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If an SP is using words or phrases such as "top notch", "the Best", etc it usually is an indication that they are trying to oversell their services and a tall order to live up to if you ask me. If a potential client falls for this sort of advertising, they are bound to be disappointed. There is a reason a person will look at your ad. Something obviously caught their eye but if it is something like "I am the best", they may or may not believe it. Then again what is considered the best? The words "classy", "VIP", "Elite" are often overused in my opinion and once again a way to make clients believe they are offering something that may be better. Now I know many SPs use this words and many may provide a great experience for clients while others just tend to throw it in there. It's just like the term GFE used in advertising which may or may not be true. All of these terms are common within the adult industry. I find the best way to describe yourself is by being genuine. While we as SPs are offering a fantasy, if you let your audience know who you are as a person while describing your attributes in a way that reflects on your services, you will definitely create a buzz where they will want to know more. This will lead to more bookings. Everyone is intuitive to a certain extent and they can hone in on what is considered phony or fake. Your advertising should clear, concise and above everything else, keep it real! Be yourself and you will reap the rewards.

I'm coming to this thread very late, I know, but it's such a good discussion and I want to take part in it. I think that every companion needs to think very seriously and carefully about her ideal imaginary client. How old is he? How does he spend his time, working and recreationally? What is he interested in, in broad terms--such as sports, or politics, or the outdoors? What kinds of things might he want to experience in an encounter? In what ways does she see herself as being an ideal companion for him? The better we identify these qualities in ourselves and in our prospective clientele, the better we can focus our advertising, website, correspondence and forum posts. And always remember that everything you say, when speaking as an SP online, is advertising!

There are many different scenarios in whether or not you should tell the truth or keep your mouth shut so if a friend asks if an outfit looks good on her, I will tell her the truth and usually they appreciate it. If I went to dinner at someone's house and didn't like what they served, I would be grateful for them inviting me and tell them that. I would find a way around it so their feelings wouldn't be hurt. If someone is getting on my nerves, I will tell them. Or if a kid asked me if there really is a Santa Claus, well that's a tough one.. I'm the kind of person who is polite and sensitive but if I need to speak up and tell the truth on a certain matter, I will. Even if the truth hurts.

To put it bluntly, if there was no CERB I would not be an SP. On FaceBook yesterday I saw a "funny" that had a scraggly street walker standing by a post. The caption was, "If you have to ask, you can't afford it". I just shook my head, as there was that stereotype yet again. Here on CERB I know I am not alone. I know I am reasonably safe by my own practices and this site. And I definitively know I am not/and never was, that woman in the picture. Because we are small in population and a gov't town, that puts Ottawa in a unique niche. One we should be thankful for. Other cities have their unique qualities/problems as well. We may fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but when push comes to shove, we tend to come together when we need to. If that's not extended family, I don't know what is.

Fundamentally we are social creatures. It is through our relationships with our friends and families that we form our identities and we find validation. It's how we define ourselves. Sometimes when we ask a question we're really not seeking the truth, but rather validation. It's always a risk, and sometimes it's a test of friendship: do we get a lie, the truth, or some version of the two. Sometimes absolute truth isn't nice or helpful. That's why it's called brutal honesty. And in my view, if we engage in brutal honesty all the time, then we probably are failing as a friend, spouse, etc. that's why people who are brutally honest often are lonely people. Of course, in their view it's everyone else's fault because they can't deal with the truth. No one, in my view, can claim the right to be the absolute judge of truth. Look at the ladies on this board. All sorts of different body types. Not all of which are attractive to me. But I'm not going to pronounce judgement over too large or too thin, etc. Cause one thing is clear ... I might not think that outfit looks good, or that body type is attractive, but it might be just what someone else considers gorgeous. Sometime being judgmental gets wrapped up in claims of honesty. It really is about context and the strength of the relationships of the people involved. Porthos

'cause if we all did that, very soon none of us would have anyone left in our company to be direct with. ;)

I have been priviledged to see both Nikki and Chanel squirt. So much fun! A wet t-shirt contest should be the way to see who squirts the furthest!

