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The recent passing of my mother made me relaize a few things: how important family and friends really are. OVer the past week i have learned that i have many friends here on CERb...good friends..friends that i have no idea how i would have gotten through this last week without. YOU know who you are...i want to share this poem that was read at my mom's funeral...something we should all think about...i love you guys...kisses and many many many thanks Emma A The Dash Poem By Linda Ellis I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend He referred to the dates on her tombstone From the beginning to the end He noted that first came her date of her birth And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all Was the dash between those years For that dash represents all the time That she spent alive on earth. And now only those who loved her Know what that little line is worth. For it matters not how much we own; The cars, the house, the cash, What matters is how we live and love And how we spend our dash. So think about this long and hard. Are there things you'd like to change? For you never know how much time is left, That can still be rearranged. If we could just slow down enough To consider what's true and real And always try to understand The way other people feel. And be less quick to anger, And show appreciation more And love the people in our lives Like we've never loved before. If we treat each other with respect, And more often wear a smile Remembering that this special dash Might only last a little while. So, when your eulogy is being read With your life's actions to rehash Would you be proud of the things they say About how you spent your dash

very interesting comments........I like it.....I agree that chat is a fun place and the ladies should not be harrassed into doing cam shows......if they want to...great..but if not...that is fine also.... I personally love chat to get to know a personality of the ladies......I like to see them have fun and converse...I find that the women I have seen ...and most know I am very careful...are the ones that have posted interesting topics and comments and interact with us horndogs....... I feel that half of the sexual attraction and stimulation is through the second largest sex organ we guys have....our brain...hehehehe.....I love to chat before..and after a session...... Now if a lady comes on and she gets asked to cam in whisper...she should openly say if she wants to or not.....that way who ever is there will know.....and if any one asks again we can help defend her decission........or she can vote to kick with reason......if that is her choice..... After all it is her choice........always is her choice and should not feel pressure from any one...... I would prefer to "out" the people that lurk and harass then have the ladies upset and/or leave.......:cry:

Now I am worried about chat and the direction it is going..... I like going there.....there are some great times chatting with the guys..and of couse the wonderful ladies. I have found it relaxing.....funny....and very entertaining...... But as time goes on I have noticed it is a place where the ladies do not come as often as they used to.........:cry: What is going on?..... - Are people being rude? - Have the ladies found that the time spent there is not benificial to them? - Is it a time zone thing and I miss alot the fun stuff? - Do people know how to properly use chat to report people who abuse chat? At one time there were chat mods......and that went terribly wrong.....it was revoked.....but I know enough about these systems that the real mods are and can watch all actions in chat without us knowing...... Private chats.....not sure about that and really do not care.... Do peole have reasons or ideas why chat has changed.....or what we could possibly ask for to bring back all the fun....??

My reason for preferring older clients is mostly fear of younger men. Younger men tend to be more aggressive and filled with testosterone, making it more likely that they could become angry and hurt you. I know this is just a generalization, but I try to err on the side of caution. As well, being a more curvaceous woman and mother (and definitely not a spinner) I have the stereotype that younger men want an SP with a Miss Hawaiian Tropic body. I'd hate to disappoint, so I just don't go there. The one client I took on under the age of 35 was the only client who took advantage of my trust and didn't pay me in full for our second session. More mature gentleman have made my experience as an escort an extremely enjoyable one! Men are like a fine wine, they age beautifully and get better with every year that passes.

Reading this thread brings many thoughts to mind and heart. Because of the negative perceptions of this business, many SPs leave with no option but to simply cut ties. It is a struggle for an SP to leave for many reasons. Never assume the decision was flippant in any way. There is an emotional commitment to her clients and walking away isn't done on a whim. Most feel that terminating all contact is the only way to go. The shame and social rejection that comes from publicly admitting our profession is overwhelming to all those that do not have the inner fortitude to withstand and come thru it. Other professions allow a forwarding address and relationships developed are allowed to continue and are considered valuable, but in this there are so many challenges it is almost impossible to maintain relationships if a woman has been an SP in secret. The one reason that is consistent with all of those that leave for romantic motivations (which in my experience is the #1 reason for retirement) is the insecurity that comes from their SO. The fallout is usually nuclear in proportion if it is found out that there is a continued relationship with a guest after she has "squared up". Even the most stable of men will have issues with her work, and it will undermine everything in the union, and SPs realize this. It takes an extraordinary man to accept that her work isn't a threat, and underneath the facade SPs want most to be loved and accepted. So they are faced with a choice...the man who wants to love them forever or the man that wants to love them for an hour a couple of times a month. It's a huge gamble in my opinion. If a man cannot accept me in my entirety including my work, then he is not the man for me. From my perspective, a complete cessation of contact with my guests would be akin to cutting off a limb. First and foremost they are my friends. I tried to refer many of them this summer to other SPs and it was an complete and utter failure. The reason I continue to travel back to Ottawa is because I have guests here that count on me and leaving them hanging simply isn't an option. Does that mean we are to close? What is too close? Is loving someone wrong if it isn't in the "traditional" sense? I think the posts above show that guests truly are more than a venue to generate money and I want hobbyists to know that most professional SPs invest themselves emotionally in very deep ways. Always remember this profession doesn't usually attract the woman that is strong and whole. We become SPs because we are trying to fix the financial crunch and do not understand the emotional side of things until we are in it. Some find wholeness, it gives us so much. Others are destroyed by it. I find my work rewards me back in direct proportion to what I invest in it. Each and every one of us are bent in our own unique way. The common perception is that we are money hungry and greedy, but for the good ones it isn't true. We have an unusual ability to love and let go when the time is right. In the grand scheme of the Universe, all relationships are simultaneously precious and insignificant. We must live in the moment, cherish what is now and accept that nothing in this world is stable. Not the concrete buildings we reside in, the earth below our feet or the experiences shared. Every relationship I have is treasured for what it is right now. Tomorrow, if circumstances have changed, I will remember fondly as every experience builds who we are as people and that is what we are here for... Catherine

