Leaderboard

I know that we've talked about this in different ways, in various discussions over time. Something that mrrnice2 said in the Legal thread about prostitution laws prompted me to bring this up again, directly. The general stereotype is that a woman becomes a prostitute, or paid companion, or escort--whatever one calls it--because she's drug-addicted, trying to scam the welfare system, involved in other criminal activities or simply underhanded, immoral or irresponsible. While the 8-15% of women in the sex trade who work outdoors generally have multiple problems, frequently including addictions, the great majority of us are no more likely to be addicts or alcoholics than anyone else in the population. So, why did we take up this profession? I'm not looking for detailed stories or for anyone to compromise her privacy. I just thought it might be helpful for us to say something if we feel we can. Me, first: I ended an abusive marriage and had two children to raise. My ex has litigated every aspect of our divorce and the children's custody and support for a decade. I had no way to support my sons adequately on my own and the legal costs I have been forced to incur have been devastating. With no family or friends who could help me, becoming a paid companion has been the only way I have been able to keep our heads above water for a long time. My children are doing well and so am I. I'm not a victim; I'm a survivor.

I chose to get into this business after years of working high-paying, professional jobs (including the government), that made me hate my life every day. I was drowning in debts from university, and any time I'd finally make leeway on them, I'd snap from months of hating my job and rack them back up with a vacation or a shopping spree. So finally i left. I walked out on a cushy government job. And then i started thinking, for the umpteenth time over the years, about getting into porn. I'd been thinking about that for almost ten years. So I started applying, thinking I'd hear nothing back, because I'm too old/chubby/etc. But I got a good response. Then I started to look at the money involved and permanency of it, and thought about escorting instead. And I've never looked back. I work for myself. I handle my own life/finances. And I've started to travel the world. I won't do this forever, I know that, but for now, it's the best thing I could think of doing. Some people look at us like we're trash or ruining our lives - choosing to do this has finally let me live the life I've always wanted. And I get to have hot sex all the time. Fuck yes!

This morning I realized something I already knew but as many things in life, we appreciate them but tend to forget. I know it has been discussed here how us service or massage providers sometimes have to deal with certain difficult issues when having to meet a person we know very little about and get intimate with him : lack of respect or hygiene, overstaying, etc . But hey! What about the truly gentlemen we get to meet? Those who show up on time, follow our requests, in other words, treat us with respect. I as many ladies here don't ask/expect any gifts from my guests however they often surprise us with a bottle of wine, chocolates, gift certificates, etc . Which of course are very much appreciated. And what about when they go out of their way to do something nice for us? Yes, it happens. Just yesterday this great guy fixed my door lock for me (something I had a hard time with for months). If could I would write a recommendation on those gentlemen I probably would but since that is not possible here which makes complete sense since they would be receiving PM's like crazy lol. I really want to thank them, even the ones I have not had the pleasure to meet on behalf of all the other ladies here :) xx Isabella Gia

Working really hard lately, but I stopped in at Barb's for a beer on the way home from work a while ago. I ran into Mia, whom I haven't seen in a long time, but she joined me for a drink and we reconnected. I was pleased that she remembered so much about me, my tastes and preferences. She was looking good, a hot blonde spinner--she reminds me of Gauge the pornstar, but cuter and gentler. Off to the CR for a few dances. It all came back to me, what I love about strip clubs. Mia is unbelievably erotic, but it's all slow and intense and feels really intimate. Intense without being frenzied or frantic. Sometimes I think my sex with sp's is a bit frantic, too urgent, maybe, and I don't take my time as I should, and as I always tell myself I will do, when I'm watching an erotic dance. Especially one like Mia's. I'll try to remember this lesson next time I'm with an sp. (and that'll be soon!, I can hardly wait... but see, there I go again...). So thanks Mia, not only for some great dances, but for a valuable lesson in what erotic means. (I had posted this on the Barb's thread, but I like the idea of running reco threads for dancers like Kubrickfan and mistert have done, so I'm reposting here, with thanks to Mia.)

Hello again everyone! Thanks to all who are posting good info and reviews... I haven't posted much of late, but got lots of good feedback on my Aqua Luna Oasis summary sheet (which sadly is a bit out of date now...) Thought I would compile a list of MPs here in Ottawa who have websites. It is most likely not complete, so feel free to add any I may have missed. The quality is varied, but there is good info to be found online that you will hopefully find helpful. I think MPs are realizing the importance of having a web presence. Makes sense business wise. Enjoy! Club CMJ: http://www.clubmadellynjae.com/ Jude Masso: http://www.judemasso.webs.com/ Bethany's Sweetest Massage: http://sites.google.com/site/sweetestmassage/ Michelle_MA: http://myweb.ecomplanet.com/MYMA9829/ CitySpa Carol Ann: http://relaxationcityspa.com/home Jessica Massage: http://www.jessicamassage.com/ Sophie's Massage: http://sophiemassage.spaces.live.com...x?sa=647354817 Luna / Acqua / Oasis: http://www.lunamassagespa.com/ Lamora's Spa: http://www.gogoadults.com/ottawa/massage/lamora.html Stacey Massage: http://staceymassagexo.webs.com/ Michele's Massage: http://michelemassageottawa.com Angel's Touch: http://www.angelstouchmassage.ca Jade Spa: http://www.jadespa.ca/ Body Care: http://www.bodycare.freehosting.net/ Paradise Spa: http://paradisespaandtanning.com Megan's Touch: http://sites.google.com/site/meganstouch/

