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First, we survived being born to mothers Who smoked and/or drank while they were Pregnant. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, Tuna from a can and didn't get tested for diabetes. Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-base paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, Locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode Our bikes, we had baseball caps not helmets on our heads. As infants & children, We would ride in cars with no car seats, No booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes. Riding in the back of a pick-up truck on a warm day Was always a special treat. We drank water From the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, From one bottle and no one actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and bacon.. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And, we weren't overweight. WHY? Because we were Always outside playing...that's why! We would leave home in the morning and play all day, As long as we were back when the Streetlights came on. No one was able To reach us all day. And, we were O.K.. We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps And then ride them down the hill, only to find out We forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, No video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's, No cell phones, No personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS And we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth And there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, And the worms did not live in us Forever. We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, Made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, Although we were told it would happen, We did not put out very many eyes. We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and Knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just Walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal With disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law Was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! These generations have produced some of the best Risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever. The past 50 years Have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all. If YOU are one of them? CONGRATULATIONS! You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good . While you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave and lucky their parents were. Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it ?

I am really curious as to why some of the "newer" members don't just pick up the phone, email or otherwise contact the Provider that they are interested in. You might be surprised as to what you can find out by initiating contact, I know that I have done so in the past numerous times when I have been curious about a Provider and have always been provided with info about services and even pics on request. Unless I am wrong I believe that any Provider on CERB or any other site would oblige... Rodehard

No, hun. It's absolutely, definitely time to walk away. By staying you are giving her permission to treat you this way. But we've all been there, in one way or another, and it doesn't matter what anyone said or did, we only see the truth when we're good and fed up with the excuses, justifications and dismissals. Bottom line: if anyone makes you feel bad, they're not worth your company. Redeeming qualities can be found in anyone if we look hard enough. But that's not always enough to stay involved with them. Posted via Mobile Device

I don't have a credit card and I only keep a little bit of money in my chequing account so my debit card is basically for emergency purchases. I only pay cash, which means I can never spend more than I have, and it means I actually have to put in the effort to get money if I want to buy something, so I only end up buying stuff that I really really want, or stuff that I need.

RG: I re-edited that after realizing it may have sounded... Cranky. Not saying this is the case, but oftentimes we overlook our own contributions to these sorts of things. What's that saying? We're always the hero of our own stories. Don't get bogged down in the immaturity of blame, because it is ALWAYS shared. Instead, disengage and stop playing the co-star of the drama. Posted via Mobile Device Additional Comments: It's not just highly emotional people who add to the drama. Dramatics require a cast and an audience. Just because you're not in a starring role, doesn't mean you're not involved. Posted via Mobile Device

I think begging the person to reopen communication is the wrong approach. It validates their position that you did something wrong, without having the opportunity to actually have a discussion of each person's feelings. As others have stated, it is highly manipulative, passive aggressive and designed to make you feel inferior in the relationship. It only works if you come back pleading for her/him to resume your friendship. I'd say very calmly to the person: "Look, I've clearly done something to upset you, and if I did I'm sorry. When you're ready to talk about it I'd be happy to discuss it. Just let me know when you're ready." And then walk away. Be prepared to wait, because this strategy has worked for the person in the past and they won't give up being in the superior position for equality easily. But, having said that, good friendships are always based on equality. Just make sure you're clearly indicating that you are leaving the lines of communication open and that the next move is theirs. I had an ex-girlfriend years ago who would get mad and storm off. I'd follow, begging her to stop and talk about the issue. Right out the door she would go. Later, when we'd talk she'd say I didn't come after her. I'd say, sure I did, right up until you left the building. She'd then tell me she stopped 20 feet outside the building and turned around, but I'd given up, and if I'd really cared I would have kept going. I told her, well, if you cared, you would have been willing to talk the first time I asked, not after I had to go through a humiliating public show of following you through a crowded building as you stormed off. For obvious reasons, an "ex" girlfriend. Porthos

Haven't seen any reviews on Cassandra so I thought I would post one. This is my first review/recommendation. She previously was known as Diana a few years ago although I never met her until recently. Had a session with her several weeks ago and it was great. Everything is as described in her ad and pictures are 100% legit. She has a very outgoing personality and makes you feel comfortable. She's fluent in Portuguese (I know cause I am also Portuguese) and she was a lot of fun. As the ad says, she starts off with a nice massage, then she went into a handjob/blowjob, and then finally we had sex and it was great. Only did missionary position as that appears to be her favorite and I also enjoy it. I made her cum at least once and then I came myself. Afterwards we went at it again! She did cum again but I was not up to the task myself unfortunately. But it was still great and I appreciate her taking me for a second time as she said she doesn't usually do that and once you cum it's over, even if the session only lasts half an hour. She didn't come across as a clock watcher or anything like that but as I said, once you're done you're done. As I mentioned her pictures are legit and while she is a bit pudgy she not obese at all and is also attractive imo and has nice breasts! She is also 33, not that it really matters but I usually go for younger chicks myself and some of you may also prefer that, but don't let her age stop you, I didn't. Like I said overall it was a pretty good session although I would have preferred some foreplay and kissing to start along with some slow undressing but it was still great, maybe something i'll try next time as I definitely would like to meet up with her again. I definitely recommend you check her out. She does incalls for only $170 and outcalls for $220 - definitely worth the price and cheaper than most other gals who charge $300 or more usually. Should also mention she is 100% safe, was clean and dressed sexy, and also offers you a shower afterwards if you would like. She has her own place that is easy to find and it is fairly neat and clean for the most part. Not sure what else there is to say but if you have any questions feel free to pm me and feel free to post your opinions on her.

