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This morning while I drink my coffee and read the boards here, I?m struck by how many complaints we have about the guys who take advantage of some aspect of our services and then treat us badly. There are active discussions about men who: Try to negotiate or bargain clearly-stated non-negotiable fees Try to pay less than the agreed fee after they arrive Try to get services that were not agreed on before the date Complain about our screening questions Don?t bother to take a shower, brush their teeth or trim their nails before seeing us Assume that we're likely to rob them Threaten to write bad reviews and/or aren?t believed when they write good ones Insult us, our need for safety and even our looks when we don?t give in to what they demand No one is forced to read our ads and websites, look at our photos, contact us, discuss our services with us, or meet with us. It?s all voluntary and initiated by the client. The client has needs, feelings, preferences and curiosity, but why do so many refuse to take responsibility for themselves? What they express as anger, self-righteous indignation and personal entitlement is really projected self-hatred. I want to sit these men down and say: If you don?t want to see a paid companion, don?t do it. If you decide to seek out a companion, that's your decision. What you want is not what everyone else may want. That?s usually a wonderful thing. Recognize that we?re not like cheap candy that you can buy daily. We?re more like fine dining to be enjoyed occasionally. Plan accordingly. If someone?s prices are too high for you, either wait until you can afford her, or find someone else. Meanwhile, don't blame her for your lack of funds. Recognize that she charges what the market will bear. That means that there are plenty of others who can afford to see her. Always be polite and considerate. No matter what. Even if you feel confused, disappointed or insulted, be polite. Remember that companions are human beings, just like you. We have needs, desires, dreams and things we?re worried about or afraid of, just as you do. We will protect both your health and our own. Fair is fair. If you're worried about your safety, know that she's concerned about her safety, too. No matter who or how important you are or think you are, the one who is taking the most risks is always the companion. Always. Relax.

This is an extraordinary thread. Thank you to all. It struck me however, that the title has "Gentlemen" in it. If one is truly a gentleman, much of this advice would not be necessary. Perhaps, we need a "finishing" school for all the lads who have not quite become accustomed to the proper ways of treating people, men and women, but especially our delightful courtesans who care to our fragile needs.

She fixed me a very nice long cold drink, after I caught my breath...

I was just wondering how others feel about gents asking them to trade services... i have been offered this for photos,fixing my puter,and other things...i would much rather pay someone for theses things. Just curious about what others think.. kisses, Emma A

Ya trading is hard. Sometimes it's better to just use money, or sometimes I even just do something for free 'cause I know it's no big deal but the client needs it done and it's a big deal to them. Now don't go assuming that I'm suggesting ladies offer stuff for free, that's NOT what I'm saying! :)

Dear Samantha, Your concerns, and that of other recent posts, are very disconcerting. At this level these concerns should only be an anomaly and not of a regular occurrence. I fear that this thread and it's message may become lost in time. -Advice for Gentlemen ... A "Do Not Do" List http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=11288 -A heartfelt letter to a creepy client .... http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=11601 Might I suggest, (with feedback), that all of the major concerns be consolidated and presented as a permanent post that would appear on the "Newbies Rule and Regulations section". There should be the availability for Providers to work with Mod to update the list as new concerns become apparent. Further, might I suggest that the first line within the Cerb window, on sites such as Escorts-Canada, have a "Read Before Contacting Service/Experience Providers", where as the link would bring them to the Newbie section with a post that might be called: "Valuable Information Prior to Contacting Provider". There could be a section on Grooming, Contact, Do's, Do Not's, etc. We still have Newbies making inquiries that could well be answered by a thread such as suggested. I know that I first discovered Escorts-Canada prior to accidently discovering "Cerb". For me it started with the list of acronyms and then I discovered the wealth of information that has led me to wonderful experiences and a wonderful community. Tigerclaw

I'm officially in love! ;) xox

This stuff does get talked about a lot here, and I really sympathize with all the ladies for the crap they have to deal with. But unfortunately, it's just not the SP's it is all women in general. Every female I have ever spoken with has had a gaggle of tales about creepy or disrespectful or disgusting men that they've had to deal with in bars, at work, standing at the bus stop or even walking in public. There's too many people out there that have no concept of respect or are just plain dumb. Some of the SP's are guilty of this - present company excluded I'm sure - and maybe some of the ok fellas out there have had a few bad experiences which leaves them untrusting or have had that negative prostitute stereotype driven into their psyche that they're all about the money and the service is poor. You girls shouldn't have to deal with any of this shit, but it will come as part of the job I'm sorry to say. You'll have just as much success bemoaning the amount of horrific drivers on the road by going to the Licensing Bureau and screaming at everyone to learn to drive.

The lady was right to be upset with you. The term GFE does NOT imply any services. It is a style of service. You did not ASK for a BBBJ you assumed that GFE included this (and you were WRONG). You owe this lady a big apology and money! Most people here would agree that leaving and taking the money you agreed to pay her for the time was very wrong and since it was a mistake on your part you should repay her for her time or you are stealing from her. I would suspect your number and name to show up in the bad date lists because of this. This is unacceptable.

If you do soem research on this in here you will see it has been debated many times before, even MOD made a few commnets on the issus. GFE is a style of service not a type of service. 2 different things all together. Over the years I have met SPs that do give BBBJ and in no way I would describe them as GFE. As a matter of fact some ladies was quite mechanical and in a rush to be done. On the other hand I have met quite a few ladies who give CBJ but are very GFE. Non rush service and they reallly care about me not just about the money I hand them out. One of my favorites SP, does provide GFE service and she is the one that I see most often. I would say she has been a great friend and if I had to make a choice ane have to limit myself to seeing only one SP she is certainly at the top of my list. If in your opinion GFE includes BBBJ then you should have mentioned you wanted this type of service. You should not be commenting about the SP when there is no place that defines GFE as including BBBJ. As a client you should not assume things and if you want a specific service ask when you book.

Great topic, dangerous territory... ladies I'd be weary of any client who broaches the topic first, it should be something you decide and you raise and most importantly you feel comfortable with. If the client raises the subject first then he will likely always be trying to swing a deal. I often do freelance work on the side to provide support to my colleagues in the same field knowing that they can pay me back or provide specialized skills when I need them for a contract I may take on in the future. Note to all, freelance cowboy available, rates negotiable ;)

It would be annoying for me, on a number of levels. I am somewhat obsessive-compulsive and don't like people touching my things (you know those types who come over and must pick up and look at every knick knack you own). I'm also a perfectionist and if you want something done right, you usually have to do it yourself.

Hi Emma, I have very different opinions about trade ... I absolutely love it! I have a specific page on my website called "Trade" where I list the items and services I'm willing to trade my services for. Here's what I've been able to obtain so far: * 2008 Vehicle (The deal is complex, but a portion of it will be paid on ongoing trade and the rest I will pay to him in cash payments towards full ownership of the vehicle with legal contracts in place protecting both of us.) * New Stove I am in the midst of negotiating having renovation work done on my place. It's very important to have legal contracts done up to protect both parties. I personally love trade ... but it's not for everyone.