I read a comment left on an entry that I made earlier today in the Highlights of the Day thread that caused me to think a bit more about our CERB family. CERB - the more that I get involved with it and the more that I read contributions that are made in its forums has many of the characteristics of a family. This does not refer to a 'traditional' family, but also to the dysfunctional family, the family divided, the extended family and probably any other sort of family that one could devise as well. There is certainly a common denominator for all of us that explains our initial presence as a part of this family, but once involved, I see so often how people begin to interact with each other in ways totally apart from that commonality that we all have. These differences are many but I am thinking today of the ability of CERB members to support each other in the same way as families members might do. I have seen so many examples of this in the past year where people who have never met each other, and in all likelihood never will meet each other have gone out of their ways to help another member. I have seen the genuine welcomes made to new members. I have seen the assistance provided to those who are finding their way through this maze called CERB. I have seen the authentic best wishes sent for birthdays and milestones. I have seen people reach out to those who are in trouble, be it those who are fighting an addiction or those who are trying to cope with a death in their circle of friends or family or those who are fighting an illness or other personal trauma. Something as simple as sending a hug when it is deemed necessary, or sending a personal PM or email at just that "right" time can make a difference to someone else. I can see or sense how the determination and ability of individuals members to cope in certain situations can and has inspired others. For myself, CERB has become a family in its own right. There are only a few here who truly know how much they have helped me. In many cases members probably cannot even think that I might be referring to them when I say that or be able to think of what they said or did that impacted me in such a profound way. Sometimes we as individuals do not realize or are never made aware of just how important a little personal gesture can be in making someone feel better or even how that simple gesture might turn a persons life around for the better. Do you recall the young fellow who got that hot air balloon ride, largely due to the CERB members and the initiative of Chanel Reign with her Random Act of Kindness thread. That is something that he shall always remember. The CERB family makes a difference in so many ways. Good on the CERB family.

Sure, I'll stick around for an extra couple of days for a half hour appointment but know that this half hour is going to be damn expensive lol Additional comment: My comment was a sarcastic one and a joke... I do not offer 30 minute encounters.

The opportunity to see Emily Rushton's latest lingerie purchase .... OMG!!!!:icon_biggrin:

How about a party with Meg and Gabby perhaps in Soleil ,s dungeon with the sunny one directing the action hmmmm fantasies fantasies

I'm wondering if Shelly is referring to the labour disruptions with baggage handlers?

It would be a cold day in hell if told you your food sucked or your outfit and wardrobe for that matter. Particularily because that is strictly my opinion ! I will call you out however on how you act , how you talk to people and how you treat people most importantly if I feel it is rude or inappropriate. Once again my opinion to a point but I feel we all have a basic common upbringing that teaches us that ! That is etiquete and common courtesy. Truth or not an example of potential sugar coating I get asked almost every day lately how I am feeling...I say "just fine....no worries" Everyone is happy. I get asked very frequently how my dad is feeling .... I say " just fine... no worries" Everyone is happy. Truth or not what good does it do to say the truth "oh not so good" and have people worry when it doesn't do any good and just causes others heartache ?? As has been stated "many things are best left unsaid" .... which is why I don't ask a lot of questions ;) Cheers folks !!

I think there is a fair bit of wisdom in picking your battles. Also, from my experience, a lot of people can dish it out but can't take it. Playing nice has worked well for me.

I commented earlier in this thread and mentioned that I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur but when I was very young, I wanted to be a vet because I loved animals ( and sitll do!). Another one was a police officer. RCMP goes way back in my family so it kind of just rubs off on you.lol.

Pink seems like a good hard-drinkin arm-wrestlin' kinda gal.

Well im so glad I was snooping around! Im heading that way next month! Well its the train And Air Canada....can kiss my ass!!! I think Canadians are tired of bailing there ass out!! Who the hell travels for a wk with only carry on....And they wonder why Westjet is so big!!

