seeing married/committed SP's

[Cleo Catra 178382]

This is my opinion you can disagree all you want to I would never see a sp if they were married or dating someone even if their partner knew.In my opinion any form is cheating is wrong if I had a girlfriend and found out she was cheating on me I would leave her on the spot I have done so in the past.

 

I'm assuming then you are single, which I would estimate, out of my clientele, puts you in the about 10% that are single. The vast, vast majority of mine and I"m willing to say all SPs clients are married or in relationships. Which is why, for on that majority, I think it's very hypocritical for a man to refuse to see a married/committed SP.

[sexnonstop724 1727]

This is my opinion you can disagree all you want to I would never see a sp if they were married or dating someone even if their partner knew.In my opinion any form is cheating is wrong if I had a girlfriend and found out she was cheating on me I would leave her on the spot I have done so in the past.

In your view, a bisexual couple offering duo service would be considered cheating. I for one call that dream come true.

 

SNS724

[roamingguy 300291]

This is my opinion you can disagree all you want to I would never see a sp if they were married or dating someone even if their partner knew.In my opinion any form is cheating is wrong if I had a girlfriend and found out she was cheating on me I would leave her on the spot I have done so in the past.

 

My question to you is this. How do you know if the lady is dating or married.

Also, while for a personal relationship for myself, I couldn't do it, they are consenting adults that are involved in open relationships, relationships every bit as valid as monogamous relationships. Also the husband/boyfriend may very well be aware that his SO is an escort, and as a couple it really is a matter between them

And finally, remember, for the ladies, this isn't dating, they aren't looking for a boyfriend/husband, this is their livelihood. They do it to pay their rent, food, and other bills

Why complicate what should be simple, enjoyable and mutually beneficial.

You got to do what is comfortable to you, but I'm sure most of the ladies that you'll see have a personal life

RG

[castle 38816]

I'm assuming then you are single, which I would estimate, out of my clientele, puts you in the about 10% that are single.

 

And boy am I glad to be counted among that 10%! :D. Never before has being part of a minority group been this much FUN!! ;)

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[Capital Hunter 18263]

This is my opinion you can disagree all you want to I would never see a sp if they were married or dating someone even if their partner knew.In my opinion any form is cheating is wrong if I had a girlfriend and found out she was cheating on me I would leave her on the spot I have done so in the past.

 

I agree with you just adding that I would never KNOWINGLY see a lady (sp or otherwise) if she is married, but likely would see an sp if she is just dating. In the past I have stopped having dances with a few dancers after I found out or they told me they are married. But that is a personal choice and I respect others' and I think it a lot depends on how one is raised or how strongly one believes in the sanctity of the marriage.

[Guest C**rAz****e]

I'm assuming then you are single, which I would estimate, out of my clientele, puts you in the about 10% that are single. The vast, vast majority of mine and I"m willing to say all SPs clients are married or in relationships. Which is why, for on that majority, I think it's very hypocritical for a man to refuse to see a married/committed SP.

 

 

Yes I am single if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be on this site but how am I hypocritical just because I do not want to see a sp is married is that so wrong?.

 

I am not going to sit here all day and fight with everyone about this I have my opinion you have yours and there is nothing we can do to change that.Also to the lady who is bi sexual it doesn't matter to me I am a big supporter of gay rights in my teenage years I use to be homophobic these past 2 years I am making up for my mistakes

[VedaSloan 119179]

Yes I am single if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be on this site but how am I hypocritical just because I do not want to see a sp is married is that so wrong?.

 

I am not going to sit here all day and fight with everyone about this I have my opinion you have yours and there is nothing we can do to change that.Also to the lady who is bi sexual it doesn't matter to me I am a big supporter of gay rights in my teenage years I use to be homophobic these past 2 years I am making up for my mistakes

 

 

I just want to point out it's not cheating if you're in an open or polyamorous relationship where your partner knows and consents. I hardly see how it matters to you if the SP is married/committed--that's between her and her partner, and as RG stated above, we're not looking for husbands/boyfriends, we're just trying to make a living. Also, you've probably already seen escorts who have boyfriends/partners as most of us don't go around advertising our personal lives.

[PistolPete 61421]

I don't know, been reading this thread all along and do I really care if the SP is in a committed relationship? No not AT all!!!

