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It wasn't too long ago that I found out that my son had special needs, and since then I have learned that you find support in the strangest places. Many of the people that I used to hang out with and go out for dinner with are now a little distant! I had a group of friends that I used to do everything with. Now it seems that they just don't understand what is involved when you are raising a child with special needs. As I keep repeating to them that I can't go to a restaurant with my son as he cannot eat 90% of foods that are found in restaurants, they seem the be blaming me for not being around like I used to. Of those friends there is less than a handful that I can count on. As I attend different social events for work or different organizations, I am meeting more and more people that are in similar situations as me. The biggest thing that I came to realize is that almost none of these people are complaining on how hard it is to deal with children?s special needs but more how proud they are of there children?s successes. That is cool! My friends with what you would consider ?normal? kids do nothing but complain on how hard it is to raise them. Even when talking to family members I find that they don't understand or don't want to understand the needs that these children have. It just makes it hard to try and talk to them especially when they think that the reason for his behaviour is because you can?t hit your kids these days. I have been a member here for quite some time and I found out that I can always count on having someone to talk to or hearing something good that happened in someone?s life here on CERB. I have had some long chats with some people on this site about anything and everything. Like I have said in the past, it?s sometimes easer to talk to a stranger then a close friend or relative. From reading the joke to reading the General section, there is always something good or something worth reading. I read a thread on ?our kids little giants? made me feel good, and I read the ?what have you learned here?, and it made me think. I read the ?5 freaking riddles? it made me feel less intelligent. (Thanks for that one) It just goes to show you that you can find support, friendship in the most unusual places. Apex

As some of you know, I give lectures at U of O and Carleton on sex work. There has been an especially high demand due to the court case. While the overwhelming majority of students are respectful and "get it", there is one thing that seems to come up a lot. That is the mandatory STD/STI testing of sex workers. Many students seem to think that forcing sex workers to be tested for STD/STI's on a regular basis would be "good for sex workers and good for society." This bothers me for some many reasons: 1. It perpetuates the stereotype that sex workers are vectors of disease. I think you are at much higher risk picking up a random at a bar than seeing a sex worker! 2. It is paternalistic. Somehow "they" know better than sex workers what is best for them and must enforce it. 3. It would never be done to the general population. What about bars that are frequented often for casual sex or swingers clubs? Are we going to force everyone to have mandatory STD/STI testing before signing up for "AFF - Adult Friend Finder"? 4. It's sexual assault. STD/STI testing is an extremely invasive procedure that involves putting a speculum in your vagina. To force a woman to disrobe and have an instrument inserted in her vagina is sexual assault. 5. Education, not more laws and rules, works best for society. What ever happened to education and accesible services? It's a pain in the ass to get STD tested these days with the Sexual Health Clinic being closed. I would much rather see a focus on education and accessible health care than more laws and rules. Why do people think laws and rules will solve all of society's problems? Well, that's my rant for the day :) I hope this generates some good discussion. Megan

I've been reflecting what I've learned being in the sex industry for 3 years now. I thought it would be interesting to share my insight, and encourage others to do the same, both from the provider and hobbiest point of views. -Men do not expect women to be perfect like an airbrushed magazine model. Men love real women. -Despite what the media tells us, men do are not looking for stick-thin women with huge breasts. Men, as a whole, love larger women and love women with small breasts. -Touch is a basic human need, almost as basic as the need to eat and breathe. -It's not true that all men just want to fuck and then leave/fall asleep. Men also love to cuddle, converse, and be intimate. -Confidence is sexy!

The only 100% guarrantee against STD's is abstinence, and that's just not going to hppen...the only person's sexual history you can know, even in a monogomous relationship is your own (not even your partner you can know for sure) Why are SP's going to be required to be tested, yet the woman in the bar who is sexually active and not in a monogomous relationship not required to be tested Why if you are demanding sp's to be tested, you don't make the same demand of hobbiests...it takes two to tango after all. Sounds discriminatory to me, STD's come from sex (duh pretty obvious I guess), so EVERYONE in any sexual relationship should require STD testing all the time, not just the SP/Hobbiest Just some late night thoughts before I go to bed RG

I really like MEN 35+ :oops:

Disclaimer: I realize that the majority of you are paying for a sexual service and that your needs should be met within the boundaries of the escort in question. That is the service I am providing. However, that being said, I would like to call attention to what I like to refer to as "jack-hammering." This is basically extended penetrative sex and nothing else. You may be convinced that good sex requires only penetration and stamina--as well all know, women want a man who can last (I hope you can sense the sarcasm there), or perhaps it is purely selfish on your part, you do want to get your money's worth after all. So you pound your paid sex partner, over and over, squeezing in every possible available second. In which case, I am not a blow-up doll. I am not an object solely for your use. Keep in mind, I do not think it is a problem, for example, if you would like to simply pay to receive a blowjob, provided you realize the skill and time involved in administering a good blowjob. And I do not think penetrative sex itself is bad. But if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids that can make penetrative sex so wonderful. So take the time to pay attention to things like kissing and groping and licking and nibbling and so on. If the first thing you're going for is penetration, you have skipped so many amazing, naughty fun things to do to one another. While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady. Happy pooning!