I can definitely attest to this... Allyson is absolutely incredible. Stunning good looks, silky smooth skin, perfect body and a great attitude to match. She's such a natural and eager to please, I found it hard to believe it was her first time as an escort... Needless to say, I think I've found a new favorite! :)

Was your opinion asked for, or are you chipping in uninvited? Can you say nothing, or have you been put on the spot? Can you be tactful rather than brutally honest? What sort of relationship do you have with the person you're talking to? What sort of relationship would you like have with the person you're talking to? How much do you care about hurting them in the immediate future? And in the long run? How much do you care about their well-being, both now and in the long term? How good or bad will you feel about lying? Or getting the truth out there? Are we talking about an objective truth, or just your opinion? How much does it matter? To you? To them? To others? What are the likely consequences of the unvarnished truth, or tactful version of it, or a white lie, or an absolute whopper? And when you've answered all those questions... what makes you think I'll have a clue what you should do anyway? Or that the right answer for me is also the right answer for you? We all have to make these decisions, sometimes in a split second and without warning. Nobody said it was easy.

This chart can help you assess the risks and decide what activities are too risky for your personal tolerance or level of comfort. http://healthnurse.wordpress.com/faq-about-sexual-health/sti-risks-chart/ I do have to point out that I personally feel safer with a "professional" lady and most do have great respect and care for any fear you might have about this. I travel a LOT (used to travel even more) and have no fear of flying, but I am always amazed at how well the flight attendants take that extra care, compassion and see to every possible comfort for someone that is very nervous about flying and sensible enough to tell the flight attendant this before takeoff. I'm guessing most all CERB ladies would react in a similarly positive way if you tactfully discussed the subject and your concerns. By tactfully I mean you should make them aware of your concern for this but please be careful to make it clear that this is not directed as concern specifically about them or if they were tested recently, etc. which would be very inappropriate. As long as you make it clear you are not referring to them specifically you should get a positive reaction. And at the very least, tell them you are a newbie and let them show you the way :)

Given this is posted in the Winnipeg massage section, perhaps the OP is looking for a massage with Russian finish?? The other possibilities are just a bit too much to contemplate :icon_eek: and leave me very, very confused. :confused0024: Porthos

After reading this thread I must say it is making me rethink. The majority of photos I take, I do myself. It is difficult for me to set up a shoot for me with a friend for a myriad of reasons. So what you see is what you get. I also don't want a the professional cost, as much as I would like to. I have fun taking my pics (and others). The planning, the ever loving freakin' timer, is something peeking out that shouldn't, is that the dog licking his winky in the background? Do I crop? You bet! Do I airbrush? Not at all. Do I like to decorate or tweak some of my shots? Yes! It's fun and I enjoy playing with graphics and images, my web page here and my web site. Do I represent myself accurately? I thought so. Now I'm not so sure. ____________________ Spelling and clarity are 2 of my buttons. Especially spelling. Grammar, not so much. But looking at it from the other side of the fence; if I read an ad that was full of misspellings and touting how they are "the best" or some such, I would take a pass. Obviously no thought was put into the ad and comes off crass and scripted. This, of course, does NOT apply to folks whose first language is not English. AAMOF I give kudos to those that have a difficult time accurately communicating in another language. From experience, that is very difficult. I am not perfect, I make tons of spelling errors myself. But I correct them; if I didn't it would bug me.

Cristy, I like your curves!

Honesty is always the best policy! Or is it? It depends on ... 1) how close of a relationship you have with the person. 2) the seriousness (or triviality) of the matter in question - white lies are easier to pull off - and less guilt-inducing than hiding something BIG! 3) whether you think they can handle the honest-to-goodness truth. 4) a need-to-know-basis (useful for pesky Nosey Parkers). 5) perceived wounded pride for admitting something about yourself that you'd rather keep stashed away in the depths of your being. This is hardly a complete list, just some basic thoughts. It is a balance between wanting to be sincere and true, not only to yourself, but your closest friends, and the wider world. When you choose not to be forthright, you may also hurt people you care about, by pretending to be a fake version of yourself. It's not possible to always be honest, but the people that are, most of the time, have less to remember and sleep better. :) Just some of my random ramblings.

