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This thread is sort of in response to some of the reactions on the Amy Winehouse thread and is also inspired by recent conversations I have been having with my wonderful friends in my personal life. I would like to bring to everyone's attention that when issues such drug-addiction/sex working/ racism etc. etc. are brought up, these things are a matter of life and death for some people. Thus, it's really important to not only be gentle with our words, but also with our thoughts when commenting on them. I personally believe that most people are not maliciously trying to stir up shit when they say things like "she was JUST a junkie", but rather this kind of thinking can be coming from several places: ignorance, a societally perpetuated idea, or past experiences where loved ones who've gone through things like drug-addiction have ended up hurting those they love in the long-run. Nevertheless, it is still important to always assume that people in your audience are going to be deeply affected by these things (either through their own experiences with them or through experiences of loved ones) and thus saying things that demonstrate your anti-drug user/anti-mental health mentality (or whatever the issue may be) will end up deeply wounding many of the people who come across it. I am not of the belief that everyone should be absolutely free to express all opinions (but we'll save that for a later conversation), but if you choose to do so, be mindful of the fact that some people's hearts are at stake. A good example for me is when I hear about a woman who's credibility is challenged for sex working in court cases where she is accusing her husband of abuse. In my eyes, this could very well be me. And so news like this can be quite hard to handle because of the immense injustice I perceive to be happening. Additionally, when people are backing up what is going on, its even more painful to have to defend something you perceive (and feel in your heart and gut) is so blatantly wrong. Maybe I'm just having an emotional night but I thought I'd share anyway. With love and in struggle, Sky

I may be cynical when I say that very rarely is the beloved more than a shaping spirit for the lover's dream. And perhaps such a thing is enough. To be a muse may be enough. The pain is when the dreams change, as they do, as they must. Suddenly the enchanted city fades and you are left alone again in the windy desert. As for your beloved, she didn't understand you. The truth is, you never understood yourself." - from "Sexing the Cherry" By Jeanette Winterson I think we all fall prey to this, at various points in our life. We are all constantly changing, and it is important we always give the people in our lives the opportunity to fall in love with us over and over again (be they friends, family, or lovers). 'Loving' is a verb, after all. We also need to make sure that we do not grow so attached to people that we do not allow them the latitude necessary to change, and become whoever it is they want to be in that present moment. Just thought I would share my thoughts on such a beautiful passage... What kind of experiences have you all had, that reinforce, or conversely, that contradict, this passage?

My breasts are more sensitive than the rest of my body, but that doesn't mean you can't touch and play with them. Just please don't be rough!

We need a Do Not Feed Smiley

Love is everything. It is our motivator and goal, our beginning and end, our reason and means for acting. When we feel loved, we feel confirmed as persons: recognized, met, accepted. Love nourishes and sustains us. By love, we celebrate what is lovely and we deplore what is not. The best of us will search loveless places and unloved people to find love in them and to express love for them. There is something to love everywhere, in everyone, though only loving people see it. Pain and fear are not the worst things in life. The worst is to feel that we are not loved because in that radical isolation, pain, fear and every loss intensify unbearably. But when we know we are loved, there is clear light and fresh air, we're filled with hope and a renewed sense of possibility that becomes a creative drive. Pain becomes manageable; sometimes it vanishes. Fear evaporates. The losses we suffer open us to discover new opportunities to love and to be loved again. There are different kinds of love. Motherly love is fierce and self-sacrificing. Fatherly love is strong and protective. The love between siblings, friends and neighbours sustains communities. Erotic love is the force of creative, vital nature. Hatred is love informed by anger which is, in turn, infused with fear and grief. Apathy, not hatred, is the antithesis of love, yet love is the only cure for both. The greatest love is indelible and ineffable: it binds souls together, transcends time and space, and it is stronger than death. Love judges only by its own measure. Love shines its light into all the dark corners of our being. The greatest condemnation is not to love. The paradox of love is that, unlike most things we value, to have more of it we must give it. The surest remedy when we feel we are not loved, or not loved enough, is to love more and to love more freely. Love is not a commodity. It is the ultimate reality, the ground of our being. Love is God and without love there is nothing good or godly. Love is the only thing that matters.