I'm not trying to say that sex workers shouldn't get tested, I am just saying that making it mandatory is a bad idea for the excellent reasons Megan outlined. You should just get tested of your own volition as part of a healthy sexual life. A better idea would be sexual health education type campaigns to promote STD checks for everyone who has sex and comprehensive sex education for teens.

One of the advantages of getting older.....no need for speed :) Peace MG

Like water off a ducks back. I did this to my computer once and Lost EVERYTHING. It was sickening, but we are only human! No worries Mod, it could of been a lot worse!

I personally find using a lot of smaller candles around the room to cast a much nicer glow than one or two lights. I like to stick to one very, very light scent (approx. 1 scented candle per 200 -300 sq. feet) and have the rest of the candles unscented. I generally prefer fresh scents, ones that you won't walk in and assume is a scented candle but rather might think is just the lingering scent of the freshly washed linens or you get a very light citrus scent that you can't quite place, something very fresh and clean. As far as candle arrangements I think it's nice to have one larger arrangement if possible, something set up like this... Then I like to have a lot of tealights or votives around the room. This is obviously a table setting which isn't really what you'll need but I thought it might show how a bunch of smaller candles scattered about might dress up an armoir, end table, etc. Anyway those are just my preferences, I'm sure everyone else will have some great advice as well. Oh and a final tip, having a lot of candles lit will increase the temperature of the room. It may help if you lower the temperature a little before your guest arrives, you might be a touch cold at first but once you have 20-30 little flames going in one small room and start to generate a little heat yourself you'll be glad you don't have your thermostat set high.

I've seen Sierra quite a few times and figured it was time to finally post a review. I suspect those that have met her are trying to keep her as Halifax's best kept secret, thus lack of reviews. Sierra is a true GF experience (sure as hell wish I had girlfriends like her in my day ;-)). She has a way of making you feel totally at ease and only focuses on you, definitely non rush. A date with Sierra is worth the visit for conversation over a bottle of wine alone, her skills (and they are superb) in "the other room" are more like a major bonus. Sierra is sexy as hell with an amazing body and keeps herself very fit. Communication is easy and she replies very promptly. A date with Sierra is simply a lot of fun and no hassles or drama. I guess you figured by now that Sierra has become one of my favorite dates. What's not to like? She is simply amazing. Treat her well gents she deserves it.

That you can find love in the most unexpected places...{during a 3some}lol that men need much more than sex to be happy that people care about how others feel that escorts can work together and not against each other That a smile goes along way kisses, Emma A

It's all good...shame we couldn't all just jump into the "DeLorean" when shit like this happens and make things all better again. Keep up the good work.

Mod, I truly appreciate the service you provide to this board and all it's members. I'd rather have the odd "hiccup" from someone who clearly cares about the community than put up with the BS that other forums have to deal with. Truth be told, I think you set the bar a bit high. Don't sweat it...

Mod, I'm sure you're forgiven. I've admined a board and all the controls can be quite overwhelming! We appreciate all you do.

Well now that you've revived this ancient thread, i figured i'd add my two cents... While I largely agree with the comments above, I'd like to illuminate the flip side of this issue. This may get me in trouble, but for many escorts, their goal is to finish the encounter asap to minimize time spent with the client while still reaping the rewards. More often then not, even with some of the best, the clothes are thrown at the drop of a hat and there is little to no foreplay (even in 2hr+ arrangements). I don't speak for all men, but many of us enjoy some of the hottest moments with an escort partially clothed. It is tremendously anti-climatic to greet your host, only to find her instantly drop all the clothes and be ready to roll (even if this happens in the first 5-10min, i still think it's too fast). This could mean that the client may not be as turned on and may require a lot more 'jack-hammering' to reach climax. Sure, the escort might tire or not enjoy this, but it was her actions that contributed to the time spent endlessly :bddog: . I guess all I'm saying is that these poor sexual experiences should not be blamed exclusively on the client, the escort plays a significant role as well. (Taking the time to get a client 'super' hot may in fact lead to a shorter overall time spent together.)

The key word here is "to keep it professionnal". And it means that the hobbiest has to be a wise customer and listen to whats happening into that specific relationship and to develop a healthy awareness that we should have for any relationship. For me, to be with a SP is not only a matter of "having" a sexy beauty and put "that" on my wall as a trophy. I dont value a sexual experience without a minimum of a relationship. My goal remains to have a "GFE" with the SP, but we both know that it's a temporary relationship that has it's limits. And it has to be kept that way. That doesnt mean that I cannot have a true and authentic relationship built on trust, sharing mutual interests and caring for eachother, on top of the sexual chemistry that takes a good part of the encounter. Au contraire, this gives a quality of the "GF experience", and both can benefit of it, but only for what it is. I value a lot a continued relationship, and hope to become a "regular". When I find a SP where I feel that kind of experience is possible, I consider that as a gift. And for sure, I know then that my donations allow the Sp to live properly of their art, and for me to benefit of a wonderful experience. That said, the mutual understanding has to be clear: the hobbiest meets a SP in the context of a professionnal service. What comes in my mind is the same kind of relationship we could have with a psychologist. We can develop a relationship of profound confidence and intimacy, but that relationship still remains a professional one ( and has to remain that way), where the client pays for the service within a specific timeframe and under some limitations into some area of the private life. We have here on CERB many SPs that have that ethics; and I can see that some of them have contribute to this thread. Beautiful women, with high standards for their own lives, wanting to do their best with the services they offer. :bowdown: