What draws us to see Spâ??s...

[jafo105 39057]

I was single for ten years before I could bring myself to seeing an Escort. Which was last November. I was feeling starved for some affection and some companionship. Sex did not even enter my mind. (Honest)

 

I was fortunate enough to meet a wonderful lady through an agency. We connected right from the start. I continue to see her now as an independent. She has taught me so much in how to express myself. She also takes the time to teach me in the fine art of pleasuring a woman. This will take lots and lots of practice which I am only to eager to do.

:aol_cunnilingus:

I have branched out a little too, I have even seen a MA. She is also a fantastic lady.

 

I wish I had done these things years ago.

 

I am curious to know what other hobbyists have to say about their reasons, expectations, experiences, Is it the great sex! etc, etc.

 

Cheers, Jafo

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I was single for almost 40 year before I could bring myself to seeing an escort :-). No seriously variety is my main reason since you asked jafo. I used to go to strip bars and meet hundreds of fine ladies and make friends with most of them so variety was the factor that I started that hobby (strip bars) and after a decade I realized that I need something more than contact dances or hugging and kissing and now after 3 years of seeing escorts, I am spoiled lol. The other reason is that as most know I love the 19 to 25 age range and that is a lot younger than I am today and my guess is it would be harder for me to meet that age range in the dance bars lol. I love ladies (can't live without them lol) and my life would be all work without weekend encounters

 

I have been seeing escorts (very fine young ladies btw) since 2008 and I can't end it now and go back to strip bars again. I am guessing if the private bill on buying sex passes the parliament in the fall I will have a real hard time as I have to adjust my lifestyle overnight and stop seeing escorts and go back to strip bars again. And if SCs are banned too then I have to go back to dance bars and unlike 15 years ago will likely have real tough time picking up the 19 to 25 age range lol.

 

And oh yes I agree we must tell them how much these ladies mean to us and I think that the best way to do it, is by taking the time and giving these treasures a glorious recommendation on cerb and thanks them for the wonderful time they have granted us.

[roamingguy 300291]

Well my reasons for seeing a SP are similar to yours. After a bad break-up (including being stalked by my ex-gf) I swore off dating and relationships.

But three years without, yes, without, and I knew I needed female companionship. Did not want to go back to dating, so I thought of seeing SP's.

Well the first encounter bad, the second ok, the third, bad, the fourth, she was great (and she and I became friends too) And what has been great is that all, except 3 encounters total, have been great. But instead of dwelling on the very few poor encounters, I focus on the great encounters I've had, and look forward to the future encounters which will be great too.

And for me the encounters are much more than just sexual. The social/interpersonal aspects are as enjoyable as the sex. (maybe thats just a sign of getting old...er gaining maturity). The encounters are mutually beneficial, with mutual respect. There are no strings, and no drama and yes, you can develop friendships

The only regret, I didn't start seeing ladies a lot sooner

Some ramblings

RG

[dguy1 280]

Ok guys my experience is a tad different. I am actually very happily married. Now, I know a lot of you are raising your eyebrows but bear with me and please don't hate me because I am living the dream.

I originally hobbied to get back at an ex wife who had slept around on me but then I met a wonderful woman and remarried and we have a very fulfilling sex life. I revealed to her about my hobbying in the past and she was actually turned on by it and would have me relate the stories of my encounters during our "private" time. :lovers: This led then to me suggesting that I have the odd dalliance now and then with her full knowledge and permission. Holy crap...she agreed and got excited at the prospect.

Now, I only hobby very rarely mainly because she is more concerned about me blowing too much cash as opposed to blowing too much wad (lol :icon_lol:). However, when I do for me it is all about the fulfillment of fantasy. I get to experience something that only takes place in our imaginations which we discuss before the act. I also enjoy that when I see an SP, my pleasure is her job and I love how they take care of me and make me feel good without me having to work at seduction. I am there for one thing and everyone involves knows it.

I am friendly and very polite to the girls but I am not looking to replace a relationship so I try not to forge any emotional ties and try to remain as professional as possible. Not to say I do not make friends but I try to keep things as real as possible.

Then I relate the experience to my wife and it has really spiced things up with us in the bedroom:thedeed:. As I said...please don't hate me because I know I am one lucky son of a b*tch.:icon_lol:

[Guest t**obb****]

My reasoning is somewhat different...

I can have sex when I want to, without any lingering obligation.

 

**I see SPs because they are ladies, who are the same as all sexual ladies out there, but they are committed to my needs once the session has been initiated, and they release me of all obligation once the session has ended.**

- Sex with a women that is not paid for, costs quite a bit more in time, obligation, courting, etc...

 

background:

I had been having sex with women of all sizes, shapes, races, exploratory sexual orientations, and intimate personalities. So far I haven't paid a SP for something that I haven't done in my private life.

