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Like literally two hours ago, and it was great! As of this morning, I was a 26 year old virgin. I never felt ashamed or unaccomplished being a virgin, I had reached this point as a choice. But I was not confident with intimacy, most if not all girls I've met have been pretty sexual or have a sexual past which always intimidated me (I never saw them lower, but felt a bit in awe). I avoided relationships because I was worried about the physical intimacy part, I was going to fall flat on my face. And I created this mind block. I noticed a few threads on this forum about guys who are virgins looking for an SP, but there was no mention if they went through with it, and if they did, how they felt about it. So I thought I'd share for anyone who are in the same shoes I once was. In a nutshell, I loved the experience, and I have no regrets. I got in touch with Peachy a week ago, and explained that I was a virgin, and that was something I wanted to change. She was incredibly thoughtful, and put me at ease with asking her to take me to the other side so to speak. I was nervous, actually, I was anxious for her to come. I booked 3 hours, and I asked her to stay an hour longer once she was here (I was having a great time and didn't want to rush it). So my reasons for doing what I did. 1) I'm more confident with safety when it comes to the women here then the general public. If anyone knows about safety, these ladies do. This was my number one priority always (even before I came up with this idea) 2) I wanted a positive non-judgemental environment (at least in my mind). I didn't want to think and over think everything I did, and with her, I was more then comfortable. I was able to explore, try out stuff that I wouldn't have done with maybe a girl I was dating. 3) I was confident in asking her how I could be better. And I took everything she said constructively, and it was a lot better then I imagined! 4) Confidence! I met this girl a couple of months ago that seemed to be very interested. Back then, the old me kept things between us friendly but non-sexual. I think given the situation now, I'd act much differently. My confidence in this department took a massive beating the last couple of years for reasons too long and boring to share here. I feel as if one evening took all of that self doubt away. Downsides? I don't feel as if there were any. I don't feel any regret, or remorse or anything of that sort. I was hoping when I asked Peachy was that she be someone awesome (I've read some stories here about people having soso dates). Peachy was AMAZING in that she was so understanding about my fears, and newness. I bring this up because I found her through going through pages and pages of reviews. There are some awesome women here, but I found one with very complimentary reviews, and it worked for me. Which I guess leads on to my next part. Would I recommend a virgin meet an SP? To each their own. I wrote down a list of reasons why this would be a good idea vs a list of why this was bad. My bad side of the list had some religious objections, but then the good side had religious support for getting help any way possible (my confidence was shot). There are some that say that this experience should be with someone special. And I think that applies for some people for sure, but I treated this as a learning/therapeutic visit more then anything else. The rate I was going, I was not going to be able to meet that someone special ever. Recommendations: 1) Take your time, read reviews, talk to who you are interested in 2) Take your time, don't book just 1 hour. For the first two hours, we took it slow, talked a lot, and made it more intimate. 3) Figure out your reasons. I was brand new at this, and I think if this is your first time, trying to go into this to fulfil a fantasy might be putting too much pressure on you and her. Just explore the sensation, explore your body (I discovered things about my body I was pleasantly surprised about). 4) Tell her you're a virgin! And that's when you first get in touch with her, not when you meet. I can't think of anything else. This being a recommendation board, this is mine :)

I usually don't receive a lot of gifts and that's fine but if you are going to give a gift to the SP, please think with sensibility and etiquette related to the SP/hobbying world. Some people try to be humourous and it usually blows up in their face. Even though gifts aren't expected or required yet always appreciated, just go with what you know. The more mainstream, the better. Think chocolate or gift card. I recently read an escort's blog on the internet ( I like reading escort blogs because they're interesting) and was horrified to find out that she was given this as a gift and the client made sure to throw in the smartass comment with the gift like "Don't say I didn't give you anything." Not only is it tacky but it's rude and disrespectful. Had someone given this to me, the appt would be over before it began. They would be tossed out on their ass in a New York minute baby. If you scroll down to the picture of the plush toy, it looks just like that... a plush toy. Now if you click on the link below, you will understand what I meant by the above comment from someone who thought they were being "cute" but in reality they were just an ass. Tacky, tacky, tacky imo. http://www.amazon.com/Giant-Microbes-Gm0150-Clap-Plush/dp/B000JZ08US/ref=sr_1_52?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1335933326&sr=1-52

