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You already have the best weapon - it is between your ears.

Statistics show that the most likely person to get hurt by that weapon is you. You're better off not having one IMO.

The most important thing is to trust your gut. If your instincts are telling you something is wrong, than be calm and immediately leave that situation. Your screening process is very important. Make sure you get a name. An unprivate number where your company can be reached at. You can ask for references. Also ALWAYS let some one you trust know where you are. Never go anywhere with out someone else knowing. That is a key factor in my opinion. If you ever have any questions, please feel free to pm me. Anytime. I wish you the best of luck in your journey :wink: Sending you love and hugs xox

The issue is that providers offering BBFS are putting both themselves and their clients at risk, and contributing to the harmful stereotypes that sex workers are vectors of disease and don't protect ourselves. It's not about whether or not the provider is comfortable offering it, or what you do in your personal life. If you offer BBFS there is no way to guarantee that your client is STD/HIV free. If you slept with boyfriends unprotected, and didn't catch anything, consider yourself lucky. It doesn't make you unclean, just careless.

I AM GOING TO SAY TRUE. The last time I was in Ottawa Gorbachev was also visiting as the head of the USSR.

Glad you had a great time SA! I've been raving about Diva on here for months now. I think she's currently my favorite dancer. Haven't been back to see her in a few months though. Nothing to do with the shooting, just my schedule lately hasn't permitted it. But your post has me thinking a long overdue visit with Diva is in order. Posted via Mobile Device

This is a crass generalization on my part, meant to offend no one, this is just based on my limited experiences, but it's really been baffling me lately. I had a friend over to my place, he' s a nice smart guy who's interested in me. My roommate is a pretty girl but she's a little heavyset now. She used to be skinnier and she actually has a picture of herself on the refrigerator that shows her when she was skinny followed by the way she looks now. He said, " Ugh, that's not possible. Those are two different women." Now I don't really have a preference when it comes to looks. I go by an individual basis when I date. I look at the whole package: the guys intellect(most important), personality, our compatibility. This friend in question is: skinny (like bony), he has very bad acne scars on his face, he's prematurely balding, and he's not ugly, but... he's not what you would call generally attractive either. A few notches below that. I entertained him because he's nice, persistent, and smart ( I'm not high maintenance. If a man can make me laugh, think, and entertain me I'll be attracted to him, usually regardless of his looks) but when he said that I immediately lost interest in him. Mostly because a facet of character that I find important is self awareness. Deluded people turn me off. Mind you this same guy complains about how he can't find a girl. It makes me wonder if it's because his standards are unrealistic? I mean... especially in Toronto. Women outnumber men here and I don't see very many obese people, morbid or otherwise, walking around. Or very many butt ugly people for that matter. At least in the downtown area. Shouldn't guys have it made here? Everyone has their preferences, and indeed ugly women can be shallow too, but I find this behavior more common with men. Especially with regards to age difference. I'm hardly one to talk because the last guy I dated was 44, but he didn't look his age. He looked about 15 years younger, went to the gym regularly, and kept himself in shape. Many older men will look at attractive women their own age and be dismissive, but they'll look at younger women and approach. The woman doesn't even have to be attractive all the time, just young. I don't know very many older women who feel comfortable chasing men half their age. Most would see it as undignified. I mean...you may deserve it, but can you afford it? (figuratively speaking) I don't really care that much but if I date older guys now, does this mean that when I get older and if I look my age, no one will want me? And I'll have to be like some creepy cougar or live my life alone. Makes me feel cynical to be a woman sometimes.

RG - I think I shall say true.... I am picking corn from my own garden for supper.

