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This screenshot from Nat's video is pretty artistic and sexy.

Drumming Song - Florence + the Machine

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Alan Rickman Christina Henricks Josh Hartnett Cate Blanchett Kiefer Sutherland Gillian Anderson

I like my coffee strong and black. I also drink my tea without milk or sugar. I prefer green or herbal teas over black tea. I do have a weakness for ridiculous soy latte concoctions at Starbucks, but I agree with someone who told me he considered them milkshakes more than coffee, haha.

Unaccompanied Cello Suite No. 5 in C minor by J.S.Bach, performed by Yo-Yo Ma. This is the first time ever that I have started with No. 5 (my favourite) rather than listening faithfully through from the beginning of No. 1.

When I was a small child I had a big crush on Darth Vadar. I didn't know much about anatomy back then, and I thought he was just wearing badass armour, anyway. As a teenager, I fell for Sephiroth. He was anatomically correct, as far as I knew (in fact, the creators seemed to imply that he was very well endowed, as you can see from the picture below), so I would say I'd made some progress by my teen years. He was completely crazy, but I suppose his badassery made up for it.

Shopping with Nathalie and re-decorating our place. :)

I came across this set by Maison Close and thought of Genevieve: Unfortunately it's an older collection, but the Belle de Nuit collection is nice, too.: http://www.maison-close.com/collection-belle-de-nuit/

Thank you for organizing another social, Angela! I will be there if spots are still available.

Just bought this: Sorry if it's already in here somewhere. I'm very excited for it. It's going to be a long week waiting for it to arrive...

Like Genevieve, I can have one orgasm after another. While orgasms are a sure sign that things are going well, allowing a cool-down is definitely ideal. The quality of the sex really isn't defined by the shear volume of orgasms. I prefer to be given a chance to recover and enjoy the moment after a while, rather than being treated like a wind-up doll. Fortunately, most men seem to intuit when it is the right time to switch things up. And those that do get over-excited have always been polite and understanding when I ask to shift the focus back to them for a bit. ;)

I love the mid 18th Century, mainly in Europe. It was the Age of Enlightenment, and on top of the popular interest in philosophy and science, there was a strong libertine character to the era. Plus the look! So elaborate and striking. I would not want to live in the 18th century. But I love studying it in all of its glory and horror. I prefer to live now. I also feel like we are living (in the west) in this magical, gilded society. I wonder if things will keep getting better, or stay the same, for some time or if it will all come crashing down in the next couple of generations. "Apres nous, le deluge"? I'm just glad I'm lucky enough to be in this time and place.

I have always loved the smell of amber resin or amber essential oil. You can find some good amber incense but it's a bit harder. I've never really worn perfume, but I love how some of my moisturising lotions smell. They have natural ingredients like oatmeal and cocoa butter. They create mild scents that I always find very pleasant. I'm not sure if they appeal to men as much, though.

Here are a few I thought of: Lola Avery Lola Marceau Lola Roux Lola Malone

I understand that you want to find clients who can pay your rate regularly without complaining about the expense. That is the benefit of "upscale" clients. But what makes this job actually fulfilling and enjoyable are the clients that you click with. They can come from any walk of life. Whether they save up for a couple of months to see you, or throw away a few hundred dollars like a used facial tissue, you will derive your happiness from how they treat you. If you get enough HAPPY clients, your business will do well. Whether they are technically upscale or not. The advice to market yourself as best you can and to screen for clients that will click with you is the best advice you can get. Don't worry at all about upscale. Good clients are good clients. Leave their budgeting up to them. :) If they can pay your rate they are upscale enough for you.

Nathalie Lefebvre offers Thai massage. lovely-nathalie.com

I saw this and I thought of this thread.

I was recently told I look like Ashlee Simpson. I didn't actually know what she looked like so I had to google her. I'm not sure I see it, though.

My goddess of the day is Emily J. She is spreading the love not only to hobbyists, but to other SPs. Emily is funny, smart and friendly. Yay, Emily!

