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I needed something to catch your attention but the truth is 'it' is not even close to what you must have imagined when reading the title. But although I will soon announce something very special (hint, hint website), I decided to use my 300 post for something a lot more special than that. During my time as a member of CERB I have noticed many in here have a big heart and like helping others. So I just want to invite everyone here to not forget about those in need and share whatever your possibilities allow you. Let's not forget we can also help with some our time. I am currently supporting food bank with personal donations as well as donations on behalf of the very kind gentlemen who when visiting me bring something from the list but I know there's many other associations in need of our support so I found this website that posts fund-raising and charitable events in Ottawa for those interested the link is I know not everyone in this community is from Ottawa so I created a new group that anyone can join and where we can post updates on institutions or events to support good causes anywhere in Canada. Thank you for your attention and hope that many will participate in this. Hugs :)

Good men are mesured by their words AND their actions...if the two are not in sync, then he is no measure of a man. The fine ladies of CERB deserve the best. In a relationship, compromise...yes, settle...never. Just my 2 cents.

Actually yes he did say exact words"oh yeah you would definitely be second fiddle"but in all fairness the ladies we were speaking of are members here and i consider them drop dead gorgeous!!I didnt react I was completely stunned I tried to tell myself the person did not mean this and was unaware but,it continued and I said enough is enough.So thankyou for your input everybody I really appreciate the kind words.alex xo muah:-P

Alex, this guy is not worth even after all the money and gifts. Perhaps he feels because he is paying you that it gives him a license to say whatever he feels like. It is a good thing you confronted him about these comments and if he were a smart individual, he would have stopped a long time ago. It's times like this when you just have to put yourself first and ditch him. It's a tough thing to do ( the confrontation part) but maybe this will make him realize what he is losing. I am in a similar situation where I have a client who has wronged me in the past. I'm no longer comfortable seeing him even though he has been generous but there have been some things I cannot overlook anymore because it has always bothered me even though I only see him on rare ocassions. Bottom line, I don't trust him. Always do what your gut instinct tells you to do. You obviously knew it was wrong, you tried to get him to see your way and he hasn't. I also believe the constant gift giving on every appt is a manipulation tactic. They know they've done something wrong and this is their way to reel you back in. In some of sick and twisted way, this is their way of regaining power over you. While this can be tempting, if he's a regular doing a lot of gift giving and seeing you a lot, sometimes we have to put the business and financial aspect aside and leave it all behind. You can make money from other clients who aren't going to give you an emotional headache. No need to swallow your pride from someone who has no respect for you whatsoever. It's time to clean house.

K..... here's what I've seen happening at clubs in Ottawa lately, from a dancer's viewpoint: guys are bringing girlfriends, wives, female acquaintances, etc. into the club who want to seem "ok" with coming to a strip club. But in reality most of the time they seem to be there to keep tabs on their boyfriend or husband/ judge the dancers/ see if the dancers are hotter than them or not... and I think give the club a weird vibe. Come in on any night now and you're guaranteed to see that a good percentage of the 'customers' are female (I use the term loosely since they tend to be very tight with their money while in the club)! 90% don't spend a dollar on dancers, they sit near the stage, sometimes with bitch faces in full force, get drunk and try to dance, and distract male customers they are with. Myself and many dancers at work DO NOT appreciate men bringing a female date to the club for the very reason above- you don't spend money with them there! If guys want to bring a girl customer with him for whatever reason, do us a favour and spend money on the dancers while you're with her! Or have her open her purse while she's there. It'll make us strippers a lot happier, guaranteed. And no, you can't sit and drink with your female friend in an upstairs VIP booths for free- you have to pay the club to sit there like people said on here, and they're mostly meant for doing 1/2 hour or hour VIPs with dancers. * These are just some of my frustrations about female customers coming into clubs... I know not all of you bring them in, but it amazes me that guys think their status raises in strippers' eyes when they have a female customer with them.