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I agree with most of the answers here... I just had an idea though! When a loved one is giving you the silent treatment... go out and have fun with other people who are uplifting.. laugh alot and if that's not possible get on the phone with others who make you iaugh... especially if you happen to be in front of the offending person. They will realize their icey shut-out is a lot less fun to play and want to join in on your fun.

One good piece of advice I heard on a talk show once was: It takes 1000 'attaboys" to undo the damage of one mean spirited remark. It seems to be good advice. AM your friend would need to unlock lips and start finding things to praise and compliment about you in order to undo the damage of illplaced advice, imo. Being a non-confrontational person myself, what someone else might interpret as the typical passive=aggressive silent treatment might just be someone walking away from an argument, saying something they might regret later, and/or just how they learned to deal with anger or frustration. Different people are raised different ways. Sometimes you see it in a simple thing like a sneeze. Do you notice how some people say something and others do not? Are you ever surprised when someone does the thing you are not used to in your own family or circle? I know I am lol. And that is a simple thing. Perhaps your friend comes from a family where that silence was the typical way to deal with things. Sometimes it comes out of anger or resentment or a genuine belief that there is no point saying anything because the person you are talking to isn't listening. But if this is the way they deal with their own frustration, that is their issue, not yours. If they wish to retreat, let them. You don't have to chase after them, you don't have to pester them and give in to that whole dramatics deal. Just back away, do your thing, see what life is like without them around for a while. Eventually they will come back and wonder why you didn't chase after them this time. The only one you can control is yourself. That person isn't communicating? OH well, carry on and get on with your own life, imo..

There isn't just one lady, I've met so many wonderful ladies, I can't just narrow it to one or two I would book two top of the line hotels for two weeks, one week in Toronto, one week in Ottawa and have nightly encounters with the ladies who have enriched my life Following that, I'd hop a plane to Winnipeg, I love to meet Soleil, and then continue my flying ways to go out to Vancouver and meet Samantha Evans RG

I had no idea the silent treatment was such an epidemic. It's sad :( I'm sorry for anyone who has experienced this. I agree with Dr love that maybe this person just wants to be chased. Perhaps the silence stems from insecurity? At any rate, it's not fun doing all the chasing and I guess I chase out of insecurity too. I'd rather be chaste than chase. That's probably the worst pun I've ever made. xoxoxo A

aerius is the best , and also a nasal rinse hydrasense or a neti pot. since i have been using that method i find the allergy season to dissapear.

Shania Twain's I feel like a woman, which she was totally smoking hot in, was a total play on Robert Palmer's addicted to love. Robert Palmer - Addicted to Love

Thought I might add to this one for you. I lived in Ontario a few years ago. I had to take my car in for e-testing, it failed....They ran the test a few minutes later, lo and behold, the car passed. I've done that with several vehicles, had them run the test several times, the ending results on the same vehicles were astonishingly different. As far as I am concerned, it was another way of the government getting a little piece out of us again. Before I left Ontario I bought a brand new vehicle, just for a laugh, I had the dealership run an e-test (same one that did the other tests), same results, a brand new carfailed the e-test! I think the tests are fallible, it's hit and miss with them.

When it is Cleo posting the ads there is no reco needed..... she is all the reco that is required. Do not hesitate to book with them for a great massage. J

Taxes. I hate taxes.

Apparently, the whole "unsinkable" thing is a post-sinking myth - the issue didn't arise before the Titanic actually went down :)

Earth Wind And Fire-After The Love Has Gone RG

I am really curious as to why some of the "newer" members don't just pick up the phone, email or otherwise contact the Provider that they are interested in. You might be surprised as to what you can find out by initiating contact, I know that I have done so in the past numerous times when I have been curious about a Provider and have always been provided with info about services and even pics on request. Unless I am wrong I believe that any Provider on CERB or any other site would oblige... Rodehard

Thanks for the responses, everyone. This person gets really mad at me fairly often and says something so hurtful I end up crying. It feels like they're trying to 'fix' me because it's always about how I 'should' live my life. They seem to hold me to a different standard than they hold themselves. I'm not perfect- definitely not perfect, Emerald! ;)- but I always end up feeling like I 'should' change myself in order to get this person back. The silence feels like a super mean way of getting me to say 'You're right.' I've started to censor myself in regular conversation because I'm afraid of eliciting this dreadful silence. Oy. :( Probably time to walk away from this person but there's alot of love there.