Love...sometime I wish that word wasn't even a word. That all those emotions were only an illusion of reality....in term of experience...I don't know if I want to say lucky or unlucky...in my life I have love two persons over limit...one was ma official ex-boyfriend, he became violent(long story) but before that I did love him...and someone that I know for over 2 years now... We never officially dated, but I know for a fact that he did love me, probably not as much as I did him...we did connect to a lot of level, that most people would found really strange, but...he did understand me. He saw the inside of me, without me telling or asking, and this for me mean the world... Love...I am French, we don't have the difference in French between love and like...at this precise moment of my life I do like someone that for mean a lot...He know that I am an SP, he know me personally, more then most people, I don't know what he feel for me, but from what I can hear he isn't indifferent...he make me weak on my knees, that for me is a sign:) Loving someone for the first time is acknowledging the fact that you may be hurt beyond limits. The fact of actually loving someone is, really painful, because you open up, and unless that person really accept you, it will hurt, one day or another

I was inspired by another thread to ask for some information from the SP's. I was led to believe that all women's breasts are too sensitive and men should refrain from playing with them to often. I think I was misinformed by a former girlfriend. The reason why I am asking is that I have always had a fantasy. Where I come up behind a lover, reach around her, caress and fondle her breasts. While kissing, licking and nibbling on her neck and ear. I also like to linger and go slow. (I have a very gentle touch, at least that is what I have been told by an SP). Ladies, your input would be greatly appreciated. Jafo I feel like a real moron asking this....

Nathalie came for a short visit to Ottawa, and as an active ambassador of our fair city, I did my best to make her feel welcome (hehe). She is a beautiful woman, whose pictures do not do her justice. She is a SPECTACULAR kisser, and wasts no time in showing you her skills. Very receptive to DATY, eager to please, and a thrill to view from any angle...and that strawberry hair really gets me going!! She promised to come back and visit us again soon...I for one, look forward to her return. E.

Thank you everyone. I have learned a lot about this type of experience. I will give it some more thought. As WIT suggested I will have be on the receiving end the first few times. This will take some time to warm up to. Perhaps a prostate massage and go from there. For those curious I am heterosexual. I only play with the ladies... This will be on my "bucket list" for now. Cheers, Jafo

Rainy Day...well lets see Go take the truck to a car wash and wash it If a thunderstorm, go fishing, see if your fishing rod does becomes a lightning rod BTW I'm just kidding to the above How about have a great encounter with a lady, had it happen three times on a rainy day Now mind you it could have been a blizzard or 100 degree heat wave, it still would have been great I actually like staying inside, watching tv, or dvd, or playing on the computer. Or meeting with some friends at Timmies, have a coffee and just hanging out RG

YEAH BABY!! My kind of gal. The excitement of getting caught just adds to it and is so much fun!!

If you must! POPSICLE PETE. Kyra sold me with that hilarious cartoon.

When it is possible to be together at the same time I offer duos with my very sexy friend Bobbi Victoria! And of course, the insatiable Gabriella L! Mmmm, living the dream!

