Have you ever worried...

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

that the SP/hobbyiest you are about to meet for the first time may be someone you know in your personal life? How would you react?

[JonX156 100]

I would say... OMG!!! lol

[Sensual Erin 33898]

This has happened to me. I met someone within a circle of acquaintances and when in session he figured out who I was and called me out on my real name. This guy used to message me and ask me out for a beer all the time so I just poked him on the fact that we have now skipped the beer and asked him to not let anyone know. I would never reveal his identity and felt comfortable enough to do the session on that promise. Well, sure enough he did let the circle know and the gossip started. My recommendation if you know of the person is to not go through with the appointment.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Yes I saw a movie on that exact thing. A father on a business trip to a city where her daughter was studying in the University.... You can guess the rest as who was behind the hotel door when he opened that door after calling for escort....

 

No, actually I am not worried now really but I would have been seriously when I was in contact with lots of ladies in the 19 to 25 age range. Like when I was teaching years ago, I even didn't dare to go to SCs or even dance bars. Came across my damn students everywhere that I went, out of bad luck......

[roamingguy 300291]

I guess that depends on who the lady is in your personal life you know? But worried, it would be equally awkward for her as for me, 'cept I'm single and most of the women I know, married...not worrisome for me

And I would say 99.9% of the women I know, no, stay away RG

The other 0.1%, I hear that knock on the hotel door, I'll answer it and let her in (there's one or two I know that could butter my bread)

But for those in a relationship, worried it's their SO knocking at the door

I'll share this with you

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ntnt6PeQqGQ

 

RG

[Nathalie L 112512]

I think my initial reaction would be one of shock, with perhaps a hint of anxiety. As a student and young professional, the circles I tend to travel in wouldn't have a problem with me being an escort, nor seeing one.

 

I can imagine a few situations where it would effect me negatively, or just be awkward in general. I think I would either have a conversation with them about boundaries (I obviously wouldn't want them to tell anyone because that would be disempowering for me, and would potentially have legal consequences...) and/or I would try and take it in stride and laugh it off? Nothing like saying "well holy fucking shit eh? Isn't the world a small place?"

 

Just my two cents ;)

[NotchJohnson 214069]

that the SP/hobbyiest you are about to meet for the first time may be someone you know in your personal life? How would you react?

I have thought about that before because I'll tell you why but don't criticize me. I was afraid of running into family member that I did not know. My parents were the youngest in there family and they got married late in life so, I did not meet many of my cousins and this is only hypothetical what if I met one of my cousins daughter? They are in the Ottawa and Montreal area. Just saying.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

I've been surprised opening the door, to find someone I knew on the other side. But he knew very well that it was me who would be opening.

 

In that particular circumstance it worked out, however, every time this topic comes up I want to remind gentlemen - if you want to see a lady that you know in your personal life, ASK her first before booking with her. It's a decision you both need to make, you deciding to just show up and surprise her is not nice and may not end up how you hope. However, if you ask her first, you may be pleasantly surprised that she says yes and likes the idea of having a personal history herself.

[Guest k**tyl****r]

I have an ex-gf that was an SP and probably still is. I found this out accidentally when I came across an ad which didnt show her face but i knew her well enough to know. I have wanted to visit her but always resisted the urge because I know she would not have liked that. So many questions, thoughts ... but life goes on ;)

[Guest S**a*Q]

I think it depends for me where they know me from. I do show my face in my pics, and my tattoos are noticeable and I'm well me... So if they think they know me, they know me. It's whether I remember them, I've met a lot of people... and where I remember them from.

 

Having been a manager for a long time, I NEVER slept with staff, it's bad juju. I rarely even hung out with staff that worked for me. It wasn't considered good ethics. I think I'd be a little weirded out at first if they booked me and they had worked for me, but I'd deal with it all depending on the situation.

 

If they were friends or acquaintances or old retail customers that shopped where I worked, then I think it would be a little easier than past employees. They might not even remember me, doubtful though, so if they remember me, that's still a little weird.

 

Now, I have had friends in my real life, offer me money to sleep with me, but I've declined. I figure and told them, that they're my friends, I'll sleep with them eventually if it's meant to happen. I couldn't do it that way.