So, I got one of those calls today from someone who claims to know that my computer is infected with a virus. I asked them if they were calling to help me fix it, and they said yes. Well, isn't that nice! =) I was only too happy to answer their questions such as "Are you the owner of the computer?" - yes. "Are you sitting in front of the computer right now?" - sure am. "Do you see the icons on your desktop?" - yep. Well, after I let them get to the part of wanting me to click on stuff, I casually mentioned that this call was being traced and that we were contacting the authorities. I must have caught them off guard, as they didn't quite get that. That's ok... I didn't mind repeating it again. Then, for no apparent reason, they hung up. How rude! I was hoping that they'd talk to me some more since I was rather bored. Was it something I said? *lol*

Well piano has kind of inspired me to make a confession of my own. When I read his post my jaw practically dropped at first because so much of what he said and wrote down reminded me of my own situation and what happened to me not to long ago. I was pretty much in the exact situation, I was 27 years old and was still a virgin. Now I will admit that this did make me feel uncomfortable and awkward, especially around women who were very sexually open. And I can remember more than a few conversations with people where I kind of had to skirt the issue. But in all honesty my reasons for going this route were that I honestly felt that this was something that was affecting me in a negative way, almost like an anchor dragging me down. It was something that I felt I needed to do to liberate myself and I can honestly say that I felt it did. I have absolutely no regrets and like piano I am very glad that I did this. I did learn some things about myself and to be honest just feel more comfortable in my own skin now. The other reason that my jaw dropped was that like him I just so happened to visit Peachy on my first encounter. I had done some searching on the forums for recommendations and read various opinions on this topic. Now I'll admit that the timeline was decidedly more rushed, but I had done some soul searching before hand and had actually discussed this option with a trusted friend who I think of as a brother. I had started talking to Peachy the night before and exchanged a few messages but it wasn't until the next day that I finally decided to go through with it. What really made me feel like I was talking to the right person was her concern over whether I was ready or not. That really meant a lot to a guy in my situation and the fact that she put so much effort into making me feel comfortable helped more than I can describe. Would I, will I repeat, definitely, hopefully :) All I can say is thank you Peachy :) To echo what both Peachy and Piano have said it is good to do some soul searching before hand. This route may not be for everyone but at the same time you shouldn't feel stigmatized either by going this route. One thing that made this easier for me was that one of my friends had actually gone this route and confessed that it had helped him and I have to agree with him. Also, read the recommendations on the ladies and get in touch with them. After that it's up to you to decide.

This is mainly for any newbies on CERB who have never heard of Cowboy Kenny's diary before. My advice is always the same, if it sounds to good to be true...it probably is! I was reading on this site and elsewhere, that people have been burned here in Ottawa lately. My advice is to daily check CK's diary, he does very good work for all of us and if you want to protect yourself then read it please! I hate hearing stories of things going badly wrong, especially when it could have easily been avoided. It only takes a couple of minutes to scroll through the daily updates, but it is very much worth it! http://www.cowboysdiary.info/

Speaking of egg rolls.... The Golden Palace on Carling at Woodroffe Ruby Palace on Bank at Walkley

I like Sophia, a lady who makes positive contributions to CERB. Always enjoy reading what Sophia writes RG

You can check out Angies in Dieppe its not to bad, they have a decent line up on the weekend. If Rachel Raven is in town she is good company although I have not seen her advertise in awhile. If your staying downtown there is a few good pubs and clubs if your into those. Old Triangle and the Navigator are good spots also the Pump House has excellent food and there beers is pretty good too.

You parthos!!! You are a breath of fresh air! You are really a great contributer to this bored, I value your words! You truly are a gentlemen!

I agree...it would be a great idea and most likely very well recieved.... and used. I live on the US border and trains from North Dakota to Minneapolis and also Michigan I believe are used very frequent. Quick, easy, relaxing and very affordable. Can't see a big change happening with our Gov't spending but would luv to see it ! and MrNice....I hope you don't put your hands between two pillows tonight in Kingston ;) perhaps a little Martin / Candy humor ;)

Porthos is an awesome contributor to Cerb... kudos ! I do believe however he is a prairie boy hiding out in the East as a Newfie ;) Damn damn damn....Meg beat me !!! lol. Well Megster you are hot hot hot !!! One smart cookIe, funny, frisky and Hot !! ;) and frisky

Soooooo Chrystal wears spike high heels when we meet ....so guess who else meets me at the door....BOOBS :D Thelma and Louise I like to call them....they can run but can never hide, they are always perky, ready to play and like to be bad bad naughty girls ;) with Chrystal's permission....Merci !!

Meg's new profile pic!!! Very nice Meg!!!

A related sort of annoyance: I've been known to tell Jehovah Witnesses that I already have a religion. They, of course, obligingly ask what it is. I reply that I'm a Druid, and invite them to our next sacrifice. The look on their face as I close the door is worth the occasional visit from the constabulary!!

