Repeat Visits vs. Variety

[Maverick 2873]

From reading the boards I can see a lot of good reasons for seeing the same MPs/SPs regularly as well as seeing good reasons for visiting a variety of different MPs/SPs. This thread is not a debate about which "strategy" is better.

 

I'm just curious to hear from clients and providers what the different positives and negatives are of the two "strategies."

 

Personally, from my limited experience with MPs, I prefer to experience a variety of different women, and once I have tried out all the Ottawa women who interest me I plan on seeing one or two semi-regularly after that. Pardon the somewhat inaccurate metaphor but I kind of see this like test driving a few different cars before settling on the kind you want to buy.

 

That said, I'm a very shy guy and not good at connecting with people emotionally, and I'm also young so I don't have serious life issues and relationship histories, so the emotional aspect that can be heavily featured in an established relationship between client and provider does not necessarily appeal to me, but I totally understand the value that it can have for others.

 

Bottom line, I'd just like to get some input on how different clients plan their hobbying habits, and what everyone thinks about the two different "strategies" i outlined. Please try to be respectful, there is no "wrong" way of doing it, just different ways.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I find the sessions get hotter and hotter with repeat visits. A number of factors include the rapport, establishing a certain comfort level, and also learning the gentleman's body.

 

I enjoy meeting new people, but I'm always a little nervous and therefore limit the number of new guests I see.

[roamingguy 300291]

I like the excitement of meeting a new lady...nothing like meeting a lady for the first time, you may have seen her pictures, read her posts (real good way to get an idea of her personality btw) her recos etc....but the anticipation of that knock on the door, then the knock and the meeting...the ultimate blind date

But repeats, well I'm going to have my first threepeat (her words btw) in four weeks, and I know if my second time meeting her was any indicator, our third time is going to be great!!!

I now am very selective in who I see (based on posts, pm's, emails, not to mention websites and photos) after three encounters which were less than good (but that's the learning curve)

So short answer, definitely repeats, but I like seeing new ladies too, I just do my research as best as possible so I know that the time spent together will be a good time

RG

[Guest tr*****e]

Hmmm... This is a topic I want to weigh in on, but I'm not sure how to word it... Oh well, here goes!

 

I'm relatively new to this hobby(started 3 1/2 months ago), so I haven't gotten around to meeting many of the wonderful ladies here. That said, my background is fundamentalist religion, so even though I'm no longer held down by superfluous restrictions, my reaction to being presented with a whole community of wonderful ladies is to find one in particular who captures my attention, and keeps it. I don't judge anyone for doing differently, I just think I'm happier with one best friend than many at this point, especially since I tend to be introverted most of the time.

 

I only want total intimacy and trust. If it's paid by the hour, I really don't care, because the experiences two people share are only ever between them, no matter what eloquence is used to describe it in words, plus money's only a number to me, my life experiences are worth more than diamonds(or plutonium, which is worth far more than a diamond, depending who you talk to lol). Damn Walt Disney for giving me the 'happily ever after' fantasy... lol, no I actually like it. :)

 

That's just my $0.02, again, I don't judge anyone for making different decisions, that's part of the beauty of this industry. I hope that was all clear, I have a way of clarifying things like a wall of mud! :D

[r100rs 859]

lots of pros and cons to both strategies. For me, being shy at first, I hate first meets so if I'm comfortable with an sp, I return and return and return. Downside for me is I tend to get too intimate with my SP and want something I can never have. Past experience has taught me to end the business relationship when that starts happening. Mind you I now have many SPs who are now friends only ( we do dinner, shopping, chat, email but sex is out )....

 

r100rs

[Guest AdamK]

I have to agree with "roamingguy" that the excitement of meeting an SP/MP for the first time is something that definitely adds to the appeal. The only thing is unless you've done your research on the recommendation section you may walk out a little disenchanted. I won't say anything further along that line to avoid any complaints. But, you could walk out having just met the most stunning SP/MP you've ever met, and your totally drained. I prefer to meet with only two or three SP's/MP's on a regular basis, and on occasion when there is someone who is touring that I'm interested in seeing, I'll arrange a rendezvous when they're in town. For example, right now I'm waiting for Dr. Vanessa Kelly to arrive as I need a specialist in her field.

[moonshadow 369]

My response to this would be very similar to Roamingguy and AdamK.

I enjoy this hobby for the variety and the thrill of meeting a new

lady for the first time. Also, I'm somewhat shy, so I like the personal challenge

of stepping outside my comfort zone and going through the process of

contacting a lady for the first time and then meeting her and spending time with her.