I think begging the person to reopen communication is the wrong approach. It validates their position that you did something wrong, without having the opportunity to actually have a discussion of each person's feelings. As others have stated, it is highly manipulative, passive aggressive and designed to make you feel inferior in the relationship. It only works if you come back pleading for her/him to resume your friendship. I'd say very calmly to the person: "Look, I've clearly done something to upset you, and if I did I'm sorry. When you're ready to talk about it I'd be happy to discuss it. Just let me know when you're ready." And then walk away. Be prepared to wait, because this strategy has worked for the person in the past and they won't give up being in the superior position for equality easily. But, having said that, good friendships are always based on equality. Just make sure you're clearly indicating that you are leaving the lines of communication open and that the next move is theirs. I had an ex-girlfriend years ago who would get mad and storm off. I'd follow, begging her to stop and talk about the issue. Right out the door she would go. Later, when we'd talk she'd say I didn't come after her. I'd say, sure I did, right up until you left the building. She'd then tell me she stopped 20 feet outside the building and turned around, but I'd given up, and if I'd really cared I would have kept going. I told her, well, if you cared, you would have been willing to talk the first time I asked, not after I had to go through a humiliating public show of following you through a crowded building as you stormed off. For obvious reasons, an "ex" girlfriend. Porthos

I swore I was going to stay away from this thread, but I so agree with you Castle. Another species that is under global threat are ampibians ... Frogs in particular. This is due to habitat loss, capture and harvesting for bait, collection for dissection in school science classes, and just us people running them down with our cars. But as you say, you just don't see supermodels kissing frogs!

'kay I'm gonna go off on a not-so-little rant here....something I feel kind of passionate about....sharks. I know, I know, sharks don't have fur...but I swear this isn't a hijack. Denis Leary said it best right here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPSff6V6qjI "We only want to save the cute animals don't we?" Honestly fur is only a huge topic because furry animals are usually really cute. They make for great posters to tug at the heart strings and milk "donations" out of people and get a lot of attention. If these animals were butt ugly and/or really scary looking most people wouldn't really think twice about their slaughter and extinction. People complain about fur while at the same time chowing down on a nice big fat cheeseburger topped with lots of bacon....why? Because cows and pigs aren't really that cute. The Great White Shark (and other species of sharks) are becoming dangerously close to being extinct. Why? Because they're being killed...not to be turned into food, not to be turned into clothing, they're being slaughtered at an alarming rate so their fins can be turned into paper weights to be purchased at souvenir shops by tourists. They're literally being fished, having their fins sliced off...just their fins, and then being tossed back into the ocean, still alive, and otherwise still whole, where they sink to the ocean bed and drown (because they can't swim without their fins). No meat is being taken, they're not being skinned to make clothing......it's literally for their fins...because hey, everyone remembers how spooky Jaws' dorsal fin is right? As it speedily slices through the water after some unsuspecting water skier with that epic music playing. How cool would it be to have that sitting on your desk or something? Wow! These (IMO) beautiful and majestic creatures are being systematically wiped off the face of the planet because of a movie. The Great White population only started decreasing significantly in the 1970's (right around the time that movie came out). Admittedly I have a very love-hate relationship with that movie. It's one of my favorite books (I've had to replace it a few times because I read it too much), and also one of my movies. Oddly enough it's what started my fondness for sharks. But at the same time I hate the effect it's had on our culture and how most people now view sharks as a result. Not to mention the fact that considering where they stand on the oceanic food chain their extinction would throw everything out of whack. And yet....no one hears about this. You don't have super models posing nude next to sharks to gain attention....because they're scary....and they're not cute. And it's really really sad and shines an ugly glaring light on how shallow our society really is....even when it tries to be compassionate, it still comes off as being very douchbagish. I mean seriously....what image elicits more sympathy from you? This one? Or this one? Or this one? (I did a google image search and couldn't even find a picture online that says "Save the Great White Shark" so just pretend there's a caption saying "save me" at the bottom) You see what I mean? The estimated worldwide population of the Great White Shark is I think somewhere between 800 to 2,600 (no I didn't forget any zeros). That's worldwide people! How is this not making headlines? Where are all the sexy celebrities when the not-so-cute creatures are endangered? And the worst part is they're not even that dangerous. They're not man-eaters. Every year more people are killed by vending machines than by shark attacks (I'm serious. Vending machines. I couldn't make this stuff up folks). It's one of the only creatures on this planet (if not THE only creature) that was created perfect and has never had to evolve. And this is what we're doing to it. You bet your ass if the dolphins were in this kind of trouble we'd be hearing about it everywhere. ok, so maybe that was a little bit of a hijack but it was sort of related right? :p

He seems a little pompous when he suggests to callers who are looking for 18 yr olds...which is legal...that they will somehow be going to jail for looking for that. While people may have personal opinions about whether or not an 18 year old should be in the industry....it's quite another thing to suggest that it is illegal, when it is clearly not.

Peachy .... It doesnt matter to me at all.....I want to meet you sweetie not your education... It is not a prerequisite and I don't bring my diploma from high school or college for u to see so I don't expect you too either ;) Hell the way I talk around here I suspect many ladies wonder if I went to school at all. !! If there are fellas that make you feel embarrassed ....... they don't deserve your company. !! Just be YOU. !

There's no excuse for it, IMO. Out-of-date pics of girls who are still there are one thing (although really, how hard is it to take some new pics?), but there's no reason to keep someone's pics up after they leave, never mind putting up fakes in the first place.