Gia Wren Marlowe

I think that one thing to keep in mind is that most providers who ask for a reference also have alternative screening methods if a reference isn't possible. So it's not quite the roadblock some have made it out to be. I would also say that it is not the case that providers who ask for a reference are not also paying attention to tone, manner, wording, etc. I do not believe most SPs substitute a reference for their own impressions, so I find it odd that it's presented as though there's this dichotomy - either she uses her gut or gets a reference. A reference isn't an excuse not to think for yourself. I'm sure most girls know that. But as to why they would be requested at all, I think that a very good explanation has been given already for why travelling providers use them, but I would also point out that references can be very helpful to someone new to the industry. It's fine to say that we can go by our gut alone, but generally it takes some experience to hone our instinct. Instinct is not some magical talent that some people have, it's not a sixth sense. It is data gathering and pattern recognition most of the time. It takes time to gather enough data to start spotting patterns and figuring out what sounds like a time-waster and who sounds like bad news. We've all interacted with people all our lives so we don't come at this with no data. But for most girls this is still a new way of interacting with people so they need time to learn. In the meantime, references are a second opinion that can help you figure out if your impressions are correct or not. I know that some people are proponents of the school of hard-knocks, but I think in this business the knocks can be pretty hard. For those who are not so new that continue to ask for references, I would simply say why not, if it has always worked for them? For many gentleman, obviously, it is not seen a hoop to jump through so there is no particular reason for them to change a working model. And, as I mentioned, most will offer to screen by more old-school methods if a reference isn't available. But honestly, the whole debate about references only applies to providers who do advance bookings. I don't see how a provider who takes short-notice bookings could ever be expected to contact and hear back from a reference in time. So I think there are just as many valid arguments to be made for not using a reference. I don't think anyone should be judged for using references, as though they are failing to use their own good sense and are making clients jump through hoops, nor do I believe it's ever fair to insinuate that a provider who doesn't require them is being reckless. I also believe that there are reasons a provider would choose not to give references as a policy. I won't go into them in detail, some have been mentioned, but I don't think it's really necessary to defend. CERB is very positive and I love that things can be discussed and debated but I get a bit frustrated, or maybe dismayed, to see people put down for their preferred (and effective) methods of screening a client.

I had an evening free of obligations when I noticed Il Re's ad this evening. My muscles have been tightening up in the cold and I thought a massage sounded great. He came to me, which is a big part of the allure, in my opinion. I could just stay in my cosy little home before and after my massage. It is so convenient and he is very trust-worthy and accommodating. When he arrived I opened a bottle of wine and put on my favourite cello music. Then I just relaxed while Mike gave me one of the best massages I have ever had. He easily found where there was tension hiding in my body and took the time needed to work it out. I didn't require any adjustments to his pressure and the massage was full-bodied and perfectly balanced. I had a hot shower after and feel just amazing right now. It was just a really great way to treat myself. I certainly recommend the experience and plan to repeat. Mike is very professional and friendly and seems to have a very natural sense of your boundaries. And I really cannot stress enough the convenience of him coming to you.

Happy Birthday, Pete! I hope you're having a fun day!! ;)

I liked that Dexter was in the maze. I also think it's interesting that the main villain is unexpectedly gay and determined to avenge his fallen lover. I'm not sure what I think of the new blonde girl. Time will tell.

I just started using chat in the last couple of days. I find the lines of text visually hard to follow, to be honest. But it's fun in its way. If you can keep track of who is saying what to whom then I think it can be a great way to talk to other members in real time and get to know them a bit better. I am hoping I will get the hang of it, but it might not be for me.

It's not just that there's no escape from it at home. If it's cyber bullying it can follow you your entire life. These kids feel like their lives are permanently damaged and unfortunately there is some truth to that. But I agree that I'm not sure what laws would really fix it.

I was also happy to see Lewis killed. I was wondering how tedious he was going to get so it was funny to see him killed off so early. I enjoyed being mislead a bit into thinking that he might be a major villain for this season. One cute bit of irony was when Dexter said to the newest big villain "I hope you find what you're looking for." Oh Dexter, he's looking for you. :)

That makes much more sense, lol, sorry for that. I thought you were refering to dating sites. O.O It seemed so out of character with the general tone of your posts so it surprised me. I am actually very relieved that I misunderstood you. Thank you, OutForFun, for pointing out the intended meaning so quickly.

Ouch! If you are not paying her and not pleasing her, what does your free lady get out of it? It seems like it's better to see a paid companion for that. It's just my opinion, but that seems a bit harsh.

