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I recently told someone via e-mail that they were not the kind of client I wished to see. A week later, he calls me and books an appointment. Of course I didn't know it was him. He shows up 20 minutes late, tries to underpay me, and of course I discovered he was the very person I had politely told that I will not see. I know it can be harsh to be on a lady's do-not-see list, especially when you haven't even met. But to be decietful and try to "sneak" in to see her by means of pretending to be someone else is just wrong. And before you think this wasn't a Cerb reader, he is. He mentioned that all the information he could find on my location was that it said "10 mins from downtown). That is solely on Cerb. So, while it may be a bit of a snub, or leave you feeling shot down, please respect a lady when she says she will not see you. There are many lovely ladies out there, and not all of the ladies will be comfortable with or willing to provide what you are seeking. If a lady - for whatever reason - chooses not to see you, think of it not as being shot down, but as getting that much closer to finding the lady that you will share great chemistry and fond memories with. Posted via Mobile Device

Being asked if you are disease-free is an insult. Being addressed as "hey baby" or other such things is a no-no (for me). Not reading my website before calling or e-mailing is an annoyance, but doesn't always result in me not seeing you. But I like to see gentlemen who possess the following qualities: - mature and dignified - a balanced ego (not over inflated, nor under inflated) - respectful and considerate - take the time to read about me and inform themselves before contacting me - down-to-earth and have a relaxed outlook Guys I do not want to see: - who use ladies as a prop to bolster their own egos - who attempt to negotiate prices and/or services (you're paying for time, not services!) - who cannot spell or use proper English to save their lives (excepting foreigners) - who walk in like they own the place - who pry in closets, behind closed doors, etc. - who fail to understand/accept that ladies are not walking through life with severly damaged self-esteem and self-worth And there are innumerable other small things that pop up in my mind as little red flags. If I don't like how you express yourself in an e-mail - or the content you chose to write - it can be an indicator for me of a personality clash. Not that I pore over every e-mail and analyse the hell out of it, but you get a "vibe" from it. And I unfailingly trust my guts. Posted via Mobile Device

If you're looking for a rub and tug, don't expect it from a RMT - Registered Massage Therapist. They are licensed and regulated and if found out performing such services, would lose their license. As I said in another thread, insurance companies are not in the business of subsidizing your sex life.

After admiring Sinn on CL for the last few weeks I finally made time to go see her. I had to get my hands on those magnificent looking breasts....and they are. I am a spinner addict and Sinn is not a spinner which I could tell from her pictures. I meet her at an up scale hotel downtown. She came to door, we made some small talk joked around. English is not her first language and her misuse of some English words was very cute, and that French accent was very sexy. I won't go into all the hot and wet details but it was well worth my trip downtown. She seemed up for anything and does advertise no restrictions. As I mentioned earlier I love spinner type bodies but this lady made me forget all about that it within about 3 minutes. She is HOT SEXY PASSIONATE and FUNNY. You were Fantastic Sinn and I will see again....SOON:lol:

so this month alone I have delt with Three different cases of SPs who choose to add their clients to their facebook....thats all fine if they decide to do so. my problem however? when I'm at a social and a male member makes a comment about MY facebook page because he has put 2 and 2 together with whoever was dumb enough to add him to her FB page. or a client blurts out that we have a similar last name and he did a google search after finding out my name to check out my artwork....ummmm...??????! Ladies...I know they you may feel comfortable with a client and on a friend basis with them but realize that when you add your clients to your page you are not only jeopardizing YOUR privacy...but the privacy of other SPs that you have on your facebook. I have NO wish to have clients rummage through my art pages or see what friends they have in common with me etc etc...and I certainly have a MASSIVE problem with people learning my full real name! whats annoying is that clients dont seem to realize that it is a HUGE blurring of boundaries when they "figure" out who we are and say so. to me, its like someone just drove up to my house, honked and said "hey you! [insert real name] i know where you live and hang out and I think I know your dad!" Ladies, you dont have to add EVERYONE to your facebook. I realize that clients can be friends...but blurring those lines makes drama for everyone involved...I have never encountered anyone adding a client to facebook that didnt end in some kind of messy drama...especially if she realizes she doesnt want them on her facebook anymore GUYS, just because someone doesn't add you to your facebook doesn't mean that they're not your friend...take whatever connection you have here on Cerb and in physical contact and treasure that....it doesnt need to go further than that. Today I have deleted 2 girls off my facebook who have chosen to add clients as friends. I admit that I have ONE client on my facebook but only because he was my friend on facebook through mutual friends before becoming a client....and I dont even see him anymore so I dont think that counts. To me adding anyone to facebook is like seeing someone off the clock 24/7...its extremely unprofessional and comparable to adding your boss to your FB...business and personal life should be separate. am I the only one who thinks like this? Privacy is important to everyone....blur the lines and things will only get more complicated.