Now on the flip side, and I know this thread is for ladies!!! but I would just like to say 'that I love having my nipples sucked on,lightly bitten,having nipple clamps on them' It brings out a great excitement for me :) I would like to thank those ladies that have performed this for me, I get goose bumps from it ;) Apparently I have been told numerous times by ladies I have sexy great looking nipples :)

YMMV means that the writer liked whatever happened but recognizes that others may prefer something else or that the chemistry between the two parties may be what makes the difference. Greek may cost more with some companions. Others may include it as part of the menu of options if they're basing their fees on their time rather than specific activities. Make sure you discuss your interest in anal sex with the companion when you book the meeting. Don't just arrive and expect her to be ready and willing to do this with you. Understand that, for some of us, offering Greek can mean that the woman is willing to try having anal sex, not that she's guaranteeing that it will happen. If it's not something she does very often or if the man is larger than most other men, she may have a hard time accommodating him. Also, if for whatever reason she doesn't feel comfortable or that she's able to relax well enough, she may not be able to go through with this activity. To maximize your chances of a good encounter with Greek, it helps to be calm and very respectful, to proceed slowly, and, when it's time for anal sex, to let her take the lead. Ask her to tell you what to do and when. Let her be the one who is completely in charge. Even the most willing companion will generally not appreciate having the man suddenly become very dominant with her at this point, the first time they're together. Where you can take the lead is to be sure to use LOTS of lubricant! Use whatever your companion has provided since she may have strong personal preferences or requirements (for example, many women avoid lubes that have any kind of sugar in them because those ingredients are more likely to cause yeast infections). Use much more lube than you think you could possibly need. Too much is just about guaranteed to be enough to ensure that both parties have a very nice, comfortable and pleasant encounter!

Rainy days for myself include setting up on the couch with my dog, favorite snacks and shows - right in front of my big picture window to take in all of nature's fireworks! I LOVE rainy days! :icon_smile:

My soulmate...thanks! And thanks everyone:D I had more happy birthday here then Facebook, I am feeling the love:D

Rainy days are for spending the day in bed with a special friend or lover.

DANCE DANCE REVOLUTION. Oh yes. I'm addicted.

I have to try this sometime...lol And if that doesn't work...

I believe that we all have this dream of finding that perfect soul mate, that person who completes us. But as it has been so eloquently put "As for your beloved, she didn't understand you. The truth is, you never understood yourself." - the person you are and the person you are bound to become may not necessarily be the person that can love or be loved by the person your soul mate becomes. Love has so many variables. Passion, belief, comfort, accommodation, respect, compassion, perseverance, devotion, trust... the list goes on and on. You never know which one is most important to you until it is altered or eliminated. We idealize. We compartmentalize. We rationalize. We do everything we can to capture that elusive thing called love. Love is capricious... it will never conform to expectation. Love is rapacious... it takes your entire being by force. I embrace it... cautiously. I know the absolute euphoria of love; it intoxicates and overwhelms. I also know the absolute desolation of love lost; it tears at the fibres of your soul, it rends your heart into a million pieces. That, to me, is love.

To put it another less blunt way, an sp who never provides personal information about the people in her life will never regret not doing it. Just as I would protect the privacy of my clients, so do I protect my own privacy and those of anyone who may be in my life at that time. I'm afraid we will simply have to disagree on this matter. I will never feel that the sessions with regs or new clients suffer from my not providing a life history for them, nor do we share a special bond with it. I will always feel that the sps who get into the most trouble with troublesome clients are the ones where the client is not completely sure of the boundaries, and takes any bit of special information as proof of her love for him. Its just advice I was given when I first started, and has always been part of any advice I pass on to new sps. So many tend to regret having told a new client too much about themselves, and find they have to avoid places or things they used to enjoy when he pops up there all the time.

I had Annessa on my laptop last Friday at the Playmate. There's a laptop recommendation that can't fail. Ohhhhhh... you mean computers. Had an HP, it got hot and connections loosened (there was a lot of jiggling to keep cables and cords connected!) after a few months. Had a Gateway, it is best used as a paperweight or as a psychological tool to test your patience and perseverance. I haven't found a good one for me yet... but these are two that I would not strongly endorse.

Part of the amazing journey that being human is, is growing, and changing. If we stayed the same, how boring. One of the things I'm always saying to my partner is that I love him because he keeps me on my toes. He's never routine, or boring. He's always surprising me.

