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Not a problem for me.....If it puts your S.P at ease your experience should be that much more enjoyable....Tks

I have certainly been willing to share my full name, but that really depends on who I am sharing that with. For me, I want to at least feel that I know that lady enough to be comfortable, since it is a bit of a trust issue. To me, that means if she is a CERB lady, I will have chatted a couple of times, likely read a fair amount of her posts and feel that she has developed enough of a reputation to feel comfortable doing so. I have done some outcalls, and do you think that I try to hide everything that might provide this anyway, so I am okay, but then might be in a different space than some of the gents, that feel that the risk is very high. I agree that the ladies can require screening, but at the same time, they should realize that they may need to build their respect in the gents eyes first, before they feel that they are willing to share. My 2 cents.

I find Gents seem to forget that part of the equation a lot when visiting us and worrying about things like getting caught. That we, quite literally, are sometimes putting our lives on the line... that we can never really know when we will be made victims and we do things in attempt of not only keep ourselves safe, but to also put our mind at ease that you won't be the last person we see. While it's far more likely you will be a fine upstanding gents than some dangerously mentally unstable person... I think as with STDs, we do have to recognize that that particular risk does exist. We have to recognize and then take steps to prevent the risk. For some, this involves getting a real name.

I added a spot for Recommendation or URL of a page that is important to me here on cerb and... My cerb FREE URL If you have a cerb FREE URL please enter the address here. These will show on your ABOUT ME page on your profile if you choose to add them. Step One Go to your UserCP area Step Two Click "Edit Your Details" under the "Your Profile" category Scroll down and you will see the two new spots.

We may ask for your full name,number etc..but there are other ways around it..PROVIDE REFERENCES. We just want everyone to be safe..yourself included. I'm sure YOU wouldn't just call any ol number of a provider without checking her out first. I'm in NYC right now and have no problem getting the guys full name and or references..usually both. I was supposed to go to Long Island too but with all the bodies being found of presumed prostitutes i won't take a chance even if i did get all the necessary info. You have to understand that not everyone gets us...some still think of us as druggies or drunks working for pimps without a mind of our own. We need to feel safe and secure in our chosen career because that's exactly what it is our choice of career. Would you work for someone you didn't know at all? Emma

With respect, absolutely not. I do give my real first name, but there simply is too much at risk for me and my home life. I would hope my Cerb reputation here would help me to be identifiable, and I could provide some references if needed, but I'm not going to fully identify myself. I fully respect the ladies' right to make this a condition of a visit, and I would never argue over this requirement. There have been a (very) few occasions where this was listed as a requirement, but I explained why it was a problem for me and I have yet to have a lady not go ahead.

The answer is an absolute yes and I always have done so. I am truthfully astounded that apparently some of the women do not require it nor require some sort of vouching be done by their peers. This is a two way street. I expect to meet in a safe atmosphere, and have my personal information kept private, and it is equally important for the SP to feel the same. One only has to look occassionally at the news to see that too many women in this industry and in general are treated not only with disrespect but with violations of their person. So ladies, be careful, and be secure when you arrange an encounter.

Maybe she would rather her street name not be posted publically like this. Posted via Mobile Device

I have been looking forward to this debate for a long time. What I am looking forward to, is for the opposition to clearly reveal the corrupt, unethical unCanadian nature of Harper and his govenment. I also want to see Ignatieff showing his human nature to Canadians and that he is not a walking robot academia. I also hope Layton do well.

No offence, but have you tried the search feature?

I do all the time. I dont have a problem with it.

Nah...Montreal is going down :)

If the lady requests it as part of the verification, and I really wish to meet her, I will provide it I've only been asked once to give my name (in addition to a reference) and was comfortable doing so. I'll admit providing my full name, the first time to a lady, well when requested, it was provided, but omg,someone really knows who I am now. But you know, it must alleviate any concerns the lady might have on meeting someone privately for the first time and helps quite a bit in establishing trust...and I got to meet and have a great and memorable encounter with a wonderful lady too. My thoughts RG Additional Comments: A quick additional thought. Really when you analyse and think about it, why not provide the information. The paranoia about being blackmailed??? Ladies will make much more by being SP's than if they blackmailed (assuming they find a guy rich enough to blackmail, or in a position to be blackmailed) a guy. Not to mention word would get out, and the lady would soon find herself unable to get clients. The risk, in reality, is much more borne by the ladies than the guys Just thinking about it, the only reason for verification is a tool for the ladies' safety, and once done, it help establish a trusting relationship between the lady and client, and allows the lady to feel safe, secure and relaxed. Just a quick additional rambling RG

Do you really want me to scream out "oh yes John!" when your name is really Damian? Sorry, couldn't resist. The fact is, if you meet my screening criteria and show yourself to be trustworthy your last name is unimportant to me. But then again, we all have our comfort zones and they should be respected.