I am very fustrated...grrr...roar...lol I am a very busy person. Not just with this work, but with other important projects on the go. As a recent example: I get a PM, it says.."I will be in Fredericton tomorrow, would you be available early afternoon?" Sound simple enough? Right? So I respond with...." OK, what time are you thinking? 2 would work best for me." Then get a confusing responds back, about all the things he has to do first, then what time he is expected back to his final destination. So, I say to him. I have got few commitments on the go, I can shuffle around somethings, but need to know what time to reserve for you. I need to know by 10 am what time you need. So his responds is.... " Not too sure what time yet, will let you know..." So with him knowing I have other commitments on my agenda, and knowing I would shuffle my schedule around for him........he still doesn't just give me a time frame to work with. So am I really going to wait around to find out what time? Risking screwing up my other plans?? What if if I spend all morning waiting for someone who may not even have the time to actually visit?? Do we call a dentist and say..".ohh sometime Monday afternoon I will be there, not sure what time exactly?" As Murphy's law seems to always have his way with me.....I will go do the other commitments I have, just as I arrive to my job, he will PM or call, saying ohhh I can meet you in hour! Well that simply can not work! PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF SANITY!!! When you are booking an appt, please have a specific time in mind!!!! Especially when you are told that I have other jobs as well. I can not wait around for something that may or may not happen! If you can not narrow down a specific time, then take your chance I will not be able to see you, as there is not a day that goes by that I haven't got something I need to do. And if you are not sure of what time, are you really sure you can arrive at that time? That is my rant.....I hope that you read this and take into consideration that I do have other projects that is work for me. My schedule needs to be well timed. So if you have not a time in mind...then dont ask me to book you! All have a great day now:)

It would have been even better with some inescapable menus in there. Of course, at any time they could hit 0 to... er... go back to the hold music. And on that note, this is absolute genius, and incredibly funny, and absolutely worth the ten minutes it takes to watch. So, who's in for doing this to Rogers and Bell...

Ha.. phone on the wall.. I remember having a party line.. not what the young ones think. You shared a line with a neighbor and if you were quiet you could listen in on a conversation! Remember that? My sister and I used to play monopoly every Saturday morning to get out of doing chores. Mom figured if we were playing nicely that was good enough for her. We put puzzles together, played cards or read books. Kick the can, hide and seek were my favorite summer games.

A little house with three bedrooms, one bathroom and one car on the street. A mower that you had to push to make the grass look neat. In the kitchen on the wall we only had one phone, And no need for recording things, someone was always home. We only had a living room where we would congregate, unless it was at mealtime in the kitchen where we ate. We had no need for family rooms or extra rooms to dine. When meeting as a family those two rooms would work out fine. We only had one TV set and channels maybe two, But always there was one of them with something worth the view. For snacks we had potato chips that tasted like a chip. And if you wanted flavor there was Lipton's onion dip. Store-bought snacks were rare because my mother liked to cook and nothing can compare to snacks in Betty Crocker's book. Weekends were for family trips or staying home to play. We all did things together -- even go to church to pray. When we did our weekend trips depending on the weather, no one stayed at home because we liked to be together. Sometimes we would separate to do things on our own, but we knew where the others were without our own cell phone. Then there were the movies with your favorite movie star, and nothing can compare to watching movies in your car. Then there were the picnics at the peak of summer season, pack a lunch and find some trees and never need a reason. Get a baseball game together with all the friends you know, have real action playing ball -- and no game video. Remember when the doctor used to be the family friend, and didn't need insurance or a lawyer to defend? The way that he took care of you or what he had to do, because he took an oath and strived to do the best for you. Remember going to the store and shopping casually, and when you went to pay for it you used your own money? Nothing that you had to swipe or punch in some amount, and remember when the cashier person had to really count? The milkman used to go from door to door, And it was just a few cents more than going to the store. There was a time when mailed letters came right to your door, without a lot of junk mail ads sent out by every store. The mailman knew each house by name and knew where it was sent; there were not loads of mail addressed to "present occupant." There was a time when just one glance was all that it would take, and you would know the kind of car, the model and the make. They didn't look like turtles trying to squeeze out every mile; they were streamlined, white walls, fins and really had some style. One time the music that you played whenever you would jive, was from a vinyl, big-holed record called a forty-five. The record player had a post to keep them all in line and then the records would drop down and play one at a time. Oh sure, we had our problems then, just like we do today and always we were striving, trying for a better way. Oh, the simple life we lived still seems like so much fun, how can you explain a game, just kick the can and run? And why would boys put baseball cards between bicycle spokes and for a nickel, red machines had little bottled Cokes? This life seemed so much easier and slower in some ways. I love the new technology but I sure do miss those days. So time moves on and so do we and nothing stays the same, but I sure love to reminisce and walk down memory lane. With all today's technology we grant that it's a plus! But it's fun to look way back and say, Hey Look, guys and gals, THAT WAS US!

for me, to hell with mood lighting, the raunchier the better

I see no reason as to why an SP cannot be mentioned for this, unless she has asked not to be. If she was, I'm sure the mods would be on it BJs (as in any service) can be subjective, but there it's nice to hear who's peoples favourites are.