I don't think it's selfish. There is still a give and take in these exchanges since the lady is compensated for giving you pleasure. Some gentlemen enjoy taking time to see to a lady's pleasure since that is part of the fantasy for them. But we are fulfilling a fantasy, either way. Both are legitimate.

Sending hugs back to Gabriella! And to Castle: I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. :( Here is a special hug for you. I wish I could give you comforting hugs in person. Take care!

I would be interested in knowing this, too. It doesn't seem like MPs mention that they offer services to ladies, or a least not that I've noticed. It seems like a lot of women would be interested if they realised the service were available.

I love anklets and toe rings but I often find them impractical so I seldom wear them for that reason. I don't find that they necessarily have a sexual connotation, although I do find them sexy.

I like Serena because she always seems positive and happy. :)

Hi Peachy! I use twitter to tweet articles I've been reading sometimes and to have conversations with other escorts and friends. Granted there's a bit of a staccato nature to the conversations but it keeps them light and fun. You can also link twitter to your website and CERB profile. That way even people who aren't on twitter can see what you've written or shared. I've had people in the past take a special interest in me because of articles I've shared, and I know a lot of girls use it to post their availability which must help with bookings, too. Some also use it to shared candid photos, which is fun. :) I'm not on too often so I don't find it's too much of a hassle to maintain. I think you would like it. But I wouldn't bother with facebook for the reasons others have mentioned.

I like Isa for starting this thread. :)

Looks like I'm spoken for, ha ha. But just to make it official; I offer duos with Nathalie Lefebvre and Gabriella Laurence.

There's one thing that is really bugging me about the season premiere, though. There's just no way you can kill yourself like that with a sword. Masuka mentioned hari kari, but in that case samurai would stab themselves in the gut (where it's softer and you have a better angle). You cannot get a sword through your sternum. To do that he would have had to have fallen on his sword (if you've heard the term fall on your sword - that's what it means. It's suicide, not clumbsiness, lol). Lying down and impaling yourself --while on fire!!-- is just not going to work. But everyone bought it right away. Those are the really sloppy things about Dexter that get on my nerves. I love a lot of the subtle things they do and I love the characters but I find that they ask us to suspend belief a little too much on things like how Dexter gets away with his kills.

It occurred to me that it was a dream, as well, but I think it probably isn't. It's interesting watching Deb trying to deal how she feels about what she has seen while at the same time watching Dex go about business as usual. And poor Deb. She just can't fall in love with a guy without him getting killed or turning out to be a serial killer. She has no luck at all.

I think what you need to do is convince her to come onto CERB and work things out for herself. Whatever her writing skills, she needs to be asking these questions on her own behalf. Given that you are a hobbyist I don't think you'll have a lot of SPs willing to give you the inside scoop on how we run our businesses or how we protect ourselves. Encourage her to get in contact with other Escorts herself. I think that's the best you can do if you're concerned about her.

I think that depends on the type of ad and the context in which the phrase is used. I have the term "open-minded" on my website and in some of my ads. In these instances I'm using it to describe my personality. So in my case it means that I am open-minded in the discussions and conversations I have with others (the common usage of the term). In cases where the focus of the ad is a bit more down and dirty, it probably means that she doesn't want to get into listing all her services, but she hopes you won't be too shy to ask about what you want. So I think your interpretation is pretty fair in many cases. Hopefully if there is a more specific way the term is used then another gentleman or lady will enlighten us, both. But I've found that there is almost no industry-standard language other than the very obvious acronyms. Most of the rest is up for interpretation.

My guess is that it would be less confusing for clients to have the same name on both CERB and the website.

My dog sleeps on my antique velvet chair when she has a perfectly good, nearly identical chair to sleep on that is neither antique nor velvet. :(

Christina Hendricks. Or more specifically, Joan from Mad Men. I like those saucy, self-reliant women.

Well, to put it in perspective, if a guy had come on and said that being a "------" isn't a real job and hopefully no one is planning on doing it past the age of thirty, and then he had made some comment like "I don't care about getting respect from a bunch of ------s" -- well, I think he would have gotten suspended pretty quickly, too. Whether he were in his 20s or not, I don't think he would have had a lot of defenders. Being an SP who uses this board to advertise I think it's fair if she's held to a HIGHER standard than a hobbyist, not a lower one. That's just my take. I agree that she's young and people change their minds and attitudes over time. But I think part of that growth sometimes involves taking your knocks for your mistakes, and I believe that's what happened here.