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I don't really have a strong preference for a certain age bracket. The majority of my clients are 40+ and I've maybe had one or two clients under 30 ever? I have a lot of preferences and requirements when it comes to who I'll see, but age is pretty low on that list, and hasn't been a strong predictor for me of the good or bad qualities I see in clients.

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I used to offer fetish duos, but I found that they were complicated to schedule, and then clients cancelled far more often than with solo appointments. For the number of times people actually followed through, it hardly felt worthwhile to offer them. Which is too bad, because they're so much fun.

I have seen dissertations shorter than that website lol.

I'm sorry you had this experience. While no one should ever be expected to get intimate with someone they're not comfortable with, racism and colourism within this industry is rampant, systemic and deeply fucked up. Taken in isolation, an individual person's boundaries around seeing someone from a particular race or ethnic group might be very justifiable, but they all contribute to a larger pattern of people of colour being routinely discriminated (and this goes both ways - clients and providers of colour experience huge amounts of discrimination.) We all really need to think critically about what we think of as our personal preferences and attractions, as they're often rooted in discriminatory socialized ideas of who is good or bad, or desirable or undesirable. Even if it does nothing to change our preferences or attractions, recognizing that they can be part of a broader landscape of racism or other -isms is really important in striving for a more just world. I hope your future experiences are all better than this.

I don't like the idea of leading a double life or having separate identities - it seems like too much to manage, and really quiet stressful for me. My approach is more about sharing information that is appropriate to the situation and audience - maintaining professionalism and an appropriate work/life separation, rather than complete compartmentalization. So, I don't tell clients my real name or personal details about my life, but I don't have a character or persona that I put on for work, and I don't have a made up backstory. The me that shows up to a session is the real me, just with certain aspects of myself in focus. And I don't share my working name or details about what I do with many people, but I'm out about being a sex worker, and my partners and very closest friends know quite a lot about what I do. My experience in this work is integral to the work I do in my straight jobs and I don't keep my sex worker rights activism a secret when I'm applying for jobs. In social or networking situations I may play down the sex work that I do and focus on other aspects of my work, depending on things like safety, perceived stigma and just how much energy I want to spend explaining things. "What do you do?" is such a complex question when you strip out the assumption that the other half of the question is, "...to make money?" I can pick and choose from a variety of completely true answers depending on where I want to take the conversation. I'm good at keeping other people's secrets, but terrible at keeping secrets about myself. I need and want people that are close to me to know the real, whole me, and so I've by necessity structured my life so that I can integrate all the parts of myself and not lead a double life.

What's the general feeling about West Broadway these days? I know it used to be considered a pretty terrible and unsafe area, but it seems to be rapidly gentrifying, particularly around Sherbrook. I personally like the neighbourhood a lot but I'm not sure if the general perceptions about it have shifted much yet.

Where sex workers are part of a community there is most definitely expectations around behaviour and interactions, even if they are unspoken. These expectations are just part of the culture that inevitably develops when community forms. This of course varies between cities, social groups, professional groups etc. But there are no rules for interactions, and sex workers who are isolated from community are less likely to conform to these standards, be it out of ignorance, disagreement with the expectations, or just lack of investment in conforming to a certain set of behaviours with no reward. I consider community and solidarity so important. Primarily for reasons of safety and advocacy, but also for creating a shared set of expectations for how we treat each other, because when we are stigmatized and criminalized we need to have each others backs.

There are as many ways to be dominant and submissive as there are kinky people in the world. Each scene and relationship is a one-of-a-kind experience, created by the unique dynamic between a dominant and her submissive. There are no one-size-fits-all scenes, no one true way, and no universal rules for being dominant or submissive. There is only the unique intensity and intimacy we will create together, through communication, vulnerability, release and power exchange. What do you want to experience? After many months I'm pleased to be returning with new photos and a hunger for some kinky fun. Currently booking for Feb 29 - Mar 4, other dates will be available in the future. Email [email protected] or PM for more information.