I absolutely respect the ladies choices and their absolute need to protect themselves and use caution. However, as clients we too have safety/security issues. Although rare, we have seen cases of clients being assaulted/robbed. As well many balance the need to protect their identity while at the same time participating in this great activity. I have been asked for my full/real name in past. Most times it doesn't become a requirement if the lady and I have talked and built up a rapport and/or I have solid references to provide. But I do recall in one case I was told that no other option existed to which I asked if I could then have the ladies full and real name. My thought was that if we are both being put at risk (and I'm not trying to say their equal), then we should both have full disclosure and trust. I explained my challenge in what I thought was a solid and balanced email. Of course the information was not provided to me. I did give my real first name and said I could make up any last name. But I felt it better to be honest and explain why I couldn't give my full name vs lie. The date did go ahead and was very nice. Both ladies and gents have their approaches and limits and I respect them all. We each have to do what we are comfortable with. Cub

It's a matter of safety for both you and the companion. If she is asking, anyone else she has met or screened has had to provide the details. You are entering my personal space, whether a hotel or condo and I want to know who you are. Due to all the crap being pulled, screening process are getting a bit more strict with some ladies, and I being one of them, am sorry if you do not like it, but there is no way I will visit with the details. Personal safety is way more important to me than any amount of money.

I agree! I only like texts if I've seen you before.

While there's no need to be rude or vulgar it's important to remember that SMS stands for short message service, and many people as stated already don't have full keyboards on their phones, full sentences aren't a realistic expectation. Texting is great but likely not the best means for your first communication.

I actually much prefer texts to calls, I have difficulty hearing on the phone. That being said I HATE one liners or asking about sexual acts. When I receive a text I would hope its fitting for the person I am. Which is why I prefer emails initially. Also I don't like when someone seems to think I operate a jack off texting buinsess. If you want to know If I provide a service I will be more then happy to tell you... Please ask questions so we can have a great session. Don't text me at all hours of the day and night. This is a buinsess line and as such respect my buinsess. I don't really want to spend the entire day talking to you. Keep it short and sweet. Posted via Mobile Device

I have a feeling the guy was drunk.. and is used to pointing out girls he's banged with his buddies in a bar if and when he gets laid that way.. and then realized his blunder right after spouting off about his conquest.. that she wasn't some hottie he picked up in a bar. He paid! Which is why he then had to qualify how he met you. He will likely be too embarassed now to call you if he realized you heard him. But if he does.. I too will be waiting to hear how you handle it :)

I have accepted credit cards in the past from clients coming from Europe who were paying deposits for extended meetings, sometimes weeks or months away. I have four or five of these bookings a year, on average. I've handled these through PayPal, which charges a 3% handling fee. I haven't had any trouble with these, but PayPal has restrictions against processing payments for erotic companionship and will close an account if they find that's what it's being used for. Electronic bank transfers work nicely in Canada. For clients outside the country, transfers are still possible but, in those cases, they need to have the complete and real name, address, bank address and account information of the person into whose account the money is being sent. I'm not willing to disclose so much personal information to someone I don't know. My friends, I have to say that I'm becoming irritated by the endless, fear-laden discussion about men's privacy. I think it's not only over-exaggerated, it's also a way to accuse paid companions of having a propensity to defraud clients and to violate their confidentiality. Such cases are exceedingly rare and, I would venture to say, will not occur if one is dealing with an established, well-respected paid companion or escort agency. In fact, I can't think of any recent cases involving this kind of thing. While men may have things to worry about, they will generally be because they have not taken proper precautions to avoid discovery by their wives or partners, not because of something that their paid companion has deliberately done to expose or defraud them. Companions, on the other hand, are always at risk of injury, theft, public exposure, exposure to law enforcement, or worse, even when we think we know our clients very well. The unfortunate, but simple reality is this: we have many obvious and legitimate things to fear from our clientele, while our clients have little to fear from us.

I've been reading this thread and as others already explained those who have reputation points have earned them through their posts which other members here agreed on enough to either nominate their post or give them reputation points, which as previously mentioned can be good or bad. This however in my opinion does not make a member trustworthy, as Roamingguy said trust is earned and at least in my case I do not label/consider a member here trustworthy based in their reputation points. Reputation is 'the general estimation in which a person is held by the public.' Trust on the other hand is 'a firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person.' I consider a member trustworthy or not based on how he carries himself in here, the kind of posts made by him, how he interacts with people and yes, the reputation influences in the opinion made on someone but is not the only factor. Bottom line of what I'm trying to express here is reputation points most times represent our agreement or disagreement with what one has said or that's the way I see it. If you guys don't agree then I guess I'll get a few bad rep points but that won't make me untrustworthy, will it? ;)