As there was a excellent thread started by Lindsay. Link right here. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=31793 I had thought it might be a good idea, as why/what certain circumstances that a SP/MA would refuse to see a client. Just so some men can understand the challenges that you ladies may go through in a day with clients. Example- Rude through email, asking for services that already specified not offered,gut instinct? It just might end up being a sticky for the newbie area?

Personally, if you want to get to know the lady before a visit an email is usually best. I for one like to get to know who I am visiting with prior to meeting ,but via email only. You may want to rethink your approach....

Well said! It benefits the ladies because we get business, and it benefits the gents because they have feedback and know who to see.

Lindsay, it's actually much more common than most people think for an escort/service provider to refuse to see disabled clients. I personally know of six potential clients in Vancouver who gave up on the idea of being with a service , simply because they were tired of calling girls, only to be turned down based on their disability. Fortunately I was able to put them in touch with a few good providers who don't have a problem with seeing disabled clients, and they are now very happy clients. I've even had a provider ask me if it's possible to catch cerebral palsy by having sex with a client who has it. Just for those of you reading this who don't know the answer is ABSOLUTELY not. There are exactly 2 ways to get cerebral palsy, first and most common is birth injury of some kind. Second is severe brain trauma due to a accident. This is not common as it requires some pretty serious injury, and some body who is injured accidentally that badly would probably die first.

If a client did something that was unforgiveable or did something out of line, I think he's off her list forever. A few years ago I had someone say something to me really, really hurtful after they were out of line by wanting certain services that I do not offer which explains why they said what they said. After firing off a very angry email to him and even though he was apologetic, imo it wasn't sincere and all they did was cry on another board about how no other SP would see them. This guy I knew for years. Now, I've heard a lot of things in this line of work but nothing that was so low and I do have my standards. Nothing he could say to me back then or even now would make me change my mind. He showed his true colors that day and that was that. How could I see him after he said that to me? What would make me change my mind? Point being, you have to do something really bad to get on the shit list with these girls. Maybe others situations are forgiveable but it all depends on the SP. As for myself, I'm not so forgiving in serious situations and I've also changed over the years and do not put up with much bs anymore. Life is too short and there are other clients waiting in the wings who may be nicer. Money is not a factor.

-Explicit Questions -Guy on the phone did not even read the ad because they ask what your description is so most likely they are looking at a bunch of ads and probably don't even realize who they're talking to. One guy even starting calling me by another SP's name. And the SP was actually someone I knew. - I'm allergic to latex condoms which then leads them to ask for something else... enough said. A guy's basic introduction to me on the phone should not begin with "Yo" "Wassup" or "Hey babe". Guys who text when I specifically said "Don't text me!" Don't haggle with me on the phone or by email. Are you disease free? Are you sure? This is an insult. Why is it that WE as SPs are the ones who are always viewed as having STDS? Guys engage in this hobby so it is not completely one sided here. And are they stupid enough not to realize that no one is actually going to admit to this? Can you take a shower when I get there so I know you're clean? I will only pay you after the hour. Send me some facial pictures

For starters... one of the complaints I hear about the most while making small talk with SPs (in regards to OTHER clients) is first-time-visitors that don't take the time to read the whole website/ad etc... and ask questions that could have been avoidable, the number one question being rates. Some of the high class ladies (salutations to those of you I have met ;) ) prefer not to talk about rates AT ALL. TBH neither do I. The business part of a visit is the least fun. If a lady appears to be worth your time visiting, give her the respect and do your own research! my two cents :)

I keep the two types of massage separate. I get a regular good theraputic massage which is receipted, and to be honest is beneficial and enjoyed for what it is. I wouldn't dream of asking the lady to compromise her licence. Very easy to find a good RMT. When I'm in the mood that's when I opt for the relaxation massage and the extra attention, and that's the cost thats borne from my recreation budget.