 

But while variety is high on my agenda, I have also repeated with a lady

that I am very comfortable with and have a great time with. So I guess

it all depends on the way I'm feeling when I decide its time to

Set up a date.

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[mrgreen760 37785]

Personally I don't see anyone that doesn't have the potential to become a regular. I saw someone every 3 weeks or so for about 7 months and we'd joke that familiarity didn't breed contempt.....it bred great orgasms ;)

 

Peace

MG

[CODY 223]

There has to be a spark of interest. After that it develops. The lady and you almost always work on if it repeats. If I get that feeling inside that makes me want to go again then I will know and usually she will also know. Everyone's insides are different. That is probably why people do both. Reasons are varied and never wrong.

Are you after company, intimacy, companionship, sex etc?

Are you single or married?

Good question that leads to so many others

 

Cody

[renegade 11027]

You cannot become a regular without visiting someone new from time to time-lol-I,ve had both good and bad experiences meeting someone new but as i learned what to look for and how to research (cerb) the mistakes are pretty much a thing of the past , I love the repeat visits but still get a thrill out of the First time encounter, so for me you need both !

[HarveySpecter 1908]

for me its all about anticipation.

 

The anticipation in meeting a lady for the first time and knowing how the experience will go. i would have done my research, as its normal to have our preferentials, by reading recos and posts or asking her questions or developing a conversation with her to generate a comfort level so that the shyness factor can be limited.

 

 

The anticipation of having a repeating visit with a lady to know if there is more to the first or previous encounters and just how far and enticing the experience goes.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Variety is the spice of life. On the other hand, life's fundamental source of nutrition and growth lies in the ability to recognize what you're looking for when you find it - and then in settling down to explore and savour its full depth and delightfully nuanced richness.

 

Both Repeats and Variety provide their own satisfaction and excitement. They are of related, but different, moods, tastes, and textures. Thankfully, our choice is not restricted to either/or!

 

(disclaimer: the foregoing is strictly an analogy. ladies are not food, no matter how scrumptious they may taste)

[Guest f***2f***]

This topic seems this comes up on a regular basis. We had a very similar thread not too long ago.

 

Personally I'm a repeater. I like to find an SP that really does it for me and make a connection. As someone else pointed out, "familiarity breeds great orgasms."

In addition I prefer a woman who enjoys what she's doing and who enjoys being with me. I also like one who is a good conversationalist and has a brain in her head. It's also nice to find one who likes to be held and cuddled afterward and/or between rounds.

 

I find new encounters a little stressful and sometimes a little disappointing although I too have honed my research skills to really lessen the possibility of a bad encounter or total waste of time and money. Every few months I'll try a new lady. You never know when your ATF might post a Retirement message and you gotta have a back up plan! :hump:

[Winnipegcub 21293]

This subject interests me too. I started a thread some time back from a ladies perspective on "Do Regulars Matter". From my perspective I luv my hobby life because I feel I have the best of both. My playtime is when I travel which is frequent and to many Canadian cities.

 

I am a big time regular. I luv when a connection gets formed. Usually if I find a lady I connect with well in a particular city than that is who I see. I've made some exceptions to this rule but do pretty much stay with the regular ladies I've come to know. These are my best sessions and I feel we've developed relationships that extend beyond the particular meeting. And even sexually I feel that over time we've developed, gotten to know each others body better, gotten to know each other better, and this has resulted in more exciting, intense, and intimate sessions.

 

I do get my 'variety' when I visit a new city or if it is a city in which I just haven't found a regular I like. Some Canadian cities aren't as well blessed IMHO with great local talent as others. In some cases I rely on touring ladies to be in the same city that I might be travelling to. Again this provides for lots of variety. I do like the excitement of new encounters and have certainly had some great one time meetings that because of travel/logistics will probably always be that way.

 

So I feel fortunate to be able to have both but I must admit I highly value the long term relationships I have been fortunate to establish with a few.

 

Cub

[PistolPete 61421]

LOL as I'm reading this, do I dare make a statement about which I prefer?(repeats or variety) I have difficulty staying with one provider but have done so in the past,but hell yes I repeated with a few of them out pure enjoyment with them,mentally stimulating as well as sexually.

 

But then again when I'm really intrigued by a new lady I have yet to meet,(possibly by her ad's,photo's,web site),and then when we first exchange some personal information, then I normally go for it;)

 

So I guess, I really don't have true cut answer, other then to say I enjoy both ;)

[cuteFrenchy 403]

I find the sessions get hotter and hotter with repeat visits. A number of factors include the rapport' date=' establishing a certain comfort level, and also learning the gentleman's body.