Geez, my text to a lady the day of an encounter is confirming room number and time...this coming from a guy who plans his encounters a few months ahead of time None of this last minute calling for me. Seeing ladies, it's an indulgence I like to plan and look forward to, not a spur of the moment activity to fit into my day My quick rambling RG

Me too - but hurry, I'm turning blue. Sophia: As frustrating and illogical as it is, it all comes down to no appointment time scheduled, no appointment scheduled and no guarantee I will be available at that time when you decide. Period.

We're in the fantasy business. One common fantasy is that there's this amazing, beautiful, hot woman out there who's available, right this minute, for him! Not only that, but she'll be available all day, all evening. Seeing him is the thing that matters most to her, so much so that she'll drop everything else in her life whenever he's ready. Strictly speaking, this isn't unrealistic. Most people have had that kind of sizzling passion in their lives at some point, usually in the early days of a relationship, before the kids were born. I can't fault anyone for wanting to recreate some of the feelings and energy that were part of that wild, electric time. While many ladies schedule last-minute meetings and do very well, that's not my way of working. I need some time to connect, to build up a bit of delightful tension, perhaps make a few plans. Then I can clear my mind completely of everything else and just focus on my guest. Unless we've scheduled a specific time, as far as I'm concerned, we're not going to meet. I have a lovely client who visits Vancouver a few times a year. He pays for a full day--twelve hours. We may meet in the morning for an hour, meet somewhere for coffee in the mid-afternoon and later spend the evening together. One time, I made a picnic for us; we enjoyed a lovely hour and a half by Lost Lagoon in Stanley Park, then met again for dinner and some private time in his hotel that evening. The last time he was here, I picked him upt at the airport in the morning and took him to his hotel. He spent the day in meetings; I spent the day on Granville Island with my sketchbook. He called me a couple of times throughout the day. When he came back to his suite in the late afternoon, I was in the jacuzzi. We ordered room service for dinner. I am available all day, never more than 20 minutes away, and can meet for as little or as long as he's free. This fellow is a gem, but such arrangements are unusual. Ordinarily, I won't put my life on hold or drop other plans for anyone who isn't one of my children. I simply can't leave my schedule wide open just in case someone has a bit of time to see me. Set up a meeting time and I'll be there.

You'll have to take a trip to Halifax. I can deepthroat like a champ without gaging and love it. I've even taught lessons on how to properly deepthroat. Swallow it whole is my motto. Additional Comments: I prefer not to use my hands at all:redface: unless requested but that is so very rare.. This is in no way shape or form of advertising. Just stating a true fact. Lexy

If I can't find the words to explain what position I want from an SP, I use Lite Brite to illustrate it. It's fun!

Additional Comments: post-coital bliss

I am Porthos ... a musketeer at heart. I'm a father, husband, son, and try to be what others expect me to be. I feel my responsibilities deeply, and love those around me with great passion and commitment. I have a great capacity to love. I'm hard working, generally good natured, funny and outgoing. I do have a temper, which can be explosive. But like a storm in Newfoundland, it passes quickly and is soon forgotten. It also rarely surfaces and I work hard to keep it that way. I don't like conflict, avoid it whenever possible, but I'm not afraid of it either. I love women. Everything about them. Their smell, their taste, the feel of their skin, the curve of their bodies. That's why I hobby.

I have very long legs and used to be a sprinter..I love wearing short skirts in the summer to show of my legs. But stockings are fantastic in the bedroom.

You Can Be Highly Intelligent Without Being Highly Educated You Can Be Highly Educated Without Being Highly Intelligent Education is not equal to intelligence, though it is often used as an external measure of it. Certain types of education can give you a pretty good idea that someone is at least of certain minimum intelligence (you can't actually be dumb and have an advanced degree in mathematics), but they don't provide a measure of how far beyond that minimum they are, and a lack of education says absolutely nothing about their intelligence. And, by the way, neither education nor intelligence prevent you from doing stupid things- As far as I know, nothing in the world stops that.