Like to thank the ladies for sharing. And it is interesting about stereotypes. Someone from mainstream society (for lack of a better term) would think after seeing escorts since July, I would have met at least one hooker, prostitute or whore...I'm glad to say that since starting this hobby, all I've met are LADIES And my encounters with these ladies have been more than about sex, also companionship, kissing, cuddling and conversation RG

Soap and water. Rinse, repeat, rinse again. Never ever return from the bathroom after a pee, not using soap and water to even wash your hads, and expect any action whatsoever. Also, give and ye shall receive. What have you done, non-sexually speaking, for her lately? Do you clean up after yourself, make dinner, reduce her at home work load at all, are you more work than a kid? Do you ever just give her some affection without expecting or suggesting it lead to more right now? Date nights? Demands and expectations without reciprocation never go down well with women. They keep a list, and everytime you disrespect them, hurt their feelings, fail to deliver on a promise, a black mark is put down against you. If the marks against you outweigh the marks for you, you get nothing. If the marks of approval outbalance the marks against you, you get rewards. Women are very simple lol. Don't expect a bj if you smell stinky. Assume at all times that you smell stinky, and always wash, rinse and repeat until no one can ever say you smell stinky, and once she has the trust that you don't stink, she will be less reluctant to go there.

I love how on Sesame Street it teaches kids how to cough properly. One of the funniest things I have seen recently was a father and his son in line at a store. The father coughed in his hand and his son was like but dad you are supposed to cough like this (fake cough in the elbow) I loved it... But back to the thread at hand I recently got sick from a client, he didn't tell me until after that he got over a cold. I was not impressed and spent a few days in bed making sure I didn't infect the general population. Its only common sense to stay in if its possible and not to meet up if you are sick. Posted via Mobile Device

Thats a good idea Cato. I started one for Bridgette since she was a member here. Guys, on threads regarding the dancers, we should be very careful to avoid discussing issues about private activities in the CR that may be viewed unfavorably by the club or by the dancers themselves. Also, the dancers should certainly have the right to establish a "DNR" postion as well either directly or through another established member of cerb if they wish to remain anonymous. Lastly, a review on cerb should by no means imply "extras" either ... I assume those sorts of discussions would be limited to PM.

My reasons why i became an escort are mostly the same as some of the others have mentioned. Abusive husband, 3 sons to take care of and finical independence. I left my husband went to Flight attendant Academy...Air Canada went on strike so i needed another way to support my sons. Someone mentioned being an escort to me since he knew i loved sex and meeting people...I, like so many others thought -oh no i can't do that their bad people,drugs,booze and pimps. I did my research and discovered a whole new world...i was excited and so impressed with these women..how brave and truly wonderful they seemed. I gave it a try and have been happy ever since. So much more interesting and fun then i could ever have imagined. Now i get to travel.Meet wonderful people that in my old life would never have had the chance to meet. I remember some people saying to me-"you must really hate men"-{another stereo-type} .You know it has never made me hate men if anything it gave me new hope..seeing clients that have such great respect for us and what we do is so wonderful. If anything i appreciate men more. You have showed me that not all men are the same as my ex. You showed me you actually care. Thank you

As i was walking the downtown core earlier today, taking in some of the and fresh air, my thoughts brought me to Barbs. As i had never been over at lunch, i stop to order a drink. Still a touch quiet, clients and dancers trickling in, a lady walks in on stage, brunette, short hair, wicked smile. I wait, enjoying her show. She comes by, introduces herself, we chat, we head to the back. Sensual dances and wicked smiles from Jade. Life is good, and can look forward to a brighter afternoon.

I fear I will be the minority voice here... but here 'goes... This is a sad story for sure - and I can empathize. I had a similar conversation with my father years ago. It was not easy, nor fun. And I am so sorry you are having to ensure this. I realized that in my case, my father was using money as a weapon... Money. Period. And I have always thought the best way to deal with these kinds of things is to remove the weapon. So, after cooling down, I told my dad that I respected his decision. Moreover, I told him that I was not expecting nor planning on relying on his money. I let him know that I was an adult, financially capable and independent, and that what he did with his money after he died was of no concern to me. It was a turning point for us. In many ways, my response showed him that I was, in fact, a better person than he had given me credit for. He realized that I was not simply maintaining our relationship with an eye on my inheritance, and that all I really wanted from him was his love and for him to have a relationship with my kids. We're not best friends, by any stretch, but he's my dad and we have learned to have a relationship of sorts. I am NOT equating my situation to yours - I have no idea what things are like between your mom and you. And I am not implying ANYTHING in my post... Just relaying my personal story in the hopes that it might be helpful. In the end, I agree with others - this is your choice and you need to do what's best for you. And nobody can tell you what that is - it will come from your heart and your head. I hope things cool down soon - these things are always so hard.

Yet another reason why some GFE ladies charge more - there is greater risk involved. It is SO frustrating when my gentlemen callers arrive with the sniffles! I do not tell them to go home, I just have to adjust my services that I offer. Although it is annoying when anyone has to cancel or postpone appointments (I have done this many times), it really really is for the best. Colds are not fun - especially when you are on the road and there is a lot of financial commitment/loss because of them. At the end of the day, I would rather have every single date canceled than catch a bug!