob. I thought I was offering up something really special for them, and since I like doing it, this was a win-win situation for both parties. Strangely enough, no replies. Not one. Befuddled, I thought, since I do enjoy doing it a lot, I might as well up the ante and make the offer irresistible. So I offered to PAY any takers $50 to do cunnilingus on them. Guess what? Still no takers. It took me a while but eventually I matured and learned some important lessons about the differences between men and women.

I have had female Clients. Usually they are single, tired of the "bar scene", or they just don't have the resources to meet other like-minded women. A lot of them are career oriented as well and just don't have time. I have not come across anyone yet who buys into society's attitudes and assumptions regarding same sex couples. Most Bi and Lesbian women are quite comfortable in their sexuality. I have had a Gent book me first, to see if I would be compatible with his wife while he watched. (She was aware as we had met for drinks a week beforehand). And then there are the bi curious. They tend to be the nervous ones and I always start our session in the livingroom chatting until they are ready to proceed to my bed. Essentially they are virgins and I treat them with kid gloves and proceed in a "may I?" fashion until they are totally comfortable.

Sometimes I think people ask questions like this as a joke, a way to get the folks here at cerb riled up. I guess it's a big world and it takes all kinds but the fact that someone thinks getting an escort pregnant is different than getting any other woman pregnant seems outrageous to me.

Well it certainly does put the fun in dysfunctional :) Peace MG

To put it bluntly, if there was no CERB I would not be an SP. On FaceBook yesterday I saw a "funny" that had a scraggly street walker standing by a post. The caption was, "If you have to ask, you can't afford it". I just shook my head, as there was that stereotype yet again. Here on CERB I know I am not alone. I know I am reasonably safe by my own practices and this site. And I definitively know I am not/and never was, that woman in the picture. Because we are small in population and a gov't town, that puts Ottawa in a unique niche. One we should be thankful for. Other cities have their unique qualities/problems as well. We may fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but when push comes to shove, we tend to come together when we need to. If that's not extended family, I don't know what is.

All I know is that I was down the street in Vancouver when the new Robson Street store opened - people who showed up nude were given free lululemon clothes