Gia Wren Marlowe

CERB is a tough place to defend this, in the context of working as an escort, but outside of my work I do not like to be sexualised by strangers wherever I go. Even if you don't understand it I think it's pretty clear that women do not find random bum-related comments complimentary, so no man should expect to be thanked for a comment that he knows will not be appreciated. I will say thank you for compliments on my dress, but not my ass. That's just telling men that I like it when they objectify my. I understand it, because I view women sexually as well. But I don't thrust my sexuality at them while they are shopping for lettuce. I don't want to single out poor boomer, but I want to address the idea that women dressed in a sexy manner are fishing for these "compliments". It really opens a can of worms. Should every man she passes tell her what he thinks of her body? If it is okay to say your ass is spectacular is it also okay to say, "Wow, I would love to fuck you"? Where do we draw the line? How many men get to talk about her ass or tits in the grocery store before she's allowed to stop thanking them? If it is not acceptable for every man should say "great ass" who gets to be the exception? Should she wear jogging pants if she doesn't want men commenting on her body? (Btw, this doesn't work.) How sexy is sexy enough to warrant being objectified publicly by strangers? I am an escort, I am far from a prude, and I HATE getting these kinds of comments from men when I'm going about my day. Nuances make a huge difference, and there is a not-so-subtle nuance between smiling and making lewd comments about a woman's body. It is very easy to smile and say nothing, and that is always recommended. Women have said again and again, for decades (probably centuries) -- with near perfect unanimity -- that we do not like these comments. I think you can take us at our word that we're not fishing for them, no matter what we're wearing. I hope that didn't come across as too negative.

There is a time and a place for paying those kind of compliments and costco is just not one of them. You did well to resist the urge. Smiles from strangers are appreciated by most women, I believe. But lewd remarks from strangers walking up to you out of nowhere are generally not popular. It is pretty objectifying. You probably wouldn't make a girl feel complimented, but rather dehumanised. Appreciate her quietly -- we all look and there's nothing wrong with that. But don't walk up to a woman and make any remarks about her body. How is she supposed to respond to a comment like that? She knows, and she's probably happy you enjoy how she looks. But she doesn't want to hear your opinion of her ass while she's going about her day.

I'm always happy to read your posts. When I see your name come up as I'm scrolling down a thread I'm already conditioned to feel a sense of contentment. You are always well-reasoned and kind, responding to everything with thoughtfulness, compassion, and good humour. You are a true asset to CERB and we are lucky to have you in this community. I'm looking forward to 6000 more ramblings from you. :bigclap: With love, Georgiana

I've had fun reading about the quirks and trivia of other CERB members, and I'm fairly new to the community, so I thought I would write my own post. So, some funny and interesting things about me. . . 1. I learned that I have a passionate love for website design when I started making my companion website. I have several friends who actually do web development for a living, and I wouldn't let them touch a single line of my stylesheet. I have been learning as much as I can about web design ever since, and have built a few sites and even started freelancing this year. 2. I love discussing philosophy and physics (from a layman's perspective, unfortunately, as I neglected physics in school). I think any idea of humanity should take into account all of nature and should be skeptical of exceptionalism. 3. I have a dog. I talk about us as though we are a pack (a very, very small pack) and I never refer to myself as her mom, but as her alpha. I think if she understood, she'd probably find it quaint, since she has been part of a real, semi-wild pack. 4. I am TERRIBLE at selecting a favourite anything. I have to break favourites down into sub-categories with qualifiers, and on top of that a caveat that tastes change. In art I never know if my favourite thing is the one that had the most influence on me or simply the thing I enjoyed the most. I love Rococo, but it's never brought me to my knees. 5. I used to have an average fear of spiders, but so many large ones have invaded my living quarters (or crawled off trees and onto my face) over the years that I'm now pretty nonchalant about them. I usually capture and release. But if I think I've spotted the same one in my house again I often kill it (as mercifully as possible). 6. My nonchalance regarding spiders is counterbalanced by an irrational aversion to moths. I will run away from those powdery, fluttery demons. 7. I don't like the CERB emoticons. Smiley faces with lipstick and/or feet creep me out. 8. I lost my virginity in a threesome when I was 18 years old. 9. I do not own a microwave. I used to have one but it died and I never replaced it. I only miss it when I want to reheat coffee. 10. Despite being an apparent coffee snob, I am guilty of reheating coffee. When there is a microwave available I will use it, but at home I put it back in the pot and turn on the element for a few minutes. There you have it, a little about me. I hope I've amused you for a minute or two. I look forward to reading more posts as the thread grows. Cheers! Georgiana

She beat me to it, and I was worried that nominating her in turn would just look like mutual masturbation. But then I realised that CERB is not a place where mutual masturbation is frowned upon. So here she is, my Gorgeous Goddess of the day: Nathalie Lefebvre! She is beautiful, philosophical, genuine and inspires instant admiration. Her positive energy and natural warmth are wonderful to be around. The gentlemen have some nice things to say about her, too: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=53274&highlight=nathalie+lefebvre Cheers, Nat! xoxo

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Hi April, I sent you a PM, and I hope that helps. I also wanted to mention that when you are trying to set things up or troubleshoot problems a google search of whatever issue you are having turns back impressive results. I'm not sure how tech savvy you are, so it's hard to know where to start with advice.

I read this article today and thought I would share it with the lol cat lovers on CERB. http://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2012/05/are-lolcats-making-us-smart/256830/ And also, I went out and found a lol cat so I wouldn't be booed off the thread.

