How do you feel about porn?

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I did a search on this beforehand and was surprised by how many people, SP's and hobbyists, didn't care to watch porn or have it playing on the TV, during a session. Given that denying watching porn is like denying masturbating, I was surprised anyone actually disliked it playing during a session. I can understand a take it or leave it attitude, or how a MP might not want it playing as it might have an unwanted possibility of "elevating" that service to a level that's off limits.

 

I have never seen porn being played on the TV or on a computer during any of my numerous sessions(I always go to her location/hotel) nor has it ever been offered. I haven't asked to watch it but I do think it could be arousing as background mood. Many sessions have mood lighting and mood music. Why no mood porn playing in the background? It certainly doesn't seem inappropriate under the circumstances.

 

Is it because you find it demeaning? Do you want eyes on you at all times? Are you concerned it may give the client some ideas that are possibly too extreme. Most of the porn I've ever seen on a hotel TV is pretty standard stuff.

 

I've watched it with my wife in the past and some women's magazines even encourage the activity to spice things up. Given all the above I'm just surprised I don't see it offered or playing in the background more often during sessions. I'm not suggesting you only watch porn here, just occasionally glancing at it during the session or discussing an aspect of it and implementing some act. It could be a good icebreaker for someone too shy to request a specific act on his own without some outside reference.

 

How do you feel towards this?

[Guest realnicehat]

I've had more that a few conversations about porn with the women I've met and most were happy to discuss it, right down to the types of porn they enjoyed.

 

That being said, I've never asked for or had porn on during a session. I guess it has never even occurred to me. I'm usually too focussed on the lady herself. Also, entering a room and finding porn already playing would remind me of some of the seedier strip clubs I've been in. Not really the vibe I look for in a rendezvous.

 

I'm sure that if it is something you would like to try a lot of the ladies would be happy to accommodate but for me, no thanks.

 

I can't imagine it but if it gets to the point that I'm looking for ways to "spice things up" with a provider it is time move on or retire.

[WriteOn 3250]

I've been to places where there was a TV playing porn. The only thing it was good for was to pass the time while I waited for the lady to come back to the room.

 

I find it distracting (porn or just regular TV), I want all her attention on me and I want all my attention on her.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Its funny - I had a client recently who wanted me to put on some porn. I tried downloading one, but do you think I could find one (other then the real bad stuff involving children or animals, it seems there were lots of those options). I ended up getting a pay per view instead.

 

The thing about porn I find, most of them have really awful music playing. I mean, I'm sorry, but it does nothing for me. Between the bad music and the poor acting "oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, ya baby, give it to me, oh,oh, oh". So, I usually just put mute on and go with the visuals. My favorite porn is always directed by women - they seem to know what they are doing (IMO).

 

So, this porn I purchased was actually really good. So, here I am, playing with my guy, but I kept getting mesmerized by this movie playing in the background. It ended up being a distraction for me, but he seemed to like the flustered look on my face, so it was all good.

 

So, to have porn on while doing a call? Well, if you ask, yes, I will provide it. However, its not something I'm going to have for everyone. Sometimes just some nice mood music in the background works and we can make our own porn.

[cat 262460]

I love good porn, I really do. I have a file of J/O material and loads to stimulate any and all inclinations but I have actually only used it with 1 client on 2 occasions.

 

Why don't I use it? My official party line is that I don't need it. If I need porn to get a client onboard then I'm doing something wrong. I don't have a tv in my playspace or my massage studio because once I have a guest in there, I want to have his entire focus on what we are doing, not some fake moans and bad soundtracks in the background.

 

The reality is I'm already ADD, bring a tv into the mix with anything on it and I will get distracted. When I am focused it is magical, anything less is a waste of my time and his money...

 

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[Brad 49548]

Sounds fun to me.

 

It's not something I feel so strongly about that I'd ask for it, but if a lady had it playing I'd probably find it a thrill, especially if I knew it was a turn on for her (CristyCurves' post on the topic a while back comes to mind!)

 

I think it especially can be fun as part of a prelude to the main action, at which point it just becomes background. I can't say I've ever had problems getting distracted or being unable to focus on the lady in the room. Hell, in the middle of an encounter I'm not sure I'd notice if the building caught fire!

 

There's also this poll that had some interesting responses (though it's a bit older so will be interesting what new things people may have to say here):

[mrgreen760 37785]

Not my thing anymore. I think internet access especially early on may have something to do with it.....sensory overload.

 

Have been offered porn and declined and have never requested porn and it seems like an oxymoron to me when meeting with an SP. Just my opinion and to each their own.

 

And how come these girls never have money to pay the pizza delivery dude ?? :)

 

Peace

MG

[MightyPen 67414]

I approve of porn entirely! For personal use.

 

But during a session... nah, no thanks. I really like to focus on me and my SP partner, right there, in the moment -- sensing and acting upon however we uniquely appeal to each other and sexually inspire each other.