I'm a lot like Cat in that I need to find ways to alter my mood, just trying to push through it doesn't work for me as I tend to be very emotive and I don't hide those feelings easily. The main difference I find between this line of work and others is that no one really expects a 24/7 professional demeanour from me, yes they expect professionalism but unlike walking into a boardroom where I am expected to be rather detached from the client, here most of my clients appreciate that I am not so detached and aloof, when I am battered and bruised it's reality and an authentic moment that we share. I don't have a one size fits all solution but that's no different to the everyday challenges whether I have a date or not. Sometimes I will go to a pilates class before a date, it clears my mind and helps me feel a little more balanced (no pun intended). At other times I will relax with a glass of wine and some music. If I have a date and I've had a bad day I'll usually give myself a bit of extra time to get ready, I don't see all that many new people and those that I see regularly tend to know me quite well so I will generally tell them if I've had a challenging day/week. As an example I recently lost someone close to me and I had a date scheduled for just a few days after, I contacted my date and let them know what was going on and that I wasn't quite myself and instead of cancelling he suggested we still meet. As the hours approached I found myself still feeling uneasy, just a bit emotional so I messaged him and suggested we meet at a restaurant instead to which he agreed. We sat for a drink and a meal, talked about everything and nothing of importance and it really brought that sense of normalcy that I had been missing. I picked up the tab for dinner (much to his dismay) as it was my insistence we go out and when we went back to my hotel we had a wonderful time together, in my opinion it was one of our best evenings in years. I guess for me it's not about hiding who you are and how you feel but instead showing your humanity and vulnerability and allowing someone in even if it's only temporary. As far as long term coping with work and the issues that arise I think the biggest difference between this and the stresses one would face at any other workplace is that you don't always have a soundboard and that outlet is important. I think for ones long term health you need to find at least one person that you trust that you can open up to, bounce ideas off and talk to about your highs and lows and listen to theirs. It helps to know you aren't the only person out there facing these issues.

The issue becomes "scheduling difficulties" within having a retainer with a MA or SP. It is understood that she would still entertain other clients, therefore the difficulty of who gets the advanced time slot can be an issue. A client with the retainer may say I want every Tuesday at noon, but perhaps the lady already has another regular client at that time. Also what happens if retainer client, happens to be sick a couple of times, does he miss out in that month? Or even if the MA or SP has the same issue, being sick, is there a honor system "I owe you" "you owe me". Personally I would pay the extra coin and just see ladies and have no retainer with any MA or SP there is far too many variables, to possibly lose out either way as a client or a SP/MA. My 2 pennies. ;)

Will the loser of these words have to change their name to Kitchener?

Touch I am going to guess this is true. I took piano, guitar and voice lessons for over 15 years from childhood to late teens. I have appeared in many musicials and plays in canada and the US and this is a huge passion of mine.

Interesting Icebreaker. I will be as short as I can here......true story. One day I went to eat lunch in a food court and it was so busy there was no place to sit, except opposite a middle aged woman. I asked if I may sit down opposite her to eat quickly as the place was very busy. She obliged. As I ate I noticed her crying a little bit. I asked her if she was okay. She began to tell me of how she gave her baby up for adoption 23 years earlier and the daughter had looked her up and she had just had a meeting with her that day. The daughter was mad at her and couldn't understand why her mother had given her up. Apparently the daughter had a rough life and blamed the biological mother. This woman felt so much guilt and remorse all these years and now it was compounded by a daughter that was mad at her. I was floored...I didn't know what to say. I just listened and told her it was okay. When she was done I looked into her eyes and just said it was okay, that what she did was the right choice then and it was okay now. She apologized for dumping all this on me and I reassured her it was okay, and that sometimes a stranger is the best person to talk to. I had to get back to work so I got up and gave the woman a hug and wished her good luck and left.

I am going to guess false. I am a national body building champion and In the early 2000's Flex maxagine gave me a lot coverage. In fact I am the only female east of Montreal to have a 6 page certer fold spread, this is something I am very proud of.

I'm speaking from my experiences only and I have three points: 1. Generally when a retainer is put in place, we know each other very well and there is a strong mutual trust. In my opinion, it would be foolish to enter a retainer with someone you don't trust. 2. If I enter into a retainer, I'm giving a slight discount. If I'm prepared to give someone a loyalty discount, it's because I enjoy their company and wouldn't want to out of my terms of the contract, because I genuinely enjoy his company. If I didn't enjoy his company, why would I offer a discount? 3. I ask for money upfront at the beginning of the month, so I won't fall victim to a scam. Why should he trust me, besides the above? Because if I screw up, I've lost a very valuable client. Why lose many months or even many years of income just so I can get one month of income free? That would be very stupid! I think the first point is the most important one. These relationships are built on trust. If a client thought I was untrustworthy and lacked integrity, I would not be interested in entering a retainer relationship with him. Additional Comments: I think any judge or court would laugh at "I paid her for sex and she didn't deliver!!!" Sex work is not viewed as legitimate work, and I don't believe sexual services are viewed as a legitimate service.

Does she need a nanny??? heehee

Obviously this is an important personal issue for the individuals involved. But if you don't mind a bit of a tangent, I will mention that there is a recent Quebec movie on this topic of being a sperm donor called "Starbuck"; it is a sort of comedy but it has its serious side as well -- rather like some of Bill Murray's later 'comedies' that are decidedly existential! Touch

This isn't about money, it's about control. She probably realized that raising a kid on her own is not what it was cracked up to be. And if she was so wealthy Why is she asking for money from him? And if she has money, why not hire some help if it was too much to handle? Papers should have been signed from the getgo and it could have been an elaborate scheme on her part to get him back. It's not about the money..