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Thanks for the responses, everyone. This person gets really mad at me fairly often and says something so hurtful I end up crying. It feels like they're trying to 'fix' me because it's always about how I 'should' live my life. They seem to hold me to a different standard than they hold themselves. I'm not perfect- definitely not perfect, Emerald! ;)- but I always end up feeling like I 'should' change myself in order to get this person back. The silence feels like a super mean way of getting me to say 'You're right.' I've started to censor myself in regular conversation because I'm afraid of eliciting this dreadful silence. Oy. :( Probably time to walk away from this person but there's alot of love there.

Smart financial planning refers to always living below your means - never at or above. I'm very involved with investing, so now the idea of saving money is second nature. Granted, it wasn't always like that, but then again there are some lessons you have to learn the hard way. However, I digress. Here are some tips: Start by having an emergency fund; that is, try and save up six months worth of income and leave it in your bank account, and only use it for real emergencies. Next, get a financial advisor whom you trust. Open an RRSP and invest regularly, thus benefiting from dollar cost averaging. As a general rule, you usually get a third of what you invest in an RRSP back on your taxes. Take that money and re-invest it. When you get to the point where you are maxing out every year, open up a TFSA. Later, you may want to branch out into real estate. Right now the return on owning a property is better than that of the markets. The best way to do all this is to start small. Train yourself to live on less. track all your purchases and cut out unnecessary expenditures, like lattes, for instance. Try and save at least 10% of your income every month - more if you can. After awhile, you will find that you've developed good financial habits, and from then on your path to a secure financial future will be a piece of cake. :)

How many of us ladies have wonderful conversations with gentlemen, they send us pm's asking for details (which is great), we look at their profile, and look and behold, nothing there about their location. How many ladies would like to see the guys post on their profiles at least the province that they are in? I have had many wonderful chats with the guys, they have asked about services I provide, donations and restrictions.....all in all, good information to know, but it would be nice if we knew where they were located. A lot of times I will have guys ask me where I'm located, it's on my profile. So if any ladies feel the same way that perhaps the guys should put a location on their profile, let me know. I got messaged from a few that didn't even have gender listed, so I have absolutely no idea with whom I am trying to have a conversation. For those gentlemen that have their location listed, thank you.

Did you do anything to warrant their cold shoulder? You say that it's a friend doing it, so could be you crossed a line somewhere. If you are absolutely certain that you did nothing that could have ruffled their feathers, then odds are this person is hardly a friend worth keeping as this is classic passive-aggressive/avoidance manipulation. Sadly, many lack the emotional maturity to talk things through, and instead clam up and fester. (I've seen this with clients I've refused, I've seen this with parents, friends, and boyfriends.) Whatever the issue is there's three things that will clear it up (if both parties are willing). 1) Always make sure the other person knows what's expected in terms of behavior. 2) Make sure you extend the same courtesy you ask for. 3) Keep communication open, but don't use it as a weapon. If they don't want to talk, then don't bother with them because they are obviously more interested in their own emotional drama than with actually solving the problem. We constantly tell people how we want to be treated. By staying in this relationship, you are telling them you are okay being treated this way. Just make sure people know what your expectations are otherwise you're not giving them a chance to meet them. I find this to be especially true in this industry. Posted via Mobile Device

I never wanted to be owned by my work and planned accordingly. Lived below our means and saved money as I would never be in a pension plan. Have one vehicle (nice one but purchased used) and live in a 100 year old 865 sq foot home with a huge garden that we recently updated. Not rich but very secure and live well and was able to take the last year off to oversee the reno and make a career change. We never gave a darn about keeping up with the Jones or anyone else. To me it's about priorities, I recognize quality and choose to buy less and buy better. I'm lucky and appreciate that I am. Peace MG

I try to be a saver, although I can go on splurges with the best of them. One tip I find that works is not to keep a lot of cash on hand, when I keep it in the bank I tend to be more reluctant to withdraw it or use my debit card to buy things I don't really need. Also if you can get to the states and visit some of the factory outlets you can get some ridiculous deals on stuff. You'll have to stay overnight for a day or two though if you don't want to pay duty.

