NotchJohnson 214069 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 I'm a perfectionist(somewhat) and love to do everything right so here is a question to you all, ladies and gents. What are common mistakes that we do when having sex? I'll start by the first one, not kissing first. And this is what I mean by this, diving straight to the erogenous zone is not the way to go. I find that a passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay. Here is another one, digits: do not try to reach for gold, there is none. I heard ladies say that some guys will try to put their whole hand inside there and dig for something, what? no one knows. Comments welcomed. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The General 11309 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 I am not so sure about your digit comment, each lady is different, some don't like digits, much, if at all, but others find that you need to get to their "G" spot to really get them going. Mistake to me is to have preplanned how things will go, I really think there is a strong element of spontanity to the experience that you can't underestimate. Even with the same lady, it might be completely different on what makes things click. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 This topic never loses its shine! I prefer to focus on what to do right rather than whats wrong as no two lovers have the same definitions. I have some fairly simple rules for making things click for me... 1. Kissing is the main ingredient. It needs to be done slowly with a build up of tension then needs to move slowly to other parts of the body. Not flaky little butterfly kisses either, full mouth contact with lots of sucks and nibbles. 2. Creating body awareness is next. I like to focus on the skin to skin contact, feeling your fingers on me and mine on you. I will concentrate on specific body parts that are touching and that will be all that I feel. It takes the contact to another level entirely when you are touching a "nonsexy" body part. Those are the parts of me that crave to be included and make me weak at the knees. 3. Losing track of time is essential for me to relax. I like not knowing how long I've been kissing or playing. Don't ask what time it is. 4. Let me set the pace. I will get you where you need to go, I promise but please don't try to establish the cadence until I get to where I want to be. I know what works and all I need if for you to let me lead for a little bit. It will be well worth it for both of us in the end. 5. Don't hand me a list of "to do's". I will show you the door. I do find "wish lists" very arousing when you present it in soft whispers to my ear during opening kissing ceremonies. 6. I might be petitie but I don't break, don't be afraid to let go when the time is right. Intensity is most fulfilling experience when it's embraced and acted upon. A little man handling with the right guy is amazing. cat 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aimtoplease1 1839 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 Keep in mind that the "G" spot is not that far in...2" at most. I'm sure I make a few mistakes...so I'm looking forward to reading what everyone has to say. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 I think that the most important ingredient would be frank communication as both women and men's likes and dislikes can vary drastically 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aimtoplease1 1839 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 This topic never loses its shine! I prefer to focus on what to do right rather than whats wrong as no two lovers have the same definitions. I have some fairly simple rules for making things click for me... 1. Kissing is the main ingredient. It needs to be done slowly with a build up of tension then needs to move slowly to other parts of the body. Not flaky little butterfly kisses either, full mouth contact with lots of sucks and nibbles. 2. Creating body awareness is next. I like to focus on the skin to skin contact, feeling your fingers on me and mine on you. I will concentrate on specific body parts that are touching and that will be all that I feel. It takes the contact to another level entirely when you are touching a "nonsexy" body part. Those are the parts of me that crave to be included and make me weak at the knees. 3. Losing track of time is essential for me to relax. I like not knowing how long I've been kissing or playing. Don't ask what time it is. 4. Let me set the pace. I will get you where you need to go, I promise but please don't try to establish the cadence until I get to where I want to be. I know what works and all I need if for you to let me lead for a little bit. It will be well worth it for both of us in the end. 5. Don't hand me a list of "to do's". I will show you the door. I do find "wish lists" very arousing when you present it in soft whispers to my ear during opening kissing ceremonies. 6. I might be petitie but I don't break, don't be afraid to let go when the time is right. Intensity is most fulfilling experience when it's embraced and acted upon. A little man handling with the right guy is amazing. cat Thanks Cat...just reading your comment was arousing...lol. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted November 12, 2012 I spend time getting to know the lady. I like encounters of a minimum two hours, sometimes more. That is to spend time getting to know one another, and in the case of repeat encounters, time to catch up. It certainly isn't because I have the stamina for sustained multi hours in bed LOL Already mentioned but let the encounter unfold naturally, both for first time meetings and repeat encounters (if you repeat) No scripts On a related note, and one I learned about after my first four to five encounters. Forget the menu...in fact I don't even look if a lady has a menu now. Respect her boundaries...nuff said there Just a couple thoughts thrown in RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cometman 35115 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 No means no. I usually assume her restrictions are much like mine (unless she make me go freaky :icon_eek: ). If you do something she doesn't like or agree to, hopefully she gently tells you and you respect it. Treat them like a girlfriend you respect and things will be fine. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 As Gabriella said, best to just go with the flow, a mistake would be to expect to much of anyone, it should be natural, when chemistry is there mother nature will lead the way. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 I hate, hate, hate "the script". Each and every encounter is different! Chemistry, one's mood, the surroundings, the time of day, the foreplay etc, etc, etc...so many factors come into play when two people are involved in an erotic encounter. There is no wrong or right other than exceeding your partner's boundaries. Have fun people...expecting that perfect porno scene you may have seen, may leave you disappointed. Go with the flow, enjoy and have a great orgasm! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly Kisses 2301 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 Don't forget to take your time undressing each other. Feeling each other thru clothes or sliding your hands in a blouse under a bra, inside a man's trouser are all great mood makers. The kissing and body awareness heightens the moment while slowly strippping each other's clothes off. Nothing better than a throbbing cock and a wet pussy already for action before the clothes are even off. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted November 13, 2012 It's not really making mistakes to me, more like finding out what you really like and dislike, after all, sex that is experimental is way more fun that something scripted or conventional! :) That's it! Finding out what each other likes. I have always said that discovery is half the fun! Then doing more of what each other likes. Yeah! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214069 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 No stopping for a break while you are down on her muffin. Women are not like men, once you stopped pleasuring her(if she likes daty) get ready to start back at square one because they lose that momentum really fast, so keep going at all cost numb jaw or not. What about this one ladies, should a man keep the socks for last? Can we remove all clothing first until we only have the sock? I think not, I look stupid in sock only!! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted November 13, 2012 No stopping for a break while you are down on her muffin. Women are not like men, once you stopped pleasuring her(if she likes daty) get ready to start back at square one because they lose that momentum really fast, so keep going at all cost numb jaw or not. What about this one ladies, should a man keep the socks for last? Can we remove all clothing first until we only have the sock? I think not, I look stupid in sock only!! A naked man wearing socks is just plain silly looking! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214069 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 I've heard of ladies asking for the quick and hard thrust, as much as I enjoy it I will only last 30 seconds, but then again some ladies find it hurts them, they don't like the jack hammer style. Here is a question to the ladies, do you like when a man can last over 1 hour without coming(spelled cumming)? Would I be called a "god" if I could last that long? Some woman don't like to be asked if they came, I guess if you didn't find out, don't ask. I'm remembering these from when I was younger and boy did I ever change my way around sex since. Don't ever grab a woman by the back of her head and lead her to you penis or push her head down further over your penis, she can't DT don't force it. If she is performing oral on you and you are about to explode warn her before they don't all love the taste of sperm. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 I find that the biggest mistake people can make is to worry too much about everything that will happen or that is going on... People, just relax and enjoy! :) Just let the moment, the passion, the body language and the chemistry guide you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 A naked man wearing socks is just plain silly looking! Or naked man wearing black socks and sandals,or man wearing robe and black socks with sandals getting newspaper from deliver box. But on a serious note, YOU KNOW WHAT....just be yourself and let things flow to the erotic,sexual desire you both want and fulfill your ecstasy wants :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thesugarman 272 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 i m a go with a flow guy first visit then i like to to establish what we both like going forward if their is a connection,,,,,,,,,guys heads up but you at least have to visit the ladies first before you can establish any kind of rapour or chemistry. Keep in mind these ladies have less information about you then we have of them.........and we sometimes want to assume that we should get everything without providing no skin in this game. Think about it from the providers side and dont be so selfish as these ladies are putting themselves out there in the interestes of attracting you............... This forum is amazing and if you are a real guy you will be rewarded. \If you can't be co-herent I don't blame anyone from sending you to "DELETE" Cheers Sugar Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jafo105 39057 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 My mistake is never having enough time. When I make love to a woman I like to have several uninterrupted hours. Followed by snuggling and cuddling through out the remainder of the night. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Genevieve Marceau 68000 Report post Posted November 14, 2012 Using the same finger for both anal and pussy play....with no handwash in between :shock: 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