 

Having porn acting intrude into that space -- "uh! ...uh! ...uh! ...OH!...OH! ...OOOOHHHH!!" would mostly just have me thinking "will those people please shut up? We're busy here."

[Guest B**na***oy]

Porn is fine, but not while engaged in a sensual session, it just does not fit in the decor.

[cinelli 22184]

I find it distracting (porn or just regular TV), I want all her attention on me and I want all my attention on her.

 

^This!

 

Porn during a sex session seems silly.

 

Do you watch videos of people eating when you go to Tony Roma's?

[Brad 49548]

^This!

 

Porn during a sex session seems silly.

 

Do you watch videos of people eating when you go to Tony Roma's?

 

Well, if we're going to use eating out as a metaphor, I would instead suggest that when I go to a restaurant seeing delicious plates of food walking past from the kitchen and hearing other diners enjoying their own meals can have the effect to whet my own appetite and make my own meal taste that much better. If it didn't work that way more people would request a table in a corner facing the wall so they could better focus on their food. :)

 

Just about everything about sex can "seem silly" when it's not something that works for you.

[qwertyaccount 15793]

Watching porn alone - you bet!

 

Watching porn cuddled up with a special lady with her pointing to something and saying "I want you to do that with me now!" - fantastic!

 

Having porn playing in the background during "funtime" -- no thanks, the lady is all the stimulation I need.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Some of my most arousing interludes involved watching porn. I think watching others have sex, become excited is very exciting and can certainly heighten my arousal, man on man, girl on girl, guy on girl, girl on guy, it's all good. Watching and hearing people in the midst of horniness and orgasm is super hot, to me anyways;)

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I'm surprised that more aren't into it or are even slightly opposed to it. That's certainly not meant as a criticism as we are all unique in what we like. It just peaked my curiosity. I do agree that having the audio blasting would be distracting but porn is more a visual stimulant than audio so it could be muted and just images playing in the background. I should have said that in my OP.

 

Why would porn images on the TV have a "seedy" aspect in a session? We are paying for sex with strangers in darkened hotel rooms which some could argue along those same parameters as having a seedy aspect. Also, if it's OK to watch it with a GF or wife, why not an SP. Where's the difference? If it's good to get things started, why then turn it off? Just ignore it until you might want to see it again.

 

I'm not suggesting anyone is wrong for feeling the way they do. I'm just wondering if there is anything here worth further debate.

 

Thanks for the replies.

 

For the record, I personally do think it would be hot!

[fiskaa 2600]

I've been to an SP who has porn playing when you first arrive and have watched some of it together as sort of a warm up before getting down to business ourselves. But once things get started I couldn't tell you if it is even still on, my full attention is most definitely elsewhere!

[Rounding Third 9567]

I enjoy porn but never want it during an an encounter with a lady. However, I do have some experience with this as a few years ago a lady had porn on the room we were in. As it turned out we wound up laughing and making jokes about it as opposed to using it as a stimulus.

[Guest ***nno**n***]

Personally I havent been asked if I have porn or to put some on for a session.

 

I would much rather create my own porn than watch it on tv. Meaghan is right the music really is terrible and combined with fake acting doesn't do it for me.

 

On special occasions I have let my gentleman take a pic of me sucking his cock, now looking at that turns me on more than a couple of strangers :-P

[Nippongakki 3843]

I found my dad's old VHS porn when I was 11 years old. I'm now 31 and have watched a massive amount of porn in those 20 years. And speaking as a man who has watched a lot of porn I can honestly say, I don't really like porn that much. An odd thing to say since I've spent so much time "enjoying" it. To me it has become almost like a tool, and masterbating has become like a chore. It's a chore I like but a chore none the less and porn is a tool that makes the chore easier. So while porn certainly does have a place in my life, that place is certainly not in the room during an encounter with a beautiful lady! Unlike masterbating, sex with a real woman is anything but a chore! It also requires the use of all senses to really enjoy it! So for me, porn in back round would just be an annoying distraction.

[Guest realnicehat]

I'm surprised that more aren't into it or are even slightly opposed to it. That's certainly not meant as a criticism as we are all unique in what we like. It just peaked my curiosity. I do agree that having the audio blasting would be distracting but porn is more a visual stimulant than audio so it could be muted and just images playing in the background. I should have said that in my OP.

 

Why would porn images on the TV have a "seedy" aspect in a session? We are paying for sex with strangers in darkened hotel rooms which some could argue along those same parameters as having a seedy aspect. Also, if it's OK to watch it with a GF or wife, why not an SP. Where's the difference? If it's good to get things started, why then turn it off? Just ignore it until you might want to see it again.

 

I'm not suggesting anyone is wrong for feeling the way they do. I'm just wondering if there is anything here worth further debate.

 

Thanks for the replies.

 

For the record, I personally do think it would be hot!

 

To be fair, I didn't say it would bring a seedy aspect to the session, just that walking in to a room and finding porn playing would remind me of some of the "seedier" strip clubs I've been in. I'm sure a lot of guys know these places, not the best upkeep, steady stream of decade old porn on the screen. Those are the only places I've ever walked into and found porn playing so that is why I make that association.

