Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 16, 2014 As Joy says...ask away! Yes, my first orgasm was with a client! I had a very very hard time to get there in my personal life, and yet here a client did it for me! I was shocked, and it took me till 5 years later when for the first time it is my BF that get's me there rather then a client. This is somewhat normal, as with a client we do not have the baggage of our day, life etc...so relaxing to have the big O I think is the key! That's awesome, thanks for sharing that! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jay67 688 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do SP's do to mentally prepare themselves for a session? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fortunateone 156618 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do SP's do to mentally prepare themselves for a session? I always think it is like getting ready for a performance, on stage lol. But it is more like when i taught fitness classes. It starts at a certain time, which is coming up soon, everything prepped and ready to go, and people who are counting on you to not disappoint them lol. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What do SP's do to mentally prepare themselves for a session? K everyone, I do not mean to answer every question, I am un- braiding my hair, and is loooooong process, so here I am ...lol for me, I need to have a salt bath to wash unwanted energy that may lingers on me. I will put the music on that makes me feel sexy and happy, then lotion up. This is a ritual I keep for every single session. If I can not do this, I feel " not ready" so many last min appts tend to not get booked. I need the time and space to re-vive my energy! I think on my client ( if I already know him) and try to have anything he likes on hand, water, pop, wine, specific music etc... 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jay67 688 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Thank you fortunateone and Sophia for your responses. And thank you Summer for starting this great thread :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest c**io**m7 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 As Joy says...ask away!Yes, my first orgasm was with a client! I had a very very hard time to get there in my personal life, and yet here a client did it for me! I was shocked, and it took me till 5 years later when for the first time it is my BF that get's me there rather then a client. This is somewhat normal, as with a client we do not have the baggage of our day, life etc...so relaxing to have the big O I think is the key! Your first orgasm was with a client? That's awesome... ...my only problem with this is I am searching the depths of my memory and I don't remember us meeting. Are you sure your first orgasm was with a client? I am sure I would remember that! LOL... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Your first orgasm was with a client? That's awesome... ...my only problem with this is I am searching the depths of my memory and I don't remember us meeting. Are you sure your first orgasm was with a client? I am sure I would remember that! LOL... Ohhh are you ....Dave? Don? John? Mat? lmao...was so long ago I can't remember! hahahha UNO, the strangest part of this for me is.... was NOT the fact he was a client, that did not not faze me much, the fact he was much older threw me for a loop lol 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Male and female, btw. I am not sure what people do without that kind of link, and feel sorry for the ones who may use it in a one sided way, as in only connecting or supporting one group often at the expense of the other group. For example, some rare sps will pile on the bandwagon to attack other sps, as tho they are their competition they want to eliminate (or discredit). I feel sorry for them because they will soon discover, if they haven't already, the kind of guy that seems to be their friend today, will quickly abandon them and throw them to the wolves when it suits them. in the meantime, they've alienated the ones who would have had their back from day one. Say it sister! But I don't think they are rare:( 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Q. As an SP, MP, or Dancer....has it been important to have friends, confidants, mentors in the business? Do you draw upon them or find you work best just keeping to yourself? OMG I have been absolutely astounded by the incredibly supportive group of women who work in this industry. Regardless of "where" we work, or what we do (MP, SP, Dancer, etc), we all reach out to each other and support each other through good times and bad. We all stand united in our efforts to help street workers be safe. We all do what we can to keep young girls from being forced into this. And I for one have met some of the most amazing and incredible women through this very industry. I would be fine from a business standpoint without those friendships, but I don't want to be without them. I love these ladies!!!! Xo 11 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
