jerican 657 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I am fairly new to this hobby and this world (I had no idea Ottawa had all these amazing MP's and SP's) and enjoying the hell out of myself. I semi-regularly visit CMJ and have started to spend some time with the beautiful SP's who frequent these boards and I have to say I am loving every minute of it...just need to restrain myself sometimes to ensure mortgage and bills are paid.:grin: The problem? I am meeting these amazingly sexy, attentive and wonderful women and having great experiences and have no one to talk about it with. All of my friends (I believe) would not approve/understand what I am doing and there is a chance it could get back to my SO... We all have been there...you go have a great experience, you are feeling great and would love to just chat about it with someone. I think that is why I like writing recommendations, at least I get to relate some of the experience! What do other people on this board do? Do most of you have people you can chat about what you are enjoying? For SP's: Do most of you have friends outside the industry you can chat about the good experiences with? I am sure all of us on either side of the fence have great experiences they would love to talk about. Pretty sure I am not alone in feeling this way!:wink: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 Come into chat then and talk away. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
coachg 388 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I feel rather fortunate then, as I have a good friend who I can tell about my experiences....we have had a few experiences in the past together with different ladies and completely trust one another. He is into hobbying as much as I am, but he does indulge on occasion. It does feel good to get it out....good or bad! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I have some selected friends and family that I talk with, so it's all good Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**r***e Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I am in the same boat as you jerican. I find the best place for me to talk about it is in chat. You can also meet some really nice people in there as well as the ladies. You can also meet some weird people too....right etasman...:P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I am in the same boat as you jerican. I find the best place for me to talk about it is in chat. You can also meet some really nice people in there as well as the ladies. You can also meet some weird people too....right etasman...:P sure sure Mr. Kangaroo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerican 657 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I am in the same boat as you jerican. I find the best place for me to talk about it is in chat. You can also meet some really nice people in there as well as the ladies. You can also meet some weird people too....right etasman...:P I may try the chat, never been a big fan of chat sessions for the fairly impersonal nature...have to maintain the anonymity and all. Nothing truly compares to sitting at a pub over a beer and discussing interesting things....I guess that is what I wish I could do with my mainstream friends. I have some selected friends and family that I talk with, so it's all good Wow, you are quite lucky, my family is so uptight I have to laugh thinking about their reactions. Even my brother whom I play softball with and share beers/stories would look at me different if I were to open up to him. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I think I'm lucky in general to have several people - men and women - with whom I trust completely on not just keeping my secret safe, but being open minded and non-judgemental also. Having that kind of trust is wonderful period, not only the capability to be able to chit-chat about the totally cool and gorgeous SP I was with recently. Most other family and friends would have some derogatory feelings to say the least. But I guess you only really have so many true friends in that regard. And my family...dear god, I can't even do something remotely off the beaten path without hearing a snide comment! And if all else fails, CERB is a great resource to say the least. We're all pretty much in the same boat and like any other 'niche' group that gathers in forums, it's like a second home. You know, like Cheers where everybody knows your name. Except for the knowing your name part since we're all totally lying about that ;) Although I do believe I've been called a bugger on more than one occasion... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I have a couple of friends who know about my escort and other extra-curricular activities, my fav and I talk about the various little adventures and escapades we are having with other people and there's also been some in-person contact with other CERB members, including the recent inaugural meeting of the GB social club. 8-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S***e Report post Posted May 31, 2009 Call me anti-social, but I prefer not to speak of what I am doing and with whom I am doing it to anyone be it online or in-person. If asked I will offer a recommendation to another CERB member of a certain SP or MP, not that I'm overly experienced in all this stuff. I am a private person and I am discrete in all aspects of this hobby, so I simply keep these things to myself...just my nature I guess. I've always adhered to what happens behind closed doors stays there. Old Spike Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildstallion 1819 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I think the ultimate would be to have a girlfriend who was into the hobby that I guy could take along to these dates and then discuss it afterward over a beer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 sure sure Mr. Kangaroo! hahaha you two make me laugh.... all the time, it never fails:boobies: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsup 11893 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I would love to have someone to trust and confide in and share with outside of this community. Cerb is my avenue for conversing about this great hobby. You get to discuss with some great hobbyists and fantastic providers. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 Wow, you are quite lucky, my family is so uptight I have to laugh thinking about their reactions. Even my brother whom I play softball with and share beers/stories would look at me different if I were to open up to him. Like I said, it is PART of the family, my dad and brother. A few close friends know, and they say " girl you do what you have to do" and they respect and care for me enough to let me do what I do. My dad and brother I try to send money whenever I can, its my way of helping them out. My mom and her family though, don't know a thing:shock: I think thats going to remain that way or all hell would break loose:-x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 CERB has been a great resource for me to connect with some other like minded men. One time I dropped a hint to a good friend that I had seen an escort. Low and behold, he dropped a hint right back and we began to open up about it from there. Who would have known? He was the last person I suspected of it. You never know, but you do have to be discreet about it. I'm always open to PM's from other members about things too, so don't be shy if you think I'm the right guy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I'm with Capitalman on this one. I have a male friend who also 'plays'. We talk but we have some rules - we do not compare shopping lists or laundry lists. We do not know each others board handles and we do not discuss dates in any detail except to say, well - I had a great one last week - nothing about specific details nor performances. In terms of talking, there can be different aspects. I think sometime people experience various emotions when 'playing' and may need to speak out about that. In this case either a thread or a PM to a fellow CERB member that you've developed a rapport with might be the best recourse. But in all this, don't forget our lady friends - for the ones, you've seen a few times and developed a rapport with, they are great listeners too, at least in my experience. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I have a male friend who also 'plays'. ....stuff....cut...out.... But in all this, don't forget our lady friends - for the ones, you've seen a few times and developed a rapport with, they are great listeners too, at least in my experience. Personally, I don't have the urge to share with anyone about my hobby. I like my privacy and this forum is enough of an outlet :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I have one friend that I share my experiences with. Unfortunately he is in one of those relationships where he has an SO the gives Wife Experience sex. It is also so infrequent that I often am getting it more often than him. The result has been a couple of good natured 'I hate you' comments when I send profile pics of ladies I've seen. He has dabbled in the hobby but considered it cheating *sighs*. There is no question for many on both sides of the hobby that things can be very lonely. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 I guess we'd better not even mention that empty feeling eh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted May 31, 2009 What an interesting topic! At some times in some cultures, courtesans were valued members of society and there was a lot of competition to be particular courtesans' patrons. Some women were considered to be quite powerful, or influential, in their own right because of the company they kept. Even so, courtesans were never entirely respectable. Things have changed. Marriage is understood differently from the days when it was seen as an arrangement that was more about social class, property and money than today's ideal of a loving, sustaining intimate relationship. As things stand, this industry thrives on secrecy, for good or ill. While some women may be less upset with their spouses engaging the services of paid companions than they would if they were having an affair with someone, lots of others would say that making distinctions is just splitting hairs. Speaking as a courtesan/companion, it is hard, sometimes, not to be able to tell a close friend about an incident that encourages me to see myself, another person or life differently--the very things I may want to talk over with someone I trust. Fortunately, CERB is a big help in that respect. Even so, I can never, ever tell anyone who my clients are or have been. I think that, if one isn't comfortable with being and keeping a secret, this is a very, very difficult career. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerican 657 Report post Posted June 1, 2009 OK Anita, I won't quote you as you may want to delete your message:wink:...but wow that landlord story is something else. I couldn't imagine what was racing through your head when he said that! CMJ is quite close to my work and every time I go there I wonder if one of my colleagues will see me entering the place and ask what the building is...I love the place and it is really discreet but there are certainly pro's and cons to it's proximity to my work. The stigma of courtesans, prostitution and escorts is one I have to confess I myself had to a small degree in the past. Learning about CERB and reading posts from the very real women and men on this board have opened my eyes quite a bit. Being from an uptight upbringing all the frank discussions and generally interesting dialogue is a treat to read. Also seeing that for the majority of MP's and SP's that frequent this board that yes it is a business, but it is also a pleasure in many ways makes me enjoy this all the more. Your story about the lady from your building is so true of a lot of peoples reactions. Everyone has different reasons for doing what they do, in my case it is to get the sensual, adventurous and exciting sexual experiences that my personal life is missing. I could make major changes in my life and go back to dating, and I am pretty sure I would be quite successful, but those changes are something I can't/won't do so here I am. No strings attached fun and excitement with a variety of amazing women...sounds great (and is!) to me. Wow too much info from me as well...feel like I am on Dr. Phil! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
a******s.m*****e 187 Report post Posted June 1, 2009 Wow too much info from me as well...feel like I am on Dr. Phil! Exactly:) I like to talk about it, but at the same time I have to be careful. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ulixestrojan 3757 Report post Posted June 1, 2009 What an interesting topic! At some times in some cultures, courtesans were valued members of society and there was a lot of competition to be particular courtesans' patrons. Some women were considered to be quite powerful, or influential, in their own right because of the company they kept. Even so, courtesans were never entirely respectable. Things have changed. Marriage is understood differently from the days when it was seen as an arrangement that was more about social class, property and money than today's ideal of a loving, sustaining intimate relationship. As things stand, this industry thrives on secrecy, for good or ill. While some women may be less upset with their spouses engaging the services of paid companions than they would if they were having an affair with someone, lots of others would say that making distinctions is just splitting hairs. Speaking as a courtesan/companion, it is hard, sometimes, not to be able to tell a close friend about an incident that encourages me to see myself, another person or life differently--the very things I may want to talk over with someone I trust. Fortunately, CERB is a big help in that respect. Even so, I can never, ever tell anyone who my clients are or have been. I think that, if one isn't comfortable with being and keeping a secret, this is a very, very difficult career. My European friends and I share stories all the time, especially French and Italians - part of their culture. I also share stories with my gay friends - they are sleeping with an assortment on a regular basis anyway. I think we should bring back the courtesan as an honoured profession. Love live and love the Courtesan! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted June 1, 2009 I think we should bring back the courtesan as an honoured profession. Love live and love the Courtesan! Hear, hear! :lol: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MandalayBay 575 Report post Posted June 1, 2009 There are very few people personally that know what I'm doing, but I am lucky to be able to share everything with my significant other. He's the most incredible man I've ever met and not many men couid handle being in a committed, loving relationship with a SP. I would really like to have a local SP friend who I could confide in and be a friend to as well. It is very lonely when you have few people to talk to about your adventures. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