The fact is that sometimes the truth hurts. Plain and simple. To be in a position of having to be the deliverer of that truth puts one in a position of having to choose the best way to do it. We can choose to be blunt, concise, short, decide not to temper anything and simply disregard the feelings of the person to whom we are speaking. Depending on that person this can be construed as someone being mean, rude and hurtful, even though they do desire to know the 'truth'. Or, we can choose our words carefully, convey empathy and concern and deliver exactly the same message in a way that may still upset the recipient, but will leave the recipient with an ally or someone that they feel they can commiserate with. Your knowledge of self and your connection to and knowledge of the other person will determine what manner is best to approach a topic that can cause worry or pain to another person. We all respect those people that we consider to be honest and straightforward, but we respect even more those who can be that way but who are also considerate of the feelings of others. The choice is for each of us to make.

Just like the motto of this site says:If you don't have anything nice to say...say nothing at all. That's what i was taught growing up as well..so sometimes the truth is best left unsaid especially if it's going to hurt someone.

Sometimes truth is ok, sometimes it's better to be diplomatic If I went out on a date and it wasn't going anywhere, better to be up front and say so, instead of saying "I'll call you" As for the dinner scenario with a friend, you can just say thanks for dinner, no need to say dinner stunk. As for clothings, well being a guy, and my friends are the same "fashion" bent (jeans, tshirt, sweatshirt...you know, Mark's Work Wearhouse) we don't criticize, or compliment each other's "outfits" I can find a lot about a lot of people that I could be brutely honest about, but with age comes wisdom, and one old adege serves well, people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones...and everyone has some aspect of a glass house they live in. And why do I want to throw stones, for what purpose RG

Not only that but some things are better left unsaid... To take one of Cristy's examples, I would never dare to tell my host that supper was aweful (no matter how carefully I chose my words) and would most likely just thank them for an interesting dining experience.

I actually don't think most people want the truth. It hurts!! People want the highly massaged version of the truth.

I love my life. Can that be my highlight of the day every day?

Interesting thread! A couple years back, I went in with a few other ladies on an experiment to get more bang for our buck out of some classified advertising. Having limited line space to work with, there was some debate as to what wording we should use. All I asked is that we not use "upscale" -- no way could I pull that one off!!! ;) I long ago stopped thinking in terms of advertising and think only in terms of connecting with those who are right for me. So my ads tend to be more about them than about me. If anything, I try to downplay anything that might generate a broader appeal because I understand that my demographic is very specific. Trying to sell to everyone would just waste everyone's time and would waste my time as well. Many of us don't need a lot of new business, as we base our bread and butter on repeat business. And that's why so many SPs keep their advertising understated and low-key. However, I'm not at all prepared to state that anyone who "oversells" is a poor SP. She may be still figuring out advertising, or she may be getting some atrocious advice from someone who self-identifies as a "marketing expert." I'm not at all convinced that there's a correlation between the quality of an SPs advertising and her quality of service. Poor advertising strategies are more likely to result in more work for the SP as a consequence than anything else.

This topic always bothers me as photos are a personal choice.This is my second time in this business and what I have learned is like any other successful business a person may run, the old saying "you have to spend money, to make money" is very true. Yes all my photos are professional, yes they are all shot to make me look my best, and yes they are 100% me. They were worth every penny I spent and I will only use photos that are shot by a professional. The whole object of professional or glamour shots is to find a photographer that will keep you - you. (hence the reason I have flown on 2 occasional across the country for photos) I look natural and real in my photos, and I feel better than any cell phone photo would. I want potential clients to see that I invest in myself (website, photos, blog, well maintained (ie: hair, nails,etc) I treat being Emily as if it were any other job that I may have, as in I give 110%. Why should I expect a client to invest in my if I have not invested in myself? The only comment I keep getting about my photos is that I look better in person(this is from men and women), so on that note i will always and only have professional photos done. (look at Victoria Jolie, Emma Alexandra, Keissy Hennessey, Gabriella Laurence, Charlotte Sinclair, Amelia Middleton and Dorinda Bloom) Those are several examples of real tasteful professional photos and all the above women look as good in person as in their photos) At the end of the day professional photos have a bad rep, one that I hope ladies like myself and others who invest in professional photos will help change.