I like the fact that tokan is always positive and considerate in his responses,I also think his avatar is really cute,thanks for your contributions.

I am sorry I don't have the answers as to why, but can relate to the frustration, as I have dealt with this type of behavior,my mother does this to me from time to time,she gets angry with me and stops talking to me for weeks,months at a time.I guess it's how some deal with their anger,I am usually the one that gives in,because wouldn't it be awful if something happened to one of us in the midst,really all one can do is give in ,if you want to continue communication,or decide to remove them from your life,so it won't reoccur,I am sorry you are going through this.

To the kids born in the 90s and 00s, eat a bunch of food and do drugs and whatever you like while you're still young because you're going to be up to your eyes in debt from the pensioners, paying $5 a liter for gas, and wearing hazmat suits outdoors to protect from environmental damage when you're grown up.

Does it ever occur to anybody else that this generation who congratulate themselves on how great they had it are the same people who invented the Nintendo, the cell phone, the MP3 player, and pushed for all these safety precautions, pushed for participation medals for their kids, did the research on smoking etc? Sorry, but I just find it groan inducing to see one generation blame the generation it raised for how it turned out. They should pull a Michael Jackson and start with the man in the mirror.

I couldn't agree more with that you say fortunateone. I felt "compelled" to write a review. It was accurate and from the heart without exaggeration based on a phenomenal experience and I could tell it wasn't going to just be my specific experience as this was one wonderful lady in so many ways. My goal was to let people know what a wonderful person I had been fortunate enough to meet to help them decide if they were considering her also. Of course I did what I think only polite: I sent the review to the lady first and asked her it was okay to post it and any changes she wanted made to it would be seriously considered and the review wouldn't be posted at all if she did want it to be. She wrote back and said don't change a thing, but I wouldn't post a review at all without permission, approval and even agreement with the contents from the lady. That's not to say I'm going to let her write it or suggest changes to the point of making it inaccurate, but I think it is nice to make sure she doesn't mind a review and agrees with it's contents before it's even posted.

Being book smart doesn't make you life smart or street smart. Or emotionally intelligent, or creative. There are so many different kinds of intelligence to which education is irrelevant. Go with what you got :)

Why is any one worried about walking through the lobby to the elevators at the Hilton? Id feel more comfortable coming in that way as in case you did not notice there are cameras on every floor(even in the lower lobby by the parking garage) and outside the elevators, plus hotel security. The cameras are watched at the front desk so no matter how secret agent you think your being, you are being watched. Look like you belong, and pick company that can dress like a lady and you will never have any problems.

Not to be a butinski but I can't help but wonder just what is wrong with blowing though the lobby like you are on a mission to get to your room and absolutely belong there? (because of course whether you are the lady or her client you do have business there and do belong there). Am I missing something? Sneaking past (avoiding) the lobby could make you look less like you belong there on video surveillance, couldn't it? I recently visited a lady at her hotel suite and this hotel charges everyone for parking except guests who are staying there and as it turns out I was staying there and didn't even know it :) Sorry. Just asking? Curious minds want to know.

Thanks Emily for starting this tread;i can only ad to this that yes it is very important to read and follow instruction..Many times it happen that someone disregard my instructions..It lead to some frustration on each side and sometime end up bad as the person doesn't understand my lack of patience I have step by step how to book on my site,what to expect and i still have to hold the hand sometime of gents i have seen numerous time..It is very time consuming..it can lead to misunderstanding I can understand that everybody is new at a certain point however just remember that if you disregard instructions or reading site the outcome may not be positive..Every ladies have their way to work. VJ

Good thread Emily. Thanks for starting it! I think I'm pretty easy to get along with as long as I'm comfortable and feel safe. I have clear standards and requirements that I believe are more than reasonable. I have many clients who have never objected to my screening methods and I'm as busy as I want to be. To me, this means that the things I ask for fit within reasonable parameters. Some men are very reluctant to divulge information that may make them traceable in some way. They're entitled to their views. I don't think that anyone should do things they're not comfortable doing, whether they're a paid companion or a client. I reckon that if my screening requirements are too difficult for someone, he'll find another companion who may be more comfortable with him. What I know for sure is that no one is entitled to see me unless I choose to have the meeting. I turn down almost 75% of those who contact me whether because they want things I don't provide, seem to be time-wasters rather than serious clients, refuse to follow my screening or are disrespectful in some way. Some of the disrespectful ones object to being screened and, rather than saying so politely, insult me by pointing out that I'm just a whore, that I must be planning to set them up somehow or that I'm desperate. These guys are no loss to me! The ones who want to argue about or ignore following basic instructions, whether about screening or directions to my place, too often will inappropriately attempt to control other aspects of our encounter if we meet. I'm not interested in having power struggles with clients.