As a fetish provider, I have a fairly complete menu of activities I offer on my site, and I prefer to talk in detail about what the encounter will look like before booking. The only time I'm bothered by this sort of thing is when a potential client treats the booking process like foreplay or wank fodder, instead of being respectful and treating it as a negotiation.

I have natural nails that are either medium or short and squoval shaped. I like longer nails, but they're impractical for me right now, both in their potential to hurt someone and because they're not strong enough to consistently maintain all at the same long length. I like decorative nails, so I mostly do patterns or designs like half moons or colourful french manis. I always do my own nails. I'm extremely leery of nail salons as many do not properly sterilize their tools and the number of horror stories about infections keeps me away. (I'm sure there are plenty of excellent salons but I'm not confident in being able to tell the good from the bad.)

North American attitudes toward work are really problematic in so many ways, including relating to retirement. There are so many anecdotes of people being miserable in retirement, or retiring and then going back to work a short while later, or dying shortly after retirement. When our value as human beings and our identities are tied so tightly to what we do to make money, it's no wonder that people suffer a crisis of identity, self value or find themselves with nothing to do in retirement. North American culture drives the idea that we should live to work, not work to live, and that our access to even basic necessities and human rights should be determined by our ability and willingness to work, and how society values the work that we do. Given the current culture around work, and the decline in pensions and people's ability to save for retirement, I don't see the question of if people should feel a duty to retire is one that is relevant to most people. I'm in my 30s and I don't see retirement as even a possibility for the majority of my generation and younger generations. Poverty and a lack of social safety nets is already a huge problem that I don't see improving as the population continues to age. This post also has me reflecting on what retirement vs work looks like. I would certainly love to reach a point in my life where I had savings and a pension that I could live off, and didn't have to worry about going to work to make money. However, there's also work that I do, not just for the money, but because I enjoy it, it's meaningful to me, and it let's me feel like I'm making a difference in the world. I don't think I'd stop doing certain kinds of work even if I didn't need the money. Ultimately, I think we're going to have to see a major shift in cultural attitudes toward work, productivity and human value, as jobs are increasingly automated (and therefore eliminated), and human labour isn't as necessary for creating the world we want to live in. We were supposed to be there already, but instead we've seen a shift in the other direction, to people working longer hours and being more productive. But that is unsustainable, and change will eventually happen. Eventually there simply won't be enough work that is considered valuable, for everyone to put in 40 hours a week.

It's not a bad movie. I watched it a while ago on recommendation of a sexologist friend, as part of a discussion on the legal grey area of surrogacy, and the complexities of therapists recommending and working with surrogates in the context of their professional organizations/licensing bodies' code of ethics, and the general sex negativity pervasive within the culture of Marriage and Family Therapists. I did find the surrogate's behaviour and demeanour a bit unprofessional at some points in the movie, though I overall enjoyed it. There are a couple of big differences between surrogates and other sex workers. One is that surrogates are part of a team, and work with a therapist who provides talk or other hands-off therapy to the client. Another is that there's a professional organization for surrogacy, that includes training, professional standards, membership and professional support that lends a degree of "legitimacy" and "respectability" to the profession in the eyes of the law and other medical and mental health professionals. So while I might be a breach of ethics for a therapist to recommend a client see a sex worker, connecting them with a surrogate would not (necessarily) be. IPSA provides training and membership for surrogates, if anyone is interested in more info: http://www.surrogatetherapy.org/

Definitely not looking for hotels - debating the merits of working from home or having a dedicated in call space. On one hand, having two space means that they can each be fully customized to my needs. On the other hand, two separate spaces is a lot of additional cost. So I'm still looking at options. Not hearing the neighbours and the neighbours not hearing me is definitely high on my list of requirements ;)

Still looking. I'd almost forgotten how much house/apartment hunting sucks. when you're picky. :)

I regularly use restraints on my clients, though I don't currently have handcuffs in my gear, and they're not a high priority to add to my collection, as they can be uncomfortable and leave bruises easily. For people who do wish to play with handcuffs, you are better off getting a real set rather than the novelty furry sex cuffs. Real cuffs will be made with smooth edges, a high quality locking mechanism, and perhaps most importantly, will double-lock (which prevents the cuffs from tightening any further.) All cuffs of the same brand will use the same key (and all cuffs have a fairly standard key design, so many, if not most can be used across brands.) Novelty handcuffs may have sharp edges, locking mechanisms that stick, non-standard keys, or may not have a double-locking mechanism to prevent over-tightening. You can get a nice pair of real Smith & Wesson cuffs for around $20 online. Soft velcro or buckle cuffs are also a great alternative.