RG

Duos Are Really The Hottest Next: VADER

Just throwing this out here.. sometimes dudes get excited over shoes too

not that I do have a lot of experience with computers...but from personal experience, I would say stay away from HP. They do make good produce, but the battery life isn'T more then 2 hrs at the lowest level. I did use my previous laptop (from HP) for school and it was ok, but not more then that. I was using a special program and it was really slow. I have use Dell in the past, and did purchase a computer from them 3 weeks ago and it is really good up to now...as far as laptop I would recommand 3G of RAM and 320G of hard drive. that now is easy to found and since school is starting you will find lower price.

First, I do respect your opinion that cheating on your lover is wrong. But, first off, if that is the case, that is between the SP and her SO, just as it is between a hobbiest and his SO Two, how do you even know her relationship status, SP's don't put that information on their websites or profiles. It isn't our business, it's their private life Three, the SP may also be in an open relationship...she may have multiple partners and her SO may have multiple partners, and the SO may know his wife/gf is an escort. But even if he doesn't, that's not your concern Fourth, you are not her partner/bf/SO, you are a client Fifth, if you want to take the cheating on your lover to a absurdity, if you equate being an married SP seeing a client is her cheating on her SO, then the reverse has to be true too, a married client is cheating on his SO by seeing a SP, well are the SP and Client cheating on one another when she sees other clients, and he sees other SP's.....give me a sec, getting a headache now, need a tylenol LOL...absurd arguments do that to me LOL I would only worry about your own relationships, and enjoy the time you spend with a lady. Don't complicate it with what really are non-issues Just my opinion RG

Communication, communication, communication. When I am getting to know a new guest it is a process. There are many detailed emails exchanged before the appointment is set up to ensure we have the same expectations. I will not give a list of services provided...ever. But I can tell from dialogue whether or not I'm interested in entertaining someone. For me, it is all about the mind. If the mental aspects are there 99.99% of the time the physical is a given. Spend some time and read post history on someone you are interested in, perhaps spend a little time in chat. Invest some time getting clear in your head what it is about the Montreal provider that has you hooked. Is it simply a service or perhaps an attitude or life perspective? You need to know what it is if you are going to quest after if you are to find it again. "The One" will present when you least expect her to. cat

179 Clarence. http://www.ottawa.ca/residents/health/living/sexual/clinic_en.html Everyone play safe.

Love me or hate me now for this post... Are you for fucking real?? Do you seriously think that people that have an addiction problem choose to have it? I am going to tell a part of my life that not a lot of people know... At 16 years old, I was your normal average girl in a private high school, at least I did seem. Hell I had nuns as teacher...they didn't really care about the emotional and mental well-being of their students. It wasn't really christian...well at this time, I had an addiction. actually 2. I have doing self-injury and I was bulimic. They are not drugs or alcohol, they don't cost as much money, but they are as self-destructive. So...for you...I was like Amy Whinehouse and I was too weak to face my problems? I turn to self-mutilation to escape my inside pain. How I was feeling at the time, inside, was more then horrible, my demons were eating me from the inside...Cutting was a release. Seeing the blood was a catharsis, for that moment, when I was seeing the blood flow...I felt good. I felt better. Well as far as I know drugs are the same. It is extremely tragic that she died so young, from drugs overdose... yes some people try drugs to do like others, to be "hot"...but some do it for the escape because their life is miserable and they don't see why they should live...when you don't know why you actually you should wake up tomorrow...I can swear to all the gods that you want, that it is horrible. Just being alive is a challenge...and you call her weak? You call someone weak because they want to LIVE instead of surviving? Talking of choice...I was bulimic and anorexic. I was 77 lbs once for my height...that is extremely unhealthy. I had the choice to eat more. I had the choice to get better on my own. But I couldn't. I just couldn't. It is the same with Amy. She cannot get better herself. People that have addictions, need help from others, because they are too broken inside to help themselves.. It piss you off to see people spend money on rehab? to help people get better? what kind of human being (if you are one) are you? You are not willing to help those in trouble? If you were at their place what would you want to do? have others people help you to get better. Gonna tell you...my scars that I have on my arms and legs, my throat that even today after 6 years of recovery ...still hurt. It was not a bloody choice