I may be horribly old-fashioned, but I think that people who really do operate at the top end of things don't need to say so. You can just tell, from looking at their websites, their pictures; the way they compose not just their ads but pretty much everything else they post too. And when you meet them, you can tell from the way they speak and act, too. Classy people understand that going around telling everyone how classy you are is really not a classy thing to do at all. The truly elite understand that grainy cellphone-in-the-bathroom-mirror pics don't give the impression they'd like to put out there; that a same-as-everyone-else's website won't cut it and that you need something that looks like someone has put time and effort into it. They understand that they're judged not just on the ads they put up, but on their entire online presence - website, emails, pics, posts, everything. And they're judged not just once, but continually, by everyone. The point is that if you want the world to think that you're classy/elite/whatever, it's no good just saying so in an ad - any fool can do that. You have to *be* the elite. Always. And that's a hard thing to do. A final word: I'm well aware that the stuff above sounds horribly judgemental and obnoxious. It's not meant to be - honest! The point I'm trying to make is that placing yourself at the top of the market and staying there is *hard*. It's probably not for everyone. I have a huge amount of respect for those that can do it. But the common touch is nothing to be ashamed of, and I have just as much respect for those ladies who advertise themselves as the girl-next-door, or whatever else they choose. There's absolutely nothing wrong with someone who's more... well... normal, and I'm pretty sure that most of us guys spend most of our time visiting ladies who are more like us, and less like the untouchable elite. When all's said and done, none of us can tell you how to market yourself. You know who and what you are better than anyone, and if the image you present reflects *you* then that's probably best, in the long run. The one thing I don't have any time for is people who try and sell themselves as something they're clearly not.

like all advertising, i guess the person has to make thier point to the type of person they are looking for. for me on my limited budget when i see the words, up scale, or elite, i pass them by . i owuld like tol see them post rates and an idea of where they are, like downtown, east or west end as well as some photos when you look up thier personal info. i often pm them to find out, but most often i am disappionted that i cannt afford them. oh well. once you find someone with in your budget , you just have to meet them and see if you click. sometimes you do, sometimes you dont.guess it is just like all advertising, sometimes you like it sometimes you dont.

More important than whether a woman has implants or not, is whether the breasts suit her body. The implants I tend not to care for are when a woman with a petite frame goes way too big, to the point where they just don't suit her body type anymore. I suppose porn has also created an image of what a breast enhancement "should" look like. Rather than fake, or balloons, maybe there should be a category of porn star breasts. At the end of the day, the woman should do what suits her and makes her feel good. I'll just sit back and continue to admire!!!

Hummmm... I am a 'boob lover' and take it from a woman that has had the pleasure to experience with more breasts (natural and augmented) than you can imagine (;)), some, not all, do look and feel very fake because they are rock hard to the touch and lack natural movement.

Round 3 with Jazy after far too long. It was good to reconnect, and what better way than with a sexy lapdance, a lapdance as they should be :) Irresistible body, and a sweetheart, cuddly and affectionate and fun. GFE sex, tender and intimate. Not wild mayhem, but a gentler, deep passion, and warmth and care, with a woman endowed with an outstandingly fit and attractive body, and a sparkling personality. Very satisfying. I never had the sense of being rushed or of not being the sole focus of Jazy's attention. We loved and laughed and talked and cuddled like friends. I loved this. Thank you, Jazy.