 

I have met SP's that were in a committed relationship (how does one find out? after time being with each other the ice breaks and she told me which was fine I wasn't looking for the info), in fact I also met an SP that was bi-sexual and in a relationship and the threesome was totally awesome.

 

But I have my opinion and others here have theirs.

[Guest C**rAz****e]

I just want to point out it's not cheating if you're in an open or polyamorous relationship where your partner knows and consents. I hardly see how it matters to you if the SP is married/committed--that's between her and her partner, and as RG stated above, we're not looking for husbands/boyfriends, we're just trying to make a living. Also, you've probably already seen escorts who have boyfriends/partners as most of us don't go around advertising our personal lives.

 

 

Um where did I ever say in my posts that all Sp's are looking for boyfriends? and where did I also go advertising your personal lives I think you need to get your facts right before you go jamming words down my throat.I have only seen 5 Sp's in my life due to money troubles out of all 5 of them I made friends with them and neither of them were married.This is my choice to make not yours

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Yes I am single if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be on this site but how am I hypocritical just because I do not want to see a sp is married is that so wrong?.

 

I am not going to sit here all day and fight with everyone about this I have my opinion you have yours and there is nothing we can do to change that.Also to the lady who is bi sexual it doesn't matter to me I am a big supporter of gay rights in my teenage years I use to be homophobic these past 2 years I am making up for my mistakes

 

I'm not picking on any one person for their opinion - what I'm saying is most of our clients are married, and many of those married men won't see an SP in a relationship. That is hypocritical, in my opinion. If the man can be married, why can't the lady - because I would never refuse to see a client because he was in a committed relationship. I'd be out of business if I did that! :P

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

Yes I am single if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be on this site but how am I hypocritical just because I do not want to see a sp is married is that so wrong?.

 

I am not going to sit here all day and fight with everyone about this I have my opinion you have yours and there is nothing we can do to change that.Also to the lady who is bi sexual it doesn't matter to me I am a big supporter of gay rights in my teenage years I use to be homophobic these past 2 years I am making up for my mistakes

 

No offense...but how do you know what the SP is single or in a relationship? We don't advertise it on Cerb, some are and will tell it in their posts, but some are private and don't mix put their personnal life up here

[Guest C**rAz****e]

I am sorry if it seamed I was angry I just think cheating on your lover is wrong but if the person is ok with it then who I am to judge?.But I could not handle it I was cheated on twice it's no fun.

[castle 38816]

I think this topic is now beating the proverbial dead horse with a stick. CharAznable, I respect your moral righteousness, I am very much of the same mind when it comes to people I date, I don't date people who are attached and/or married. Made that mistake once and never again...but that's dating, not hobbying. If you're going to continue in this hobby you're going to have to come to terms with the fact that a good many of the ladies you will be seeing probably have a bf/gf or spouse. These are all intelligent, charming, beautiful women. I can't picture any of them staying single for very long unless they make a conscious decision to do so.

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[fortunateone 156618]

Um where did I ever say in my posts that all Sp's are looking for boyfriends? and where did I also go advertising your personal lives I think you need to get your facts right before you go jamming words down my throat.I have only seen 5 Sp's in my life due to money troubles out of all 5 of them I made friends with them and neither of them were married.This is my choice to make not yours

 

 

imo, then, you haven't been seeing professional sps, just a few women who did this for money. Professional sps wouldn't tell you if they are married or single, and they wouldn't become your friends. It seems to me that you haven't really been looking for or seeking sps, you've been seeking single ladies to become friends with. There isn't anything wrong with that, but that isn't really the topic you are commenting on.

 

Professional sps are at work when they see you, and just as it wouldn't matter to the outcome of the session if your accountant was married or single, so it does not matter to the outcome of your session if the sp is single or not. You are not coming there with an expectation of becoming her "friend", and if that is what motivates you to have paid encounters, then I don't really think you really do have an opinion on whether its right or wrong. You aren't basing it on facts, just assumptions.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

Professional sps wouldn't tell you if they are married or single....

I think you bring up some great points, and I agree with most of what you've said, but I can't say I agree with the above. I'm pretty open with clients and I don't think that makes me any less professional.

[Guest C**rAz****e]

imo, then, you haven't been seeing professional sps, just a few women who did this for money. Professional sps wouldn't tell you if they are married or single, and they wouldn't become your friends. It seems to me that you haven't really been looking for or seeking sps, you've been seeking single ladies to become friends with. There isn't anything wrong with that, but that isn't really the topic you are commenting on.