Thanks for all the input :) I'm not sure exactly where I'm going to end up, but this is very helpful.

Mmm yeah. I've found that most guys are shocked by and unwilling to pay a reasonable rate for a private party. They often think that it should only cost them the price of a handful of lapdances, even if they want company and entertainment for several hours (never mind consideration for the fact that any entertainers won't be making money elsewhere that night.)

Hi guys, I'm looking at possible new in-call locations and while I have a lot of assumptions about what areas of Winnipeg would be good and which would not, I'd be interested in your input. (If it makes any difference, I usually see clients weekdays during the day.) Do you prefer something central (downtown, Osborne Village, The Exchange), or some place a little further out where parking and traffic is a bit better? Would a place out near the Perimeter be way too far to go, or would you make the trek? Are there areas/neighbourhoods that you would feel uneasy with, or that you would cause you to cancel an appointment when you found out where you were being sent? I know everyone will have their own preferences and no location is going to work for everyone, but please share your thoughts (and feel free to PM me if you don't want to post here, particularly if you're already a client.) Thanks!

Check this thread, a few posts down.

You might find this guide helpful: http://tradesecretsguide.blogspot.ca/

Just to be clear, reportable STIs are gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis. HIV is not reportable in all provinces, but it is in some. If you're diagnosed with a reportable STI public health can help you contact your partners (anonymously if you prefer), or you can do it yourself. Public health will also collect demographic data. For people who are concerned about confidentiality, public health will work with you to find ways to notify partners that are safe and respect your privacy. Even with reportable infections (which includes a long list of non-STIs), you still have a right to medical privacy. So if you're hesitating to get tested because you're afraid the clinic will tell everyone if you have an STI, please go - everyone understands the need for privacy around sexual matters and how sensitive the topic is, and any clinic that focuses on sexual health will be very careful to ensure that they're not doing anything to discourage people from getting tested. (General practitioners are sometimes not great about sexual health, so if you're not sure, go to a community health clinic instead of your regular doctor.)

If you use coconut oil as lube, use non-latex condoms, like the female/internal condom or polyisoprene condoms (Lifestyle Skyns, Durex Avanti Bare Real Feel). If you're using latex, silicone lube is a nice "oilier" feeling lube that is latex-friendly.

Hey folks. The Winnipeg Working Group has heard a rumour that the police are planning hotel busts leading up to the Grey Cup, and will be targeting "repeat buyers". This doesn't mean that you should stop seeing SPs, just be careful, and remember that if something looks too good to be true it probably is. This community has lots of tips on having safe encounters and there are many established and reputable SPs around. Service providers, also please be careful. This campaign is part of the belief that sex trafficking increases during big sporting events (it doesn't). One known tactic that the police employ is to pose as a client, book an appointment and then show up with half a dozen cops to "offer resources" and make sure you're not being trafficked or coerced. We don't know if this will be happening but I wouldn't be surprised, and it would be both a waste of time and really upsetting to have this happen.

When I have worked out of hotels, I've always selected ones that have other facilities beyond rooms - so a spa or conference rooms or other things that would offer an easy excuse to anyone who was seen there, and also guaranteeing that the desk staff are used to people who are not registered guests coming and going. I give directions about the entrance and elevators so that my client can walk with confidence. The one time I was in a hotel that required a room key for the elevator I simply met my clients in the lobby, dressed very conservatively. I've never experienced any issues with clients visiting me in hotels.