 

preamble:

I actually found that all ladies have wonderful, engaging things about them, if you treat them with kindness, patience and respect. The thing is that at my age now, most ladies require committment and exclusivity if you want to become sexually involved.

 

where i'm coming from:

I met a girl when I was in high school who i stayed with until disease and death set us apart. During the disease, sexual interest dropped. It was emotionally and physically draining for all involved.

 

Story currently:

Life is emotionally draining. A visit with an SP is a fantasy and escape from reality. I can have sex when I want to! I have lots of women friends, and removing sex from the situation makes for wonderful times!

 

more detail:

Honestly most women that I have never met before that would have sex with me the night they meet me, are women that I may enjoy sex/drinking/dancing with, but not much else.

 

The women I enjoy everything else with, I cannot test sexual chemistry without compromising the relationship. Nor can I abandom them if we become sexual, and it stops being sexually fun.

 

Both types willl have expectations from me that don't end when I leave their presence.

[antlerman 17064]

well I bared most of my soul previously in another thread.....but I guess I really did not get to some part of it...

 

Why....hobby...

 

Good question.....well....I too am happily married. It did not start being lonely...it did not start on a whim....or a dare....just personal exploration....

 

I just wanted to explore my sexual side...and what a better way then with people who do not judge...do not flip out with requests....or leave you if you seem kinky.

[dguy1 280]

I forgot the most important part in my previous post. The anticipation leading up to the act!

Plus it just helps my days go by knowing what is in store for me.

Having a bad day at work? No problem, I will soon be having sex with a gorgeous woman.

Getting bored standing in line at the bank? No problem...I will soon be having sex with a beautiful woman.

Stuck in traffic? No problem, I will soon be looking at a sexy lady and her naked body.

Irritated by a customer or a client? No problem, I can block them out with visions on what I plan to do at my next encounter.

See a pretty girl walk by who doesn't even glance my way? No problem because someone even prettier will soon be rocking my world.

Anticipation...that heady rush I get when I step up to the door. The excitement build up that makes your body tingle and your knees weak. It is all a complete package.

There are some great ladies in this business and so far I have met only the great ones! I have enjoyed my time with each and every one and I hope to meet many more!

[mrgreen760 37785]

Started out looking for a little variety but now it's about no hassle fun.

 

Peace

MG

[silverado17 12689]

i like the meeting of different ladies

[danrica 431]

never have had a girlfriend and didn't want to be a virgin any more so i started hobbying. Meet a really nice women the first time and have been seeing her exclusively for a year and a half.

[roamingguy 300291]

I forgot the most important part in my previous post. The anticipation leading up to the act!

Plus it just helps my days go by knowing what is in store for me.

Having a bad day at work? No problem, I will soon be having sex with a gorgeous woman.

Getting bored standing in line at the bank? No problem...I will soon be having sex with a beautiful woman.

Stuck in traffic? No problem, I will soon be looking at a sexy lady and her naked body.

Irritated by a customer or a client? No problem, I can block them out with visions on what I plan to do at my next encounter.

See a pretty girl walk by who doesn't even glance my way? No problem because someone even prettier will soon be rocking my world.

Anticipation...that heady rush I get when I step up to the door. The excitement build up that makes your body tingle and your knees weak. It is all a complete package.

There are some great ladies in this business and so far I have met only the great ones! I have enjoyed my time with each and every one and I hope to meet many more!

 

Good point. I know I look forward to my once a month escape to see a lady. With a new lady, there is the excitement of seeing someone you don't know...the ultimate blind date. And with a repeat encounter, the excitement of seeing a lady you like, knowing that your "relationship" has evolved and even gets better

No matter who the lady is, how many times I've seen her, the anticipation of the encounter, heart thumping, knots in your stomach, looking at the clock waiting for the designated time and then, the quiet knock on your door. And for two or three hours, the outside world is gone, you are alone with a great lady.

And I don't even care about the pretty girls walking by, I know I'm going to have a real encounter with prettier ladies, and focus on the next one coming up

RG

[shymale 10234]

my reasons for seeing sp is very simple. like my handle says i'm shy, plus had to that i'm overweight, i never had luck with woman. so for me seeing an sp was the simplest way to get what i needed. i was always horny with no way to get satisfaction on a regular basis. so now i hobby.

[jafo105 39057]

I want to thank everyone for taking the time and sharing this weekend.

I know this was not easy for a lot of us guys.

 

Remember, most people are more interested in who and what you are on the inside. Thats what matters most.

 

We are very fortunate to have a great bunch of ladies like we do here on Cerb.

 

Cheers,

Jafo

[Mutau 2516]

Like several previous posters, I am happily married and am not about to change my marital situation.

 

The excitment of making contact with the ladies, the exchange of e-mails or PMs to become better acquainted, and then the day of our encounter when you make your way to the incall location. The rush, the trepidation, the butterflies: then the door opens, you step into her open arms and embrace. A new world starts and for several glorious hours you are transported to another sphere of being. You chat, you interact, you smooch, you .........