I'm a little disturbed by how quickly a number of you are happily writing off Amy Winehouse because "she was a junkie." You sound an awful lot like the same people who didn't do fuck all when Robert Pickton was murdering my sisters because, oh, well, they're just crackwhores. People are people and you have no idea what brought them to the point where they thought drugs were a solution. Who are you to judge them? I went to rehab myself, and I can tell you from experience, that every single one of the people in there had underlying mental health issues and didn't know how to cope with said issues and thus did drugs to try to cope. And they were men and women just like you or I, with families, with feelings and with hopes and dreams. Reading some of the responses in this thread today made me a little sad to have to associate myself with you.

I don't know Amy Winehouse. I know what I heard: she was a woman with an extraordinary talent the likes of which we rarely see. I've read a lot of the things about her that many others here have read and I don't know how much, if any, of it is true. I can see from her photos and from accounts of her behaviour that she was a deeply troubled woman. I'm sure that, as an addict, she was battling demons that I can't even imagine and that she was contending with them by herself. She made the choices it takes to become addicted; I'm pretty sure about that because that's how it is with most people. What drove her to consider such choices to be reasonable, appropriate or inevitable I don't know. I doubt that many people do. What I am sure of is that no one is ever prepared for the meteoric rise from nobody to mega-star that Amy Winehouse and some others have experienced. I'm also sure that few people realize how someone's fame affects others in their lives--how fame can distort their relationships and create malignant dependencies in their friends and family members. Those very things can feed an addiction like kindling feeds a fire. Addiction always involves many people other than the addict. Some celebrities' family and friends actively encourage the star's addictions because they can profit from the manipulation and control they can exert over the addict. This kind of fame is a hideous toxin. It took everyone in the so-called "27 club." It took Michael Jackson and many others, too. I'm very sorry that Amy Winehouse has died today, whether by accident or by her own hand. I'm sorry that the demons in her head were too much for her to overcome. I'm sorry if she was unable to get true help or if she was surrounded by people who had complex needs and hopes of their own and who could not be good for her, or with her. I'm sorry that we have lost that amazing voice, that staggering talent. I am just as sorry for the families and friends of the people who were murdered in Norway today. I don't know any of them, of course, and I can't really imagine what they must be going through other than that it probably seems like a nightmare that doesn't stop in the clear light of day. I wish I could do something for the victims' families. If there is something that can be done, I will try because I have no tolerance for the slaughter of innocent people. I am also sorry for the family and friends of the man who killed all these people in Norway. A lonelier, more desperate and lost group of people is hard to imagine tonight. I hope that, in time, they may find some kind of peace and understanding, that they may find ways to make sense of what this man has done and that they may not be unjustly tormented by ignorant outsiders who may try to hold them responsible in some way for this man's choices. I have to say that I am sorry for the man who committed these monstrous acts. The demons besetting him have won today. That is a genuine tragedy. Whether he or any of us will ever understand what drove him to do what he did, I don't know, nor do I know if understanding would help any of us become more compassionate people, such that no one we know will ever be in danger of being so dangerous to anyone else. Finally, I want to say that we do not live in a world of competing sorrows. Experiences of pain and loss are individual: there is no hierarchy or scale of values. The grief one person carries gracefully might easily be impossible for another to shoulder. In the end, pain is pain, grief is grief, loss is loss. All are real.

Pete this or that. I will know who you are and I will love you just the way you are. I bet I am not the only lady on this board that thinks the same way. :lovers:

I will let the guys answer this one but if you intially do your homework and find an SP who is reputable and prides herself on providing a good service then giving the fee upfront will never be an issue. You get what you pay for.