Kissing in the CR

[Kracker0091 387]

Hey guys,

 

So I have noticed in a few threads about people making out with dancers in the CR. From the sounds of it, they make it sound like a common ordinary thing. I have always been pretty shy myself when going back there with a girl so I am not really sure how it works. Should I ask? Is it insulting to ask about that? Additionally, is it bad form to ask a girl if she does any extra work outside of the club?

 

Please feel free to PM me if you don't feel comfortable posting. Ladies as well if you have your own limitations in the CR.

[Guest *l**e]

In my experience, if the girl kisses you first, then fine. If not, then yes...if you want to kiss her, then you have to ask her.

 

as for working outside, many girls have told me guys just ask them if they do "private shows" outside the club. I'm not sure about legality, etc, I'm just reporting what I have been told.

[Bridgette 10998]

In some clubs, like the Den and Barb's, kissing is against the rules. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen, but you should be careful about trying to get the dancer to kiss you. Like Il Re said, if the lady doesn't initiate, your best bet is to simply ask. If you just go for it and are with a dancer who has no interest in kissing her clients, it could lead to an unpleasant experience. It's fine to not get more dances if she doesn't offer kissing, but please be respectful and don't insult her or get huffy because of it.

 

As for extra work outside the club, the most important thing to keep in mind is to, again, be respectful. While it's certainly not uncommon to be solicited for extracurricular activities, it doesn't happen --that-- often, so some dancers do get offended by these requests. As long as you aren't pushy or get angry if she rejects your request, you should be fine.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I didn't know kissing is against the rules at Barbs!!!. Good to know though. As for kissing, ladies of course have the right to refuse (the service) and so do we (the right to refuse the repeat dance). Usually kissing is very important to me and those who are receiving more than one song are those who allow hugging and kissing, otherwise I can sit by the stage and enjoy a glass of wine for hours and watch.

 

Not sure what to advise except what has been said before, ask respectfully and if denied then save your greens for the next dancer who does allow. I never go after the dancer unless she comes to me first as per my policy and if she does, there is a good chance she knows that 1+ songs means hugging and kissing (Dancers share info on clients in the changing rooms) and if she doesn't come to me (yes it has happened too) I interpret that as a no kissing dancer (or one who doesn't like me). Remember this is a strip bar not a dance bar where men are expected to ask for the dance.

 

As a suggestion for the latter part of discussion, there are some SPs here on cerb who are dancers too. If you like dancers or enjoy picking in flesh then you may wish to contact them via PM on cerb (not in the club which is a public place).

[whiteman 14028]

Hey guys,

 

So I have noticed in a few threads about people making out with dancers in the CR. From the sounds of it, they make it sound like a common ordinary thing. I have always been pretty shy myself when going back there with a girl so I am not really sure how it works. Should I ask? Is it insulting to ask about that? Additionally, is it bad form to ask a girl if she does any extra work outside of the club?

 

Please feel free to PM me if you don't feel comfortable posting. Ladies as well if you have your own limitations in the CR.

Unfortunately, this isn't a game for shy men. Generally speaking when it comes to kissing, if you have to ask, then the answer is always "no". You have to show the lady that you're worth kissing. It doesn't mean that you have to be a caveman either, but generally a sure man will be kissed, but a shy man won't.

 

As for asking if a girl does any extra, if you think asking for a kiss is awkward, then it's nothing compared to asking about something like that. If it doesn't result in the girl cutting the dance short right there and then, then at the very least she'll get a little further away from you. That's definitely bad form.

 

You have to build up to each level. Introducing progressively more intimate questions out of sequence will result in failure.

[bluethunder01 1111]

I'm an average looking guy but I never had to ask for kisses. I feel my personality, friendliness and soft touch work well with my generosity. It would be nice if somebody who really wanted a trip to the CR for a C-Note would greet me with a kiss on the lips like Maya did to that Crazy 7's winner. I should try that tomorrow at Pigale. I was going to go on the 9th but I was sidetracked and had to go to Barb's.

 

I could really use a kiss...and maybe a trip to the casino afterwards.

[Hector17 9215]

Because of that I have no place in a SC, and fortunately, after reading this thread, don't have to navigate the minefields of dos' and donts', and also be overly concerned with my charcter traits and qualities to afford me max enjoyment from a visit.

Sorry to seem naive, but I guess my query then is...a naked dancing girl is kissing you, so I'm assuming some natural stuff happens....but then what? Or is getting kissed the mileage one hopes for in a SC?

[Wallace48 571]

I sometimes go to Playmate. About a third of the girls I have gone to the CR room with initiate kissing and I am happy to participate - and I am sixty. Just don't know what it means when they massage me through my jeans and don't know how to respond.

[slyjohn 929]

I've been kissed and more at a aforementioned club here ... oh yeah. Its a surprise at first but very nice at the same time! ;)

[Winnipegcub 21293]

I don't go to SCs too often anymore after starting to see SPs. Having said that they certainly have their place in the world of sensuality. As well I've met some very sexy dancers who I just have to make exceptions for. In relation to services I never go in 'expecting' anything other than a nice dance. I provide all women I meet the utmost respect of whatever limits they may have. I let them know if I'm enjoying my time and have further interests...but keep it respectful. And in particular in a CR I view it as their surroundings and they are in control of what does or doesn't happen.

[FalconHawk 287]

I am new to this but have figured out one thing; the girl will lead you. I have yet to go back to the CR but, when a lady approaches you and whispers in your ear you are hot and starts to suck your mouth it would seem to me you are in for a good time back there. I do not know how much will happen but am going to find out shortly. Unfortunately for me the timing has been bad. Next time I will be ready. So I suggest just do it! And you will see what happens. If ever your mileage will vary applies, this is it.