 

In regard to the highlighted statement above, while there are, of course, those that think every aspect of this lifestyle is seedy, I find nothing about it that way. I do not meet "strangers in darkened hotel rooms". I meet ladies that I have gotten to know (or know quite well now) in classy, well lit hotel rooms.

 

Furthermore, while some may view it as semantics, many of the members here have stated many times that we don't pay for sex. Yes, it is part of the package but there is so much more to it.

 

As far as the distinction between viewing porn with a wife vs a provider, I think it is pretty rare that couples start out their sex life sharing porn. In my mind (and I could be way off) it seems to be something used to spice things up. Why would you need to spice things up with a provider? If you truly are "paying for sex with a stranger in a darkened hotel room" I'm actually surprised that you would require further stimulus.

 

I think it's great that you (and others) enjoy it, I just don't see the point.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

I did this once with a gentleman client and it was quite erotic. But it wasn't like the "on in the background" scenario as described here. It was a client from out of town who I had previously seen several times and visits when he is in Ottawa on business. We discovered that we enjoyed the same kind of porn... genuine solo female masturbation pleasure videos. Authentic non-pornstarry ladies enjoy themselves in different ways to achieve real orgasms. Stuff from quality pay websites like (for example), yanks.com, the-female-orgasm.com, abbywinters.com, ifeelmyself.com. In between appointments, we keep in contact by e-mail, and sometimes share some clips with each other that we find erotic. So one time he came to visit, we thought it would be fun to begin the session by watching a few of these videos together. He booked a couple hours, and we started like that, cuddling up close together on the bed with a laptop, caressing and massaging each other, talking and enjoying the videos. It was actually very erotic, and made me verrry excited. :) But after a few clips to warm up, the laptop went away and our full attention was on each other.

 

I think this is different than in the "background", and of course to each their own, but I don't think I would like that. I've visited a few outcalls where the lad had the TV on in the background and I noticed a few times when I went to make eye contact during a BJ, his eyes were on the TV. Lame. It should be an an all-sensory experience and being distracted takes away from it all.

 

So obviously, for me, I agree that all my senses are involved in the act... And I love the little things like the sounds of breathing and a soft sigh... the sound of wetness and licking, watching the pleasure on my partners face as he watches me lick his hard cock from the base to the tip... and so on.

 

I think that "lady magazines" suggest adding porn to the mix for married folks because they already know everything there is to know about each other in bed, so it comes a time where you want to try introducing new things in the bedroom, and maybe for some, porn is one of these things to try. When visiting an SP, there is still the element of newness and excitement, so there is not often a need to "spice it up", because it's already quite spicy.

 

Also, a concern I might have with just throwing on some generic porn in the background with a partner I don't know too well, with no real discussion about it prior, is that he might feel some kind of need to live up to whatever is going on in the porn.. and maybe feel inadequate because the guy has a massive cock, or the girl in the video is unrealistically wailing like a dying cat... while I am not the fake moan kind of gal. Also, he might get ideas from the porn about things he should do, and I am not into just continuous jack-hammering penis-in-vagina penetration, which is most of what common porn is. Boring.

 

So, I do think it can be possible for it to be enjoyable in certain circumstances in an SP/Client encounter. If a gent has a specific fantasy of watching porn with a lady and his wife isn't interested, then why not. Also maybe for a mutual masturbation fantasy it could be hot too. Kind of off topic, but I've always has a fantasy of like a "ladies' sleepover" kind of thing... where someone puts on an erotic video and all the gals whip out some toys and masturbate together. Hot. :) hehe.

[MightyPen 67414]

I found my dad's old VHS porn when I was 11 years old. I'm now 31 and have watched a massive amount of porn in those 20 years.

Holy crap! Those VHS tapes must be worn completely through! ;)

[Ice4fun 78396]

I enjoy porn but it tends to be something I turn to mostly when I am alone. It has never really crosses my mind to turn porn on when I am with an SP. I want all my attention to be on her.. and all her attention to be on me.

[Guest ChantalSummers]

I really like all of you points of view in this thread. My sessions tend to be very sensually based. But that's not to say it's an idea I would reject. I just haven't had the opportunity. I would consider it happily as long as certain boundaries are mutually respected and a certain type selected. Not sure how it would work as I am an MA but I can be very creative ;-). I am more than happy to be flexible. And yes I do enjoy watching porn, especially girl on girl action ;-) mmmm yummm...

[Guest c**io**m7]

I think personally, I would rather explore the idea of making a porn movie with my lady for us to watch together. It is not something I have ever done but, lately, the thought has crossed my mind. I think us watching us would be hot...the mirror has been great, tv maybe better.

[shaved 3174]

Porn has it's place.. I like watching girl on girl action. I guess that's why I prefer 3somes.

 

I prefer doing rather than watching, but I do watch it now and again WHO doesn't ....