Yes, we might end up saying some similar things to each other at times, and expressing similar sentiments here and there. But there's no possible excuse for having whole paragraphs copied -- word for word -- from another provider's site or ads. I put A LOT of work into my website, and even turned down some well-intentioned offers by a writer friend to help me with it. Everything in there comes from me and who I am. While I feel it is far from perfect, I am still very proud of my content. I can't imagine how angry it would make me to see my words copy-and-pasted somewhere else. I, like a poster above mentioned, would be more upset by my words being stolen than my pictures. Many of we ladies actually value our minds and personalities over our appearance. When you try to steal our personality for your advertising, you offend us very deeply. I am sure that some women simply make errors by not realising how important this is to other providers. But after being told once, that should set it straight. I've seen ads and sites written by girls who obviously don't have the best handle on writing. But they are STILL able to portray their own personalities well enough that I think they sound like wonderful, enticing companions. You do not have to be a brilliant writer to write your content. But you do have to be honest to show your personality. The bait and switch makes no sense to me. How do you expect to maintain regular clients when you are not at all what they were expecting when they booked you? I just don't get it.

I've heard of escorts offering a prepay option, actually, but I believe the dates are worked out at the original time of payment (ie. - every Monday of May), and that it's fairly short term. I've never heard of a running tab, that does sound like a bit of a hassle.

It would be nice if Explorer would go the way of Netscape (simply so developers would not have to deal with it). But going by the analytics of most of the websites I supervise, it's still the most commonly used browser. Chrome usually comes in fourth (again, speaking only from my own experience). I love this this, though, and I might steal it to send to a friend.

I'm not sure anyone is suggesting that this is an SP-only problem. I think they're pointing out that entrepreneurs should follow the appropriate business model for the industry they are trying to enter. Coming on to a forum like this and cold call messaging service providers displays ignorance of the industry, since that is not how things are done here. So you don't present yourself as a legitimate business man when you don't seem to understand the industry. That was my point, in any case. I don't find it insulting to me as an escort, so much as I find it unprofessional. I find the TONE sometimes insulting, only because they have suggested that I may be ignorant of what I'm now legally allowed to do. The irony is a bit galling. I'm also not impressed that I'm supposed to trust my safety to someone who doesn't know the business. But I understand that the insulting tone of unwanted business solicitations is not something unique to this industry. I never meant to suggest otherwise.

I've also found this a bit insulting. But more than that, I find that it shows extremely poor knowledge of the industry and a total lack of professionalism. First, this is not a place where door to door (or inbox to inbox) solicitation is appropriate. If you are applying business models from other industries without bothering to learn what works here, you are not inspiring my confidence. It looks like trying to make a quick buck, not like someone trying to run a serious business. Second, it does not take into consideration what the original poster pointed out, which is that escorts have been running successful and safe businesses for ages. To come in with complete ignorance of that, and then expect me to trust you with my safety, is ridiculous. If you know nothing about the business and yet you are so sure of yourself that you email and pm me to offer your "extremely valuable and necessary services", well, let's just say I don't take you seriously. I am in no way inspired to hire these people. My impression of this has been of young men patting themselves on the back for the brilliant money-making scheme they just discovered, rather than serious business people who offer a valuable service. This is never an image you want to project. So for those offering these services, it is perfectly valid to do so, but bear in mind how you present yourself. Cold calling is a bad idea.

I would have to say that Aliens is the most secretly feminist movie I have ever seen. Ripley is not only smart and tough, but maternal and kind. She is still feminine and sexy while being able to take charge in a crisis. I especially love that Ripley is able to be strong without the men being made to look weak and incompetent by contrast. The female child in the film is also a survivor, and there are a few other strong women mixed in there. Not to mention the main alien villain is the colony queen. :) But most of all I like it because I find that it's a very good film for it's genre even without bearing in mind how well women are portrayed in it.

I agree with the original post. I think that both men and women sometimes claim that an assault took place when they are actually trying to dodge responsibility for a consensual act which they later regret. I also agree that it's appalling a woman would say that if a man's aroused you can do whatever you want with him. I do know of both men and women who have been assaulted while drunk. I also know a woman who said no but who felt too shy and embarrassed to actually push the man touching her away. She was quite young, but she was thinking that she might have flirted too much and would look stupid for refusing, or that she would make a scene by being "too prudish". So she let it go. I can easily see this happening to men, too. So I think it's entirely possible for a woman to assault a man while he's drunk, or to push sexual contact on him even when she can see that he doesn't actually want it.

Walking my dog along the Rideau River on a beautiful day, with a soy maple latte in hand, while one of my favourite pieces of classical music plays on my iPod (Handel's Passacaglia in F, if you're curious). Little moments like this always give me a warm and glowing sense of contentment.

It's getting a little away from the real meaning of Murphy's Law, but whenever I buy a large basket of vegetables from the farmer's market I suddenly get a lot of dinner invitations from friends. Inevitably half the veggies rot in my fridge. This is especially a problem when I buy fresh basil, since it is my favourite.

I find that FireFox is better for web developers, mainly because firebug is better than what comes with chrome. But when not working on a website, chrome is the one I prefer for browsing. It really depends what you're looking for. If you just want a fast easy browser I would stick with chrome. You can import your bookmarks by clicking on the customise icon at the top right. In the bookmarks menu there is an item called Import Bookmarks and Settings... I hope that helps. :) I think the other posters made some great points, as well.

I think you should only post what you're comfortable with. Your picture is very nice. If you wouldn't feel compromised by posting pictures that show more of you then I'm sure everyone would be more than happy to see them. ;) But if you feel like it spoils the mystery then don't do it. I don't post nude photos because I want to leave something for only my clients to see (although my pictures still show quite a bit). It's really just a personal choice. I love looking at pictures of beautiful women whether they're nude, fully clothed or somewhere in between.