 

For me it is about exploring my sexual side and the multi facets that this entails. Whether it be with the ladies, T-girls, group action (MFM, FMF, multiMF or multiFM): for me it is the sexual stimulus of an erotically spicy encounter. It is a non-judgmental session in which sensual pleasure for your partner(s) and yourself is the aim.

 

Heck, I have had encounters where no sex was involved but merely chatting on various topics with the SP. Mental stimulation, so good.

[stevecurious 42059]

As others have previously said I too am in a relationship (married) but in fact it is quite a sexless marriage. No that is not completely accurate, there is sex but it is of the uneventful kind! So I find myself seeking the friendship and companionship of attractive, open minded lady friends that I find here on Cerb.

 

My first foray into the world of "hobbying" came very shortly after I joined Cerb as a matter of fact. I finally decided that I was going to take the hobbying plunge and went searching for a lady to meet. After browsing another site I found a lady who I thought I would like to meet. After reviewing her website I became less enthused with wanting to meet her. However, it was at that time that I found a like to Cerb. After clicking the link I quickly joined up and the rest as they say is history.

[TheMike 100]

I was not drawn to see an SP by horniness alone, although I was horny when I first did, of course. I can take care of my horniness by myself if I need to. But eventually, curiousity just kind of kills the cat (good thing satisfaction brings him back!). You start to wonder what the sexual experience is like. If I'm being honest, and why shouldn't I be on a board like this, my only sexual experiences so far have been with SPs. And I don't regret that at all, nor do I feel like a loser in any way. In fact, it's quite the opposite. It was a confidence booster after the first time, and every time since. It really made me realize that I'm not inadequate, I can have sex, I can be intimate, I just haven't found a girl that I want to devote an extraordinary amount of time to.

 

And as others mentioned, the variety available as well as the fact that your obligation doesn't extend beyond your agreed-upon time together is a huge bonus. If people only had sex with those they dated, we'd only really have sex with a few types of people (I'm talking more about personality types). But when I know that my time together is not followed by further obligation, I'm more comfortable having encounters with various women without being too concerned about their personality. That is not to say that I am not interested in their personality, it just means that if I dislike them (has not yet happened) it's no big deal.

 

It's true, free sex is never actually free. Either I'd pay for it through dates and time, or I'd pay for it through the potential dramatic aftermath of a one night stand, if it was with someone I knew. If not, I would likely be having sex with a sloppy drunk. With an SP there's no drama because she doesn't want it to go any further, either.

 

Just my ill-informed two cents.

[Icebreaker 3938]

My dating experience of the past 8 years has been pretty horrible overall 5 GF's in that time with only one decent one in the 5.

 

The first one was super selfish and so extremely self focused that everything had to be perfectly her way and done immediately to her unrealistic standards (she was looking for more of a sugar daddy than a BF).

 

Thankfully the others were not to that extreme. 3 of the 4 remaining GF's were just looking for someone to string along while they were looking for a better deal (despite saying they were looking for a relationship with me) and still actively dating while seeing me and without warning I get a cowardly email or text saying "I've met someone...you're a nice guy...good luck". The other was a genuinely nice person but it just didn't work out.

 

The odd dates in between were not particularly enjoyable - more like job interviews (actually I can recall some job interviews that were more enjoyable). For some reason I seem to attract girls who are extremely materialistic - some just hide it better than others.

 

I have many platonic female friends who I get along with very well which lets me know I do know to act around women. Although I'm no movie star I'm not Jabba the Hut either (I'm a shorter / stalky build). Also my job keeps me quite busy and carries an unpredictable schedule at times.

 

With such a dubious history, I have given up on conventional dating as it's obviously not working for me and was certainly not fun. In the past I've burried myself in work and hanging out with friends but that still leaves a void.

 

I thought about it for quite a while and realized that there was a better way (and after some internet surfing can across CERB). I realize that this lifestyle is not a replacement for a conventional romantic relationship, but it does address things that have been lacking for me these past few years.

 

To touch on another thread I have no objections to paying for companionship, in the past I've spent more money on dinners gifts etc for GF's or dates who likely never appreciated much of it - all I had were their empty promises or job interview type dates. So I don't really see the difference, in fact the ladies on CERB conduct themselves with much more integrity and honesty than most of my ex-GF's did.

 

Last but not least there is the fun factor - which brings me to the point where I have recently met a "purrfect" SP. Apart from the obvious fun factor (which was never lost on me) there was the social fun aspect which was actually fun and enjoyable for a change because there were no games, nothing was rushed, she was much more understanding and perceptive than my ex's. I could not have asked for a better introduction (which I plan to repeat in the next couple of weeks).

 

After giving up so much over the past few years I realize that I have to start taking care of myself and my needs as well.