frenchbrute 1090 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 I have had a few interesting experiences in the past few years and one thing that I have found quite odd was being asked the same question by 3 different sp's. I was asked if I was ever a male sp. I have been both thrown and confused by this. Not knowing wether to feel complimented or insulted. To be honest I have felt both. How should this be taken? What does this mean? I mean, I am not ignorant, but as history has shown men and women tend to have drastically divergent ways of thinking so I am curious to see what others opinions are on this. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and don't think he is good enough! (lol....And of course I am asking for a friend!! ) ;) I would tell "your friend" that most every man who's ever come to see an SP has felt the same pangs of anxiety and the same worries have crossed their mind. I would suggest that he take the time to look for a woman who speaks to him... One who stands out as someone who has similar thoughts and interests. One who he just likes the look of, the sound of, etc. Next, I would encourage him to feel the fear and do it anyway (one of my favourite mottos in life!!). IF he has chosen the right SP for him, she will pick up on his nerves, and be ready to make him feel comfortable and at ease. She won't apply pressure or have any expectations for their time together, and be willing to move at his pace. Tell your friend life is too short. Book that appointment. There is no such thing as being not worthy of desire and attention!!! :) 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 What a wonderful thread, I've enjoyed reading all the responses. For me, I got tired of always giving my best to companies that didn't deserve it. I love sex, sensuality and intimacy and had a couple people tell me that I would do well doing this. My first few encounters were definite learners and I really enjoyed that aspect and the thrill during preparations, still do. I started out mostly as massage but found that while I loved it, I also loved more so now I do a free for all. I love pleasing and experiencing and meeting new people. I especially love connecting with them and as Savannah has said, it's those connections forged over time that make things better and better. I don't shy away from emotions, you can care for someone with no strings or expectations, as long as everyone is honest about boundaries. I love communicating and exploring with someone over a longer period of time. Finding new sensations and interests and sexual/sensual pleasure. There are so many amazing people in this industry and I've enjoyed getting to know them and learning from them. It is rough when it seems like there is back stabbing or undermining going on especially if you're not completely aware of the depths of it. There is so much stigma in the industry you want to believe that everyone watches everyone else's back. Thankfully I've been blessed with a couple friends who fully support me and think it's great. One of the hardest parts for me is when people just fade away. If they have been a connection especially and then nothing, you're left wondering. this isn't an industry where there is feedback on improvement or cheat sheets on market. lol. I have had amazing experiences, ones that I continue to think about and that make me smile. Not only experiences but people. I think anyone thinking about trying things out as a hobbyist should just do some research to find someone they are drawn to and then jump in and enjoy. We're all just people and out of all the women in the world, SP's understand and support the need, fear, desire, longing, anxiety etc. and make you feel alright. 16 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted February 16, 2014 So glad to see everyone enjoying this thread. I posted the question, and then left for 24 hours to deal with a family emergency, and when I came back, I couldn't believe all the responses! After a nap I will start adding my two cents worth. Thanks, everyone !! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 I have had a few interesting experiences in the past few years and one thing that I have found quite odd was being asked the same question by 3 different sp's. I was asked if I was ever a male sp. I have been both thrown and confused by this. Not knowing wether to feel complimented or insulted. To be honest I have felt both. How should this be taken? What does this mean? I mean, I am not ignorant, but as history has shown men and women tend to have drastically divergent ways of thinking so I am curious to see what others opinions are on this. would be nice to know what kind of question in particular?? So hard to answer... Either way, If it is a normal social question, IE: How are you? Are you visiting this city? What kind of work do you do? Are you married? These are really a common questions. Weather you really tell me your story true or not, that is not the importance. I think these ladies are trying to create a raptor and communication with you. Perhaps your body language shows a level of discomfort and she is trying to make friendly chat so that you feel free to reciprocate? The polite way to go about this, is to very nicely say to her " Thanks for asking, I am a bit private about my life, but please continue to chat about your day:) Do you like to travel? " Something like this requires delicacy on both sides. Remember body language is so important, but also perhaps in your enquiry you could mention, you tend to be very private about your life? Hope this helps? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest P**aq Report post Posted February 16, 2014 So glad to see everyone enjoying this thread. I posted the question, and then left for 24 hours to deal with a family emergency, and when I came back, I couldn't believe all the responses! After a nap I will start adding my two cents worth. Thanks, everyone !! Can't wait to hear your two cents Summer! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 @frenchbrute, if I were to ask that question of a gentleman, it would be a compliment. There are certain attributes that I would chalk up to a sex worker such as being able to put someone at ease, comfortable in their own skin, playful and sexual, skilled, well spoken and versed in many things. There are some men who are just so smooth and comfortable and potentially skilled that one would think they might be in the industry. For me, a male sex worker would be classy and classically handsome because there is such a limited call especially if straight. You could ask how they meant it if it were really a curiosity or concern or just assume you got it going on. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cute0aza0Button 21399 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Can I post a question? Being newish myself I would love to know -- what advice would you give a lady just starting out? What's one thing you wish you had known. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Well here goes my question. What makes for an enjoyable encounter for the ladies. What can a gentlemen do to make an encounter an enjoyable time for both him and her. A rambling question RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Can I post a question? Being newish myself I would love to know -- what advice would you give a lady just starting out? What's one thing you wish you had known. To either know if this was a long term adventure or temporary!!!! I started to work years ago, the whole industry has done a complete 180 since then. I began in Mid 90's as a dancer..then much much more! lol.. But I always would stop in a few months get another job etc.... BUT this was a waste, as I would have put better use to the money I earned! I could have made a very comfy retirement had I understood more about how to use my money:( WAY TOO MUCH shopping LMAO! NOT TOO LATE, I began paying into the system now for 3 years, gained credit and I will keep on building and preparing! Wish I would have known then what I know now! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bianca Jaguar 39183 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Well here goes my question. What makes for an enjoyable encounter for the ladies. What can a gentlemen do to make an encounter an enjoyable time for both him and her. A rambling question RG Here's my first answer and will answer some more later...btw gret thread Summer:) First for me is the initial contact...nice detailed email or text message or even a phone call...if the first impression is good...usually the encounter is too :) I enjoy longer encounters as you get to know the client better while having a great conversation first...what a great forplay!!! A glass of wine...chit chat a bit...makes the encounter so much better :) BJ 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jg24 3707 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Great thread Q- how do you deal with a client you don't want to see again chemistry wasn't there or just for any reason. Do you ignore or do you just explain when they call or email you wish not to seem them again. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Great thread Q- how do you deal with a client you don't want to see again chemistry wasn't there or just for any reason. Do you ignore or do you just explain when they call or email you wish not to seem them again. I think it's best to be honest. I never ignore anyone if they're polite and I answer all inquiries from those who again have been polite and haven't caused any issues. I'm not great at being diplomatic so however I'd word it I'd let them know we aren't a good match and perhaps suggest another lady who they might be better suited for. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 Great thread Q- how do you deal with a client you don't want to see again chemistry wasn't there or just for any reason. Do you ignore or do you just explain when they call or email you wish not to seem them again. I am the type of person that will give a person a few chances to make an impression ( obviously to a degree ) But if it is so uncomfortable, then I will either just " not be available" Or suggest that maybe another lady is better suited for him. If he is a super nice guy, then would let a GF know that maybe they should meet, but if he was disgusting and rude, then would just be straight up and so " no thanks" 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brad 49548 Report post Posted February 16, 2014 (edited) Great thread, great question, great answers! It is, in a word...terrific. ;) I'm curious how ladies feel if a potential client mentions their particular turn-ons and sexual preferences ahead of a first encounter (assuming it's not in an overly crass way, of course). Is that kind of information ahead of time helpful in terms of preparing for a better encounter and knowing if there's likely to be chemistry? Or is it presumptuous and off-putting? Or put it another way: if a potential client is interested in knowing if you enjoy/offer a given activity, is there a "best" way to ask? Edited February 17, 2014 by Brad 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss S. Lane 67128 Report post Posted February 17, 2014 If a potential client is interested knowing if you enjoy/offer a given activity, is there a "best" way to ask? This entirely depends on the SP you are speaking to. Some list things they enjoy/offer, some don't. Some will be ok with you asking, some won't. Some ladies don't like planning, some will be ok with it. This is very individual. That being said, if you aren't sure about something it is always best to be upfront and ask. I think most of us would be quick to let you know if we were ok with something or not, and are just as concerned about chemistry and compatibility as you are :) Being open, honest and upfront in a respectful manner is good! Do NOT contact an SP saying "so, how much to stick it in your ass?" Lol... I know none of you would do that anyway, but we do get those and I know for myself I just delete them :) xoxo 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