 

So yeah... depends what, where, when and who I guess... :D

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

Happen to me! I had a client that was one of my teacher from high school...he didn't recognize me...having drop a few pounds, cut about 10 inches of hair, piercing and tattoos...and I've screw one of my teacher so I did remove from my to do list:)

 

I was shock at the beginning but after that it's whatever I am open

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[Guest *D E**a]

My oddest moment hasn't been meeting anyone I know....but my daughters best friend's Dad has called me. I thought it was the little girl and almost died when he asked for Emma. I think he clued in, but I hung up. Now I feel awkward every time I see him, but he hasn't said anything

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

It hasn't happened to me and I hope it never does. However, not long after I moved back to Vancouver, someone contacted me, giving the name of one of my cousins--it's not an unusual name. I hadn't seen that cousin in 20 years, but I was sure we'd recognize each other. I liked everything the guy said about himself, though, so I didn't want to turn him away categorically and I didn't want to talk to him on the telephone. I ended up writing to him and saying that I was concerned that we might know each other in another context and I asked a few general questions about how long he'd lived in Vancouver and whether he had two brothers and a sister. I said that if he did, I had attended his brother's weddings to his first and second wife. both of which were quite awhile ago and were also very large parties.

 

I was relieved to find that he wasn't my cousin. We had a good laugh about it all when we finally met.

[Catfish101 171]

I think it depends for me where they know me from. I do show my face in my pics, and my tattoos are noticeable and I'm well me... So if they think they know me, they know me. It's whether I remember them, I've met a lot of people... and where I remember them from.

 

Having been a manager for a long time, I NEVER slept with staff, it's bad juju. I rarely even hung out with staff that worked for me. It wasn't considered good ethics. I think I'd be a little weirded out at first if they booked me and they had worked for me, but I'd deal with it all depending on the situation.

 

If they were friends or acquaintances or old retail customers that shopped where I worked, then I think it would be a little easier than past employees. They might not even remember me, doubtful though, so if they remember me, that's still a little weird.

 

Now, I have had friends in my real life, offer me money to sleep with me, but I've declined. I figure and told them, that they're my friends, I'll sleep with them eventually if it's meant to happen. I couldn't do it that way.

 

So yeah... depends what, where, when and who I guess... :D

Nicely done to both to clarify and engorge at the same time. I meant engage. I try not to hit things or who i am walking with.

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[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

All the time I worry and it has happened on a couple of ocassions. What can you do? Now both parties have to be discreet and keep a secret.

 

I know someone who went to seen an SP who was in a duo picture with me and thought they knew me. It was a picture of us on the bed kissing from a distant side profile. It turns out they know my sister who looks too much like me. He even asked the SP if my name was so and so ( insert my sister's name) Good thing my sister knows that I'm an SP or it would not be cool. Plus she is a blonde and a few years older. I thought it was kind of sneaky for him to do that. I don't know if he booked the SP specifically to find out if he knew the person in the picture or not but the SP he went to visit is a damn good one so I would like to think he booked her for that reason.

[Playinginottawa 165]

Office Christmas Party 2009.

 

Bumped into a lady I had seen many times while she was at another Party at the same Venue. It was an awkward moment but only the briefest of moments. She had been enduring with a smile a stuffy room full of lawyers (she was working the front desk for one of the larger firms in town part time) and needed rescue along with a few of her co workers. Our party was Government IT and a tad bit louder :)

 

The result was one of those crazy party stories that gets told every year there after. The one where so and so went out to get some air and came back in with half a dozen ladies several orders of magnitude out of his leave lol

 

I actually just went to the batchelor party of two folks who did ok that night. :)

 

But back to the matter at hand I would never call someone out if I ever bumped into them out and about. As I would hope the same consideration might be given to me if the tables were reversed.

 

PIO

[mm99 285]

I think once either sex gets into this business you have to expect that something might happen that might expose you. It comes with the territory.

[jughead 45]

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[Victoria Banks 21899]

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

I hope this never happens

[Old Dog 179138]

... never actually met anyone that I "knew" but came close. My first year in Ottawa I had a relationship with a beautiful woman with two lovely daughters. The eldest was the spitting image of her mom... and sure enough I was perusing the ads when I came across what appeared to be the ex... only younger. I was thankful that I never made that call....

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

This all depends

For someone I find attractive and want to bend over,

I would try to setup some thing. I probaly would feel nervous just before the door opened.

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

Jug... this is chilling. You think it's not likely to happen, but if you knew the companion outside of hobbying and were attracted to her, having discovered that she's one of us, you'd set up a meeting without telling her and hope for the best? If that's what you're saying.... well, if it happened to me, I'd feel that my consent had been violated. Even if I was attracted to you in real life, being set up like this would be devastating. It would feel like a major breach of the boundaries I maintain between my ordinary life and my working life and I would feel very unsafe for a long, long time, anxious about what you might do or what you might say to others. I would feel extremely threatened.

 

As for the companion being someone you hate and your statement that you'd meet her to be sure you had her identity correct before you "make her life hell," frankly, that just stops me cold, even as I sit here, writing this post.