I don't go in as much anymore, cause for me I like to CHAT, not go on cam and show my boobs, or anything else! I am not in OTTAWA, so for me it was more about making friends in the same line of work as myself, and chatting about the different experiences, and lifestyles! It got to the point, everytime I went into chat ALL I got was "Are you in Ottawa???" "turn on your cam" " when are you coming to Ottawa??" And the best one EVER " I'm going to spank you and beat you until you BEG me to stop" . This job is stressful enough, for me, and my time here was ment to have a break from all the NUT cases, and as chat progessed it got WORSE! So now I have my friends I chat with on messenger, and only do threads! IMHO Thanks for listening to my rant! Cherry Kiss

I have to say that as a non-smoker and very sensitive to smell, I have a very hard time when a client comes over smelling like an ash tray. Its not appealing in the slightest.... However I do have to say that even though I can tell some clients are smokers, they do take the time to make sure they don't come in smelling or tasting like cigarettes... Thank you to those gentlemen.

Also the greater part of long-term success.

I love this thread and have enjoyed every single word written here. Kudos to SA for having the courage to start this thread and the rest of the men for opening their hearts. I, too, have difficulty keeping my emotions at bay for certain clients. My work tends to be more courtesan now and I have developed relationships with gentlemen I see on a regular basis. I know I'm not going to stay in this industry forever, but the thought of losing the friendship of some of my clients after retirement truly makes my heart ache. As strange as it sounds, I know that when my retirement does eventually come, I will reminisce on certain clients with the same feelings and thoughts I have for old flames/boyfriends. I truly adore certain clients and sometimes my heart skips a beat and I get butterflies before seeing them.

Good thread, hope you don't mind if I post. Being a very emotional person it struck a cord with me. When a favourite SP retires, I feel everything! Deserted, abandoned, lonely, rejected. As true and okay as these feelings are, they're all selfish feelings though. If I really care I should be happy for the girl! The only problem is when I've been led on, led to believe they care back...and then they go and retire without even a goodbye. That hurts. You suddenly realize you were lied to. But as Cat said back in October, maybe they didn't lie to you instead they just needed to cut all ties so they can walk away and find a different life. I've had the same experience in my life. Many years ago I walked away from my life and had to leave all my friends behind with it. I did say goodbye though. That gave them and me some closure I guess. I felt guilty hurting a few of them, but I had to do it for myself, to get away and cut all the ties that bound me to that lifestyle and allow myself to walk into a new life without anything holding me back. So I understand a retiring SP, I really do. If she's serious about changing, she's got to have a clean break, cold turkey, and launch into her new life 100% committed to it. No ghosts haunting her. No reminders. Of course she can't forget the past, but she needs to distance herself from it or she won't be able to leave it behind. And as others have said, you meet people throughout life and you leave people throughout life. A little piece of them is always with me, and hopefully a little piece of me is always with them as well. I've seen a lot of death in my life and it's the same. The people live on through my memories. Same with a retired SP...all I have to do is close my eyes and remember, and I've got them back again. Nobody can ever take that away.

Hey guys/friends: This is an old thread started by myself when sweet Heidi and then Sofia decided to retire last year, however, this never happened to me again until today when I read that two of my most favorite girls whom I was blessed with recently are leaving (Suri) and likely I will never get the chance to see them again:cry:. I say how I feel as a late response to this old thread : 1 - I feel sad that I won't be able to see them again 2 - I will be thinking about them and will be reminded of brief great pleasant moments that I had with them that won't be repeated again. 3 - I feel blessed that I was able to see them even once. 4 - I feel that their health and well being is most important and must come first and foremost. So I have complete understanding. 5 - I do in a way feel very happy for them that they may have found better lives or opportunities (boyfriend, alternative employment, etc.) Bless them all for making our lives so pleasant, even though it is for a short while (otherwise mine would have been mostly work and related stress).