[Guest Ni**t*****t]

I experienced great kissing in the CR of several clubs. I never initiated or asked but rather let it happen. This way it is natural and the girl and I feel good about it. I simply flows into our CR session like the rest of her dances.

[whiteman 14028]

Because of that I have no place in a SC, and fortunately, after reading this thread, don't have to navigate the minefields of dos' and donts', and also be overly concerned with my charcter traits and qualities to afford me max enjoyment from a visit.

Sorry to seem naive, but I guess my query then is...a naked dancing girl is kissing you, so I'm assuming some natural stuff happens....but then what? Or is getting kissed the mileage one hopes for in a SC?

Sometimes people should be just happy that a naked girl is dancing for you, and not expect anything beyond that. Is kissing the ultimate extent of what happens? Nope, but that should be expected even less. ;)

[Annessa 22743]

I've mentioned this before in another thread but i think aside from whats already been said its just a general rule to let the lady be in control of the kissing if its gonna happen...

 

another thing that really turns me off is when a customer grabs the back of my head and holds me down into the kiss (should I decide to give one)....this is not cool because since we'd normally have to be discreet about kissing its important that we can pull away when we need to.

 

sit back relax and enjoy the experience and you'll have a great time

[FalconHawk 287]

Just wondering Annessa, do you ever dance at Pigales or the Bare Fax? Any plans to do so?

[slyjohn 929]

Stop teasing Annessa! lol!

 

I might have to go over and see you with my own two eyes then. ;)

 

Sly

[whiteman 14028]

Just wondering Annessa, do you ever dance at Pigales or the Bare Fax? Any plans to do so?

She's at the Playmate. :icon_cool:

[r__d 12698]

She's at the Playmate. :icon_cool:

 

Silver Dollar, lately.

[tallOttawaMan 779]

You have to show the lady that you're worth kissing. It doesn't mean that you have to be a caveman either, but generally a sure man will be kissed, but a shy man won't.

 

While it is true you have to show her that you are worth kissing, I am not sure if being sure/shy is the issue (at least in a SC). Being attractive and looking clean certainly does help, but I susspect more important is how much money it looks like you have. The dancer isn't there to find a boyfriend, but instead to make money, so she wants to make sure that her time with you is worth while.

[whiteman 14028]

While it is true you have to show her that you are worth kissing, I am not sure if being sure/shy is the issue (at least in a SC). Being attractive and looking clean certainly does help, but I susspect more important is how much money it looks like you have. The dancer isn't there to find a boyfriend, but instead to make money, so she wants to make sure that her time with you is worth while.

Well, if you're going to be to be one of those "sure" men, then at some point along the way you're going to need to believe you're worth kissing. If you're shy and can't talk to a girl, then you'll never get kissed. Sounds like something a grandma would tell her ten-year old grandson about girls, but it's true. :icon_lol:

 

As far as being "attractive" and "clean", not sure what that means, I've seen the ladies swarming around guys in the well-pressed monkey suits, and I've seen them swarming around the guys in construction overalls, just as much. Think that has as much to do with the girl's individual tastes as anything.

 

As for flashing around money, that works well too. Several years ago, during the dotcom boom, I knew a guy who worked as an engineer in one of the local hi-tech firms of that time. He flashed a lot of money around inside the clubs, and he got a lot of attention. But I made as money as him, but I never flashed the cash around. I'll tell you that it was fun hanging around him, but in the end he'd be going from paycheck to paycheck, even after all of the money he made, he had no savings. I got just as lucky with the girls by just sitting around him, without having to spend all of that money myself. He'd spend that cash so he could go home with them. I could go home with them just by talking nicely to them. ;)

[Annessa 22743]

As for flashing around money, that works well too. Several years ago, during the dotcom boom, I knew a guy who worked as an engineer in one of the local hi-tech firms of that time. He flashed a lot of money around inside the clubs, and he got a lot of attention. But I made as money as him, but I never flashed the cash around. I'll tell you that it was fun hanging around him, but in the end he'd be going from paycheck to paycheck, even after all of the money he made, he had no savings. I got just as lucky with the girls by just sitting around him, without having to spend all of that money myself. He'd spend that cash so he could go home with them. I could go home with them just by talking nicely to them. ;)

 

also on the same note I have seen guys flash a wad of cash to buy drinks and think that buying a girl drinks etc is all that matters and then leaqve without so much as buying a dance.....money doesnt equal kisses...and drinks certainly don't pay my rent.

 

think of how you would act of you wanted to send snog-signals to a girl you were out on a date with...be polite..make some nice (not creepy) eye contact...genuinely listen...compliment her on her body while shes dancing for you (a big confidence booster for us) Sometimes guys just stare forward and I wanna say "are you there??". it sounds like hogwash but a guy's perspective on passion and a girl's perspective on passion sometimes are two different things and perhaps if a lady is putty in your hands the heat could get turned up a notch in your favor.

 

but then again...what do i know? lol...j/k

[O'Cahla 4352]

As far as I'm concerned, I leave the hands fairly oose and let the woman guide me where she wants to be touched..............and as far as kissing, unless she offers or initiates, don't touch.

[PhantomKnight 7914]

I love kissing in the CR. It makes my night and usually I feel satisfied at the end of the night!!!!

[Guest **oo**e]

In my experience about one third of dancers are happy to provide kissing and will do so passionately. About another ten percent will eventually kiss if they are turned on.

 

Most dancers don't provide full on mouth lfk or dfk.

[Emdf40ph 217]

Although I have never experienced kissing in the CR I have had very intimate dances. As was mentioned let her guide you. Instead of groping her. Caress her with light touches that show her you respect her and almost tease her. Get to know her and if she feels safe with you it will in all likey hood be a very good dance.