 

Professional sps are at work when they see you, and just as it wouldn't matter to the outcome of the session if your accountant was married or single, so it does not matter to the outcome of your session if the sp is single or not. You are not coming there with an expectation of becoming her "friend", and if that is what motivates you to have paid encounters, then I don't really think you really do have an opinion on whether its right or wrong. You aren't basing it on facts, just assumptions.

 

So your saying all Sp's who open up to their clients are not Professional? I think the sp's I saw in my life are very Professional they were not all about the money they wanted to spend the time to get to know me is that so wrong?

[PistolPete 61421]

they can be right or wrong, but opinions should be listened to both ways regardless. My expectations over my time is of course being a SP's friend, why not? There is quite a few ladies that I got to know over time, and they are very professional, and are friends that keep in contact, and have told myself some personal issues like boyfriend/spouse/girlfriend, it is always kept a professional level.

 

You are not coming there with an expectation of becoming her "friend", and if that is what motivates you to have paid encounters, then I don't really think you really do have an opinion on whether its right or wrong. You aren't basing it on facts, just assumptions.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Professional sps are at work when they see you, and just as it wouldn't matter to the outcome of the session if your accountant was married or single, so it does not matter to the outcome of your session if the sp is single or not.

 

Agree with this, but not about the friendship/opening up statement.

[silverado17 12689]

to me it's all about feeling safe when u go visit an sp and even more so if u know she's in a relationship do u feel safe going there knowing the hubby might be home there would be lots of reasons some guy's wouldn't go see sp's if they new they were in a relationship

[PistolPete 61421]

A little too paranoid my take on it and yes I would feel safe. these boyfriends/husbands/partners are not axe murders and certainly know what their partner is up to. Without any doubt the partner certainly may not be in the same place as the sp/ma while she was entertaining that would not be good for business.

[jafo105 39057]

I have no problem seeing a SP if she is in a relationship. I would be uncomfortable if her SO was home at the time of my visit. The details of her relationship are between her and her SO. Not me.

Further more, I do not have any expectations of developing a true love interest in the SP. Although I do hope for a special friendship to develop with the SP. Since I usually see an SP long term.

 

Jafo

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I do hope for a special friendship to develop with the SP.

 

It is quite nice when this happens :)

[roamingguy 300291]

I am sorry if it seamed I was angry I just think cheating on your lover is wrong but if the person is ok with it then who I am to judge?.But I could not handle it I was cheated on twice it's no fun.

 

First, I do respect your opinion that cheating on your lover is wrong.

But, first off, if that is the case, that is between the SP and her SO, just as it is between a hobbiest and his SO

Two, how do you even know her relationship status, SP's don't put that information on their websites or profiles. It isn't our business, it's their private life

Three, the SP may also be in an open relationship...she may have multiple partners and her SO may have multiple partners, and the SO may know his wife/gf is an escort. But even if he doesn't, that's not your concern

Fourth, you are not her partner/bf/SO, you are a client

Fifth, if you want to take the cheating on your lover to a absurdity, if you equate being an married SP seeing a client is her cheating on her SO, then the reverse has to be true too, a married client is cheating on his SO by seeing a SP, well are the SP and Client cheating on one another when she sees other clients, and he sees other SP's.....give me a sec, getting a headache now, need a tylenol LOL...absurd arguments do that to me LOL

I would only worry about your own relationships, and enjoy the time you spend with a lady. Don't complicate it with what really are non-issues

Just my opinion

RG

[fortunateone 156618]

Agree with this, but not about the friendship/opening up statement.

 

 

To put it another less blunt way, an sp who never provides personal information about the people in her life will never regret not doing it. Just as I would protect the privacy of my clients, so do I protect my own privacy and those of anyone who may be in my life at that time.

 

I'm afraid we will simply have to disagree on this matter. I will never feel that the sessions with regs or new clients suffer from my not providing a life history for them, nor do we share a special bond with it. I will always feel that the sps who get into the most trouble with troublesome clients are the ones where the client is not completely sure of the boundaries, and takes any bit of special information as proof of her love for him.

 

Its just advice I was given when I first started, and has always been part of any advice I pass on to new sps. So many tend to regret having told a new client too much about themselves, and find they have to avoid places or things they used to enjoy when he pops up there all the time.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I agree fortunate.