 

In thread after thread on this board, I read men's claims that they have well-founded concerns about fallout from meeting us. I don't recall any companion here relishing even a slim chance that she might be an unpleasant, disturbing surprise for a client, or a hope that she might be able to make a potential or former client's life hell because of something that's gone wrong in a meeting. Over and over again, other companions and I try to urge gentlemen here to relax, to be careful, but not paranoid, to trust us a little bit because we want a lot of the same things that you want. We try to point out that we have more to fear than you do. My impression is that most men here understand this, and that most believe that they're not going to hurt us because they don't think they're violent.

 

Physical violence is only one kind of abuse and, horrible as it is, it's not as bad as emotional and psychological abuse.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

This all depends

For someone I find attractive and want to bend over,

I would try to setup some thing. I probaly would feel nervous just before the door opened.

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

If it was one of my sister.....probally affraid for my life. man oh man could you image you sister opening the door, my sisters would hit first and ask questiion if I lived.

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

Everything about this post makes me feel, as a woman, that we are just objects to you.

 

If it was someone you knew, and you 'want to bend over', you wouldn't give her the respect of letting her know you'd found out her secret, you'd just go to the door and 'hope for the best'. Wow.

 

And if it was someone you hate, her being an escort would give you grounds to 'make her life a living hell'?? Seriously? Is you found out a woman you know was an escort and you didnt' like her, her being an escort would be grounds for you to treat her like crap - or worse?

 

I am very sad for you, that thoughts like that are what came into your mind about this question. And even more so, I'm sad, and scared, for the women in your life who may do things you don't approve of.

 

If being an escort is a valid reason to make someone's life hell for you, what in the world are you doing on this board? This is a place of respect, admiration, and devotion for the people who make the choice to become a sex-worker. NOT for people who think our vocation is something they should be shamed or taunted for in real life.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

This all depends

For someone I find attractive and want to bend over,

I would try to setup some thing. I probaly would feel nervous just before the door opened.

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

If it was one of my sister.....probally affraid for my life. man oh man could you image you sister opening the door, my sisters would hit first and ask questiion if I lived.

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

I think no i'm sure you won't be seeing anyone who read what you wrote.

[mrrnice2 157005]

This all depends

For someone I find attractive and want to bend over,

I would try to setup some thing. I probaly would feel nervous just before the door opened.

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

If it was one of my sister.....probally affraid for my life. man oh man could you image you sister opening the door, my sisters would hit first and ask questiion if I lived.

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

 

I cannot really believe what I have just read here. I am certain that the vast majority of men and women on this board find the comment distasteful, disturbing and dangerous.

 

I believe that most of us treat people as people first regardless of their sex, and that our personal interactions should demonstrate the respect that we have for each other, as everyone deserves.

 

My experience here has demonstrated that the women are individuals with feelings, families, friends, just the same as anyone else. They have been caring, sincere, and honest.

 

Their career choice requires that they use precaution in their meetings and this unfortunately is a reminder to them of that.

 

Equally unfortunate is the fact that when a man expresses thoughts such as these it can reflect to some degree on the community of men as a whole, even at a subconcious level. For me it is disturbing and embarrassing to have felt a need to respond to a comment such as this.

 

MY SP's are people first.

 

Do onto others as you would have them do unto you.

[roamingguy 300291]

This all depends

For someone I find attractive and want to bend over,

I would try to setup some thing. I probaly would feel nervous just before the door opened.

 

For soemone I hate.......he he he.....revenge is a dish best served cold, the only reason I would meet is to verify that it is the person I hate before I make her life hell........

 

If it was one of my sister.....probally affraid for my life. man oh man could you image you sister opening the door, my sisters would hit first and ask questiion if I lived.

 

The changes of any of these happening are very slim so I will not hold my breath.

 

Still shaking my head in disbelief at your comments, calling them disturbing is an understatement to say the least

You would surprise a lady you know/knew (outside of hobbying) to have an encounter with her...if you didn't know it before, you should know that all encounters are to be consensual. You are taking away the lady's consent when you book an appointment with someone you know, while she doesn't realize that she knows you from outside escorting...it is a violation pure and simple

But most shocking is making a ladies life hell. I have had ex-g/f's and bad breakups, but I sure wouldn't make their life hell. Grow up and move on

And to say you'd make their life hell is offensive to every lady. The implication you are making is being a SP/MA is wrong, and to be ashamed of. And it is only by the grace of god that the ladies you have seen don't have a past with you outside of hobbying, because if they did, you'd likely make their life hell

It also is offensive to most of the hobbiests, who treat the ladies with the utmost respect. A lot of ladies require references/verification. It's not because of the majority of guys are respectful, it's because of the minority who have underlying disturbed, hateful attitudes (and maybe actions) towards the ladies.

Still in shock and disbelief

RG