 

I enjoy meeting new people, but I'm always a little nervous and therefore limit the number of new guests I see.[/quote']

 

 

My experience is similar to Megan's. I find that the sessions improve with repeated visits. It takes time for both parties involved to get to know each other and to feel comfortable enough to let themselves go.

 

I meet regularly a select few providers (less than a handful) that meet my varying needs. I see each repeated session as a learning experience. As we learn to pleasure each other through exploration and experimentation, these sessions do get hotter and hotter as stated by Megan.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Oooooh, heck. This is a tough one. I have no idea whether "new and different" beats "known awesomeness". I think there's something to be said for doing both. And then, of course, that person you've been meaning to see - or meaning to go back to - for a while retires, and suddenly you've missed out. You can't win 'em all :)

 

And tratelle - did you really mean plutonium, or did you mean platinum? 'cos plutonium is probably quite valuable, but it's seriously nasty stuff :)

[Guest AdamK]

You cannot become a regular without visiting someone new from time to time-lol-I,ve had both good and bad experiences meeting someone new but as i learned what to look for and how to research (cerb) the mistakes are pretty much a thing of the past , I love the repeat visits but still get a thrill out of the First time encounter, so for me you need both !

 

I'll have to also admit that for the two that I wish to see on a regular basis, it has also affected my relationship with them. For some reason, I want more of a relationship, only knowing that isn't really possible. They have totally different personalities, and when they are in distress it bothers me. I care for them, but do not know what to do. It's merely the good side of me coming out that wishes to help. And then there are the times when I go to a SP/MP for a one time session, for some variety. In this case she is usually either black, East Indian, Asian, extremely petite, or very large breasted. As they say, variety is the spice of life.

[Guest tr*****e]

And tratelle - did you really mean plutonium, or did you mean platinum? 'cos plutonium is probably quite valuable, but it's seriously nasty stuff :)

 

ROFL - I meant to say plutonium, and yes it's very nasty, just saying that human companionship is worth more than anything normal!:) Trust me, just try to buy Plutonium to power your flux capacitor sometime - it'll be pricey!! :D

[Capital Hunter 18263]

The main reason I am in this hobby is the VARIETY. Otherwise a GF would do. The anticipation of meeting a girl for the first time and dating her for the first time is very exciting. That said, I have repeated with the same girl many times when I find that special treasure but most of the time it is the variety factor that plays an important role in my decision as who to see.

[Butterfly Kisses 2301]

When I first started out it was to see the variuos ladies, all nationalities, shapes sizes etc. The anticipation and excitement soon disappeared when the number of disappointments started to add up.

 

However I found myself going back to a couple here and there that I found a stimulating comfort with, both on a sexual level as well as non-sexual.

 

With a few of those ladies it became much more than just a session. There was so much more we opened up with and the enjoyment of our times together intensified.

 

As I am single now, I find the reason to see a regular is much more satisfying and when/if possible, I will take it outside of the client/SP boundaries.

 

As a result, I have met some beautiful ladies who have become full time friends, and that is far more satisfying to me than the quick gratifcation of a 1 hour session.

[Boomer 33202]

I am in the camp that tends to stay with a few good ladies, some of whom I've seen for years. I am a widower so I've no problem with giving them my identity which can be a real positive. I expect more than simple sex, but chatting and getting to know each other.This way they can be participate and enjoy the date for themselves and don't have to rely on a formula.

 

Now and then I'll try someone new, as ladies move on in time. Presently, need to add one or two to my short list. I look for women who have been around for a while and have good reputations. I like some maturity and try to find real professionals who take pride in them themselves and are in it as careers. Most become friends, I can be comfortable with them visiting me at home, and am comfortable with them calling if they need a helping hand.

[ottanon 2930]

Variety is nice but there is nothing better than seeing the same person who gets to know just the right things to do..

[Peachka 4334]

Personally, from my limited experience with MPs, I prefer to experience a variety of different women, and once I have tried out all the Ottawa women who interest me I plan on seeing one or two semi-regularly after that.

 

With the turn over in this business and new ladies entering it all the time you may never really get to this point.

[dunn2010 121]

I would say that I generally fall in the "variety is the spice of life" category. I'm always a bit nervous meeting a new lady and have had a few bad experiences, so if I were to meet to the right lady I would not rule out a repeat...

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