I can't live without my Starbucks. I really love coffee, and though Timmy's is great for good cheap sandwiches and yummy donuts, I don't ever go there for coffee. My regular drink differs when the weather changes. Today is getting cooler and it's grey so I"ll be getting a Venti Nonfat Chai Latte. If I need caffeine, I'll get a Triple Grande Nonfat Caramel Macchiatto, and more than anything, I LOVE getting a Nonfat London Fog. It's not often, but it's so so so good... Mmmmmm! Plus you've got to love the Mini Pop Cakes on a stick. So Good!! I LOVE STARBUCKS! It makes my day!

Full-service for many years before the internet ever was used to advertise or discuss escorting meant simply 'intercourse' and 'oral both ways' was on the menu as opposed to just massage and handjob. No restrictions I've always found misleading.. either the person offering it has a whole list of don't when you get there but used the ''no restrictions'' tagline to draw you in.. or if she did have a large list of menu options.. of course there is some line to be drawn somewhere. I never really got it.. so I agree it's always best to clarify that one for sure. As for advertising GFE and then saying no kissing or daty or bbbj.. same thing. I think people overuse the GFE term either without really understanding what it means to most people or getting on the GFE bandwagon to sell their services. While there are many people who agree on a common definition of services there are just as many who want to define it their own way. That will never change unfortunately. This is where reco's and reviews come in handy.. to see if a lady's advertising of a set of acts is really on the menu or a matter of YMMV or a complete line of BS..

I think "no restrictions" translates to "open minded" and not BBFS. At least that's as far as I would want to take it. It might include things like greek, GFE, PSE - but I would never assume this term refers to putting one's own safety at risk (at least not mine!). In my travels, I have never had anyone offer me BBFS anything & if I detect any sketchy stuff, I walk.

retainer is basically a fancier word for sugar daddy. It can happen sometime if a client go see a SP (or MA in that case) more then once, on a regular base for a while...if the SP/Ma and client both agree they can have a special arrangement where the client will pay a set amount of money up front (like each month or each week) and the SP/Ma agree to see him for x amount of time (normally a bit longer then the regular rate per hour). Or also it can be made throught gifts, like the client will pay the rent of the incall (exemple the rent is 1000$/month, he will pay it and see the SP for x amount of time)

I would say its pretty much true for alot of clients.. They just dont like to share... She has alot of regulars, so for sure theres no issue with her AT ALL. That said, a general comment is members need to get more involved and review on a regular basis, its good for Cerb, and its good for the industry. Its also very good for the morale for all of the ladies. I am sure very few ladies don't appreciate a kind word. This line of work is very emotionally Taxing and sometimes a reco can really give someone a lift. Its a win-win situation... You help out your fellow Cerbites, and you encourage a lady you had a great time with.

Last weeki was in Halifax and the hotel i stayed at is close to the Hospital...i often sit outside the hotel and chat to people...this one morning a lady i was talking to told me a sad story of how her husband had passed away just 2 weeks ago and now she was in Halifax because her 87 year old mom was having her leg amputated..she looked so sad and lost i couldn't help but hug her deep and hard...{i am a caper after all...we love our hugs}she smiled and thanked me so much...every time i seen her after that she hugged me and thanked me for that one big hug i gave her. Something so simple and real can give someone strength for the day. So pass on the hugs people...it makes people feel good. hugs, Emma

I don't think I have ever been with an SP that old before, except once.

Just a quick mention that could go into another area, but if you are a Tim Horton's customer, and want to feel good about a hug, then donate or give a buck for their September 19-25 (I believe) fund raiser for the snowsuit fund in Ottawa. You get a Smile cookie in return it goes to a very worthy cause,for those kids that are possibly underprivileged and don't have one, THEN GIVE YOURSELF A HUG! Last year in Ottawa we raised 80 k, do your part please.... it is only a loonie! BTW it is going on in every Province throughout Canada and all major cities and towns.

Your name in the industry is your "brand" - the more unique you can be the more brand potential you have. Why would anyone want to be someone else?

I had an amazing bike ride around the Rideau Canal, a really nice picnic in the shade down by the locks and great conversation and discussion with a new friend. The sun was out, the temperature was perfect and it was just a great day all around.