I'm not sure it's new to suggest that good people do bad things (in fact, I'm sure it's not). I think it's great to look at why good people do bad things, so I'm not suggesting this premise is wrong or that it shouldn't be examined. In fact I applaud that kind of analysis. But I thought the point of the article was to suggest that we have a culture which makes it easy for "nice" men to rape women without realising that it's rape. And the issue I have is that they're making their case badly with an example that doesn't prove their argument. The article is suggesting that our culture convinces men that sex is the end game in a lot of interactions with women and that consent is implied in all kinds of ways. So the nice guy who had sex the unconscious girl had reasons to think that it wasn't rape when he was doing it. That's the argument they seem to be making. I think there are plenty of cases where a conversation about explicit consent and the definition of rape should be debated (as mentioned by an earlier poster), but I just don't think this is one of those cases. If the argument were that our culture teaches men that sex is just for them, and a woman's enjoyment isn't important, then I could see the point they were trying to make. At least it would make sense in this context, as there doesn't seem to be any understanding on the part of the guy that the sex he had with said lady should have been enjoyed by her as well as him. From what is mentioned in the article, he seems to have just penetrated her without any preparation while she was unconscious. I just don't see how anyone, drunk or not, could think that a woman would actually be able to enjoy that. But that's not their argument. What they are actually saying that all the signals he received led him to naturally believe that she wanted to have sex with him. I don't think it's really debatable that he would reasonably assume she wanted to have sex at some point, but it doesn't square with the idea that she wanted to have sex with him while she was unconscious. I don't see how our culture made it hard for him to understand that, based on the signals he was getting. It just doesn't follow. The issue I'm having with the article is that the case is poorly made because the example they use is a bad one. These two people didn't miscommunicate, they weren't both drunk but conscious, there was simply no consent or implied consent. There are LOTS of debates to have about rape. This one is poorly done. That's all I'm saying. I guess I am also getting my back up, truth be told, about the idea that sex with a woman while unconscious is something a nice guy would do just by mistake. I know that no one is saying it should be forgiven, or that it isn't rape or isn't wrong, but the argument in the article is that he didn't understand it was wrong when he was doing it. The argument is that it's confusing and hard to tell. I don't think it is and I'm frustrated that so many people (in general, not on here) think it could be. So I'm not trying to suggest that anyone who finds the article interesting food for thought is excusing rape, nor am I'm trying to present myself as a simpleton who sees things in black and white terms. But is this really the case we're going to use to suggest that consent is hard to figure out? (P.S. sorry that all of my posts lately are a mile long...)

Oh, I know. But I have issues with the case she used to make her point. I don't see a discussion about mixed signals having much to do with penetrating an unconscious woman. Just saying that nice people can do bad things isn't anything new. I'm sure a lot of people check their empathy at the door in some situations. But it's not really relevant to the argument the author is making as far as I can see. In terms of boycotting the good man project, I have no opinion on that. I'm just commenting on the article in question. I have a feeling the good man project is a mixture of well-made cases and bad, just as any other blog or news source.

The one thing that didn't seem to be addressed in the article is how the nice guy thought that a woman who was asleep actually wanted to have sex with him at that moment. I understand why he would have thought they were going to have sex eventually, but I don't get how he could think she would like what he was doing and wanted it when a woman is ASLEEP. What is she going to be enjoying, exactly, while she is unconscious? I really feel like this was the wrong case to be having the debate around. It's not a case of them both just being drunk. She was unconscious and apparently that is not debated at all. The man who put his penis inside her agreed that she was unconscious when he did it. So I think that talking about all the mixed signals he was receiving due to cultural factors is a bit moot in this case. Of all the time they spent together, flirting and drinking and all of that, he chose a time when she was passed out to penetrate her. How can he have thought she wanted that? I understand that one will have a reasonable expectation that a series of flirtatious interactions may lead to sex. I don't get how that leads to penetrating someone while they are asleep, and then being so confused as to how that wasn't okay. I think if you really have the expectation that a woman is going to have sex with you because she actually wants to, then you would also expect that she needs to be conscious when the sex happens. It's pretty hard to think she's enjoying it while unconscious. Because, you know, she's unconscious. I'm sorry. I just can't get over that.

Ah, that's a tough question to answer. But I think this song has sort of captured me. Recently, anyway. I know good things, I know bad as well Any witness of the world will tell If there is sorrow, then there is beauty and trust A secret pearl inside the heart of us So truly, if there is light then I want to see it Now that I know what I am living for Truly, if there is joy then I want to feel it Here in this world is where I want to be 'Cause I can't cry anymore And there is magic now, under blood red trees All the sky will scream a mystery And if we're strangers here, from the day we are born Why be afraid of freedom if it's yours? So truly, if there is light then I want to see it Now that I know what I am living for Truly, if there is joy then I want to feel it Here in this world is where I want to be 'Cause I can't cry anymore, I can't cry anymore, I All the world is calling, calling out my name All the world is saying it won't be the same All the sky is showing how it's gonna be But I'm scared and I'm tired of being like me I don't feel the crying part, but taken less literally I think I can relate to it. I think of it as a more general sentiment about letting go of negativity and baggage. To me the song seems to be about coming away from where you feel caged in by expectations and fear and trying to be more free to experience the world.